Whack A Mole... Just Get Me A Bigger Mallet!

You can probably already tell by the Blog Hook Title that this isn't gonna start out by being a Happy Positive Post.  Sorry, a LOT is going on and it's spilling into my Personal Life and Disturbing my Calm and robbing me of my Peace, which I'm very Protective of Keeping intact, so I Guard it.   Anyone who becomes Problematic, then has to be banished coz I just don't want exposure to them or have them around me and mine.  Especially when they're not even Family, they're dispensable coz I have no Investment in someone whose not a Loved One.  They therefore can just Be Well and Be Gone whenever they've now become Problematic for me or for mine, for any reason.  I don't Care how long things were Okay, once they're not Okay, you Need to then just GO. 

I've got a lot of pending Issues to sort thru and shake out here, the unpleasantries of it are just annoying at this point.  Some of which are an irritant becoz they don't involve Family and I don't have time, the disposable energy or even the patience for Issues with Non-Family.  Until it all shakes out it's a Headache I don't need to be dealing with, but, must.  It makes me testy to be be doing 'extra' with folks I'd rather have no dealings with, if that makes sense?  But, the World is filled with 'extra' trouble making folks these days it seems, they're everywhere!  Avoiding them is like playing Whack A Mole!!!   At this juncture, just get me a bigger Mallet!!!  I just don't wanna be dealing with Problem People and their nonsense around my Family or our Home.

The Daughter has a Cleaning Job in the East Valley this Morning and there's a favorite Event not far from there.  So, I will attend the Event while she's at her gig.  It's a Spring Fling Theme at "Highland Yard Vintage" and in front of where that's held is a big Antique Mall "Merchant Square", also having a Spring Sale, so it will be a Two-Fer activity I'm looking forward to.  Not to purchase anything, I have no Needs, but, for some Escapism Visually and Sensory Pleasures it provides.  I Need that right now, it's been very stressful lately.  The Man will stay Home with The Son and Grandson looking out for him, coz Four Hours of walking around while she's at her Job would be too much for him right now.

And all Three of the Guys know it's restorative for me to get away for a while and come back to Center after a lot of stressful situations have depleted me on the Homefront.  Some stressors are unavoidable and others are, I'm trying to rid us of those that are avoidable and we don't need to put up with.  It's Meditative to me to get away, sort it out in my Head and come up with Solutions to Problems we're experiencing and how best to deal with it all in the most effective and efficient ways possible.  Unnecessary Drama and Headaches disturbs my Calm, our Peace and Tranquility here at Home, which is our Sanctuary, so, won't be tolerated or accepted.

Mando's Lane Sucks but he Needs to stay in it and I've told The Daughter, he has to Go.  Be Well and Be Gone, he doesn't have Control of himself and a person spinning out of Control I consider unsafe to be around.  I won't have that on my Watch, around my Family, or on our Property.  If someone is losing Control as a Guest and can't Control themselves appropriately, then they lack basic Control of themselves at all IMO.  Even one time is once too many for us.  I've never made Trouble for anyone as a Guest at their Homes in my entire Life, he's been pushing boundaries further due to the toxic Relationship they have and I just don't want it here and around us.  I can't tell her who to be with, but IMO she needs to cut ties with him completely, he's become unsafe and unpredictable in Behavior not acceptable.

I don't know if his Cancer is responsible and gone to his Brain, or if he's perhaps always been the way he is and puts up a good facade and front for others.  But, once I Witness someone spun out of Control and even being Verbally Abusive, I just don't want them around and Trust is irrevocably broken with me.  He got confrontational with The Daughter and then when her Son came to her defense he got confrontational with The Grandson too, making Homophobic Slurs to where he was ordered to leave and never come back.  So, I don't want him sneaking back, The Son was ready to go out there with his Nephew and was holding back coz he didn't want to catch Charges if it went beyond Verbal to Physical altercation.  An Old Man with Cancer, well, you know... Two Younger Men would catch the Charges even if the Older Man was initiating it all.

