I'm 23 Unpublished and Scheduled Posts ahead now, it's a Record for me. *LOL and Winks* If I end up with Blog Block and don't Create Posts for a couple Weeks to almost a Month now, I'm still Golden and you'd never know. *Smiles* I'm up at almost 3:00 in the Morning coz I can't Sleep, I was having heightened Senses of Smell, of Aromas that were not even in the Air... of Cinnamon, Cloves and Oranges, it was Weird and Woke me up! Phantom Smells isn't something that I can recall happening before, so it was unexpectedly Odd. These Phantom Smells were strong, yet pleasant ones and even once Awake I was still smelling them so I went in to the Kitchen just to make sure nobody was in there making something with those Aromas? There wasn't and eventually it all subsided, but, not for a while. I Googled it and it's called Phantosmia or Olfactory Hallucinations. It can be caused by Medical Issues so if it persists it says to seek Treatment... Splendid.
As it is I received a Bill from The Man's last Hospitalization of whatever our Insurances have not Paid them. I'm going to ask if they've run it thru all of his Insurances first and then hit the VA up for paying it since they're the ones that transported him from the VA Hospital to a Civilian Hospital in the first place. The VA Hospital wouldn't have cost us anything and why I took him there, coz Insurances lately are really balking to pay out even close to the amount being Billed, even if you have an Insurance AND a Medicare Insurance. I don't know how many fucking Insurance one needs to have in order to have everything appropriately covered, but, apparently him having Three isn't nearly enough??? *Eye Roll*
I get annoyed that I have yet another Insurance problem to remedy while I still haven't even remedied getting the Claim Paid Out on the Hazard Insurance for Storm Damage, so no Work has begun to replace that Roof yet still!!! The initial Check is somewhere now between here and Ohio getting Endorsed so I can Deposit it and at least pay my Contractor something!!! And now the Hospital wants a couple Hundred Bucks that they claim we have to now Pay, but I'm contesting that, we should be fully covered and dammit, I'm gonna make sure all Three Insurers that The Man has pay out all that they're required to before I pay a damned Dime out of Pocket! As it is the Water Bill came in almost double, also likely due to all these damned Data Centers built and using up all our Water Resources!!! I'm not paying double just so they can drain us Dry and use up all the Water!!!
And our Electric Bill almost doubled too and I highly suspect it's due to the Data Centers using up too much Electricity on an already overburdened Electrical Grid Serving Five Million Residents!?! Nobody wants Data Center in their Communities and nobody was consulted or given input before they started building them and approving it all. And, why aren't they paying for all the Water and Electricity they're using? Why is the cost being distributed to Residents and doubling our Costs, we're not using any more than we ever did!!! And we can't afford our Electricity and Water to double in Costs, but these Data Centers and AI Companies apparently have plenty of Money, so, Bill them and Tax the Hell out of them for all of this... they should be Paying all of us a Monthly Dividend for the Privilege of being allowed in our Communities IMO. I want a fucking Monthly Dividend if they're here, every Resident should receive one if they've forced this upon us involuntarily.
Well, I got Woke by a Niece who lives in Texas calling me. I knew it must be Bad News calling that early. She's the one whose Mom Died of Cancer recently and she was her Mom's Caregiver. She's been losing a ton of Weight herself and tho' she was looking Amazing at first, she'd gone to look like she was losing too much too fast and she claimed she wasn't on any Weight Loss Meds and thought it might just be the Stress. I wanted her to get it checked out tho' coz she had Heart Problems too from the Stress and she's still so Young, only around 30 and has Three Children, a Teen Daughter and Two Younger School Aged ones, a Girl and a Boy. Her Husband Works in the Oil Fields there in Texas so is gone a lot and she's mostly been Single Parenting while he's away Working. Well, her results came back and she has Cancer too. The same kind her Mom Died of and they're doing a Surgery to try to remove it on October 1st!!! This is her with the Youngest Daughter, Above... her Mini Me.
