Another Battle With Insurance... And Another Health Issue

{My Lobster Dinner @ "Crab 99"}

 Okay, so, as if having Medical Issues that need immediate attention isn't stressful enuf, and concerns about possibly having Diseased Ovaries now, I had to have another Battle with HUMANA, my Medicare Advantage Provider, AGAIN!!!  I'd contacted ABRAZO and they are getting me right in to see my New Primary Physician, another Female they assigned to me now that my Primary with them got transferred to another Office further away.  They just told me to remember to notify HUMANA about the change in Primary Physicians to update their Records.  Seems like that should be no problem, Right?  Wrong!!!

{My Freebie Pound of Crawfish I'd Won last visit, had a whole Bag of Huge ones like this in it, with Corn Coblettes and New Potatoes!)

I call HUMANA and they tell me, Oh, that Doc isn't In Network... Okay, says I, which ABRAZO Doc is In Network then?  None they claim, which was very Weird, coz ABRAZO is One of Three Major Medical Providers in Maricopa County, the other Two being DIGNITY HEALTH and BANNER.  What about them asks I, Nope they claim, not In Network!  Really, says I, that sounds very Suspect.  Especially when they tell me who is In-Network and it just HAPPENS to be a wholly owned Subsidiary of... HUMANA!!!  Humnnn, that's sound potentially fraudulently Illegal to Scam the Feds and a Conflict of Interest, you'd be filing Claims to Pay YOURSELF... and I know that recently both AETNA and CIGNA got Federally Investigated for Fraudulent Activities very similar to this.  I hang up, coz I was talking to a HUMANA Peon.

{My Freebie Bag of Crawfish & Fixins in an Herbed Garlic Butter Sauce}

Then I call my Doc's Office over at ABRAZO... news to them that they're Out of Network with HUMANA, so they said they'd look into that coz it sounds Weird, especially when I told them I was also told their Two larger other Competitors were allegedly Out Of Network too!   Very Suspect they say.  Oh, don't worry, I'm going higher up the Food Chain right after this Call says I, and talk to someone with Authority over at HUMANA.  I get a Supervisor, and I tell her that CIGNA and AETNA are under Federal Investigation for similar Practices just revealed and uncovered and fraudulent, and I'm thinking about turning this all in to the Feds to look into, if I don't get this "Misunderstanding" put Right.  Coz for all I know this Unknown to me wholly owned Subsidiary they're trying to force me to use, are they even a Doctor, or are they sending me to a Veterinarian or some Hack behind an Ice-Cream Shop or something?  *Winks*

Needless to say, said Supervisor said to give her a "Minute" and within that 60 Seconds she pushed it all thru for me, no more problems, I get to use my Newly Assigned Doc over at ABRAZO and I called my Doc's Office to tell them that too.  That didn't take long they said, and Laughed, I've been going to them for Years, so let us just say they know I'm no pushover when it comes to Dealing with Insurance BS, of which, they agree, is out of Control now.  I know it's all since this Administration coz I never had these problems with previous Administrations... but when the Government is Corrupt and doing Illegal shit at the very Top of the Food Chain, it's no Surprise when every other Entity that is large and in charge will figure they can do the same thing and get away with it as well!

I didn't Need that extra Stress and aggravation, but, I also didn't wanna be passed off to some sketchy Doc at a wholly owned Subsidiary of the very Insurance Company that Claims will be Filed with, sketchy as fuck!!!   Paying themselves so to speak, how very convenient and what a Grift that is of Taxpayer Funds up for grabs now to whatever Criminal Enterprise wants to get Richer Quicker.  And what level of Care are you then actually getting when there's such a Conflict of Interest?   Anyway, I got it resolved to my satisfaction for me, but I just wonder how many Seniors are gonna be involuntarily forced to use wholly owned Subsidiaries of Insurance that are participating in this fraudulent Scheme to pay themselves out of Federal Medicare Funds?

  Just something to be thinking about... you know, since, allegedly this Administration is supposed to be pretending they're all about Waste, Fraud and Abuse while being the biggest perpetrators of Waste, Fraud and Abuse... along with their Big Donors and Special Interest Groups and Corporations getting Rich off Questionable Practices.  Anyway, The Man went to his Kidney Specialist and was supposed to see a Dr. Ting, who, by the Surname I assumed would be Asian.  Well, in walks a Middle Eastern looking Doctor and I think to myself, this Guy doesn't look like he'd be a Dr. Ting, he looks Arabic or Moroccan to me.  *Smiles* As we were leaving he handed me his Business Card, sure enuf, he had a Middle Eastern first and last Name.  *LOL*  I liked him, couldn't recall meeting a Dr. Ting anyway, tho' we may have too, I dunno, they Share an Office.

