Comfortable With A Certain Social Isolation Over Time

 We'll likely wait 'til Sunday to visit "Highland Yard Vintage" Spring Event coz Princess T's Hours at Work on a Saturday aren't consistent and we're her ride.  I can't be all the way out in Chandler when she calls for pickup.  I do Wish she had more consistent full time Hours, she's a full time Employee, but, they haven't been getting regular Hours for a while now.  Either they're sent Home early, or have to Work late, either way, those requiring Transportations that don't have their own, means it interrupts the Lives of those offering them the rides to and from Work, which is a Pain in the Ass for us too.  She's got enuf Saved now to Buy a Vehicle if she finds a reliable one at a good price, but, she still has to Learn to Drive.

I'd like to have another Driver in the Household who has their own Vehicle too.  The Son drives but has no reliable Vehicle right now.  Mando was providing transportation 'til we learned he doesn't have a valid License and his Tags were expired too!   And now, he's not here anymore either, so, there's that, tho' he's still driving and that's on him to get his affairs in order with the DMV.   The Daughter and The Young Prince, along with The Man, can never drive due to the extent of their Illnesses being too profound to do so safely.  They all know how to drive, but aren't Legally able to either, the DMV told us that The Daughter has a Lifetime restriction, and with her illness, that's not a Surprise at all. 

So, having Princess T able to drive would be most Helpful, and especially if she gets a reliable Vehicle first so we have Two available to the whole Family and don't just rely on me and mine.   Right now The Young Prince has BCG willing to do some driving on his behalf, which is very kind of this new individual, and helpful.  I don't really have anyone I could call on for an Emergency Ride and I wouldn't ever use Uber coz I don't know they vet their Drivers very well and folks have been Victimized by using the Gig Industry for Rides.  I think they're trying to tighten all that up, but, I consider the risk factors too high, same with Public Transportation in the City, which is rife right now with Bus Pirates, sometimes traveling in whole Gangs, riding on Public Transit Systems and Targeting Victims to Rob.  Elderly and the Disabled do have some Ride Share options, which are Safer and Regulated better.

The Young Prince has an invite to attend a Japanese Festival Downtown with his Dad but I have to wait until his Sister is off work before I could take him.  It is the dilemma when you're a One Vehicle Family.  The Son and Amber were doing their Exercise Walk around our Neighborhood and saw one of our South American Neighbors was making fresh Homemade Pupusas at their Yard Sale and called me so I could go buy some.  For Three bucks each, they were the Pork, Bean and Cheese, plus Selling freshly made Horchata to drink too, delicious.  The Daughter was making them Fresh on a Grill in the Front Yard, it made for a nice unexpected Lunch.

I did get The Young Prince to his Dad's in time for the Japanese Festival, which, he didn't end up wanting to stay at so he got a Lyft Home pretty early.  I think his Dad and new Stepmom stayed longer, I'm assuming it wasn't such a Big Time that the Grandson wanted to stay any longer than he did.  I'd thought I'd heard his Voice while Napping this Afternoon and dismissed it as, he's not even here, I must be Dreaming?  *LOL*  I'd taken him to that Festival many Years ago when he was a Young Teenager and it was nice, but I don't think we stayed all that long either, the G-Kid Force were Younger then and we'd had enuf Fun in just a couple Hours as I recall, then too.  There's very few things we wanna attend all day.

I got a Fresh Margherita Pizza {uncooked tho'} and a Pepperoni Fresh Pizza Kit {you put it together and cook it} from "Sprouts" Today and The Son is cooking both of them now for Dinner.  His Sister never has come Home from whatever she's doing.  We suspect she did finish the Job in Buckeye and get Paid coz she Posted some Social Media Pixs of her and Mando at a Casino or Bar, drinking Cocktails and likely Gambling... so I would suspect he'll help her blow thru any Money she did Earn, including her Housekeeping Job last Weekend.  Coz none of it got deposited in her Account as it should have and I'm no longer Trustee, even tho' she's incapable of managing Finances, I can only make suggestions.  Which, she usually takes them when she doesn't have influence that would exploit that vulnerability and just 'Use' her.  She's very defensive of him so I just stepped off the Topic.

I dunno, take a Seriously Mentally Ill Alcoholic to a Casino after they get Paid for some hard Work you lined up for them, get them Drunk and see what happens... just didn't seem like you're looking out for THEIR Best Interests?  But, that's just my Opinion.  I know once her Son sees that Social Media Post it will land like a lead Balloon.   The Son and her Daughter were not at all Surprised and noticed whenever she had any Money was when the Boyfriend was nicest to her.  In order that she'd spend it all with him rather than having it in her account for her own Needs.  Lots of his Manipulative Habits are on full display now he's been told he can't be here and the facade has fallen away. 