I told The Daughter I don't want her sneaking him onto the Property or into the 5th Wheel or she'll lose the privilege of occupying that Space herself.  He's not worth it.  Any Man that would intentionally be so Controlling or Insecure that they try to isolate a Woman from her Family and her Friends, to me, is a prime candidate for the potential of DV and the escalation of it.  I have no respect or tolerance for any Man like that no matter how well he's treated me personally or had no issues with me personally.  And, if he presumes that having those Issues with any of my Loved Ones is Okay, he's gravely mistaken.   It's what got Allen, Isaac and TJ made Unwelcome on our Property when they showed their True Colors eventually.  Being respectful, Safe to be around, trustworthy and non threatening is mandatory here or you're Out and on the Outs with me.  Be Well, Be Gone.  You've now made it Personal.

 

Also, out of the abundance of the Heart the Mouth always eventually Speaks.  And he said a Mouthful the last Argument he had with The Daughter and her Son.  So the facade he carefully constructed is revealing his True Self and it wasn't Pretty.  The Daughter isn't Right in the Head and doesn't make good decisions on a consistent basis, she never has and probably never will.  She's also not a good judge of content of Character, which is part of what makes her a Vulnerable Adult due to her Mental Illness impairing her judgment about situations and people.   Keeping her Safe has always been problematic becoz she does have poor judgment, several self-destructive tendencies and risk taking, that even Psyche Meds never could totally alleviate.  So, I always have concerns about whoever or whatever she's around and the whole Family feel Protective of her.

When she was away we had no say or sway, she lived Life precariously as a Seriously Mentally Ill Person not really able to do Life without serious impairment and considerable risks.   But she knows while here she has to abide by our Safety prompts for her and the rest of the Family, or, she can't be here either.   She has done really well too, for an extended period of time already, which has been Progress and a huge Blessing, for sure.  I just want her to remain on that trajectory and this Boyfriend could derail all of that in our Opinion.  They aren't Good for each other, they don't function without constant strife and now it's spilled over and been Witnessed, I don't want him around here anymore.  If she chooses to stay with him, they have to meet up somewhere else, I don't wanna Deal with any of it, nor does the Family.

It was stressful enuf when we didn't think the Grandkids South of the Border were Safe due to their Father's Lifestyle and who he'd crossed.  Now they all are doing better since he's out of the picture, hopefully for a long time, or forever.  I feel the same way about America and this Administration, I don't Care how they are all removed from Power, but it Needs to happen any kinda way, and the sooner the better, or nobody is Safe anymore.  Becoz this Administration is not Safe.  I'm on Edge all the time about America's Safety and Future, so Home has to be the one Sanctuary of Safety everyone feels is a Safe Space to Hold.  Anyone who violates that factor, has to fucking GO.   And once I'm Done with you, I'm likely Forever Done.  To disrespect me or my Household once, shame on you, to do it twice, shame on me, is my adage.  I don't hold Grudges or animosities, but I don't want you around me either, becoz Trust is now broken and Respect has been compromised between us.

I spent most of Valentine's Day conveying that to The Daughter, as did her Son and her Brother, so I Hope we got it thru to her?  All of her Personalities and Alters, coz she was switching back and forth between them due to the stress level she was up under and he'd Triggered with the Situation he'd caused at our Home.   And who fucking even does that and who do they think they are shitting on my Doorstep when we've only been Good to them?!  That's pretty Spun in my Opinion, when you have gone from keeping your Demons Private and now they're Publicly on full Display and being completely Unstable Publicly.  I don't know what his Deal is, he's got to sort that shit out and somewhere else tho'.  Don't mistake our Kindness for Weakness, we'll roll up the Doormat and make it a Club.  As they say, no Good Deed goes unpunished.  *Le Sigh*  The Daughter has a Choice to make and I told her to Choose Wisely.

I've given him a Day to clear whatever he has of his outta the 5th Wheel or on the Property, be it Tools, extra Clothing he kept over here.  And if it's not out then I want The Son and The Grandson nicely putting it in Boxes and leaving it curbside to be picked up.  Then there's no reason for him to come back and be on the Property whatsoever.  If he comes to pick her up, do it curbside and they can then go and do whatever without anyone running interference.  They are Grown, so, whatever they're voluntarily dealing with between them is their business and it doesn't have to then be something we're involved in at all.  I don't want him to be the reason she has to be asked to leave too.  Even her Friends in Mexico have their Concerns about this Relationship she's in.

