Well, shit... I found out I'd forgotten all about this half finished Post so it's mixed up and not in sequential order! Sorry, hope it makes any sense Posting behind a couple others Written after it and Published first? If not tho', you'll at least know why. I don't wanna ditch it coz I already spent time loading it's Images and Writing some shit. *Winks* Well, we found out that the Wedding next door won't be until Sunday, which it is in Real Time now, I don't know why Rob made it seem like it was Saturday. I thought it odd that Amber was waiting until Saturday to have The Daughter Dye and do her Hair. *LOL*
We still won't go, The Daughter is going, Mando is Opting Out, he's like The Man, he's not Social and doesn't like being around People. *Smiles* Plus, he wanted to help with The Young Prince's arrival and unloading of stuff. The Son doesn't wanna go either, he doesn't even wanna have to converse with Allen's Dad and Grandpa, saying he'll help unload all his Nephew's stuff and let Mando and his Dad do all the conversing. He said this isn't a Therapy Session and he isn't interested in knowing his Nephew's soon-to-be Ex-In-laws, that we'll never see again. *LOL*
The Son is Sociable and Social, but, he knows the whole Divorce thing got messy due to Allen's reaction to it, even tho' he's the reason for it. His Nephew he knew bent over backwards to try to make it work, in vain, it only kept worsening to where then it became Unsafe. So, The Son does Feel some kind of way about that and doesn't wanna risk hearing any Excuses their Family might come up with to excuse any of that. I doubt they would, but, you never know, I just hope all of that doesn't come up in the conversation, it is awkward. That's their Stepson/Grandson, this is our Son/Grandson, so, we're each viewing it from perhaps different perspectives? And I don't wanna really go Deep in the Weeds about that with them either. {All of this was Written Before they Arrived and previously Published Posts AFTER they had already left of coarse. Eye Roll}
Anyway, I have started this Post just after Scheduling the Unpublished one I just finished that will Publish Sunday Morning. AND NOW... this is as far as I'd actually gotten in Writing this Post that then hung out there unfinished and I started Newer ones, I'm a Real Head Case lately and trying to hold on to my Sanity, I may even Succeed? *Winks* The Man and The Kiddos now all know I'm Cracking Up, it had to be said, by me, Princess T had been the only Observant Enough one to SEE it without being told, she's a perceptive Child with an Old Sold beyond her 20 Years. She's been Worried about me, I'd been Worried about me, the rest seemed to think I was Keeping it Together just Fine apparently... now they know that was a facade. And I'm so NOT Fine. *LOL* Okay, so we got THAT all out in the Open and Established... Moving On. *Winks*
I'm Guessing that The Young Prince will be so distracted unpacking all his Cargo that it will keep him Occupied and from Falling Apart for at least mebbe most of February? Mebbe. He was unraveling on our Drive from the Airport so I wasn't sure he'd be Keeping it Together very well at all and would go Wheels Off right away? He was Feeling very Paranoid Schizophrenic about Allen's extended Family, that they Hated him and didn't wanna even See him or have to lay Eyes on him. That wasn't the Case of coarse and Mando said while unloading, the Grandpa in particular had only said the nicest of things about our Grandson. The Grandpa is a great Guy, I could already tell. He and his Wife have been Ride or Die with their Grandson, thru everything that Allen's Parents had not been able to Cope with about their Son. They're very Supportive Grandparents, and that's often what Grandparents do, Stand in the Gap.
I didn't take it as Personally when they had a very hasty departure, they'd driven thru 3 States and been up since 4:00 in the Morning, loading and unloading all our Grandson's Worldly Possessions, and he had a LOT of Cargo!!! Christ on a Bike he IS MY Grandson, that's for sure, that Apple didn't fall far from the Tree. *Ha ha ha* He acknowledges his Messy Artistic Mind and tendency towards Maximalism, Allen was the Minimalist in their Relationship, like The Man is in ours. I think you do Need a Ying and a Yang, coz couldn't you Imagine the Horror of BOTH being Maximalists?! *Bwahahahahaa and Shriek, just Imagining the Visuals of the Hoard size!!!*
I'm totally diggin' this Embroidered Hand Glove Art, I WANT one desperately now. *LOL* It's a good thing then that it was a Pinterest Dive and I can't know who makes them. *Winks and Smiles* I hadn't been Pinterest Deep Diving for a very long time but the Visuals Cheer me right now. And God do I NEED that at the present time coz I'm going to a very Dark Place in my Head and on the Canvas of my Imagination right now. It's causing Sleepless Nights when the Premonitions just won't Stop and I had a very Bad one last Night! I was in it and I LOST IT, completely, Straight Jacket Time completely! I won't call them Nightmares only, coz many of them I've had have come to pass, so I know it's Premonitions and I've never liked having those.