The Man's Kidneys while Hospitalized were not doing well, which is why they assigned him to a Kidney Specialist in the first place.  Dr. Abdelaziz, looked familiar to me and I guess he did see The Man during one Hospital Stay when his Kidney function wasn't good.  But, he marveled coz he said the Kidneys have regained regular function and asked what we'd been doing to cause such a turnaround on our own?  I told him I've been loading The Man up with Cranberry Drinks daily, lots of Water, Blueberries, Grapes, Bell Peppers, Pineapple, Cabbage, Cauliflower and Seafood... all of which Kidney Friendly Foods, plus I always Cook with high quality Extra Virgin Olive Oil.  He said, well, what you're doing is Working, so Keep doing it... I won't have to see him now for a Year unless things go Bad between now and then!  Whoop Whoop, Great News!

He had his Eval with Victor early this Morning, it went very well, he Aced his Eval and did more than twice as much as he had last Eval, which impressed Victor a lot.  He told me whatever I'm doing with The Man, to keep doing it too.  Then his VA Nurse, Remi, came, his Numbers were all good so she was really pleased as well.   She always asks about the rest of the Family and saw my Arm Bandages from my Urgent Care Visit so asked what was going on... I told her, along with the Insurance Drama which I had to sort out.  She's such a compassionate and Caring Home Nurse, we just Adore her.  She always makes The Man laugh a lot while she's here... he joked its like he's got Two Wives now.  Coz she is in Agreement with me 100% of the time so we Double Team him.  *Winks* She thinks that's hilarious.   And said he behaves a lot like her Dear Husband. *Ha ha ha*

So, as a Reward for doing so well Today I took him to "Crab 99" again coz we had that 1 Lbs. of Crawfish we'd Won on their Roulette Wheel last time.  OMG it was FANTASTIC, and so many Crawfish, in a Garlic Butter Sauce.  You can choose your Sauce and it also comes with Corn On The Coblettes and New Potatoes in the Boil Bag and Sauce.  The Man was licking his Plastic Gloves the Sauce was so damned good and fragrant!  *Smiles*  The Crawfish were whole and I wasn't sure how best to eat them that way, so one of the Staff there is a Beautiful Black Amerasian Young Woman, about our Granddaughter's Age, she said Crawfish Eating is her Specialty and she Tutored us on how to do it.  I got so good at it by the time we finished that she said I was doing it like I've always done it... she was just an exceptional Teacher tho'.  And they were some of the biggest Crawfish I'd ever seen, Monstrous sized!!!  You get quite a Workout eating them served Whole!  *LOL*

We also Ordered the Clam Chowder, for The Man, and since half our Meal was Free and I'd Won it and would Share it with The Man, I also ordered their Grilled Lobster Meal.  The Presentation was Lovely and different than I'd ever had Lobster presented, it also had Baked New Potatoes and Steamed Broccoli... it was some of the best Lobster I've ever had and the Price was half what "Red Lobster" was wanting to charge for Lobster!  I'd heard on TV that the price of Lobster was way up coz the price of Gas for Lobster Fishermen was up so high and the populations of Lobster are lower inland now than ever before, so they can't economically fish for it further out now in hopes of finding more of a population to Harvest.  Anyway, my Food Porn Images show you our Meal for this Post.  We enjoyed it so much and I Won another Plush Crab on the Roulette Wheel, so, now I have Twins of them.  *Smiles*

I've since learned a Hack to get into the Meat of the Crawfish Claw. I think next time we'll try some of the Fried Catfish and Fried Clams. We're trying out most of what's offered on the Menu, a lot of folks were ordering the Crab Legs.  I know that's a lot of a Workout to get to the Meat, mebbe moreso than the Crawfish.  *LOL*  The Crawfish were worth the effort coz it's like eating Mini Sweet Lobster.  The Man never tried Crawfish before he met me, now he realizes he really likes them.  He'd never eaten Gator either, now he realizes he really likes that too.  They don't serve Gator there tho'.  But they do have Cajun flavored Seafood Dishes as one of the many Flavor Options you can choose from.  Anyway, so it rounded out the Day nicely and The Man clearly enjoyed himself and was upbeat the entire Day.  He did really well.