Anyway, other than all that everything is swell.  *Eye Roll*  I will be glad to have the Zen Time Today for Four Hours of just getting Lost in some Fluff of Life at a Springtime Event.  I did snag a few Images they had Shared on Social Media, tho' I will take some of my own while there of coarse for Blog Fodder and to Share here.  *Winks*  There hasn't been a whole lot of Opportunities for Photography indulgences lately.  Fewer Events happen now and so many of the best Shops have Closed in recent Years, and most of the Best Vendors have also left many of the Antique Malls too.  I don't think the Economy is gonna prosper under this Regime and they do say within 5 Years AI is likely to cause 20% of Job Losses.  At even high paying Career levels, especially in the Tech Industries, Law Industries and Medical Industries.  And AI has reached a level of Writing it's own Programs now already.  I don't know how Society will weather massive Unemployment and elimination of Jobs/Careers like that?

I don't know that it will be sustainable, but the Horse is out of the Barn already and loose now, and galloping along at record speed with no Rider or Boundaries, so, Adaptation will be necessary.  Those that can't or don't Adapt may just perish?   Good News was that The Niece, upon moving to Texas to go live with her Dad, finally found Employment there right away, after having been out of Work now since August of 2025!  She's in High Tech Career and is a Computer Programmer and Designs Programs for large Corporations.  She's the one that thought she'd get into AI and then found it to be so ominous she doesn't want any part of it and involvement in how insidious it's already becoming Industry wise.  That's why you're not hearing Developers of it spouting about it like in the beginning and have gone Quiet all of a sudden, they know what they've Created and done.

Much like the Tobacco Giants and the Developers of Internet Services began to realize their Legal Liability Issues, and the harm caused, the Creators of AI are realizing their exposure and potential Liability Issues now too.  I won't voluntarily use it becoz I see it mostly in it's Negative light, which outweighs the Positives for me personally.  Whatever and where ever you place your Dependency, ultimately Controls you.  I'm too much of a Control Freak to relinquish that much Control voluntarily, over my Life and it's Choices.  Anyway, it's here to stay tho', so we'll see how much damage control will need to be run behind it now?  I suspect a massive backlash will happen, likely sooner than later, since it's exponentially progressing in bad directions at an accelerated pace they didn't predict nor expect.

 

I had completely forgotten that Monday is a Holiday and President's Day.  Yeah, it's Celebrating all of them, but I don't wanna particularly Celebrate THIS ONE and so I'm ignoring it as a Holiday at all.  Our Antique Mall is having a 20% Off Sale for it tho', which, usually lands well, so, we'll see if it boosts my bottom line or not?   If I can make a buck out of Celebrating mostly Dead Presidents, well, why not?  The only thing better would be if this one drops Dead on that day, that would indeed be reason for a Celebration!  

  When I see T-Shirts saying just "Is he Dead yet?", we ALL know Who they're asking that about!   *LOL*  When can we ever have said that about any sitting President in the History of America?  I mean, that's how low we've gone in our Leadership deterioration now, and bottomed out as a Nation, it's beyond tragic, embarrassing and shameful.  My Friend Lilia is making these Bracelets and I just LOVE them, she's got several on Back Order already.  She has many more Clever ones with Political Statements and her Company is called "Corona Couture", not becoz of the Pandemic Corona, but becoz that's actually her Surname.  *LOL and Winks*  She's a very Talented Jewelry Artisan and I have a Collection of her Work. 

I've been doing The Man's little daily chores since he's having the Mobility Issues right now.  We don't wanna risk him taking another Fall and I think he's fearful of Falling now, which is understandable.  He's using his Cane consistently, which, he's never done before, so I know he's alarmed over what's happening to him and we don't know why it's happening.  Hopefully the VA will get him in or refer him to a good Civilian Specialist?   Otherwise, if I can't get him in I'll have to resort to taking him to the Main VA Hospital ER, which he HATES that, for good reason, and, I loathe going.  I've had to have Security called on me more than once when they're not taking his Emergencies seriously.  It's not that he's singled out, all the Veterans have to put up with the diminished Services being provided them by their Government now.  This Regime will continue cutting it to the Bone coz this Prez has NO Respect for our Military, our Fallen, our Military's Heroes, our Veterans, or their Families.