 She won't likely abandon him due to his Health, so I gave up telling her that even a Dying Man who Respects or Cares about who he's with won't mistreat them or exploit them.  Another Opinion of mine.   I feel you have to Be like that all along I highly suspect?   And I have found that if you're Kind to some folks, they do tend to get too comfortable and take it for Granted or mistake Kindness for Weakness.  Once I realize someone is of that Camp, well, I won't be Unkind, but, I won't Enable that kind of Behavior either or Tolerate it.  But, you cannot tell other Adults what to Tolerate or Accept in the Behaviors of other People, that's on them to Choose.  Folks make Poor Choices all of the time and the consequences play out based on that decision making.

 I don't Care what they try to justify Bad Behavior with, his Illness doesn't excuse or justify treating someone Bad whose been and is being Kind to him and genuinely Caring for him when he's down and out, even actively Dying, so, there's no Future for her to be with him.  I can see why his Family have fallen away mostly and won't help him anymore, if he's behaved this way towards any of them or even just some of them.  I know some of his Family before I ever knew him, and I've met some since, they seem like very Nice people, but have a lot of Family internal Drama and some Estrangements.   And perhaps he has a History of it himself, even when Well, I just don't know?  He's not all Bad, but not all Good for her either.  But, she's not all Good for him either.

He has always treated me and The Man very Well, and was nothing but Helpful, Respectful and Industrious while on our Property towards US. Which was appreciated and rewarded in ways that benefitted him too.   So I don't have it Personalized in that way, but mistreating ANY of my Loved Ones then disqualifies you as being Welcome here to me, period. He had conflict continuously with The Daughter, and Off N On with The Son, The Grandson and many of her Friends while they were Visiting us.  Princess T didn't Like him so wouldn't have much to do with him even tho' towards her he was like he was with The Man and I, but she too didn't like how he Treated other People at times.  It was rather a Dr. Jekyll and Mister Hyde Persona going on, some saw One Side, others saw quite another.  One Side isn't Pretty or Tolerable IMO.

    And I do think The Daughter often gets involved with Relationships that are not going to work out... she's part of why they don't, but who she chooses is also part of why they don't.   I didn't always make the best Choices when I was Younger either, nor did The Man, so we had failed Relationships too until we met each other, it happens.  You Move On and SHOULD learn from Mistakes made of who you aren't compatible with long-term and don't repeat Bad Choices and look for the Red Flags in folks.  Love is often Deaf, Dumb and Blind.   And I think as folks get Older especially, you just cut loose anyone and everyone whose bringing any Drama to the Table in any way.  I'm all Friended Up so I don't Need to Deal with anyone's Drama and being a Headache, especially at our Home.

 

So, the Middle Granddaughter in Mexico has a Boyfriend whose clearly quite smitten with her and lavished her with Roses and Gifts on Valentine's Day.   And thinks she's a Princess Too.  *Winks, they ALL are, Right?  Ha ha haa*  He even Paid for her to have Braces, tho' I didn't think her Teeth were jenky, but now they'll be Perfect.  Princess T has Naturally Perfectly straight Teeth, her Dental Surgeon who'll be doing the extraction of Wisdom Teeth was Surprised to learn she'd never had Braces to make them as Straight as they Naturally are.   This is the Granddaughter {above} who looks exactly like I did at that Age, it's eerie really to see a Grandchild whose your absolute Clone.  And sometimes they crack me up by saying Gramma, Look at my New Outfit, and send me a Pix but with their Heads cut off!  Ummm, very Pretty little Black Dress, but I'd of liked to have the Frame with YOUR Head Shot in it too Darlin'!!!  *LMAOROTF*  Kids...

All the Sisters often compete with one another on who has the best Style and often try to emulate Princess T, who is Older than the Trio of Sisters in Mexico who are her Full Sisters.  She has numerous Half Sisters and Brothers on the other side of the Border, many Older, One Younger Sister.   The Ex who Fathered Four Granddaughters of ours had a lot of Kids by various Baby Mamas.   I don't approve and only One of the Older ones keeps in Touch with us and has a Lovely Family and looks a lot like Princess T.  I wouldn't even know what all the others look like except that one of his Oldest Daughter's and his very Youngest Daughter, whose very Fair.   Saint Maria, his Mother, was of French Ancestry, but Born and Raised, lived all her Life, in Mexico, so was a Green Eyed Blonde.  So, about half of Salvador's Family look European, the other half look Spaniard, including him, coz his Dad's People were from Spain originally.

