The Day this will Publish will be The Daughter's Birthday. In Real Time as I'm Creating it I'll be in Caregiver Mode all day with The Man, Post-Op he's to have a Calm 48 Hours after his Surgery and Eyes on him constantly to ensure he's compliant with what he should be avoiding doing. So far, at Home, he's been really good and behaving, so it's going quite well and he's more ambulatory than expected, so in no obvious Pain. He wasn't behaving in the Hospital or with Staff, he was combative and resistant, so I think his Surgeon made the Right Call to send him Home for his Recovery. Also, I don't think our Insurance Blessed him being Inpatient, just Outpatient basis this time.
I've got Friends who have chronic Health Issues, like Cancer Remission, who have already seen their Premiums and Medications Costs exponentially go up to being unaffordable for them due to this Regime's actions! One Friend in Remission on the ACA saw her Cancer Meds go from Zero Copay to $89 a Month Copay! She's still too Sick to Work and said she must be on this Med to remain in Remission! She is a Single Parent with Two Children and Young, so she's distraught and I'm sure the added Stress isn't conducive to her Recovery from a potentially Fatal Illness!!! When she was Well she was a Therapist by Trade and making good Money, then she got Cancer and battled it for a couple Years.
If you get Sick long and expensively enuf, most Insurances have Caps on what they will pay out for a Lifetime. If you have something permanent like Mental Illness that has no Cures, all of them have Caps on what they will outlay for Services usually. Then people are forced into applying for Benefits beyond what Employers offer and even if they had good Insurances they Paid a lot for. A Friend of mine said when he got Cancer the Cancer Treatment Center of America would only take him on as a Patient if he had a Policy that had a Million Dollar Minimum of Coverage!!! I guess they've previously been Stiffed by Insurances and won't take them anymore.
I know having TriCare {Military Coverage offered now} a lot of Doctors and Pharmacies will not accept it, coz, they claim they don't get Paid or get Stiffed badly, and I know this to be True. Often you get the Paperwork showing what your Insurance Paid and what they Denied Paying and it's outrageous how much they Stiff the Medical Community and are then required have to Write Off or put in Collections. When The Man had his Catastrophic Accident, an example is his Medical Expenses were $970,000 and what was Paid Out by Insurances was only $57,000 of that and the rest was Denied!!! Then when he got his Legal Settlement the Insurances garnished $25,000 to repay themselves of the $57,000 they'd only Paid Out! Which left us with less than half the Settlement for his Lifetime of Care Needs he'd have and the outstanding Debt still Owed! It's like pulling Teeth to get Insurances to Honor Claims.
The only reason we got a Settlement is we filed a Claim with our own Insurance, coz I'm Insured against the Uninsured and have to pay more for that coverage, coz the Guy who caused the Accident wasn't Insured, wasn't driving his own Vehicle and didn't have permission to be driving it coz he didn't even have a License, AND, was Undocumented. So, it was quite the Cluster Fuck to get any compensation at all for what would now require a Lifetime of Specialized Care and Unpaid Caregiving by me, while I had to give up my Career and take Early Retirement, to be able to Care for him at Home. And that happens more than you know when someone has catastrophic Medical Situations happen. The Victim of the Illness or the Accident and their Families are now fucked!!! And our Insurance was Happy I informed them of some other folks Involved in the Accident who were trying to commit Insurance Fraud and file Claims against US... so, they Happily Paid Out my Claim quickly and Thanked me for the Heads Up.
People who weren't even in or at the Accident were pretending to have been Passengers in other Cars involved and it turns out we were the only Vehicle with Insurance, even tho' he wasn't at Fault for the Accident involving many Vehicles at that Intersection. I'm like CSI on Steroids with my Investigative Work. *Winks* I Soldiered thru all of that in Creative ways and Thankfully we didn't lose everything, but, some folks do and become destitute over illness, injury or disability. So, all the folks losing Health Insurance now due to this Regime's Cruelty, Bad Decisions, Incompetence and Grifting, and all those whose Premiums will now triple or more, and all of those Hospitals and Long Term Care Facilities that will now have to Close, is gonna be a Nightmare for many Americans. And so, let The Games begin...