They've tried to take away the EARNED Benefits and Retirement of our Local Military and Astronaut Hero and Senator, Mark Kelly.  Suggesting he even be Prosecuted for being an actual True Patriot, by him reminding our Active Duty Personnel that they don't have to follow Illegal Orders, and saying he should be Hanged!!!  It's just Mind Blowing to me that this is Okay with even a Single American!!!   We've devolved so far Morally and Lawfully now, that a swath of our Citizenry is okay with inhumanity, atrocities committed against Human Beings, all kinds of serious illegal acts, protecting Pedophiles and other Sex Offenders, cruelty and even Murder apparently!!!   It's beyond abhorrent, ungodly and wicked, it's Evil incarnate.

Remember how I told you about the Garlands, Streamers and such that Princess T decorated the Ceiling of her Room with?  Here's just a glimpse of it in a Corner of the Room.   Rusty was only here for a brief time before they left, but she went thru all of that trouble just for a brief visit, she just Loves doing stuff like that for people she Cares about.  I don't know that he notices or appreciate it, he's a Guy... but... it was for him, so, I Hope he did>  *LOL*   Eli even tolerated some Pathological Picture Taking of himself with my New Phone Camera {see Below}.  Doesn't he look Angry as fuck?!  *Bwahahahahaha*  If Looks could speak 1,000 Words... he communicated it quite effectively how Not Happy he was for a Photo Op, it cracks me up every time.   Most of the time he refuses to even Look at me when I'm trying to take his Pix... he's such a Killjoy and Grumpy Cat like that.  Then he puked on her clean Rug!!!  He's so Dramatic, like getting Three Pixs taken had gave him that much Anxiety... Oh, Pleeease Eli, Spare me the Drama!!! *Smiles* 

 

Fucking Humans!!!

There, I'm not even gonna Look at her and mebbe she'll just go away and leave me alone??!   If I Ignore her long enuf, she'll get the Message?!

Fuck... Are you still here?!   Be Gone Old Annoying Woman... it's so hard to find Good Help these days!!!  Humpffff and Bah Humbug, I Need New Staff!!!  You're Dismissed now.  Okay, so now I'm gonna puke twice on the Rug to convey my Sentiments further, since she is persistent and won't just Go Away... see, you're making me physically Sick already... now, GO... Be Gone already!!!!!!!

This is Why I Love and can Connect to Cats tho', they don't even Pretend to Care or be Tolerant of anything that's a Nuisance to them!  *LMAO*  Eli has the most Attitude of any Cat that's Owned us thus far.  *LOL*  And he's definitely one of the largest Cats, we've had a lot of Big Tomcats and one other enormous Female Maine Coon Mix named Yuki, before, but this Guy is the size and weight of a small Dog.  He's not as big as a Maine Coon that is no mixture Breed... they can get as big as a Medium size Dog actually and look more Lynx-Like.  But Eli is not your Garden Variety Domestic Shorthair Tabby either.   And Tabby's are not a specific Cat Breed, just a Cat Coat Pattern and can encompass many different Breeds with those Markings.  He came to us as a likely Feral Kitten Anthony's Family Rescued but his Aunt was allergic to, so we took him in.

See this Lovely Mosaic Dome on this Luxury Custom Home?  Well, a new Buyer bought the place and removed the Dome recently.   A shame when someone Buys a very distinctive OOAK Property and then ruins what made it so Unique and Special.   No telling what they ruined of the Interior, I remember looking at the Listings when it went up For Sale and it was as Special on the Interior and Unique, as the Exterior.  But, we saw a huge Dumpster parked out front and they were filling it with Construction debris, so, no telling what else they demoed after Sale?  Some people have an abundance of Money to waste and a Need to Destroy things I guess... just becoz they Can.   This is a very large Luxury Property and what they've destroyed so far is probably Hundreds of Thousands of Dollars worth of Custom Work that nothing was Wrong with and many would have appreciated and left alone!