Coz, you never have Good Premonitions, you know? Just like you never have Positive Side Effects of Prescription Drugs, just Terrifying Bad ones, it's like THAT with Premonitions too. But, I've had them since before I even knew what they were and was so Young I'd just blurt them out and scare the shit out of folks when it would actually happen as I'd told them it would. And I was a fucking Toddler at the time and saying these things very Matter-Of-Factly to Grown Ass Adults. They thought I was a Possessed Child or some Demon Spawn. *Bwahahahaha* My Mom, who always had them too, had to School me on what NOT to Share of them and keep it to myself. Which is hard, when you see something coming, but becoz it won't be Helpful to anyone sometimes, you can't Tell those ones and just have to know it for your fucking Self alone. I Hate that. I don't wanna Know either.
Another Hand... I could get Obsessed with a Collection of these. *LOL* And it keeps me Thinking about Lovelies and Art so that I don't have to think about what's Coming. And it's Coming. And mebbe I shouldn't even Blog about it, but, what the Hell. Since this is kinda like Journaling for a Release for Myself, it's Why I began Blogging. I didn't think anyone was actually ever gonna Show Up and it would just all go out into the Ether until I hit that little Trash Can to Purge it to make more Cyberspace, or whatever, which allegedly makes it Go Away? Or mebbe into some Special Top Secret Government File, I dunno? *LOL* And if you happen to Show Up and get something out of it, however Meaningless, Bonus for you I Guess?! *Winks* I don't Care, I'm barely Caring right now about the Moment I'm actually IN.
Anyway, I'm trying to build up Momentum to go in to the Antique Mall with my Two Boxes of Merch I didn't have time to do Yesterday due to knowing folks were coming with no set ETA. And now I got fucking Fried Chicken for Days, coz they didn't even come into the House, let alone eat. And luckily the Kids had Friends over so I'm telling them all now to Dive in so it gets eaten and I didn't waste a Hundred Bucks I didn't really have to feed Nine People. All of the Sides got Eaten, so we just have Chicken left now, One of the Two Buckets got eaten, so, One Bucket left to go. On a Positive Note, even tho' they never stepped inside our Home at all, it Motivated me to get the House Clean and in Order, all of it, so, that was a Good Thing, No? *Bwahahahahaha* I can't say it was all that Work for Nothing either, coz I had Needed and Wanted it this way... and now... it is!!! Yay!
This is one of the Shirt Graphics going in to the Showroom Today and the Woodstock Tie Dye further Below as well. I'd of Kept either if they'd been in my Size, but, they're for Small folks and I'm still Big folk, even tho' I am shrinking to where folks are now commenting on how much Weight I've obviously Lost. Nurse Remi thinks it's time to stop losing Weight, Black Women will Warn us about getting Too Skinny. *LOL* But, my Goal is to Lose enuf the Diabetes goes away and for me personally that seems to be 157-160. Before a Hysterectomy my Top Weight in Adult Life had been 130, so, I know my Natural Weight is to be Small, as all the Women in our Family have been for Generations. As I always was before the Hormonal Crisis that happened when all my Female Plumbing was removed, which, we can all Agree, is not Natural, but often Necessary. Between risking Cancer and Gaining 60 Lbs., it was a No-Brainer to just risk getting Fat and not Dead, so I had the Surgery.
This was a Wonderful Brekky of Oatmeal, Oat Milk, Fresh Fruit of Strawberries/Blueberries/Bananas, Mexican Cinnamon and Vanilla Protein Powder. Sticking to your Ribs fare that tasted Sublime. I will remain the Incredible Shrinking Woman until Goal is Reached and Maintained for a significant amount of time. And so far nothing is sagging so it's a slow and steady Process that I can firm up while doing, and build some Muscle, which weighs heavier than Fat BTW so you can't let that discourage you on the Journey of Weight Loss and get too stuck on the Numbers rather than how you Look and Feel instead. I Plan to be a Toned and Muscular 157-160 and not Frail, Saggy or Flabby Looking. *Smiles*
I can do it since for some reason I've always found it easy and effortless to build Muscle. Allen's Dad and Grandpa were Amazed at how Strong I am and could Lift some of the heavier Objects easily. I still got Biceps like a Man. And The Daughter Semi-Joked with them that I probably can still Knock someone out Cold too, so none of them dares Test me. The Grandpa Laughed, I guess he thought it was JUST a Joke, and perhaps Allen never mentioned any confrontations he and I had when he didn't stay in his own Lane perhaps? *Bwahahhaha* He's a Big Strong Young Guy, to be sure, and has the Muscular, Age and Strength Advantage, for sure. But I Bow Down to No Man and Allen did know this Fact and how Crazy I can get. He knows how Crazy his Husband can get and Hand him his Ass, and The Young Prince told Allen I am the only Person he'd never Dare to Square Off with no matter how Crazy he might be. He will defer in a Confrontation between us both going Mental. *Bwahahahaha*
Well, he did Witness, as a Teenager, the time I Lost It, that it took Seven rather Large Male Police Officers to Wrestle me onto a Stretcher to go to Psyche Lockdown. He said it was better than any Cage Match he'd ever seen, Seven against One and they weren't Winning immediately. Now they just Shoot folks like me if they're ICE Agents, but back then, they mostly {not always tho'} tried to follow the actual Law no matter how Hairy a Situation was unfolding that they had to respond to. Sweet Young Men, all of them, since when I got out of the Looney Bin they came to Visit us and make sure I was now alright? And tell the Female Officer that came with them to see me, coz I'm sure she didn't Believe the Story told, what had happened that fateful Night. Coz, they all knew me as a Pillar of my Community when I'm Sane and not going Wheels Off the fucking Rails. *Bwahahahaha*
And that I'm Retired from the DA's Office and my Old Man is a legit War Hero like a Real Life Rambo, so, much Respect there. Plus, they knew we were the only "White Looking Enough" Family even Living in the Southside Barrio our Historic Home was in, so, they knew we could Hang Tough and Hold our Ground whenever necessary. *Ha ha ha* I've always, with few exceptions, living in predominantly Minority Neighborhoods, its my Comfort Zone and what I'm used to, since it's where I Grew Up almost everywhere we ever lived back in Da Day when my Dad wasn't allowed to just live anywhere with being Indigenous.