The Niece has been doing okay since her Mom Died, she's had Friends be there for her in Texas, so I understand why she wouldn't come back to Arizona now, she's got a great Inner Circle there where her Husband is from.  I know her Mom liked it there too, and if you have a Wonderful Community it means the World.  The Niece also has lost a tonnage of Weight, I don't know how she's been doing it but she looks Fabulous now and has reached her Goal Weight and got her Bikini Body back.  How she looked before she had all her Children and then struggled with Weight for the last few Years.  It was so good to see her looking so Happy, so Refreshed and so Svelte and a Hawt Mama Jamma!  *Smiles*  I'd been Worried about her coz the Caregiving of her Mom for this past Year while she was Dying was so rough, so demanding, and she juggled it with Parenting Three Kids and while her Husband is mostly away on Business, and none of her Four Older Siblings helped.

But her Friends showed up for her and God Bless them all for coming thru and having her Back thru this rough Year of Extreme Caregiving and allowing her Mom to Die at Home by providing Home Hospice herself mostly, with just a One Day a Week visit from a Home Nurse that helped administer her Mom's Treatments and give her brief Respites and Training on how to Care for her Dear Mom.   I'm so Proud of her.  I'm glad all her Friends got together to take her out to The Beach for a Fun Time and to show off her New Svelte Bikini Body she's worked so hard to attain.   I mean, this Girl was well over 230 lbs. in the "Before", so it's quite an accomplishment to get back down to the Slender Frame she always had before, it's not easy.  Before having Kids she was Tiny... her Older Sister stayed Tiny after even Four Kids... sometimes it's the Luck of Genetics distributed unevenly... some Family get the preferred Genes and some don't.  *Le Sigh*

Her Older Sister {on the Left}, lives in Florida and has a very demanding Career.  She wasn't always there for their Mom and that did cause some Family division, since, she often came to visit us and Friends here in Arizona, but didn't stop by Texas to visit her Mom, even during the Terminal Illness Battle.  I really don't know if she was able to get there for the Funeral, I do know she did get to visit her Mom at least once during the Home Hospice and during Treatments.  Which I was relieved to see coz their Mom wanted all Five of her Kids to be there at some points before she Passed, she knew she was Losing this Battle.  But, The Three Sisters are Estranged tho', and so are the Two Brothers, so, the Family Dynamic is complicated, very tense and divisive, always has been.  I'd often Mediate even when they were all Growing Up.

   So, since their Mom was Living with the Younger Daughter, I'm sure that could have been complicated and tense.   The Older one, who is the Middle Daughter, does have a Support System in Florida who was there for her, I'm glad about that.  I don't know the Oldest Daughter, never met her.  Out of the Two Sons, I only have contact with the Younger one now, who is doing well, the Older one is not and hasn't been Clean in Years, so everyone HAD to cut him off.   He always reached out to me coz they all consider me their Aunt Dawn and I Love them all, but he was just making Contact with everyone to ask for Money, or couldn't be Trusted to be around your Home or your Family, so, I don't want Contact until and unless he gets Clean and for a sustained period of Time. 

 It's Sad, and I know his Dear Mom wanted it so bad for him, but, it never happened in her Lifetime unfortunately.  The Younger Brother did turn his Life around, I'm so Proud of him.  But, he was no longer close to any Family, including his Mom.  He has more Contact with me and my Family, than them.  I want the very Best for all those Kids as much as I do for all my own.  Watching them all Grow Up was a Privilege & Joy, and that our Families remained Close all these Years.  Above is the Younger Son I do have Contact with still.  He has a Lovely Girlfriend now and has been Sober for Years, I'm Proud of him.

Above my Cousin and his Wife in North Wales, he has an Older Brother but nobody has contact and I don't know how many of my Welsh Cousins are still among the Living?  I have a few Cousins left here in America on the Rez, but there's not many of our Generation left anymore.   I know my Dad ended up being the last of his Generation on his side of the Family and only my Mom's Older Brother outlived her, so she was second to the last of her Generation on her side of the Family.  So, I guess I got pretty good Odds of having mebbe a few more Miles left in me?  *Winks*  Today I go in to see my New Primary Doc for that Ovary Thing follow-up.  If they're Diseased I just want them removed.  I Need to also Schedule a 6 Month Diabetic follow-up too but that could wait, the Diabetes is stabilized right now and I'm more concerned about what's on my Ovary and if it's something to worry about, remove, not be concerned about?   I don't neglect things when we know something looks Suspect or a Mystery, I want it taken care of early, better results that way.  And Hopefully no more putting on the War Paint to get the damned Insurance to cover Care!?!