And I'm still upset about the nearby 1916 Farmhouse on Acreage that was completely razed and will likely now be Developed into high density unsightly Investor Property, in an area that doesn't need any more of that Visual Urban Blight.   Above is a Satellite Aerial of what it used to look like, you never could see the whole House for thick Tree Cover on about 2-3 Acres of heavily dense Forested Land it was set far back on.  It had an Ancient Tamarack Tree Lined Driveway leading up to it. I would have liked to have seen the whole House or Owned it.   To last and Survive as a Lone Sentinel of the Past for 110 Years and remain undisturbed and beautifully isolated and bucolic, coz it had a lot of heavily Forested Land around it, only to be surrounded by a now blighted Neighborhood was bad enuf.  But, I guess the Owner either Died or didn't wanna live with all the problems the area that grew up around it were displaying with Urban encroachment and Urban decay.

  So I can't say I blame them for Selling to some Greedy Developer if the Price was too good an offer to turn down and get the Hell out.  The Value, mostly due to the Land Value, was close to $600,000 now in an area where the average Ghetto looking Home Value is much lower due to how blighted the Area had become.  It used to be a nice Middle Class Neighborhood way back in the early 1970's actually, that grew up around it, but steadily declined by the 1990's.  It took no time for them to raze the Historic Home and all that Mature Wooded Acreage to just an Eyesore of dirt tho'.  No telling what hideous Development will take it's place?  I'm thinking high Density, mebbe low income Apartments???  Due to the area not commanding Luxury Development.  Which a scourge of lately is going up everywhere in hideous high Density but Luxury Apartments nobody can really afford.  Most resemble Chinese Prisons they're so ugly, they're hideous and massive, tho' inflated Rents.

I don't really know if The Daughter needs me to take her to the Job in Chandler or not.  She doesn't appear to be Home and we should have left by now to get there on time.  So, I don't know if Mister Wonderful is taking her now that he's been told he can't be on our Property?  It had looked like he had been gathering his things, which is what we'd required of him to do.  I've left Phone and Text Messages for her to let me know so I can plan my day out accordingly.  I had said I'd take her and I don't want her blowing off this Job coz it's for a Friend of mine.  I know Mentally that due to the Drama with the Boyfriend she's not been in a good Head Space since the day before Valentine's Day.  So I don't even know that she didn't cancel or re-schedule the Job if she isn't up to it?  My Friend would be understanding if that were the case, so long as The Daughter lets her know.

Amber came over with "Church's" Chicken for everyone.  She's concerned about The Daughter, whose been her BFF since Childhood.  And, she's concerned about her own Daughter whose Pregnant and just Married TJ, whose Old enuf to be her Daughter's Grandfather.  The concern is for the same reasons, he's very controlling and abusive, so she's worried about her Daughter and the 1st Grandbaby's safety.  TJ's Parents are nice people but they're in their 80's and enable their Sons considerably since they're still Supporting them even tho' each Son is in his 60's now and making bad decisions.   I think there is something Wrong with both Sons actually, I don't know what, but it seems to be some Developmental Issues for Men that Age to be so Immature still and irresponsible, relying on Parents that Old.  Only when you have seriously Disabled Kids do you expect that might be necessary for a Lifetime.

Anyway, Amber got Emotional and I feel so bad for her, she's very worried about her Daughter and that Baby that's coming very soon.  She says he's been trying to drive a wedge between her Daughter and Family.   Anyway, The Daughter of mine finally got hold of me, she had forgotten about the Job being Today and was at another Paid Job on a Ranch... the Client asked her if she could still do it Today but an Hour later?  I'm okay with that but told The Daughter she has to get her Ass here quickly then so we can make it by that new Deadline coz it's a long Commute.  And it's a Sunday, so everything closes early and I won't be having anywhere to hang out for Four Hours if stuff starts Closing before she's finished with the Job. 