The Oldest Granddaughter of the Trio of Mexico just sent me this most recent Selfie, she's got her other Two Sisters living with her again and taking Care of them until they're Grown.   She's very Mature, Intelligent and Responsible beyond her Years.  Is going to College, Working Full Time at a Job and Modeling on the Side, while Raising her Two Younger Siblings after their Grandmother Died who had been Raising them all.  They all got Saint Maria's Porcelain Fair Skin, my Family all tend to be Darker complexion.  Even my Mom only stayed Fair if she stayed out of the Sun completely, which, in her latter Years, when she was Housebound, made her Fairer than I remember her being Growing Up.  And of coarse my Native American Dad was very swarthy and Dark, but not as Dark as some of his Siblings were.  They are all a Sultry Bunch and a Handful... Wonder where they got THAT from?  *Bwahahaha*

The Son has a Job prospect with someone he used to Work with whose starting their own Business and Hiring folks they know would be Assets to the Team they're building for it.  He's encouraged since, it would probably work out better.   He knows this Gal and that her Work Ethic is good and she's really Smart at Business, is the Entrepreneur Type, so didn't really like working for someone else.  I think I met her once, I met so many of his Co-Workers at his last Career in the Cabinet Custom Biz.  I had thought she was a Guy until she spoke, she's quite Butch and can hold her own in a Male dominated Field of The Trades.  For some reason the Lesbians have always thought highly of The Son and gotten along with him and become close Friends, which they don't usually do with many Straight Guys.  He treats everyone with Respect, Dignity and no Biases or Judgment, which is probably the draw tho'.

And The Young Prince told me it's also likely for the same reason Gay Men like having an Attractive Female in their Krew, it attracts Guys.  That's why The Young Prince has always had a Straight Beautiful Gal Posse surrounding him.  And Princess T's Gay Boy Posse always want her to be Queen Bee of their Krew too.  *LOL*   So, his Uncle being a Handsome Male, attracts Women... so... no downside to that if you're a Lesbian or a Straight Man, Right?  *Smiles*  He could be Right?  *LOL*  The Son does admit he's never had to approach Women, they always approach him first, and, he's very approachable.  Ever since he was a Young Teen, the Gals have really liked him... all of them.  *Smiles*   And all of his Friends liked his Older Sister being around when they were Growing Up.  *LOL*    I remember having the same effect on my Younger Brother's Friends.  *Winks*

Above is The Son with a Gal on each Arm, at Age Three, both of those Girls are still his Friends to this day.  *Smiles*   Also The Daughter with her BFF Amber when they were Buck Wild Teens, still Friends to this day.  And our Oldest Daughter with The Man at her Wedding... well over 30 Years ago, my how Time just Flies, huh?   She's a Gramma now of Five, and those Grandkids she gave us are now Middle Aged and gave us those Five Great-Grandkids... they get Old and drag you along with them.  And you think to yourself, Wow, how did that happen so fast?!   *Winks*  I've been going thru and Organizing Old Photos and I forget sometimes how much Time has flown by!

Lord have Mercy what a difference over Half a Century can make, huh?  *Bwahahahaha*   The Middle Pix was Interesting coz I never realized until then that my Grey Eyes are so Pale that they are prone to picking up and reflecting the Color of whatever I'm wearing.  So that Turquoise Wrap made my Eyes appear Turquoise and I went thru a Middle Aged Phase then of wearing a lot of Colors that changed my Eye Color to match with my Outfits.  *LOL*   And No, my Hair was never Auburn and I've never been a Redhead ever, but when Pixs get Old it seems the Colored Pixs back in Da Day were so Poor Quality that it all goes to a Reddish Sepia over Time and your Complexion also washes out to look Paler than you were too.

  

 I was quite Swarthy as a Child and as a Young Woman, but had the very Pale Eyes and Light Hair that didn't match my Complexion at all.  And I really Hated that as a Youngster, made me feel a bit Freakish.   I'd often get people ask me how I kept such a Dark Tan all Year round, especially in Climates with little Sun, coz they assumed I was not of Mixed Race.   And as a Kid you'd not understand completely why their demeanor would quite often change and be suddenly Negative and not so enamored with your Skin Tone, when you'd explain becoz your Dad was Indigenous, so, it wasn't a Suntan.  I always thought that rather Ironic really, how your Complexion could be Complimented, Admired, even Envied, if it was assumed to be a Suntan.  But not if it was your Natural Complexion as a Person of some Color, and now despised and looked down upon.  Racism is just that ridiculous and absurd to me.