And, since there were hardly any Indians living Off Rez for most of my Life, and kinda STILL actually, you were a Minority within a Minority. Not a lot of Indigenous left, the Genocide was mostly successful that the American Government sought to eliminate Tribal People altogether. And relegated then to living in other Neighborhoods of Color who mostly Accepted you more than White Communities ever would. Yeah, I got Teased a lot about Dad being an Indian and Mom being a Foreign Gypsy looking Immigrant Welsh Witch Lady. *Ha ha ha* Mostly, even other Marginalized Minorities felt the Indigenous and Gypsies were the lower and perhaps lowest rung of "Polite Society", so you definitely got that Shade thrown at you.
Mom would Scare them all by saying she would put a Curse or Hex on 'em, to keep everyone in their own Lane... and, she wasn't Joking, she definitely would. And everyone seemed Scared of my Dad, they never knew what Mister Fred was even thinking, or what a "Savage" might do? *Bwahahahaa* And my Dad was Stoic about it, and if I came Home upset at what someone had Called him or our Mom, he'd tell us that probably their ignorance stemmed from no Exposure to either Culture. After all, he often said he might be the only Indian they'd ever actually meet or see in their Lifetime and they'd NEVER meet or see anyone like our Mom again in their Lifetime. *Bwahahaha* He wasn't Wrong about that Fact.
Some of the Questions I'd get asked used to Amuse me, most folk didn't even know where Wales even was? And, certainly had never seen, let alone meet, an Indian off Rez ever either. I was 15 myself before I met another Native American Off Rez other than my own Dad!!! A Navajo Woman who'd Married a White G.I. and was Stationed in England with us, she and Dad were quite the Novelty over there. And we never ever, in the 27 Years of Dad being in the Military and being Global Nomads all over the U.S. and The World, ever met another person directly from North Wales where my Mom was from. And only a scant few from South Wales... which, BTW, they don't always get along from the North and South of that Country, it's almost like Two Separate Cultures. And American Air Bases were Closed down many Years ago, so not many Unions happened of Intermarriage with the Locals.
And, within Gaelic Cultures anyone with Gypsy Blood is still maligned, so most don't fess up to it and will deny it if they're not full Bloods. BTW: Loving this Kay Adams Creations I found via Pinterest... Brilliantly Creative. Some Images Labeled, some not, to Credit who the Artisans are. I'm only Sharing a 'Share' that was probably Shared. *Ha ha ha* So who knows what Images made their rounds complete or altered by Share upon Share upon Share? I figure if you put Imagery out there you gotta know it's now being seen by Billions of folks almost anywhere in the World, which can be a Good thing, or a Bad Thing, depending upon your sensitivity and perspective about it.
True Story, I once had an Artist I Bought something from take Issue with a Picture of it being on my Blog! She contacted me Privately to Complain and tell me to take the Picture Down! WTF?!!!!!!! And I said Listen, you Sell your Art for Profit. I Bought and Paid for this Item, you Exchanged it for Cash, and I can even Alter it now if I wanted to make it into something different. In fact, becoz now it's mine, I can fucking set it on Fire if I want to and Post Pictures of Burning it on my Blog or anywhere else, it's within my Legal Right to do so. Discussion Over. If you want to Retain Possession, I suggest you don't Sell any more of what you're making then, only then it will remain Yours, but it won't make you any Money. *Winks*
It's Crazy to me to expect to Sell something and then presume to tell the Buyer what they can and cannot do with it becoz you once had it, or even Created it, and then exchanged it for Cash in a Transaction. *LOL* Anyway, this Kay Adams, she's a Creative Genius IMO, spent all Day looking for her Jewelry, most seemed Custom for specific Clients. Worth Sharing how Lovely and Unique they are. And if you're Madly Creative I think having your stuff Out There for the World to take Notice, can only be a Positive. It's like Free Advertising to have it Shared Online or Worn in Public, otherwise, what's the Point in making it to Sell? I was never all that interested in Selling my Art, I just did it to Feed my Soul, not Feed my Family or Sell my Soul, so, it didn't Work for me to make it like a Job. But there are some Artists that don't have to be Starving Artists, they're Brilliant and I'm glad they Create a lot of their Work and allow it to be Purchased and enjoyed by others.