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Always ready to go to battle tho' if they start a War with me, coz I Surrender to no-one *Winks*... Dawn... The Bohemian

My Own Trip To Urgent Care Now

 So, Today's exceptional International Food Porn is coming to you compliments of my Friend Pamela, whose Touring Italy right now.  Her DH is Italian American, and they Travel extensively and I think both still have extended Family in other Countries.  Pamela's Chinese Maternal Gramma was a Bull Fighter in Mexico!!!  So her Family History and Stories are as Interesting as ours.  *Smiles*  We still can't Find The Son's misplaced Wallet, so now he'll have to get his Cards re-issued for ID and the Bank, he had some Money in it, Luckily not much.  We're convinced it's somewhere here tho' coz he only went one place that day and pretty sure he didn't leave it there or in Q's Truck... he made his Purchase of Hotdogs at the Grocery Store and Q even recalls he put it back in his Pant's Pocket as they left, they only did a Hotdog Run for the BBQ and The Son bought the Beef so his Nephew could have some too. 

Now

Then

 We literally had everyone looking for that missing Wallet!!!  Lately he's been forgetful and distracted too much, so it may just be somewhere odd and we'd never think to look?  Even tho' due to his Autism he's a very Routine Oriented Creature of stringent Habit, it's not in those usual places he always puts it.  I'll be relieved when it's Found, coz he's Fixating on it, all of us have looked tho', to no avail.  I get Fixated when I can't Find something tho', it consumes me, so I understand his Fixation on the Lost Wallet, it's important and he's upset with himself mostly, for Losing it.  I don't know where else to look and I'm hoping he didn't drop it in the Trash accidentally, coz... then it will never be Found.  But, I felt confident we'd Find it... and here... coz I'd been petitioning St. Anthony, Patron Saint of Lost Objects, to Recover it for us.  The Son was rolling his Eyes about that but I said, just wait and see, that Saint never lets me down!   Above is a Now and Then Pix of The Daughter with her Lifelong BFF Amber... at 15 and at almost 50.

He's been doing so much Work in the Yard it could have dropped anywhere on the Acreage too, but I told him to check all Pants Pockets, mebbe he left it in another Pair?   But then... by around Noon, after I told him, just rifle thru some more Pockets on different Pants, he found it, in the Pocket of a Pair of Pants he'd worn earlier and forgot he had changed out of before Company came!!  Thank You St. Anthony for the Revelation of Extra Pant Pockets!  *Whew*  So, relief about that, he's Calmer and more Centered now he's not stressing about that.  I went and Mailed Bills and went to SAVERS for 50% Off Day.  The Granddaughter doesn't work on Mondays, Sale Day, so usually I don't go.  But I wanted some Summertime Colorful Capris to wear and found some, Three Pair in solid Summery Colors of Red, Lilac, and a Burnt Orange.  A couple of T-Shirts too with nice Graphics.

There were also some Industrial Grade Commercial Restaurant thick Steel Pans in Two different Depths, so I got one of each and only Paid Three Bucks for both.  Those are great for BBQ's and indestructible.  Looked like a Restaurant had Donated a bunch of Industrial strength Commercial Kitchenware.  People were snapping them up, the price was already low and half off made them damned near a Giveaway for the quality.   Anything Restaurant Commercial Grade I've ever Bought I've never regretted, lasts forever.  

And when you have a big Family and/or Entertain a lot they're indispensable.  It was super Crowded, but always is on 50% Off Day, they Turn a LOT of Product on that day.  The Daughter had made everyone Breakfast this Morning, we'd missed her Cooking, she's a good Cook.  The Son really tries, but like me, it's not his Strength.  The Young Prince is a good Cook but he doesn't like to Cook or be in charge of a Meal, he'd rather be a Sous Chef for someone else and just do what they say they need for him to do to help.