A much Younger Tween Princess T.   Looking thru my Photos is Nostalgic but can be bittersweet, as I get to Missing my Friends who have either Moved Away or Passed Away and the Images remind me of when they were still here and we got to spend precious Time together.  You still have the Memories, and the Photos, but not the Person Present anymore and as Time goes on that's happening at an accelerated pace now.  More Move Away, more Pass Away.  So few are left now that it's very much deepening the Void left behind, of so many Missing Friends and Family now.   I do keep in touch with the majority that Moved Away and are still among the Living tho', so Social Media is a wonderful thing in that way.  We didn't used to have that at our disposal, so it's one part of Technology that I'm not so opposed to in the Positive ways it can be used.

Seeing their Smiling Faces and what they're up to where they now Live is uplifting and I'm so Happy for them that as they've Moved On to somewhere else, things are mostly Good.   And some do make it back to Arizona from time to time for visits.   A lot of folks were originally From somewhere else and just went back when the Time seemed Right for them to return.  In Arizona, most folks are usually From somewhere else Originally.   Our Two Youngest Kids and some of my Grandkids being the exception, having been Born here, tho' The Daughter did choose to migrate and live in Mexico for close to 20 Years.  The Son and Grandson Traveled extensively, but always came back to Arizona.  And the Oldest Daughter was Born in Pennsylvania and Raised there, deciding to make that her permanent Home, along with her Children and Grandchildren.

For The Man and I, our Global Nomad Days are behind us now.  If he were Well, I'd still have Wanderlust enuf to Travel extensively and Globetrot, quite Honestly, but would return here as Home Base now.  I consider Arizona my permanent Home and I feel a very strong Connection here to the Land.  I couldn't even tell you exactly Why, it's Primal and rather Visceral, like I'd been here Before, or Ancestrally did have a Tie to this Land, I dunno?   I've been to many Countries and many States, never stayed Put for very long, never felt that Connection before to any Place until I got here and felt it immediately.  It was like Coming Home even tho' I'd never been here until then.  And never want to Leave now.

I will probably be Losing this Dear Lifelong Friend sometime between now and the end of March and I'm trying to brace myself for The Call when it comes.   Her Youngest Daughter has Promised to let me know when it happens and that her Fight is over now.  I do Wish I could either be there or they could be here, instead of all that Distance between us now.  Texas might as well be on another Planet since I can't take this Show on the Road and even Traveling distances myself now poses it's challenges due to the Medications I'm on and well, Finances as well.  Travel is pretty expensive, budgets are pretty tight for everyone.   And, frankly, I don't do Weddings, Baby Showers or Funerals... if I can Help it.  I will however, attend my own Funeral.  *Winks*

 The Young Prince said he could have gone on a Cruise to the Bahamas Cheaper than moving back to Arizona from New Mexico... to put it all in perspective.  He would have liked a Cruise to the Bahamas, since, it would have been a lot less Expensive, by far, and been a Memorable Vacation and not an Exodus from an Emotional difficult Bad Situation.  *LOL*   I'd still like to get to Bora Bora one day, still No. 1 on my Bucket List.  I've had Friends who've gone there and said I won't be disappointed, it's all and more they thought it would be.  I felt that way when visiting Kauai on our Honeymoon.  We were supposed to return for our 25th Anniversary, for a 2nd Honeymoon, which, was over a Decade ago now, but The Man's Health had tanked by then, I was Full Time Caregiving, and it just wasn't possible.  Plus, we were Raising Grandkids too, it was just complicated, so Vacays were a thing of the Past.

The Man isn't a Fan of Tropical Destinations either, he was sent to fight too many Wars in Tropical Locales, so it doesn't bring back fond Memories of those kinds of places for him.   I'm Surprised he finds a certain Peace living in a Desert, for the same reasons, the Middle East was a place he was sent to fight too many Wars also.  I think his fondness for Cold Climates stems from, we've really done no Wars there that he was involved in?   And, in all Truthfulness, I Married a Content Homebody, he likes to just stay Home, that's where he'd rather be than anywhere else, Princess T also.  If they never went anywhere they'd be just Fine with it.  *Smiles*   And Princess T found herself a Content Homebody also, Rusty would rather stay Home than anywhere else too, so most of their Time together is spent here or at his Home.  They rarely go out or get together with other People and are Fine with that. 