This Granddaughter is Middle Aged now, a Mom of Two, Divorced recently, and on her own Weight Loss Journey, she's doing very well at it. She was always a Big Girl, even as a Small Child, her Dad is a Big Guy of German Heritage. So even tho' our Oldest Daughter is a Sprite of a Person and was very Tiny when Young, and never looked her Age, she looked like a Teenager of Junior High School Age until she was over 35. Well, her Three Daughters weren't as diminutive and looked more Mature at Younger Ages. And now the Older Two are Middle Aged, well, you know what happens at Middle Age sometimes, and especially after having had Children for a lot of Women. I was fortunate Pregnancies never altered my Size, only that damned Hysterectomy. The Middle Daughter was the same, even Five Kids later, still has the Hips like a 14 Year Old Boy! *LOL*
Above and Below is the Oldest Granddaughter of the Trio back East, with her Trio of Kiddos. The Great-Grands are growing up so damned fast!!! And of coarse we're totally Biased and this they're Perfect, in spite of the Stories their Parents tell on them. *Winks and Laughs* Their Parents Adore them of coarse, but... that said, there are more than One of them that each Granddaughter has, that are Higher Than Average Maintenance Children... or so The Schools and Day Cares are telling our Granddaughters. *Bwahahahahahaa* Been there, done that, with Two Generations I Raised, so I do have that Point of Reference and always told those Calling, "Listen, do I Call and bother YOU when I'm Dealing with them being like that at Home? You're the Adult in the Room, I'm not there, so Deal with it." *Winks and Smiles*
Anyway, it's good to see their little Faces. It improves my Mood and Psyche, which, right now hasn't been Good. I am having trouble Today getting out of my Jammies and even rolling out of Bed was hard, I didn't want to, but have to. I have the Truck loaded with Inventory, but haven't pushed hard yet to get it in to the Antique Mall. The Man said he would Opt Out of going so I don't have to try to look after him, he knows I'm not doing Well right now and he's as supportive as he still can be, Bless him. The Joke of coarse is that he thinks I'm Crazy, but I'm not the one who Married me. *Bwahahahahaa* He's having a better Day, Yesterday he wasn't doing Well coz he knew Allen's Family were coming and that The Young Prince was already distraught upon Arrival, so, it was a lot to move through. In a way it's good Allen's Family didn't want to stay, better for them and for us I think, given the Situation beyond all of our Control.
The Young Prince said New Mexico told him he can use the Nutritional Assistance he Qualified for there, here, for Two Months before needing to try to apply and Qualify for some in Arizona. New Mexico was and is easier to receive Assistance than Arizona tho', so, he's girding himself for that Process, which, in Arizona, can be the biggest Dog and Pony Show for people in Crisis and the Marginalized and most Vulnerable of Society. Arizona ranks near the bottom Nationwide in a lot of thing, Mental Health Services in particular. We're frequently placed 49th, 50th and 51st {when you include D.C.} in Mental Health Services according to Mental Health America statistics. It indicates some of the worst Access to Care in the United States. So, I never expect much from The Systems in place in our State, they're Statistically abysmal overall and have been for as long as I've lived here {1974}. Every State has it's Natural Positives and it's Political and Access to Services Negatives.
So, would I want to live somewhere else that may have better Access to Care, but shitty inclement Weather, Natural Disasters Galore, or too high a Cost of Living we couldn't afford AT ALL? Probably not. *Eye Roll* Hey, if I gotta eventually Live in A Van Down By The River, Arizona at least would have the Year Round Weather for it. *Bwahahahaha* And I'm not kidding about that possibility given the rapid decline of the American Dollar and Economy. Coz, I didn't Buy a lot of Metals. And those that did have more Financial Security now than those of us who didn't. The Retired Bank Executive in me always constantly assesses the Financial Health of our Economy and whose Leading it... or to be more accurate, Misleading it. Who has a disastrous Financial Track Record of his own of reckless and foolish Financial decisions, and Illegal Activities that rival any Syndicated Organized Crime Family ever.
