Thursday, March 19, 2026

A Downplayed 37th Anniversary Around Illness Limitations & Caseworker Visits



 In Real Time it's still the 18th, our Anniversary, 37 Years, he still tells folks he'd of done less Time for Murder.  *LOL and Winks*  After The Young Prince's Caseworker leaves I'll probably go pick up a little Cake to Celebrate it here at Home, since, The Man is not feeling good yet and not bouncing right back after having had this Surgery.  His other Two Stents he had Surgeries for not that long ago, he didn't do so well after either.  So his Recovery Time is just longer now after something requiring a Surgical Procedure and anything implanted.  He's a high risk Patient even when having Elective Procedures done, like a Colonoscopy, so they just don't do them anymore unless it's Life Threatening to him.  The risks being too high according to every Doctor we've known.  He's building quite a Collection of these Stents!!!  If you have 3 or more of anything, it's Officially a Collection.  *Smiles*




Found out Irrigation isn't coming Today but will be coming at Four in the Morning on the 23rd... Splendid... Four in the damned Morning... wading around in the Dark, up to our Calves in Cold Water.  The Son has been doing it for me since his Sister and Mando are gone, and he's been doing the Yardwork.  But, Mando took all his Equipment, so now I've got to invest in a Weed Whacker.  The John Deere cuts the Pasture but around the edges you need those Trimmers.  I can't recall if the Hedge Trimmer was ours or his?  I did tell him to remove everything of his off our Property so we wouldn't have any reason for him to be on our Property without an Invitation to be here.  And there won't be any of those for several reasons now.  The Daughter will know she's Welcome to visit Family any time but she can't Live here if I can't trust that she's Clean.  If you're in The Life, don't come around even under the influence of Drugs. 




 I don't count MJ coz that's legal in Arizona and I've never personally had any problems with MJ users anyway.   And even at the DA's Office, I never processed a Single Case where an MJ User had committed any violent or serious Crimes, as a demographic they're usually Chill and too relaxed to commit Crimes.  Alcoholics are more problematic than Potheads and Alcohol causes more Social Problems and Crime related incidents than someone who uses Weed.  I don't partake, but now being Legal and regulated, it's even less of an Issue IMO.  Some may disagree with that opinion, we can Agree to Disagree.   It can be a Gateway Drug to those Individuals who are chasing a higher High, if you're that way inclined tho', you'll probably end up doing worse things anyway in Life overall and wreck your Life regardless of whether you ever were an MJ User. 




 The one thing I liked about MJ was, if someone Used, no matter how much or for how long, when they wanted to just Quit, they just Quit, without complications of any kind.  That said, even Prescription Drugs can be difficult to just Quit like that and can get out of control if abused or misused in any way.   More Addicts have been created by prescribing Pain Management Meds in particular, as a Gateway to becoming a Drug Addict.  So, I'd think more incidents happen under Prescribed Medications and lead to Illegal Drug Use from what Doctors Prescribed, that is Legal.  That's exactly how The Son and even The Man got hooked on Prescribed Opioids their Doctors ordered for them Legally, due to Work related serious Injuries.   And then they had a downward Spiral of being hooked.  Now both of them are afraid to even have a Surgery coz of not wanting the Pain Management Meds prescribed Post-Op.  They don't wanna relapse.  They'd rather be in Pain. 




Anyway, I have no Idea when The Young Prince's Caseworker is coming, he didn't put a Time on the Calendar and so I guess it could be anytime?  Sometimes Caseworkers just show up, so, I am rather used to that... they can be somewhat like someone's Parole Officer in how they monitor their Cases and their Clients.  *LOL*  I had asked him if he needed any assistance with his Room and he said he didn't, and his Friend Sadie had come over again, so did Bree, and he had both of them Help him with it too and so it might be okay for a Caseworker to ask to see, I dunno?  He's completely out of Nutritional Assistance he Qualified for from New Mexico now, so he will need to be enrolled in Arizona's Nutritional Assistance Program.   The Son had been Approved for 90 Days but only actually got 44 Days worth before it just ended, we know not Why?