 

I've become more able to just feel most comfortable and content going nowhere and seeing no-one to get together and do stuff.  So, I do see the Appeal now.   And when we do go out, it's usually just myself and One Family Member, or I go Solo, and that's my preferred way of rolling as well now.   The Simplicity and the Peacefulness of that kind of Solitude is preferred over a whole lot of Social interactions now to me.  I'm not a Natural Recluse, but, Full Time Caregiving did challenge me to be more comfortable with a certain Social Isolation that over Time, you not only got used to, but found was quite Zen and less complicated.  It slowed Life way down to a pace that was a Solitude that was enjoyable and a Routine that was comfortable to settle into as you Aged.  I think it prepared me better for growing Older and Losing People.

I can stay Connected mostly via Social Media and Blogging now, or attending Regular Events I still enjoy for short periods of Time, which is Fine and Enough.   And I'm beginning to think a lot of the Young Folks have Disconnected for a lot of the same reasons?   As the World became too fast paced, too complicated, too harsh in so many unlovely ways they just don't want to immerse in daily?   I know The G-Kid Force tell me they really don't want to deal with a lot of Society at large, becoz they don't Like what they see of it.  A sad commentary of the condition of Society and the trajectory of it, but I can't say that I disagree or blame them for Passing on a lot of it and Opting Out in order to Maintain their Peace and their Calm.   So many out there seem to have no Peace and certainly lost their Calm along with Kindness a long, long time ago.

 

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Keep your Peace and Maintain your Calm, try to always react with Kindness... Dawn... The Bohemian

More HUMANA Drama

 Our Trip to "Sweet Salvage" went well, we were the first ones there but didn't stand in the line that formed coz The Man can't stand long and it was also Cold outside.  So we sat in the Truck and ate a McDonalds Breakfast I'd bought until the Doors opened at 10:00 a.m..  Some first time Customers who'd been near the front of the line knew we'd been there before anyone, so let us get in front of them to go in once I got The Man's Walker out of the back of the Truck Bed.  I guess Opening Day had been absolutely Bananas so I'm glad I didn't go.  I've provided a Link to TRES MELINDA'S RUSTIC PENDANTS for you to peruse more of the Fabulous Creations of that Talented Designer's Jewelry that is offered at the Event too.  We always want to be in Support of our Talented Artisans.  I'd Love to Own one of her Pieces when budget permits.  She's such a Sweet and Beautiful Lady.

It was busy but not Bananas on Day Two and The Man could handle that tho' he couldn't find anything he wanted.  I bought some inexpensive Architectural Salvage Ornate Bronze Hinges, Ornate Door Plates and Antique Doorknobs from our Friend Kim, the Owner of the Venue, and our Friend Big Kenny... the prices were so low I couldn't resist.  The Knobs $3, the Doorplates $6, and the Hinges $12.  I also got some Agricultural/Military Numbered large Safety Pins, about Two Dozen coz Kenny had them in good sized Lots for $12.

With the Hinges I got Pairs of the ones he had Pairs of, some are way larger sized than others.   I got Four Doorknobs, some are rather Plain Porcelain coated or Brass, but some are Ornate Brass, and for Three Bucks each, I got a Selection of what Kim had.  Big Kenny had so much Architectural Salvage I may buy more from him later on or work some Trades with him for all of it.   The Man isn't all that interested in getting any present for his Birthday, he just wasn't passionate about it since Brittany isn't there anymore with her Hats.  We heard she's gotten Married and is having a Baby since we last saw her, a Boy, so we're Happy for her.

My Vendor Friends Cindy and Jeff got more Anna Lee in to their Seasonal Booths.  They keep a Year Round Christmas Booth, but did have some Anna Lee for other Holidays like Easter and St. Patrick's Day.   All sizes from the tiniest to the largest made.  Sales have started pretty Strong for this New Pay Period which is on it's first of Two Weeks.  And I got Paid Friday and it was a nice Check for a change.  Selling so much of that Parisian Art really helped, I need more high end Customers who appreciate and know the Good Stuff.  I have a lot of Quality items I could bring in if the Mall attracted the right Demographic who'd Buy it.  I don't mind the Bargain Shoppers who are Impulse Buyers, but it is supposed to be an Antique Mall, not a Bargain Basement Mall or competing with Thrift Chazza Stores who get their items Donated and are a Charity.