 I expected it to be 1:30 to 5:30 not 2:30 to 6:30 on a Sunday.  With the Boyfriend's Drama it had sidetracked her remembering her commitment for a Job she relies on and needs.  "Highland Yard Vintage" Closes at 6:00 p.m. on a Sunday and so does "Merchant Square Antique Mall".  LATER:  It went well, even tho' we left the house really late I managed to get her there only 10 Minutes late, which was okay with the Client.  The Daughter was in good Spirits.  Her Male Friend in Mexico who owns a Mansion on the Beach there told her if she needs to get away for a while to detach from the Negative Energy here *Winks*, he'll send for her to spend time at his place for as long as she Needs to.  So she has more of a Peace about her options for the best outcome for everyone involved.  Plus, she could spend some Quality Time with her Kids there too.  This may all be necessary to Move On for her?

All the Kids are now living together again apparently at Saint Maria's Home she left to them.  I don't know why the middle one left her Boyfriend's Mom's Home, but, he came with her so is helping with expenses now too.  All Three of the Girls has a Boyfriend whose helping them out and the Two Older Granddaughters have Jobs too.  The Youngest one doesn't work yet, she's still High School Aged and finishing her Education, but her Boyfriend has a nice Car, a good Job, and takes care of whatever she Needs.  Which is good coz she was mad at the older middle Sister for trying to "Sell" her a Gatorade rather than just Share one with her.  *Bwahahahaha*  

That middle one is the lil Hustler, she stocks up Snacks and Beverages, then Sells them to her Sisters and Friends, like she's in Prison or something, working her angle and hustle, it's hilarious to me!!!  *LMAOROTF*  She is the Prodigal Child of that Trio.  But also the one that stood up to some serious Bad Actors to protect their Younger Half Sister, who was only in Grade School, when their Dad got shot and abducted right in front of them, some time ago during a Home Invasion.  You long time Readers might recall that hairy History where we thought him to be Dead and did fear for the Safety of the vulnerable Grandkids and their Aged Abuelita when Saint Maria was still alive.  Things can get Real quite fast in 3rd World Countries.  

Which is why I don't want America becoming like a Banana Republic under this corrupt Regime.  If you're a Global Traveler you know what a dangerous slippery slope the eradication of a functional Democracy actually is, with serious Bad Actors in Power and running the Show.  Even the worst Hoods in America would seem like a Boy Scouts Playground compared to how scary and hairy a lot of 3rd World Countries can be.   With the lawlessness that prevails due to corrupt violent Leaders in Bed with the worst of the Bad Actors, so they can all exploit the situation, rig The System, and stack up the Wealth for themselves.  America is doomed as a respected World Leader if we keep going in that direction we're already heading and unraveling, at warp speed.

Mebbe you know some MAGA that have Wet Dreams and delusions that they're gonna be alright when it happens?  Coz they're naively assuming their 'support' will protect them.  It won't and the wakeup call will blindside them when it happens, that they will be just as fucked as everyone else and realize they got Played.   Anyway, I digress... back to my "Event", which, I went to the Antique Mall in Chandler, which was having a huge Valentine's Day/President's Day Weekend Sale going on, so was very busy.  But, the "Highland Yard Vintage" Market Event in the Warehouse behind the Antique Mall doesn't run until the 18th-that Sunday.   They actually had a Soft Opening earlier in February that I didn't know about, they'd been Closed for the Month of January.

I took a lot of Pixs in the Antique Mall which I haven't downloaded yet from my Old School Camera.  I did take advantage of the huge Sale going on which all their Vendors had participated in.  You got anywhere from 10%-70% Off depending on the Vendor's Discount offered.  I got mostly Valentine's Vintage and OOAK items marked down.  I got another Vintage 1950's Era Valentine's Chocolate Heart Shaped Candy Box with Millinery on it, for only Six Bucks!   I got a bunch of various sized Fabric Hearts made of Vintage Materials, a "Where Women Create" Magazine, and Two Vintage Canning Jars with Zinc/Milk Glass Lids for a ridiculously low price.  