Millions of Americans in fact it will Touch in a Negative way... all of Taxpayers it will impact in a Negative way. If you thought The System in place before was Bad, you ain't seen nothin' yet on how much worse it's gonna get!!! Don't get Sick, Injured, Old or Disabled in America anymore, you can't afford to now for sure! Fun Times!!! But, anyway, got The Man thru another very risky and expensive Situation again, we're Up By Faith and know it shall Hold. What else can I say? *Winks* He's like the old Timex Watch Commercials, takes a lickin' and keeps on tickin'! *Smiles* He's in very good Spirits and Happy to be Home in his usual Routines, he does better at Home and so far we can still meet him at his Point of Need most of the time anyway. The Son deadpanned it's not AS IF they'll take him away and find Placement if we can't, for any of us actually, so, whatever. *LOL*
I know the Prospectus for this Family is so prohibitively expensive, and Alternative Placements so Impossible, that the State of Arizona and the Feds will do a Hard Pass on taking over for or from me. Don't threaten me with a Good Time! *LMAO* And so I Blog, coz ya'll are still and always will be way Cheaper than Therapy. *Winks* And, quite honestly, Crazy is embraced more by this Community than by Real Life Situations so, us who are NOT Neurotypical, as the PC like to describe us in Non-Medical Terms, find solace here within the Blog Community. *Smiles* Dont'cha just find some of these PC Labels being Dreamed Up rather hilarious? I do. Anyway, in spite of all the Activities of Yesterday that were All Consuming, I managed to get a whole load of Laundry done!!! I'm such an Overachiever like that. *Bwahahahaha* I Cancelled the VA Nurse's next Tuesday Visit saying The Man wouldn't be up to it, coz, he won't be.
I won't be either frankly, until he's back up to snuff Post-Op I just want to have to Deal with nobody else, nobody "Newer", well, NOBODY. *LOL* Full Dance Card that I have, The Family here at The Asylum is more than Enough right now to Deal with, so I'm not having anyone Extra participating, even with the Best of Intentions. It would not be particularly Helpful, so, if you're not part of my Solutions, you're considered part of my Problems and will be temporarily sidelined and pushed out of my Orbit for a little while. As I recalibrate and come back to Center in my Universe that is under my direct Illusion of Control. *LMAO* I am a Control Freak so I NEED such an Illusion of Being in Control, even if it's a complete Fantasy. *Winks*
The Daughter is still dragging more Halloween Props out, I think it's her way of Coping? So, whatever, it's way Over-The-Top now and she'll be responsible for putting most of it away, so, Don't Care. *Winks* The Trio of Skulls now on the Front Porch pictured further Above with Marigolds in their Eyeballs was a New Addition I woke up to this Morning. *Smiles* And, Mando did get The Son's Car Fixed again last Night as he said he would, so, The Son was able to drive his own Self to Work, whew, coz another 3:00 a.m. Wakeup Call was not something I was relishing having to do again. Princess T from Wed-Sat doesn't have to be at Work 'til 7:00 a.m., only on Tues is it 6:00 a.m..
When we got to her Work this Morning a very Fabulously Gay Young Black Man was looking like a New Hire as he dramatically swished and sashayed his way to the Front Door along with all the Employees streaming in. Princess T said he didn't look familiar and certainly didn't look Dressed for Work, more like Dressed for "Project Runway" and we Laughed. Turns out he was a Customer thinking the Store was open that Early and looked quite crestfallen to have to then sashay back to his Car with quite a visibly Exaggerated Queen's Attitude, it was rather Entertaining and Funny. Becoz clearly he was wanting to be a Spectacle on Display, and thus, so he was getting his Audience. *LOL*
I Smiled Sweetly as he swished by the front of my Truck and he rolled his Eyes dramatically at me... well, ain't you quite the pretentious Diva, Honey!? As my Fabulously Gay Trans Grandson would have deadpanned, coz he did often, "Gramma, ain't NOBODY THAT GAY!" The Young Prince gets very annoyed at the Exaggerated Behaviors, coz he feels it's contrived and not at all authentic nor necessary. It's like an Over-The-Top Act to him and he's embarrassed by it coz it perpetuates Negative Stereotypes and Old Tropes, Mockery, along with more Biases, against his Community. He equates it to how most well behaved normal acting White Women probably Feel about The Karens? He could be Right? But, I realize some poor Souls are Thirsty for the Attention and seem willing to get it any way they can, I can't presume to know what in their Back Story makes them wanna be a Spectacle? So, I try not to Judge too harshly and rather see the Humor in their Spectacle they make of themselves on Display in Public for their desired Audiences.