Irrigation is coming this Afternoon, everything is ready to receive it coz the Kiddos got it all done.  With all Hands on Deck, after my Talk with each one, things are going smoother now in mutual cooperation to distribute responsibilities more equitably.  *Winks*  Today tho' The Young Prince is cooking the Steaks I bought on Sale.  He likes cooking Steak and does a good job, he knows how everyone likes them cooked.  Irrigation went well... so did the Steak Dinner... but then... I've been struggling with some Kidney Pain and ended up taking myself to Urgent Care.  For once it wasn't The Man and the Doc and Nurses there teased me about that.  *Smiles*  They know us by our first Names now.  *LOL*

  Turns out I only had a bad UTI but the MRI they took showed something on one of my Ovaries {never had them removed with the Hysterectomy} and so they want me to follow up with my Doc about what that might be?  And I have some Diverticulitis, which I had to look that shit up when I got Home to know what it is.  *Smiles*  Anyway, all Three things were likely causing my intense Pain and other Symptoms.  And I'm like, Gee, Doc, you got any BAD News?  *LMAO and so did he, that Doc and his Staff thing we're a riot!  LOL*  A Medically tragic riot, but a riot nonetheless.  *Ha ha ha*  I Joked that both of us Used To Be Good Looking and very Fit and well Preserved all the way thru to later Middle Age... then everything went to shit apparently in Old Age.  As it does.  *Winks*  Seriously, The Man still Played competitive Sports in the Military well into his 50's and looked so Handsome!  I wasn't too bad myself until well after my 50's... AND THEN...  *Le Sigh and Bwahaha*  I'm not shittin' you, Above and Below are The Man and I after Age 50, we weren't too badly Preserved or deteriorated back then!  I have Visual Evidence and Proof we hadn't gone to shit yet!!!  *LOL*  

We didn't look too bad for a couple of Grandparents over half a Century Old, YET, who were even still Raising some Young Grandkids and didn't yet even have our Youngest, The Son, completely Raised... and then the whole slippery slope began happening at an accelerated pace, WTF?!  *Le Sigh and Oh Well*  So, anyway... now we're running Old Age Damage Control behind ourselves.  So, they gave me IV's of some Non-Narcotic Pain Meds, since I'd drove myself there and refused anything stronger, some strong Antibiotics via IV, and Saline to further hydrate me.  I'd drank a lot of Water and Cranberry Juice at Home coz I thought I either had a Kidney Infection or Kidney Stones, never had the latter, and it turned out not to be that, but there's a first time for everything. 

  The Ovary 'thing' could be a Cyst, they're Painful and I've had them before on my Ovaries, more often when I was Younger... less so after Menopause, so I will get it checked out since I got the Hysterectomy Years ago due to some Pre-Cancerous suspicious 'stuff', and if the Ovaries now Need to come out, so be it, don't really Need them anymore.   Tho' I don't Want a Surgery right now, if I Need one, just do it already and get it over with.  The Family of coarse were all panicky, which, isn't unusual when I don't feel Well.  Ironically The Man finally sees his Kidney Specialist this Afternoon, Dr. Ting!  We've been waiting to see him a long time coz last Appointment got kicked back Two Months.  So, we don't know what's going on with The Man's Kidneys?

Other than all that, everything is Swell.  *Bwahahahaha*  I had gone to the one Urgent Care that's like a regular Level One Trauma Center's Satellite ER so they have literally everything there but most folks don't know about this Gem so it's never that busy.  You get seen right away and the Care is Excellent.  They all asked how The Man was after his Scorpion Sting and if I ever found and killed it, happy to hear I had and that he's recovering Well. 

 They said after I'd left and he was waiting for the Ambulance Ride, he began to have all the more serious symptoms of a Scorpion Sting like his Eyeballs moving rapidly, so that's why they wanted an Ambulance to transport him and had sent me to the Hospital ahead of it, coz they didn't wanna alarm me that he was rapidly showing more serious Signs and Symptoms that were alarming.  *Whew*  They had given him the Anti-Venom too and needed him monitored at the Hospital by his regular Specialists in case he had a Reaction to it.

So, I'm glad I murdered that lil Offending fucker!!!  He's squashed and Dead now, won't be stinging any more of my Family.  And he was as large as The Man had recounted, I'd figured The Man was exaggerating the size, he wasn't, it's the biggest one I've seen, they're usually half that size!!!  I do think it was just a larger Arizona Bark Scorpion tho' and they are the only High Danger with Medically Significant possibility of Death of the Ten Species of Scorpion in Arizona.  