I spent literally all Day taken to the Bed, didn't get Dressed, didn't do anything on the Agenda, didn't have it in me to. Slept until 5:00 in the Afternoon actually, but, I do Feel more Rested in my Spirit now. I can put Merch into the Showroom Tomorrow, Mondays being less busy than Sundays there anyway and less chance of being asked to cover for someone not showing up. I couldn't imagine pulling a Shift in this Head Space at all. I Purged some Archived Posts and decided to try to finish this one, see what happens? I don't feeling like fuck all else or being around anyone. I think The Daughter is probably at The Wedding next door, they've been desperately trying to borrow things for Two Days in a row over there for the Wedding, it's poorly planned and spontaneous I think. I had nothing they were looking for, I think they imagine I'd have one of anything random? *Bwahahahaha*
So far they've asked if we have a Church Style Podium?! Uh, amazingly No, No I don't. *Bwahahahaha* Some White and Yellow Ribbons? Nope, I don't even think I have any Color of Ribbons, coz I couldn't Imagine what I'd use Ribbon for??? But, suggested the Dollar Store might have it in their Crafting Section or Birthday Section, I dunno? Can't recall ever Buying Ribbon, ever, for anything... but mebbe that's just me? So I guess the Colors of the Wedding are White and Yellow, I could say something Crass about that and am trying to restrain myself. White for her previous Youthful Purity perhaps, tho' mebbe by 25 she was less of an Innocent, and more the Wild Child... Yellow for his... oh, well, I'll let you finish that Thought. *Winks*
Then The Groom was rushing over to ask if he could borrow a Bow Tie!!!?? Do we look like Bow Tie wearing People? Yeah, I don't think so. *Smiles* The only one I had was an Old Band High School Royal Blue Bow Tie The Young Prince wore when he was in Band and now it's on our Coyote Taxidermy Mount! And I'm not taking it off it for anyone's Wedding. *LMAO* It has Sentimental Value to me anyway, of when The Young Prince could be functional enuf to be a Flag Twirler in Band and played almost any Instrument you gave him like he'd done it all his Life! Watching him Dance while twirling an Enormous heavy Flag moved me to Tears actually, a thing of Artistic Beauty he made it. He used to have a Passion for Music and making Music. Thankfully he still has a Passion for his Art, and he's Brilliant at it, his Creations amaze me. He was showing me some earlier as he unpacked them, that he'd made while he was away and I hadn't seen.
I've never seen anything like them, Loved every one and we will Display it all. And all his Art have fully Developed Characters and Back Stories as well, I think he could use that Limitless Imagination of his for loads of Creative Projects and Outlets that could be quite lucrative. Anyway, now Mister Coyote, at this Property, is also wearing a Santos Crown too. *Smiles* I think I might have put more Thought into Dressing my Taxidermy than TJ put into what he was Wearing for his Wedding?! Hopefully somebody spent some Money on making that Girl's First Wedding Special so she looked Lovely? Coz she's looking mighty Pregnant and is such a little Sprite there's no hiding it was a Shotgun Wedding at all! I was Preggy for my 1st Wedding but wasn't Showing yet, so still squeezed into a Lovely Wedding Dress even tho' we did the proverbial Hippie Wedding with few frills and just a Crown of Flowers instead of a Veil.
Anyway, I think this Young Gal is making as big a Mistake Marrying TJ as I made Marrying my First Husband. And mebbe she actually does Love the Guy, she's a very Odd Young Woman and he's definitely a very Odd Old Man. But Oil and Water generally don't Mix successfully and I mostly have concerns for that Child they've conceived. He didn't want her to even Keep the Baby, so that Spoke Volumes. But, since he'd gotten her Pregnant once before and she had a Miscarriage, one would have thought if he didn't want another Unplanned Pregnancy, he'd take more responsibility for Precautions, since, the Girl ain't Right in the Head and having her be the more responsible one is a stretch, for sure. Even the Crazy Ones in my Family are like, she's Really not Well. And wondering, what exactly is Wrong with her??? *LOL* I don't know what the formal diagnosis would be, I'm no Shrink, but she's really hardwired Creepily, I don't Feel comfortable around her, her Vibe is way the fuck Off.