My Mom's fav saying about all of that being, "To each their own, as the Old Lady says as she kisses the Donkey..." *Bwahahahaha* Mom had the most hilarious Sayings ever and I stole so many of them coz they were always so Amusing and rather Profound actually in a hilarious way. I know I'm rather a Spectacle sometimes myself since, I am mos def not your Garden Variety Senior by any stretch of one's Imagination. And I don't Care to be. So, I Celebrate folks just being comfortable being themselves no matter how outrageous that might seem or Be. And if someone is Thirsting for Attention perhaps they're just not getting enuf in their Lives and I Pity that actually, coz, being so Thirsty just reeks of desperation and insecurity to me. And I Wish nobody had to feel desperate or insecure in Life. Life can be Hard as fuck!!! And just Being Yourself is sometimes even harder for some folks.
So, after driving off I felt rather Sorry for The Young Man, he has to go around being himself all of the time and it can't be easy. And so he's probably developed an Attitude and Chip on his Shoulder just to Cope I suspect and Challenge anyone who'd Challenge who he just is? He's Black, Young, Fabulously Gay, in Today's Society and currently in Amerikkka, that's not particularly advantageous in this Life. We're all losing Ground and Rights we fought hard for thru Generations of Sacrifices, at an accelerated rate under this Trumpian Regime. So people are justifiably pissed off about it and I am too, coz nobody seems to be successfully trying to Stop it in our Government or our Politics! Shame, Shame, Shame... they're showing themselves to be Weak, Ineffective, and Impotent representing us. Nobody can do much with a Limp Dick, no Spine and no Balls, swipe 'em Left. *Eye Roll and Snicker*
I got the tiniest little Specialty Tomatoes I'd ever seen, colorful and about the size of large Peas or Blueberries. Adorable and will be pretty in Salads and easy to eat since you wouldn't have to cut them and they're even smaller than Cherry or Grape Tomatoes. I think they're called Currant or Micro Dwarf Tomatoes. Below is some Online Pixs I found of some, mine have some Yellow in with the Red and they are this size and smaller, were on Sale, and will make a nice addition to our Salads. I'm thinking of keeping a Couple for their Seed and planting them to try to grow some of our own now. I do that with a lot of Fruit and Veggies we like. You can't always find Seed to Buy. We eat a lot of Salads, except for The Man, who never eats Salads. There's some healthier eating habits I can't get him on board with and the introduction to Salads is one of them, tho' he eats more Vegetables and Fruits now, and more Ethnic cuisines, than when I met him Years ago. *LOL*
His Family Hunted a lot of the Meat, eating more Wild Game than the average Americans, plus they often Canned their own Veggies and grew them in Victory Gardens, so he wasn't opposed to Healthy Foods. I just didn't see his Family eating Salads or any Ethnic Foods at all, hardly Spice their Foods, and so his Flavor Profiles were rather bland and our Family couldn't handle that. Before his Brain Damage he was an exceptional Hunter and Cook tho', and his preparation of Wild Game is exemplary. The only thing he ever Hunted and prepared that we did not like at all was Antelope, far too Gamey coz of what they eat and how lean an Animal they are. It took him 15 Years to draw out to Hunt one, but I told him it's not worth putting in for one again, we didn't like it. I did enjoy partaking of Wild Game I'd never eaten and how he prepared all of it. My Family were not big Meat Eaters, Mom was mostly a Vegetarian her whole Life. Dad preferred Organics in Foods, Bred and Harvested ethically if they were Animals, and Grown without pesticides if possible if they were Plants.