My Showroom was messy, but it seems like a lot of Shoppers had been in it, so I just tidied it up before the Weekend.  And I'd already Sold over 50 items in just Six Days.  Most were Smalls, but some weren't.  It was pretty busy when I went in there even tho' it was quite early.  I think Tomorrow we may go to "Highland Yard Vintage" coz this time I checked the Times it will be Open.  I don't know that The Man will find anything for his Birthday, it tends to most Sell Product that appeals to Female Shoppers, you don't see a lot of Guys there or at "Sweet Salvage".  The Man commented on that, he was only One of Four Husbands present in the wait for "Sweet Salvage" to Open their Doors, the rest were Women, mostly Middle Aged or Seniors.  There were a lot of Fancy Affluent Ladies there this day, in really Cute Fashionable Ensembles.  I want to Be them when I grow up, Rich and still Cute at my Age with a Killer Wardrobe and Shapely Body still, heavily laden with Diamonds and shit like that... so that Money and Care of myself is clearly no Object.  *LOL and Winks*

I'm always paying Attention to what Customers are Buying when I go to any Event or other Antique Mall, as well as at ours.  I notice the vast majority are gravitating towards the Mass Produced items now.  And that's just what's popular right now in certain Genres, right now the Natural Organic Look seems to be preferred in Neutral Tones.  Mostly Import items which can be had reasonably priced and aren't made by Local Artisans or even in America.   Some of it is attractive, I Like the Aesthetic of it, but I do miss seeing more Unique Product and the better Quality of good Vintage Inventory.  Especially since that's what I prefer to be Selling of what I Own.  I don't Own a lot of Mass Produced items to Decorate our Home with.  Even Utilitarian Items I prefer to be Vintage. 

I bought the above 1920's Art Deco/Art Nouveau Bronze and Onyx Ashtray for less than Ten Bucks, they can fetch around $100-$900, depending on the Figure represented.  I have a small Collection of them but never gotten one this inexpensively, I couldn't Believe my Good Fortune!   I couldn't find this exact Figure, but other Figures of Women with the face being a White Material {not sure what it is made of}, were $800-$900.   Most were made in Europe.

I've been on a Vintage Marbles kick.  I know, I know, I'm clearly moving thru my 2nd Childhood I guess, but it's bringing me Joy, so, whatever.  *LOL*     My Talented Designer Friend Cyndie took this Pix of me, I was wearing Two of her Creations I'd Bought at some of the other Events last Year, so she wanted a Pix of me and took one with her Camera too.  I'm rarely in front of the Lens, so was Thankful she took one of me there.  She also graciously did a quick Repair on Two Necklaces that I'd broken when they got snagged.  Easy Fixes but my Arthritis is bad and my Eyesight not so great to tackle doing it myself.  One of the Necklaces I'd bought from her, the other I couldn't recall where I'd got it.  They are longer ones and sometimes snag on things if you're not Careful.  Now they're Fixed I can wear them again.

I took about Forty Pixs while there, it was challenging coz Shoppers often were getting in the way and I don't want to get anyone random in Frame since I'm Sharing Imagery on Social Media.  I also don't want to interrupt someone Shopping either and most aren't paying attention to see someone is lining up a Photo to take.  So, you have to be Mindful, as the Photographer, not to take the Pix if anyone is in the way.  So, that's why I didn't take all that many, it was pretty busy and I'd of had to spend a lot of time waiting for folks not to be in the way of something I wanted to Photograph.   And, some folks will linger intentionally if they see you're trying to take a Pix, I don't know Why some people do that, but some obviously do.  Sometimes if it's obvious they're being that way, I pretend to take the Pix anyway.  *LOL and Winks*

  

So, I went on the Warpath with my Healthcare Provider AGAIN.  Why?  Becoz more HUMANA Drama!!!   I get a call from Express Scripts Admin folks Yesterday, who provide all of my Meds thru TriCare For Life that is our Veteran's Earned Benefit for Medical/Rx, saying they cannot provide my Meds anymore due to a problem with me having Part D, which I'm ineligible for, due to having TriCare, and I gotta sort that out first!!!  WTF?!   The Woman at Express Scripts was perhaps the most helpful tho' in explaining what is fucked up and what I needed to say and do to get it put right.  I explained I've been fighting with Social Security, Medicare, and HUMANA about this Issue since January 1st when United Healthcare dumped all Veteran Retirees/Medicare Recipients in Maricopa County... to no avail.