They're all over the place in Arizona and impossible to eradicate, you can only Hope to eradicate their Food Source to have less of them around.  We've had a big Ant and Red Water Roach Problem this Year outside, and keeping them Killed off will help with not having as many Scorpions.  Anyway, so my Medical Adventure isn't over yet, now I've got to Schedule an Appointment with my Primary and tell them about the Ovarian shit and see what that's all about?  *Le Sigh*

Above are a couple of Pixs from North Wales of my Cousin, and his Dear Wife.   This is the side of the Family that my Brother's Oldest Son resembles so much that it's like he's this Cousins's Son!!!  Even to the Eyebrows!!!  *LOL*  Genetics are so fascinating like that, it always intrigued me to study Genetics.  Anyway, this Cousin in Wales is the only Maternal Relative now over there that I still have any contact with, we've stayed in touch over the Years and his Dad was very close to our Family and visited us annually until he became too Old to Travel Internationally anymore and get Insured for the Trip.  My Uncle did live to be 90 tho' and tho' you're not supposed to have Fav Relatives, he was my Fav Uncle and always treated me like the Daughter he never had, coz he only had Sons... and he'd so wanted a Daughter.

 

I took some Pixs at the Pool of some Unusual Cloud Formations, never seen any like it, looked really Weird.  The Son Joked that mebbe it was a camouflaged UFO spying on us?  *Winks*  Well, I had all my Clothes on just dangling my Feet in the Pool... so... Nothing to See here Alien Guys.  *LMAO*  Unless they come down with a Medical Team to Cure all our Ills, and Diplomats to solve all our Political and Social problems, just don't bother, Humans are cocking things up just fine all by ourselves down here, we don't Need any Help with that.  *Eye Roll*

I mean look at the Before and After of The People's House, looks like Tweakers moved into it!!!  The Neighborhood's gone to shit when this Psycho moved in with his Family and Friends!!!  I hear all the "Entertainers" are now backing out of the 250th and his 80th Birthday Celebration with the whole Cage Match on the WH Front Lawn Thing, coz it's so very unpopular nobody wants to really be associated with it.  Not even B-Class or Washed Out Celebs that he tends to attract, coz he's one himself.  I think since it's Pride Month too, perhaps a bunch of Queens ought to Score those Tickets and show up instead, that would be Fabulous and at least make this 3-Ring Circus News worthy and a Spectacle worth watching... I'd Tune In then!  And have his Head explode, or mebbe his Heart, on Live TV... and mebbe finish him off spectacularly?  After all, he wants his Image on some Money and ya gotta be Dead for that... so... just sayin'...  *Winks*

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Hanging in there here in the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

Behavior Tolerated Is Behavior Accepted

Happy June Dear Readers!!!

 The Man Surprised me by saying he wanted to go out a 2nd time today together and let's do some Canning, he said!  I wasn't sure he was ready for that and it was Hot and a bit Humid, so we took it easy, stayed in the Shade and did a very limited Environmental Cleanup which did at least glean us a significant amount of Aluminum!  He did really well, better than expected, and I could tell he enjoyed seeing he could do what we have done and enjoyed doing together before his Heart Attack.  Getting back to your Regular Scheduled Programming of Life can be a Process after a huge Health Crisis like he's been having.  I took him by "Sonic" so we had one of their $7 Big Deal Meals and it really was a lot of very nicely done food!  I didn't Photograph it coz didn't have my Camera or Phone on me... so I'll regale you with other Food Porn.  *Winks*  I consider June 1st as Officially the 1st Day of Summer.

But, it came with a very nice larger than expected Burger, as nice as the ones at "In-N-Out", a large portion of Chicken Tenders Nuggets which were way more than expected, Medium Tater Tots, and a Medium Drink, we got the Cherry Limeade.   For Seven Bucks it was a lot of food, tasty, too much, so we saved a lot of the Tater Tots & Nuggets to bring Home for the Family, coz that Burger was quite large and filling.  With it being so Cheap I fully expected a shitty lil Burger, so was shocked it was a large visually appetizing one.  It comes as a Cheeseburger but I had them hold my Cheese.  I like Cheese, just not on my Burgers.  The Man prefers Cheeseburgers and Today he was eating really well and enjoying being out to do stuff and eat out twice in one day.  Him initiating both outings was rare and unexpected, I enjoyed doing it with him again, I'd missed doing it with him.