And what I mean by way the fuck Off, remember that Jack Nicholson Movie "The Shining"? {1980} She could have had a part in that Movie alongside those Creepy Twins. Some people are Naturally fucking Spooky like that. *LOL* Julissa could be the Darker Triplet, just sayin'. *Winks* And of coarse with our Dark Gallows inappropriate Humor, I have had some of the Family ask if her Pregnancy is gonna be like "Rosemary's Baby"? {1968} I hadn't even realized 'til I Googled some Stock Images of both Movies that all Three Characters are wearing the same Baby Blue Color ensembles!!!!!!!! Yikes!!! Well, Pastels are Creepy Colors to us Addams Family Type Folk, no doubt about it, Creeps us the fuck Out if we walk into a whole Room of nothing but Pastels and Blank Stare Folk. *LOL and Winks*
Okay, so we've had some totally inappropriate Fun Dark Humor with all that, I do Hope for Reals that Child will be Born Healthy and it will be Okay? Perhaps it will be a Blessing in disguise if Joe and Amber do have to get back together to Raise it, even tho' they don't wanna hafta be Raising any Grandkids, for the Kid's Sake? Joe was and is a very Good Dad, Amber has always given him accolades for that, and I'm SURE Raising that Oldest Creepy One was no easy task. Tho' I used to Babysit her when she was a Toddler all of the time while Amber Worked, back when she still had Custody of her Kiddos, coz her and Joe never Married. And Julissa was the Cutest and Sweetest little Kid, easy to Babysit. I didn't see Mental Health anomalies back then in how she was developing, she was your Garden Variety Toddler. She liked being Babysat by me and Playing with our Grandson, who we had Custody of.
And she was the same Age as The Young Prince and back then both of them seemed like Normal Healthy Children to me. So, I don't know what went Haywire with her? He gained Legal Custody when they were all still quite Young and I never saw them again until they were all now Adults. I know what did with our Grandson, by Seven he was a very early diagnosed Schizophrenic. Usually it Manifests much later in Life by Teens or early Adulthood. And then the Two Older Ones, I had to ask their Mama, Amber, Okay, so, what's Wrong with your Girls? Amber ain't Right, which is Why she Lost Custody due to her Mentally diminished capacity according to the Judge who heard the Custody Case. If you have Developmental Disabilities or Mental Illness, retaining Custody can be quite a Battle you won't Win in Court usually.
I know Joe was a good Parent and they were Loved, even by their Stepmom, who he had Married and took them in, Raised all Three as her own. I think Amber's Kids just had Special Needs that may or may not have been Hereditary on her Side of the Family? The Stepmom and Joe did have one other Daughter together, who is the Youngest Child of the Family. Joe is Puerto Rican and his Wife is a Black Puerto Rican, Amber is Mexican American, but all Four of Joe's Kids look more like him than their Moms. Amber is a very Weta Mexican with extremely Fair Skin and Green Eyes... but so is her Mom, Rosemary. They don't even look Hispanic. Most people think they're White Women or Bi-Racial. As far as Amber knows, they are not.
All of Amber's Kids look Hispanic and more Darker Puerto Rican like Joe, but not as Black as the Stepmom. The Young Prince is part Puerto Rican on his Paternal Side and has a Black Great-Grandpa on his Gramma Lydia's Side of the Family. He is Fair and only got the very coarse Hair that was quite nappy when he was a Child. I didn't know what the Hell to do with his Hair until my Friend Arleene, from El Salvador, told me how to do their kind of Hair, coz she had very coarse exceedingly Curly Hair too. The Young Prince can't use a Brush or he ends up with an instant Afro. *LOL* He mostly shaves 3/4 of his Hair off to make it more manageable and less full and less Wild. He has Green Eyes too and is now Fair in Adulthood {He was Darker as a Child}, so people think he's White as well. So, we're a Family Testimony that you cannot accurately Racially Profile folks on Appearances alone, not everything is as it Appears to Be. *LOL and Winks*
Anyway, TJ and Rob have a Hispanic Mom and a White Dad, TJ looks exactly like his Dad and has the Blue Eyes too, so looks like a White Guy. Rob looks more like their Mom, but, still doesn't look Hispanic, just like a White Man with a good Tan. *LOL* I get along fabulously with Rob, a little bit of TJ can go a long way. He's never done or said anything Negative or Wrong to me personally, and has only ever helped our Family. But, I don't condone a lot of his Behavior towards Family or any Girlfriend or Wife he's had, and I don't like how he treats Animals either. And I say so right to his Face, so he did once take Anger Management Court Appointed Classes and came and Proudly told me they were Helpful, but, I didn't see much actual Change in how he just Is. I sense he wants my Approval, Rob had told me their whole Family Adore our whole Family and they've displayed that affection for us, they've been very Good Neighbors to us. Rob thinks I'm a Trip.
Amber and The Daughter just came back from The Wedding and said it was Beautiful. The Daughter did everyone's Hair and Makeup for it. People who were Guests thought she was the Bride's Mother, coz The Daughter looks more Ethnic than Amber. *LOL* Amber and The Daughter thought that was Funny. I guess Joe is Divorced, I didn't know that, so, he'd brought a new Girlfriend to the Wedding, Amber said she was very nice and sat with Amber and The Daughter. So I got The Tea about how it all went, and I'm so glad it went Well, for the Family's Sake and especially the Bride's Sake, it's her First Wedding and that should be Special and go Well with no incidents or anyone Misbehaving. Everyone Behaved, no tensions evident, even Joe's Mom came and was Nice to Amber AND even to The Daughter.