  

TRES MELINDA'S RUSTIC PENDANTS

Everyone kept blaming the other Agencies and saying they weren't the ones fucking up.  I've been penalized Monthly and would FOR LIFE due to the fuck up someone had made, had sent in Four Sets of complex Paperwork to verify I've always had Rx Coverage thru TriCare, am ineligible for Medicare Part D due to already being on a Federal Program, and made numerous Phone Calls to everyone from every Agency involved, in vain, coz clearly now it's still fucked up and now I got Express Scripts too that I'm having to fight over this!!!  Social Security said it wasn't their fault, Medicare said it wasn't their fault, TriCare said it wasn't their fault, and HUMANA had said it wasn't their fault... but, clearly somebody fucked up somewhere coz we got this Problem and I demand a Solution to it!!!  Coz now I'm being denied all my Medications!!!  That could be Life Threatening!!!

  

TRES MELINDA'S RUSTIC PENDANTS

The Express Scripts Woman told me it looks to her like HUMANA was the culprit and had put me on one of their Programs Plans that a Veterans Family shouldn't be on coz it has Part D, which, I'm ineligible for, or it risks me losing my TriCare Federal Earned Benefits, you can't have both.  I know this, everyone had been informed of this when I Signed Up!!!  So, I calls HUMANA and gets a Guy who agrees with that assessment, said, yep, you somehow got accidentally put on a Plan you shouldn't even be on, and we have until March 31st, by Law, past the Open Enrollment Date of December 7th of last Year, to correct said Mistake coz it's a valid "Exception" to switch you to what Plan you SHOULD be on and should have been Offered in the first place! 

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 So, he and a Lady from their Enrollment switched me over and effective March 1st this should now all be remedied!?  They will send hard copy Letters to both myself and Express Scripts verifying it and I'll then send copies to whoever else needs them to quit Penalizing me.  *Whew*  Fucking A!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   And you know what really irks me most?  That each Person at every Agency I talked to was astounded that I knew more about the Laws they're Governed by than their own People do!!!  And that is outrageous to me, I shouldn't be having to tell any of these people how to do their Jobs, what Laws govern the Work they're doing, what's in Violation and a Federal Offense, what they're not doing Right, etcetera, or how to Fix it!!!!! 

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 Now, I'm a "Fixer", it's what I did in both of my Corporate Lives.  But, I've never Worked for Social Security, TriCare, Express Scripts, Medicare, United Healthcare or HUMANA... yet it's been a recurring thing for ME to School them on how to properly do what they're doing for me and being Responsible for Fixing what they did Wrong!!!   I'd thought all along that I somehow had Part D and had questioned that from The Jump, coz it's actually not Legal for me to have both and I know that.  I didn't fraudulently sign myself up for a Plan or Benefit I shouldn't have and they SHOULD know better than to!  I'm not a Plan Administrator but I kept Questioning, am I even on the Right Plan for a Veteran's Spouse?  I was initially told Yes, I was... 'til now... and they realized, ooops, So Sorry, you ARE on the Wrong Plan WE Enrolled you in!!!

They advise Clients when you Enroll in any Medicare Advantage Plan, which is supposed to be the Best one for you, your circumstances, Health, etcetera.  The Client shouldn't have to know the Federal Laws by Heart in case their Provider doesn't know them, Right?  And just Hope you get someone Working for them that does know what they're doing and what the Laws are, requirements are, eligibility is, so on and so forth, coz IT'S THEIR JOB TO.  I must have spent Two Hours getting that straightened out and raising my Blood Pressure in the process.  Usually I stay steely Calm, and did with the Living People, I only lose by shit with the Bots you have to speak to first all of the time now, becoz the only way you get transferred to a Human and actually may get Help is to ditch their Bots first and that takes an Angry Voice and Profanity every time!  *Eye Roll*

Yes, the HUMANA Bot was persistent until Dark Dawn took the Phone from Dawn Of The Light, and then transferred me to their Humans pronto!  *Bwahahahahaha*  Then I went back to Calm Dawn Of the Light to talk to said Humans about my Problem.  One that I was insisting must have a Solution now coz I was out of Patience completely dicking around with this since January 1st.   And now knowing I only had 'til March 31st Deadline to get it resolved, amplified the Urgency, Thankfully I had that little tidbit of Secret Information most Medicare Recipients don't know about, divulged to me.  And now I'm Sharing with you all.  Interesting how all of this Secretive Information about Policy and Deadlines is handily withheld from the Public who relies on these Programs.  It's the same with all Federal Programs, they don't Volunteer this important information, you have to find out by Accident or sheer Luck... it's kept so Secretive!