The sudden Weight Loss for no apparent reason had made me think something was very Wrong and so I do Hope they caught it in time, it's Ovarian Cancer, but her Mom's had spread so much by the time she got Diagnosed that it was too late, it had gone everywhere. And, as if that wasn't enuf, her Oldest, whose 15, was Diagnosed with Schizophrenia and had become a Danger to the rest of the Family, especially the Younger Children, she's tried to commit Suicide and tries to harm, or even Kill, the Younger Siblings. She tried to push the Younger Sister in front of a moving Vehicle!!! So, my Niece had to give up Custody, she couldn't have her in the Home anymore in order to keep herself and the Younger Children Safe, and putting her in Residential Treatment in various Facilities, even in other States, hadn't Worked. The Meds don't Work, and with having 2 Schizophrenics in my Family, she knew I'd have a Point of Reference. This Niece has Mental Illness, so did her Mother and some of her Four other Siblings, but not Schizophrenia, so she didn't know what to do. It's very hard to admit your Child is Unsafe to be around and give them up due to an Incurable Dangerous Mental Disorder. This is her with the Older Daughter Above and Below. And with her Youngest, a Son.
Her Daughter is a Smart and Beautiful Teen, but a lot bigger than her Mom, and dangerously Ill and has become a Threat to try to Manage. So, Managing her Physically was becoming high risk without becoming abusive to protect herself or the Younger Children. Right now her In-Laws have Custody of the Girl, but she worries that her Husband's Family are the type not to Believe their Grandchild has Mental Health Issues. Some Families stay in Denial or are too Ashamed to admit anyone related to them has Mental Illness and they're of that ilk, Fundamentalist Religious Types in Texas tend to lean towards Faith Healing exclusively, often to the detriment of their Loved Ones who should have Medical Care and Intervention or Medications. So, it's a mess and caused Marital Problems too, so she and the Husband are having Relationship Crisis now that she's been diagnosed and they lost Custody of their Oldest Child. So, it's all so messy and I had no Words and could only offer Moral Support and Comfort as Aunt Dawn. She no longer has her Mom, who was a Single Parent Raising them their whole Lives, and isn't close to any of her Four Siblings.
My Heart aches for her and she's so far away that I can't offer Present Help like if she were here in Arizona still. Our Families were always very close and Ride or Die with one another. We Share a lot of History and tho' there's no biological connection, her Mom's Family are a Train Wreck so there really was no Bio Family there for them. So my Family, and even my Mom and Dad, when they were still Alive, were closer to their Family than any of their own Relatives ever were. The Kids all called my Mom their Nanna and my Dad their Grand-Dad, people always just assumed their Mom and I were Sisters. And truly, we were like Sisters and she was just a Year Younger than me, and closer to me than she was with her Biological Sister. Their Parents and their Brother had Died many Years earlier so there wasn't much Biological Family left. The Father of Two of her Oldest Kids had been Murdered when they were little, and the Father of her Younger Three, she Divorced and was out of the picture when the Kids were still Young.
So, I wasn't Surprised she called me during a Crisis, she knows she always can, any time, for any reason. She just hadn't told me everything about the Older Child or her Marriage becoz she knew we were going thru a lot of stuff here as well. But, Losing her Mom and then finding out she has the same Diagnosis now, Scared her and she said she can't afford to get as Sick as her Mom did, her Two Youngest Children still need her and she has nobody to be her Caregiver. She's pretty sure that her Husband isn't gonna be there for all of this, he was already faltering when she was Caregiving for her Dying Mom. I didn't know that, I thought he was still quite the Family Man. But, nothing sorts People out quite like Trouble. Just becoz someone is there for you during the Good Times doesn't mean they'll stick around for the Bad Times.
And she knew here in Arizona, when there was a Family Member having a Mental Health Meltdown, they'd always Call me to come Manage the Loved One for them, including their Mom and even their Dad when he was still around. I knew their Dad long before I knew their Mom or the Kids, he was The Son's Coach for Elementary level Sports. Nice Guy, but, had Mental Health Issues and later on Self-Medicated with Alcohol and Substance Abuse and went downhill, which, isn't uncommon. He's still Alive as far as I know, but I don't know he ever became Well enuf to be a Functional Family Man ever, so it's best his Kids didn't have him in their lives very much once he deteriorated with drinking to excess and abusing his Prescription Drugs and no telling what else, coz he was a Veteran too who'd been Medically Discharged.
I used to have to transport him to Mental Health coz nobody else would come get him when he went Off Rails, coz he could become Violent and very volatile. I'd pop his Crazy Ass in the Passenger Seat and tell him if he got unhinged while I was transporting him, I'd throw him out of the Vehicle without even slowing down... and he'd settle right down coz he knew I'd do it... I don't make idle Threats. And he knew if my Crazy and his Crazy had to Square Off, it might be Wilder than his Wife's Crazy coz even The Man wouldn't Go There. And everyone knew what The Man had done for the Military. *Winks and Laughs* But I liked Kenny, Sr. and when he was Sane he was one helluva nice Guy. Funny, Smart, Caring, Athletic, a Good Friend even, he'd do anything for me and my Family and was a great Coach when all our Sons were very Young and before he went totally Off the Rails Mentally and never came back from The Edge and the Brink of Insanity. He was Institutionalized over and over again, but they kept letting him out and he'd Self Destruct all over again.