Long Story about Joe's Mom and The Daughter, she never liked Amber, and since Amber was always The Daughter's BFF, our Daughter had many an 'Exchange' with Joe's Hot Blooded Puerto Rican Mom. These were during The Daughter's very Buck Wild Child Days. *Bwahahahaha* And Joe learned to Respect and even Fear The Daughter in them Days whenever he wasn't Acting Right towards Amber. *Winks* Joe gets along great with The Daughter now that everyone is in their 40's, but in their Teens and Twenties, he thought she was totally Psycho and Dangerous... to be Fair... she was. *Smiles* He Once made the Mistake of communicating a Threat back when he and Amber were Breaking Up back then, in The Daughter's Presence. She got a Baseball Bat and destroyed the Sports Car he was in and said the next time he ever dared Threaten her Friend, it would be him that got The Bat! He never did again.
I would advise that if anyone Threatens a Paranoid Schizophrenic or someone they're close to and with, in the Presence of said Threat, you're a damned Fool and you will soon regret it. And even if they're hauled off to Psyche Lockdown or Jail, when they get out, they're coming For you then, so it's just Unwise and extremely Foolish. I take Threats dead Seriously too, as anyone should whose being Threatened. So, anyone foolishly Threatening me or mine better be able to Back that Shit Up too. Even if you were bluffing, Threatening or Intimidating anyone is just not a Good Idea ever, especially if you Underestimate who you've just Threatened. I think this current Administration is gonna have such blowback of their Intimidation Tactics and Threats, that they won't know what hit them when it comes back on them. Karma is the Ultimate Bitch and generally isn't remotely Merciful in The Payback.
But enuf of Dark Topics, let's have a dose of Great-Grandbaby Sweetness shall we. She even is being a Hippie Child with Fresh Flowers in her Hair. It's one of my Fav Pixs of this Great-Grandchild. She looks so much like her Grandma, our Oldest Daughter, did at that Age, and she is our Daughter's First Grandchild of the Five Grandkids she has now, Three Girls and Two Boys. She's enjoying being a Grandparent coz all Three of her Kids and all Five of her Grandkids live Locally so she has the Joy of seeing them all whenever she wants to, which is Priceless. All of ours are far flung and some we've never seen in Person and they're now Grown and some with Kids of their own. We've never seen any of the Great-Grandkids in Person and unless they trek to Arizona, it's unlikely we ever will. Coz, we can't take this Show on the Road, since their Great-Grandpa is too Sickly. *Sad Face* He can't even remember some of the Grandkids or any of the Great-Grandkids already tho'.
The Young Prince tried to explain to me how the Dementia erases Memory backwards in Time. So, he said by the time Grandpa's fading Memory goes backwards past 2005, he won't remember Princess T, backwards past 2000, he won't remember him either, backwards past 1989 he won't Remember me, The Son, or the Daughter, and if he goes backwards past 1975, he won't remember his Oldest Daughter either. When my Mom had later Stage Dementia she went backwards past 1960 so forgot who my Brother was, but didn't make it past 1957 to forget who I was. She did still think she was Married to my Dad tho' and that he was still Alive coz she went backwards in Time enuf not to realize neither was the Reality anymore.
They Divorced in the late 1980's and he'd Died a Decade more earlier than she eventually did. She thought my Brother was her Brother coz he looks a lot like my Uncle. She didn't remember having any Grandchildren or Great-Grandchildren at all. She didn't even remember she knew English anymore, so spoke only in Welsh again... so nobody at Hospice knew it was a Real Language and not babbling incoherently, so she'd get really Mad at them. So I had to inform them she was now Speaking her First Language and not to talk about her as if she wasn't even there, coz oddly, she could still Understand English, just not Speak very much of it anymore. Which, I Get that coz I Understand way more Spanish than I can Speak too... and... I could cobble together enuf Welsh to convey her sentiments to them during my last Visit, which was on a Mother's Day and she Died just before Halloween of that Year.
I'm glad neither of my Parents had to Live to see the mess that America has become. They'd already Lived thru some Traumatic Times and I think this all would Trigger some PTSD in both of them otherwise. The Man gets Triggered and has severe PTSD from all he's been thru defending his Country, so he simply cannot be allowed to watch The News now. And I limit my exposure to it too actually, it's beginning to Trigger me as well, a LOT. I do rely on my Blog Community to keep me updated on Politics more than I rely on The News Channels. *Winks* I'm currently burning a Delightful smelling Candle by "Gold Canyon" called "Autumn's Walk", it's Aroma is Sublime.