And "The American Way" BBQ Restaurant finally had size XL Shirts I'd wanted to get from them with hilarious Vintage Cult Classic SNL Graphics of "More Cowbell" with Will Ferrell and "In A Van Down By The River" with Chris Farley, promoting the Restaurant.  *LOL*  I got a Military Discount on that purchase, along with the Discount on my Lunch of Pulled Pork Sammie, Coleslaw, Dill Pickle, Corn Chowder, Drink and a Peach Scone.   So, Below is my Retail Therapy indulged of my Hearts and T-Shirts.  You know what a Vintage Canning Jar looks like already.  *Winks*

 

So, how was that for some therapeutic Retail Therapy that didn't even go over Budget coz everything was marked down so low?  I couldn't have made the Fabric Hearts for how cheaply I Scored them, most for a couple Bucks each!!!   And my Vintage Candy Box I got from the same Vendor that I'd gotten my other Two from last visit to that Mall, but marked way down since Valentine's Day was now over.   In fact, all my Valentine's Merch was marked way down coz everyone was moving on to their Easter Merch now.   They had Sold a few of the Fabric Hearts that I came back for, that I'd admired prior to Valentine's Day, which is understandable.  Coz even the full price had been quite low for OOAK Handmade items made of Vintage Materials.  I had a good time, but was saddened that my Friend Mary had Closed her amazing Booth already, she only opened it a couple Months ago and had Styled it so fabulously too.  Another good Vendor with Style had moved into the Booth, but, it wasn't hers anymore.

Next time I see Mary, since she usually has Space at the Event Warehouse too, I'll have to ask her what happened that she Closed the Booth down so early after putting so much Work into the Styling of it?  Her Merch looked awesome in it and she's a very popular Vendor, the way she Styles her Booth as a backdrop to everything is Ahhhmazing too, I wanna BE her when I Grow Up.  *Winks and Smiles*  Her Aesthetic is so Uniquely 'her' and so Inventive when she Styles any Space she had her Merch in.   She has a Business Partner who I don't know as well, but have met, really nice Gal too, I can see why she and Mary Partnered and combined their Aesthetics, they compliment each other so well and seamlessly that you can't tell it's Two Creative Souls melding their Unique and distinctive Styles together.  Her Partner is always trying to Buy my Bags off of me.  *LOL*

Like this OOAK Medicine Bag I have, there's a Party in the Back as well as the Front.   I'm not interested in Selling many of my Bags I use and Display at Home tho'.   IF I get back to Creating Bags again I'll consider making some to Sell, but I won't do Commissioned Pieces anymore, Hated it, nothing Stifles Creativity quite like a Deadline and it robbed me of the Joy of Creating to have a Commissioned Piece someone had to wait a very long time for me to complete.  Becoz I do them all by Hand, I don't and can't use a Sewing Machine, just a Needle and Thread.  I don't use Patterns and don't think upon it in advance at all, much like Blogging, it's happening as it's happening spontaneously from a Stream of Creative Consciousness and kinda Makes Itself really.  I don't even know what it will end up like as a Post, a Product, or the Content and Visuals of it 'til it's finished.  *LOL*  It Feeds my Soul when I'm Creating anything, so I'm not that Interested in Selling my Soul really.

The Young Prince and Princess T are like me with their Creativity.  Yes, we could make Money doing it since folks seem to wanna Buy it when they see it and genuinely show Interest.  But, we don't do any of it for the Intention of putting it up For Sale or as an Industry Line of Product we could Profit from, but choose not to.  I have Sold my Art, so has The G-Kid Force, but it was never Created with that in Mind.  When we Needed the Liquidity we Sold some of it, when we didn't, we just don't and turn down offers.   It reminds me of our Favorite Navajo Silversmith of the 1970's, Erwin Begay.  My Dad would coax Old Erwin to come down off the Rez to Sell him some Pieces for me or my Mom.   Erwin would set up a small Card Table at the Swap Meet and Sell you a few pieces then, and go back to the Rez up North. 

But Erwin only Sold his Original Creations when he Needed/Wanted the Fire Water to get drunk.  Coz he was an Alcoholic as well as a Brilliant Artisan.  Otherwise, he didn't take his Art that Seriously that he felt a Need to hawk any of it or get recognition for it.  I was distraught when my Erwin Begay Pieces got Stolen during a Robbery in the 1980's.  Coz Erwin was an Old Man when my own Parents were Middle Aged. He made very few pieces and was one of the Unknown Masters of his Craft.  Dad wouldn't Buy any of his Native American Silver Smithed pieces except from Erwin.   And my Dad had Respect for Erwin's ways coz my own Paternal Grandmother and Aunts on the Rez only made their Art and Tribal Pieces Seriously for Pow Wows or to wear themselves and for Family, and only Un-Seriously for Non-Indigenous Tourists when they really Needed the Money.  