My Parents were Bohemians way before the Hippie Movement, so they were never opposed to me being a Hippie of my Generation, it made perfect sense to them. For their Generation they were progressive and very forward thinking, yet, honored Cultural Traditions and Rituals that were Sacred to them. Even my Uncle from Wales, Mom's Older Brother, as big and Powerful a Man as he was, 6'4" and almost 300 lbs. of Muscle, was a Vegetarian mostly and rarely ate Meat. It is a Myth that all Vegetarians are small built and can't be Muscular, tho', a lot of Vegans seem to be very underdeveloped and frail looking, with the exception of Rock God Lenny Kravitz. *Winks and Swoons* Whatever he's doing practicing Veganism seems to be Working for him!!! That Man is still Hawt as Hell and Ageless looking, even at Age 61!!! The Proof being Below. Damn, I'd hit that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *Smiles & Winks*
Okay, Lustfest over now... ha ha ha... Now, we'll Eyeball Pumpkins since I'm in the Mood/Vibe for them but can't afford to Buy any Real ones this Year, dammit... priced too high. Real Time Update, I JUST found Heirloom Pumpkins for $4.99 each at FRY'S on Sale, so bought one... Yay! It was between the Two Pictured in the Cart Below and I ended up with the smaller lighter one only becoz the larger one, upon Inspection, had a puncture gouge in it on the bottom, which would compromise the longevity of it. They had the bumpy and other Colorful ones, equal to the beauty of those at other Stores for more than double the cost, so, Color me Happy! It felt good to get One Real One for this Autumn's Porch Display to join the Immortal One that lasted from last Fall. Really got our Money's worth with that Heirloom Pumpkin. *Smiles*
I Love Photographing the Pumpkin Patch Piles at the Grocers, Visually Stunning Harvests and I look for who has the best each Year. This Year all the Stores competed well for the best looking Pumpkins, but, Price was an Issue except this Sale I just found that made it affordable and not much different than previous Year's price point for them. Mebbe if most of their Migrant Workers have been either Deported or Scared Off the Jobs by ICE Raids is why everything even grown in America is so expensive this Year of Fresh Produce and Fruits? I just am not sure, and I do know a lot of it is Imported from other Countries, predominantly from Mexico so Tariffs would definitely then be responsible for the hefty increases.
I was tempted to Buy this Whimsical "Beetlejuice Style" Craft Project Snake Critter as a Halloween Prop at SAVERS, but they wanted $5.99 and I'll wait and see if it's still there on Half Price Day? If it is then it was meant to be mine. *Winks* I had to take a Nap in between doing the Grocery Shopping at Two different Grocers, I was just that Physically and Emotionally spent from Yesterday. I had a massive Headache earlier in the Morning, so Napping did help with that. I remembered that The Daughter had a Stress Headache the previous Morning before her Dad's Surgery. I tend to have my Stress Letdown Episodes AFTER something is over, not beforehand.
The Daughter had made a 3rd Faux Grave out Front in our Halloween Scene, with some more of the Wishing Stones, after she found another Faux Headstone. Usually we bring a Firepit out Front on Halloween Night and sit around it whilst handing out Treats to the Kiddies coming around in their Costumes Trick-Or-Treating. People always comment on what a good job we do Decorating every Halloween and enjoy it. People stop during the Daytime and take Photos of it sometimes too or slow down in their Vehicles on our Access Road to look at it. We drive around and look at Outside Decorations too and I've taken Photos of the better ones. I've noticed that for Halloween people either go all out Decorating for it, or, not at all. Christmas is more a mixed bag of Extreme Decorating or Moderate Decorating. You almost always at least see at least a Christmas Tree in someone's Window lit up.
The Man has become cranky as it gets near Sundown, even being ornery towards Princess T, even tho' she's been worried about him all day and has much concern for him. He wouldn't eat Dinner and he refused Breakfast and Lunch so she put her Foot down and just made him a Plate after she and her Uncle had cooked it, and MADE him eat it even tho' he got Mad at her for force feeding him. *LOL* She came in to the Room I was in and asked Why he's being so Cranky? Who knows? But, we all knew he hadn't eaten all day and he eagerly gobbled it up Under Protest after she MADE him have some. *Winks and Shakes Head* Sometimes he's Contrary and Combative simply for the sake of being Contrary and Combative, he knows not Why and can't give an Explanation. He lied and said he ate, when pressed to tell us WHAT he ate he couldn't say, coz, it never happened. So, then he got petulant.