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I Scored a New Old Stock large 26 oz one of it at a Chazza for only Four Bucks. It has more a Hippie Scent and Aroma than an Autumnal one IMO, so I Love it, Notes of Patchouli, Sandalwood or Nag Champa in it. I Googled it and sho' nuff, it had Sandalwood, Musk and Jasmine Fragrance, so I was spot on with my preferred Fav Aromas for a Candle. It's Woody, Musky and lightly Floral. *LOL* If they were still in Business, I'd be Buying this Fragrance of it all the time as one of their Favorites of mine in their 22 Years of Business before abruptly closing and Stunning all their Fans of the Brand and some Distributors too. My all time Favorite Scent of any Candle is "Forgotten Sage" by "Votivo". It's Notes of Sun Dried Sage, Cedarwood, and Sweet Grasses, Key Notes being Patchouli, Basil, Geranium, Moss and Citronella. Hard to describe, but the Aroma is Sublime.
My Friend Kendra introduced me to that Line and that particular Scent at her Shop she used to have called "Sage", I sure miss her Shop!!! One of the Best in Phoenix ever. She is one of the few people I know who I'd Trust to completely Decorate my entire Home with no input from me and know it would turn out beyond Fabulous and I'd Love everything about it that she did. Her Aesthetic is just so On Point in every way to transform a Space. She has done it for a Living a long time and several Businesses in the Valley have had her Style their Spaces and I always know she was the Designer when I enter any Space she did. Below is a Pix of Kendra, we've known each other a long time and she's a Riot and a lot of Fun, a Beautiful Person Inside and Out and Ageless, she looks the same now as when I first met her long ago.
Further Below is The Daughter as she was ready to head to The Wedding, she'd done everyone's Hair and Makeup for them so everyone looked really Lovely. And a few of them Paid her to do it, tho' they didn't have to, she'd of done it without payment as a Favor. But, I'm glad she made a little Side Money for all the Time she spend making everyone look their Best for such a Special Occasion, including the Bride, whose Hair and Makeup she did too. She's fond of Amber's Kids and they Adore her, she doesn't mind how Odd they are. I don't usually either, but those Kids are just Boundary Pushers and I don't know them well enough to be comfortable with how far they push my Boundaries even when told specifically not to and what to refrain from doing. So, they know I'm not a Fan. *LOL* But, I was Happy to see the Trio of Wedding Pixs The Daughter Shared of the Wedding. {Below} She did look Sweet and Lovely, she's a tiny little Sprite of a thing and looks to be 12 and not 25.
I do think The Daughter captured a Sweetness to Julissa in these Wedding Photos. That isn't always evident when she's got a very Blank Vacant Affect Stare going on that is Creepy. She's one of those Kiddos that often just stands close to you and just blankly Stares at you for far too long and it makes people very uncomfortable. She doesn't say anything, just blankly Stares and most of my Family do not Like it. *LOL* Princess T says it's like watching a Possession of someone manifesting and so she never wants her around coz she Stares at The Granddaughter for a long time without saying a Word. She converses with The Daughter tho'. So, I think their Crazies just Jive, I dunno? *Bwahahahaa* But, my Crazy don't Jive with that Girl's Crazy, this I just Know. Her Vibe is Off with me and I don't Like it. *Winks* But, she looks Sweet and Joyful in these Pixs and I'm Happy for her that her Wedding went so Well.
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Mando and The Daughter took The Young Prince to his Dad's, I guess he's spending the Night there coz he hasn't called to be picked up. I needed all day Sunday to Recover from Saturday, it was just a Lot and Mentally/Emotionally it just drained me completely. To get back to Center literally took all Day Sunday, now it's past 8:00 p.m. and I feel more like I have a Grip and can keep Calm and Carry On. *Whew* Everyone wasn't sure I could or would tho', it Scared the shit out of all of them and they kept coming in and checking on me as I Slept from probably 9:00 in the Morning thru til 5:00 in the Afternoon without Waking. The Kids had to look after their Dad, Princess T and The Young Prince weren't Home. The Man did quite Well actually and Behaved for everyone coz he was Scared about my Condition. When I hit the Wall like that he knows I'm really struggling Mentally to Keep it Together and Hold it Down. I weathered that Episode and was able to Shake it Off. *Whew*
The Young Prince knew, from early this Morning, that my Psyche was Fragile right now so he really tried to pull himself Together and likely why he asked to go to his Dads. So that I could catch a Break and not worry about him too. He'd been a Hot Mess when he arrived and the whole thing with Allen's people was indeed awkward for them and for us, I could tell, there really are no Words, you know? It is what it just is when you have Zero Control of a Family Situation falling apart and transpiring that you have to just be Supportive and run Damage Control behind in the Wake of it all. Unconditional Love requires that of you, but it doesn't mean it will be Easy or not a big Strain to. I think, at least, that I'm being more Realistic than Allen's Family is, about the Grandsons and how successful a complete detachment will be for them??? There is a LOT of Co-Dependency there and they still Love each other, just can't BE together anymore successfully, which is just Hard. The End of any Relationship is always just Hard, Detaching can be a Process, unique to each person(s) involved.
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From here on out the Posts should be in sequential Order now... winks... Dawn... The Bohemian
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