So, it was a Good Day out, The Daughter did a good Job and got Paid, she may have a lot more Work lined up already, she's been in demand lately, which is good.  Coz she hasn't Qualified for any Social Services yet, still haven't gotten her to be less Paranoid about the Government.  *LOL*  She's no Conspiracy Theorist, but she is a Paranoid Schizophrenic, so, it's similar in many ways.  *Bwahahaha*  She bought her Brother something as soon as she got her Money, she'd wanted to buy her Son something too, but he wasn't Home when she called to ask what he might need?   

I knew she wanted to offer a Peace Offering and token of apology to each of them.  She wanted to do that for Me too, but it wasn't necessary, I told her, it's Water Under the Bridge to me now, he's just not allowed here anymore, coz he's not acting Safe or Balanced in his ways, so, just Respect that and I'm Golden.  She felt badly that her Brother and Son had both come to her defense and she hadn't received that in the Spirit it was done on her behalf.   Mostly coz she felt in part responsible for the whole Drama that unfolded.  And even if it was Six of One and Half a Dozen of The Other, coz we all know how Crazy she is, I told her its still never Okay for a Guest here to act that way towards any of us coz this is OUR Home and they are but a Visitor.  If you're not getting along with any of us, just Leave, it's that Simple.

There's nobody here that is "Okay" and we make that clear and are transparent about it.  So, if you can't manage yourself around that appropriately, then best to just stay away really.  We're all Friended Up, so we'll be okay with you staying away if it's just Too Much for you.  And even if it's Too Much and you depart temporarily but without a Scene or causing Drama and a Headache, then you're not Problematic and will be Welcome again.  But, my Solution to Problems is that if you're part of the Problem, you're not part of the Solution, and therefore, you've made YOURSELF then Unwelcome.  I got 99 Problems so I don't Need anyone outside of my Family being even One of them, you know?   And I'm very Solutions Oriented, so I don't dick around about Solving anything that becomes Problematic to us.  The "Fixer" in me just Reacts that way.  Always has, always will.  It's Served me well, both Professionally, and Personally.

Everyone Self-Regulated just Fine once The Problem was removed from the Premises.   And we always Wish someone Well, even if they have to be asked/told to Leave.  Sometimes shit just doesn't Work Out, that's Life.   And if we've only ever been Kind to you, then we just don't expect nor tolerate that being mistaken for a Weakness, it's not.   So don't try to take advantage of it, nor take it or us for granted.  It can be easily rescinded and revoked.  Don't Count on that we'll always be Nice or Kind once you show yourselves not to be the most worthy recipient of it and start shitting where you eat, so to speak.  We're Nice until someone gives us reason NOT to be, it's the choice of the Person involved, which they prefer to be Dealing with?   We have our Dark Sides too and it ain't Pretty and we'd prefer really to never have to call that forth as the Dominant way of Being.

We much prefer our Home's Sanctuary to be a place of Peace, Love, Tranquility, Calm and Zen, so, I'm fierce about having it BE that Safe Space for everyone occupying it even as a temporary Guest here.  I want for those who come to Feel Welcome and not disrupt our Calm.  I never understood folks who allow their Home to be Unsafe or a place of Strife and Disharmony or conflict.   Since, everyone should have that Safe Space to Land in Life and Home should be that kind of Personal Sanctuary to retreat to from The World.  The World can be so fucking harsh and chaotic.  Sometimes I don't Like to be out in it all, so Home is where we prefer to be most of the time, all of us, and often our Friends too when they come here often.   So Home should be the place you find Rest and be able to Restore your Soul, Feel the Love, and be as Harmonious as possible.  Which, is always challenging when various Personalities and various Humans are involved.   Especially a Motley Crew.  But, I don't wanna hafta get the Mallet out and Whack-A-Mole either!!!  *Winks* 

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Whacking away in the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Mole Whacking Bohemian