But, he did eat and so when given the Food, against his Wishes to be given it, he gobbled it up without much resistance, so, he was Hungry actually. He's on Meds so I don't want him taking Medications on an Empty Stomach and he is also an Insulin Dependent Diabetic so it's important he eat Healthy, neither overeating nor starving himself, it's the only way his Diabetes will remain stabilized and managed. You have to battle him every step of the way now that his Mental Capacity is deteriorating tho' and it can be exhausting. He'll battle me about taking a Shower, about changing his Clothing, about Eating, about Drinking, about going to Bed and Resting, when clearly he Needs it and is resisting all of the above. The only thing he doesn't resist is Thankfully taking his Medications. I do gently Challenge him when he's being contrary and resistant, asking him Why he is being that way, I'm ready to Hear his reasons. He has none tho' and just angrily then says, "I don't know!!!" And I'm sure that's the Truth, he doesn't know.
I've asked his Doctors how best to Deal with it and really they don't have the Answers and think that he's not so advanced with it that we have anything to worry about. I do know it can be, and will get, worse, coz it did with my Mom as she slid further into Advanced Dementia. I do know there is nothing that can be done really, and no Tips they can really provide for the Caregivers at Home who are doing their Best and don't have Medical Training or Resources or Staff to handle it all. I just hope the progression of it is so slow that when it's his Time to go from Time into Eternity, he can do so from our Home and without the necessity for Long Term Care we cannot afford and don't Qualify to receive as part of his Earned Benefits of 39 Years of Military Service either. Complications from Advanced Dementia was what my Mom succumbed to, but it took 'til she was 84 to shut down her ability to Survive it anymore. It can be a long awful Process for them and for Loved Ones. Costs of that kind of Care required are prohibitive and out of reach for almost anyone.
Anyway, I tell all the Kiddos to just leave him Be after Sundown. If he's just left to watch his Shows, he's Quiet, subdued, more Mellow and Mood Regulates better. He just doesn't wanna "People" after about 5:00 in the Afternoon... just anyone's Presence agitates or even makes him seem upset and angry for no apparent reason anyone can fathom. Not Engaging him is just the easiest way to avoid conflict or it escalating, he can't Fight in a Room all by himself I say. *Winks and Smiles* And, I don't intend to just upset him if we can avoid doing so and find ways to get better compliance from him? I don't know how confused he is and what that must Feel like, since, during the earlier Hours he's more like himself and things go quite well, it's afterhours that things go to shit more regularly, Sundowners is pretty common and I've learned a lot about it due to having to Deal with it in Real Time all the time now. Fun Times!!!
I noticed a lot of Seasonal Coffees while out and about at Specialty Stores. Most of them are Cute but I know I wouldn't try or Buy. I mean, my Coffee tasting like Oatmeal Cream Pie, a Hard Pass. *LOL* There are some things I don't think I want my Coffee to taste like and some of the Flavor Profiles they come up with are kinda Odd and Weird IMO. However, that said, I do like when they have the Samples so you can try a small amount and make an informed decision then, coz you just never know? Perhaps an Oatmeal Cream Pie Coffee might be good... though I've never even had a PIE that was Oatmeal Cream Flavored, have you? That's a New one all around for me... but, I have recently learned that Southerners have eaten Tomato Pies for Generations and I've never had one of those either or heard of them before... they do look Good tho'.
I am rather Experimental when it comes to New flavors and foods, so I'll try anything once, twice if I like it. *Winks* But, Gourmet Coffee ain't Cheap, so I don't know I'd risk spending that much to purchase a whole Bag of it just to taste it and see if I like or loathe it? As it is I wait for my favorite Coffee to go on Sale now before I Buy any. I did stock up with Coffee Pre-Tariffs tho', knowing we don't grow more than 99% of our Coffee in America, only Hawaii can grow it and only grows a tiny fraction of the World's Coffee, accounting for only about .04%, Yes, that's a Zero Point Four Percent of Global Production of Coffee! I do like Kona Coffee but it's as expensive as any Imported Coffee, it's not Cheaper just becoz it's not having Tariffs imposed. And we do like our Coffee, so I don't wanna be deprived of it. So, with frugal shopping I shan't be, for now anyway. *Winks*
I was gonna go in to the Antique Mall Tonight to work my Spaces, but, I haven't Priced anything and so I'd prefer to wait until I have and can bring some fresh Merch in with me. I wouldn't have to drag The Man along with me coz he's on House Rest Post-Op, but, right now The Son is the only one here to watch him for me and he won't behave for our Son, so I don't wanna put our Son in that position with his Dad. Princess T is at her Boyfriends coz she said Grandpa was being too Unlovely... The Daughter and Mando went to do a Job for a Friend of his that would take half the day to complete. And, since I don't have anything Priced and don't feel motivated to sit down and Price a bunch of Inventory, I will delay the visit for now. Not much is Selling anyway and the Mall isn't doing much to stimulate Trade either, so, not drawing Customers.