I always try to get at least one "Friend On The Inside" who will tell me as many of the Secrets as they're willing to divulge, and store it in my Mental Databanks for Future Reference.   So, anyway, if your Plan isn't working out that you Enrolled in before the December 7th Deadline, you actually have 'til March 31st, if you have an "Exception" that Qualified, to change it and get another Plan Assigned to you.  Who knew?  Mine was a legitimate "Exception" coz it was the Provider who fucked up and assigned me the Wrong Plan I was Ineligible for and thus was considered Fraudulent coz of having Two Federal Prescription Plans for the Client.  Last thing I needed was Federal Fraud accusations due to some Plan Administrator fucking up coz they didn't do their Job right!!!  I had told you that my concern was IF Part D WAS paying for anything, they'd realize eventually they shouldn't have and ask for the Money back.

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I'm wondering now if what The Son is Dealing with is an Ineligibility Status that got overlooked, corrected, and now they're penalizing him for becoz someone Qualified him as Eligible for something he should never have gotten a Subsidy for?   And now they turned over to the IRS to Collect from him?   That's what I highly suspect happened, another Administrative Federal Fuckup happened.   Coz this Administration has Hired so many Unqualified folks and Nepo Hires, Fired so many Qualified Experienced folks, that the whole System is near collapse now for incompetence, reckless and irresponsible handling of all of it.  Something can only hold up so long with gross negligence or mismanagement before it implodes and collapses in on itself, then it's a House of Cards falling in rapid succession.

At least the Supreme Court got it Right this time with overturning the illegality of the Tariffs.  Spray Tan Donnie is having his usual tantrum and making grossly irresponsible reckless serious accusations from the Bully Pulpit, that could get people hurt, as expected when fealty to him by those he stacked the Court with go against him, like Two Justices did, to uphold the Rule of Law.  The Three he has deep in his Pocket dissented, but we know the accusations against them being crooked is solid and evidenced, they should have been removed from the Bench over it and never allowed to practice Law again IMO.  They're on The Take and it's been proven with Thomas, Kavanaugh and Alito taking Gifts and Bribes for Special Rulings in Favor of Political Donors, this President and Conflict of Interest Cases they should be recused from Ruling on.  They're dirty Judges and it's come to Light what they've accepted for Quid Pro Quo.

Now, how to refund who they've ripped off is a whole other Nightmare Legally of complex issues, and, I don't think it will happen.   Businesses and the American People are due repayment of what was illegally taken from them with the implementation of these Illegal Tariffs they were extorted and had to Pay for.  It's a LOT of Money, about $160 BILLION conservatively has Illegally, or been Legally Challenged, and Collected to Date.  It's been contested since it began... and he's trying to now levy a flat 10% on the World in Tariffs in spite of the Ruling, coz the Law means nothing to this Corrupt Career Criminal President, who considers himself Above the Law.  I personally am rooting for him to Go Down as the Pedophile that he is, if America is ever gonna actually make him Accountable for a pick of his many Serious Crimes he's committed and put him behind Bars.   Pedos don't do particularly Well in Prison, even the most hardened Criminals don't Rape and otherwise sanction those who Molest/Victimize/Traffick Children.

 Even South Korea... SOUTH KOREA... imprisoned their Ex-President for his Crimes so Justice was Served.  Great Britain is Prosecuting one of the Royal Family for his Crimes, first time in about 400 Years, but, as it should be.   Yet here's America, displaying to the Whole World, openly, that the Rule of Law now means nothing here apparently and no Crime is Serious enough to ensure Justice is Served to protect the American People.   How fucking Rich, Embarrassing and Shameful is that?  Yet, we're still presuming to tell other Countries how to Act towards their People, like Iran for example.   Yes, their Regime is atrociously awful, and should be overturned and replaced,  but is no less Corrupt than our own right now, no less against Human Rights than this Regime is displaying openly right now. 

  And replaced with What?  And that's the existential Question, isn't it, replaced with What that would Serve and Protect the People of both Countries better?  We're ALL deserving of it, all of Humanity is.  And that means ALL of us, not just some select few deemed worthy by Bad Religion, Bad Policy, Bad Leadership, and Biased and Hateful Humans who try to elevate themselves above other Human Beings as somehow being more worthy over superficial flawed Beliefs and Personal Prejudices.   My Hope being that one day Society as a Collective won't be so Superficial and Hateful and will become more Enlightened, Evolved and filled with Love towards all Sentient Beings instead.  Just think and Imagine what that World would Look and Be like for our Future Generations to Inherit instead!!!

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Still trying to be a Drama Free Mama in the Arizona Desert... in a Dramatic filled World we now live in... Dawn... The Bohemian