Since, when he was on the Crazy Train, it was better for his Family that he wasn't in the Household and even my Crazy Friend had to finally admit, that things were becoming Unsafe for her and the Kiddos. I told her, you do know you have to Divorce him, this has all become untenable. I knew coz I had to Divorce my Psychopath Ex... or somebody would have ended up Toe Tagged. And if it was between me or him, I was gonna make sure it was him, so it was best we ended it without a Homicide. Some things are best put behind you and move on for your Safety and Well Being as a Family. My Ex eventually got sent up and locked up for 27 Years without Parole, Problem Solved. Kathie was bigger than me, but her Husband was more afraid of me... and not of her. I felt she could have kicked his Ass without even spilling a Drink... but... it wasn't in her to I guess... but, he knew I would. Kenny, Sr. had known me a long time. *Winks* I Bow Down to no Man and even that Criminally Insane Murderer backed down to me in Psyche Lockdown... Wisely so. *LOL* It is said that often your Misery becomes your Ministry.
So, I know The Niece would never reach out to her Dad, even if he is still among the Living. She also has a Schizophrenic Brother who isn't Safe to be around and nobody has had Contact with in Years, including us. He's too Unsafe. Nobody has heard from him since Dec. 2025 so he may not even still be among the Living, we don't know? Nobody could even notify him of his Mom's Death. And The Niece said her other Siblings and her Nephew, all of whom have very good Careers and make good Money, never came to their Mom's Funeral nor did they contribute to the expense of it. She and her Mom's Older Sister, paid for it all, even tho' the Sister was estranged from her Younger Sister, she did the Right thing by her to have a nice Funeral/Burial. The Niece says she hasn't heard from her Aunt since and probably never will now.
She lives in the Hamptons and is Wealthy, so she never wanted people to know she had a Seriously Mentally Ill Younger Sister, an Older
Seriously Mentally Ill Brother {now Deceased}, and a Mentally Ill Nephew and Niece. She only kept in contact with the Well Nephew & Niece, and Kathie's Oldest Grandson, all who are Well... and she had Raised their Oldest Sibling when Kathie lost Custody due to her Illness. That Sister works for the CIA. So it's a complex Family dynamic, not unusual when Mental Illness has such Stigma attached to it, that Families keep it Secretive about Loved Ones afflicted or pretend they don't even Exist. Their Older Brother was SMI too, and after Serving in Vietnam in the early 1970's, went Mental and Killed himself.
He'd been quite Mental long before being Drafted and sent to War. But they Inducted almost anyone back then, which is why they Discharged him from the Military after using him as a Killing Machine and then discarding him. And even some Guys who go to War quite Well, come back quite Unwell. And those who were Unwell to begin with become even MORE Unwell, like Allen did. When Kathie's Older Brother lived in NYC he once walked down a busy well known Street there in nothing but his Military Brogans! Yeah, they send Guys like that to War, yet let this Cowardly Prez fake Bad Feet to get out of the Draft or Serve their Country, coz they're Rich Fucks, and the Elite generally don't Serve anyone but themselves... go figure, some things will never change.
And now that the Niece's Husband is never Home and always in the Oil Fields, she suspects he's been acting like a Single Man rather than a Married Man with a Family... she could be Right... and from what she told me she's found out, he probably is. Her Dad bailed on the Family during Crisis and she's concerned her Husband may take the Easy way Out as well and Abandon them all too. Now he's got a Sick Wife and a Child who may end up Institutionalized if his Parents can't cut it, and I suspect they won't be able to, God ain't Healed any Mental Illness that I'm Aware of yet. I'm not saying He couldn't but He hasn't, and I'm a pragmatic person when it comes to realizing having Faith doesn't always mean Miraculous Healings will happen or that bad things won't happen, even to good people. So, you have to be sensible about seeking Treatment for Illness, Disease and Disabling Diagnosis that do or don't have Cures. You can be deeply Spiritual and still rely on Science as well, they're not mutually exclusive nor does it mean you lack Faith or don't Trust God.
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