The Son and Grandson commended him on all he did Today, he was really more like his Old Self, it still happens, even with the  progression of his illness, some of his Old Self remains still.  Then my Brother called, 2nd call in a single Day so at first I thought something was Wrong and my Heart skipped a beat.  But, as it turned out, after I'd Found and made contact with his Oldest Son, his Son reached out to my Brother via FB and gave him his Numbers and said he'd like to get a Call.  He actually left a Heartfelt PM for his Dad on FB and my Brother was running it by me, I could tell he was nervous, his Son was in his 20s the last contact they'd had, his Son is 40 now.  Which had ended on good terms but when his Son got badly injured in the Service and Medically deferred out of the Navy all contact ceased.  My Brother never heard from him again and thought he had Died.  Likewise, his Son thought my Brother had Died, coz, my Brother has been Terminally Ill a long time now.

I was thrilled to hear his Son had reached out after I'd made contact and Found his Son, becoz my Brother had tried to Find him and couldn't.  My Brother is always amazed at my sleuthing abilities to Find people.  *Winks*  If I'm determined, I can usually find you or about you... well, in my 1st Corporate Life skip tracing was necessary and at the DA's Office in my 2nd Corporate Life you learn how to track down folks too... you never lose the skillset.  *Winks*   I haven't Found his Youngest Son becoz I know when he got Adopted, his Name was Changed, so I'm not sure if anything still exists on his Birth Name or not?   His Oldest Son still kept his Birth Name and my Brother's Surname... even tho' I had heard he may have been put up for Adoption.  I didn't ask when I talked to him, it's not something he may have known much about the 'History' of, as he knew so little about our Family when we talked, eager to know more.

 I know when he was a Toddler I was asked by the Maternal Side of his Family if I'd Adopt and Raise him.  I was a Divorced Single Mom of Two at the time, and my Son and his Cousin are only 3 Months apart in Age.  So it would have been like having Toddler Twin Boys, plus The Daughter, who was only 6 and a Half.  It was before I met and Married The Man, so I had to decline.  I had a lot going on during that time of my Life, it was very complicated, a Messy Divorce with a Stalking Ex who was dangerous, a demanding Career, both of my Parents had Cancer at the time and were Battling it.  Both Won their Battle with it, Dad lost an Eye to it tho', and both lived much longer.  My Brother didn't have any contact with his Exes, both Divorces being Messy too, so he never knew his Sons had been either Adopted or put up for Adoption until many Years later.   Until they both were Grown and each made it a point to Find him when they were in their 20's.  He didn't get along with his Younger Son that well, but got along really well with this Older One. 

The News was covering the most absurd "Investigation" they're having now on whether Joe Biden was cognitively declined as President?  Who fucking CARES, he's NOT THE PRESIDENT now... shouldn't we be instead Investigating that the current President is obviously cognitively declined since he IS THE PRESIDENT right now making Decisions?!   Jesus Christ... I'm so sick of this nonsensical looking into the Past, which doesn't matter anymore, and not focusing on the Present, which does matter a whole helluva lot and all we really CARE about in the HERE AND NOW!!!  I no longer give a fuck about what any PAST Presidents did or didn't do, that should have been dealt with and resolved when they were the damned President.  So don't deflect, blame, distract with the Past Administrations when this one really Needs their full Attention for how badly it's going and what they Need to Own right fucking now!!!  In Real Time.  Before it's too late and seriously further compromises our Future and World Standing!

And mebbe we wouldn't even need to be talking about or Investigating Cognitive Decline in a Leader if we Elected people who weren't Geriatrics way past their Prime... mebbe that would be REAL fucking Helpful!!!   Or letting people have no Term limits in places like the Supreme Court or Congress, where some of them are so decrepit they're farting dust and still there, making important decisions with National and International consequences!   When Honestly, you wouldn't allow your 70-90 Year Old Grandparents, of that diminished capacity being obvious, make some of the most important decisions even for themselves anymore, or keep Working when they should be Retired and put out to Pasture, let alone for a whole Country!!!  In my Corporate Lives we didn't have anyone that Geriatric at the Top of the Food Chain, none.   And there's a Reason for that.

Talk to your average Geriatric and they often have trouble living in the Present rather than what was in the Past... most have Lost Touch with what IS coz they can't keep Pace with the Present and what Works now and differently, and that's not Wrong, it just IS.  You can't run America like it's 1956, or 1986, or even 2006... that's passe', it's now 2026.  Times Change... Geriatric Leadership is relying on the Past Ideas and what worked way back then... and doesn't Work anymore.  Most don't have a Fresh Idea in their Head that would be as relevant as what a Younger Leadership would be more In Touch with for Today.  Do most Geriatrics even have a Clue what Today's Young People want or expect for the Future?  Probably not, becoz we're not gonna be in that Future... we don't have that much Future left.   And the Future belongs to those that will Inherit it.