I'm wearing my Halloween T-Shirts all Month long and my Halloween Earrings and Necklaces. My Halloween Decorating was Done before October so I'm enjoying the whole Atmosphere and Vibe of it all even here at Home. I'd like to enjoy it more outside of Home tho', but, there's not much offered out there, a total Downer. There is still a lot of Halloween Candy being Sold, that is abundant and I've bought all of ours we'll need to hand out and not run out. Princess T did tell me what her Costume will be but I forgot who the Character is already. She and her Friends of coarse are too Old to Trick-Or-Treat but like to put Costumes on and either go to Halloween Parties of Young Adults or just hand out the Candy to the Kids while dressed up. I haven't decided what I'll do Halloween Night yet, at the very least I'll wear something with a Halloween Inspired Print or Dia de los Muertos Print on it.
The Desert Botanical Gardens is having a Dia de los Muertos Altar, Outdoors this Year and only the One, and only from October 31st thru November 2nd. With a Festival on Nov. 1-2 afterwards an Evening Procession from 5-6 p.m.. They really aren't doing any of the usual things thru October than normally I'd attend to see thruout the Month. My Membership needs to be renewed by EOM but if they keep eliminating Events, they've eliminated "Gertrude's" Restaurant, I am conflicted on whether paying that much for a Membership is now worth it? I may attend this Week just coz I do have an Open Schedule to be able to spend one Morning there by myself without anyone in tow while The Man is Healing from his Surgery and The Daughter can watch him for me. Also get some Sundays in at The Gym as well for myself. October is the most lackluster one devoid of Events I've seen, very disappointing, it used to be chock full of them. This Year October is a ... Yawnfest!
The next Event is "Bountiful Market" being Hosted by Sweet Salvage, with more of a Thanksgiving and Harvest Theme to it. They did good for the Halloween Inspired Event last Month, much to my Delight, I'd been worried they were gonna go Pedestrian Boring instead of Full On Halloween. I don't mind the Middle of October Event going more into Fall Decor and Design. Below is the One Pix I've Cribbed off their Sneak Peek of how it's coming together so far. I don't Hate it. But, I'm also seeing nothing I'd be Tempted or inclined to Buy either, so, there's THAT. And, I don't really Care, don't really have Need of anything at all. Don't mind just being Fall Inspired and immersing into an Autumnal and Thanksgiving Vibe. Thanksgiving is a much ignored and neglected Holiday as far as Marketing for it and Decorating for it. I'd like to see it Celebrated more... being Thankful isn't such an unimportant thing. I like to be Thankful and Grateful, it's something to Celebrate Being.
I actually keep all my Harvest appropriate Themed Decor up until the Day after Thanksgiving so that we are Decorated for that Holiday too and enjoying the Vibe. I like Autumnal Colors, Scents, and everything the Season represents, its my Favorite Season of the Four actually. I do like that big Italian Demijohn in the Pix Above, but they've gone into the Stratosphere in price point now. I got mine Years ago when you could Buy them reasonably priced. I don't Need any more of them. That's a nice one tho', not within Budget, pretty SURE of that. And a lot of the European Rural and Rustic Antiquities have fallen out of Favor and peaked in their Trends, so you don't see so many of them anymore. If there's not much Demand then the Supplies tend to diminish accordingly. I don't follow Fads so much as I Buy what I Love and feel is a wise Investment and is my preferred Aesthetic. I don't really Care what anyone else is doing or overdoing. In fact, quite often my Reaction to what's being Overdone to Death, is my Expression Below... *LOL*
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That's my favorite pix of myself... Dawn... The Bohemian
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