Tomorrow is Bulk Garbage Day Pickup so The Young Prince was helping his Uncle put everything to the Curb that we Need for Bulk Garbage to pick up for us.  They'd done Yardwork, cleaned up a lot of junk laying around, mostly that Mando had dragged here with The Daughter that they had Projects for.  If you can be resourceful with it that's all fine, and Mando was, he was like MacGyver utilizing objects to serve Purpose and Function.  But, none of the other Guys here does that kind of thing with random Objects to make Repairs and Build stuff, it's not their Jam.  So, most of that stuff now had to be discarded coz it just was a bunch of unused objects junking up a portion of the Property that would never be utilized for anything.  I do think The Daughter's attraction to being around him was he kept busy doing random Projects and she'd get involved, it's what she did in Mexico a lot, so it was familiar to her.  We gravitate to what's familiar and also enjoyable, whatever it is.

Anyway, she did come Home last Night and we had The Talk, she agreed with all I had to say, as has all the Kiddos so far and Princess T is the last one to Talk to and I KNOW she'll be in Agreement.  She's not one to be problematic of all the Kids, so I have no Beef with her Habits or how she interacts and Helps around here.  She has always been the Golden Child when it comes to living seamlessly in the Household and being sensitive to how we run our Household and want it to be.  She knows that for Old Folks, it's important to us not to have to give up entirely on our Vision for Retirement Years, we've adjusted considerably to accommodate Two other Younger Generations of Family, and adapted, but, this is still our Forever Home... we HOPE.  *LOL and Winks*

Of coarse, she also has the least Disabling Factors hindering her Behavior.  She has Anxiety and she likes to be left alone a lot, but, so does The Man, and I roll with that easily without conflict.  They are Two very conflict free Individuals and I like that about them, coz I don't like Drama and a Headache from anyone.   I don't have Anxiety Issues, but, I am a conflict free Person too, I rarely have conflicts, I try to avoid them becoz I know I'll never initiate one, but I will end one with a flourish.  And I'd rather not.  I'd rather get along and play well with others all of the time if that's possible, and usually it is, most people don't particularly want to enter into a conflict with me after they realize, it probably won't go well for them if they do.  I'm really Nice... until anyone gives me a Reason not to be.  And I will always give advance Warning about that so it can just be avoided entirely.  People I've had conflict with in the past usually do become Friends or even just Cordial with me, becoz I don't hold it against them.  I'd rather they choose not to repeat being confrontational.

And there's few people I truly Dislike, I Like all of my Family as well as Love them, I think they have Wonderful Spirits and Essence about them.  I truly Like all of my Friends and have never had a Falling Out with any of them.  The only exception is if some became MAGA influenced and then I just distanced myself and let them just Move On in that direction, which was one I made clear I wouldn't be going, ever.  One Fav Blogger said it best about MAGA and the dilemma it has often posed with folks you know and became shocked aligned with that way of Being.  Don't Mistake being a Nice Person with being a Good Person.  They're not always mutually inclusive.  That Sentence really spoke volumes to me, there is a difference between someone being NICE TO US, and inherently being a Good Person by their Values, Morals, Behavior, how they treat OTHER PEOPLE or Sentient Beings who aren't us.  

If someone has always been Nice and Wonderful to me, but could be Harmful, Cruel, intentionally Offensive, Racist, Homophobic, Inhumane, Xenophobic, Mean and Hateful to their Neighbor, or even horrible to an Animal, or anyone else for whatever reasons they try to Justify it, then, I take Issue.  If they Support such things, now it has very little to do with OUR Relationship, it's much Bigger than that now.  Doesn't matter how Nice they've been to me personally then, or how long we may have known each other either, I now doubt their Character, Moral Compass and them being Good People now.  And we all will ultimately be Judged by the Company we Keep, becoz Bad Company corrupts even Good Character eventually.  And I do have Standards and Lines I won't Cross, I'm sure we all do, but they will differ, each of us has to decide what can't and shouldn't be crossed with us... or even blurred and Tolerated.  Becoz Behavior Tolerated is Behavior Accepted.

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Don't Tolerate what isn't Acceptable... Dawn... The Bohemian