He only got $49 for January, full Benefits for February, none for March.  It should have run thru Mid-April to actually be a full 90 Days worth of Assistance.  But, he really doesn't want the hassle of going in again in Person, they never help you at all in Person.  Then you have to try to get thru by Phone, which, NEVER happens either, for Months now he hasn't been able to get a Call Answered whether he calls right as they Open or allegedly when they Close.  He was told by a Caseworker, on the Sly, that they quit Answering Calls at 4:00 p.m. even tho' they're Open until 6:00 p.m. so technically should have been taking Calls for those last Two Hours!!!  Good to know so at least you're not wasting Two more Hours of your Life Daily trying to get them to answer a Phone Call they never will!  The only way he got what little Assistance he received was them FINALLY, since November, giving him a Date THEY would call him!




They didn't even wanna do that, but since he'd been trying since November, unsuccessfully, and it was already February, they relented and gave him a March Date to Call him instead.  Then they said he'd have the Assistance Loaded to the Card they sent automatically, reduced amount for January {who knows Why since he first tried to apply in fucking November, then December, then all of January too}... but they did give him full Benefits for only February.  Why they cut off March's Benefits when they'd said it was Approved, we don't have a Clue, but I can't say I'm Surprised.  This Regime is so Cruel they've cut Nutritional Assistance, the School Lunch Program, and numerous Assistance Programs for the Neediest Americans and America's Children, with the Spin it will Save Taxpayers Money... so they can then spend a BILLION DOLLARS A DAY of Taxpayers Money on an illegal and unnecessary War in Iran... go figure!!! 




If you can do even rudimentary Math, it doesn't take much Academic Acumen to know how many Americans a BILLION DOLLARS A DAY spent on our Citizens instead could do in the way of Good!   Rather than being a Warmonger who wants to Play going to War like it's his personal fucking Video Game and make him feel Tough and not so much like the Cowardly Draft Dodger who wouldn't actually Serve during Wartime when it was his Duty to his Country to.  Faking Bad Feet, definitely won't be sending his Sons or Daughters to Fight or to Die in this one either.  He's one of those Shit Talkers who makes other people back up his reckless Mouth and Fight his Fights for him.   And, to be sure, he has a Loyal Devoted Following who will gladly be Weaponized, so, I say, send them first to Fight in this War.   Some might even Support that!?



 All the most Devoted MAGA, the ICE Agents, should run to be Signed Up and Sent over to Fight his War of Choice, to show how Tough and Patriotic they really are for their Boy's Bad decisions.  Then I'll Believe they are REALLY Down for him.  Martyr for a Lost Cause Down for him.  Cult Devotion Down for him and willing to Die for everything HE, their Cult Leader, Believes in, or says he does, or makes more of a Grift off of... whatever.   When all of them have been Sacrificed, then, perhaps the Cult will finally be disbanded, as most Dangerous Cults have gone the way of in the Past, when their Cult Leaders Wheels have gone completely Off and they've been willing to Sacrifice every last one of their Followers.   How many American MAGA will voluntarily drink the Kool-Aide when that Time comes?  And eliminate a Future for their Children and Grandchildren?




  And any who did Escape and managed to Survive never have a Good Thing to say about what they got caught up in and now know was exceedingly dangerous and completely Mental.  Often Mental enough there were Child Sacrifices made.  And when the whole Epstein Scandal blows and is exposed, I won't be Surprised that already hasn't happened.  I've mentioned it in previous Posts, but a Friend I once had when I was in my 30's was a Gal named India who Escaped Jonestown when she was only 14, by running into the Jungle of Guyana and risking Death that way instead.  Her whole Family, including Younger Siblings, drank the Kool-Aide of Jim Jones, whether voluntarily or involuntarily.  India said near the End she knew he was Insane.  And she was only a Young Tween, but could discern that even tho' Raised in The Cult of The People's Temple. 




 She knew for sure he'd be the demise of all his Followers and anyone else he didn't Value the Lives of or would try to Stop him or Disagree with him, and we all know how horribly that Ended.  She said many Followers were fearful of leaving, knowing he'd have them Killed if they tried, that's how Cults tend to Work too.  You know you're in one when you try to Leave and what happens then... it's predictable.  Some have left MAGA and NOT Good things happened to ALL of them.  We're in that Territory with this President.   And it's very dangerous Territory, if you can't discern that by now you better Wake the fuck up fast, coz not being Woke means being Asleep... and far too many are Slumbering and trying to minimize the collateral damage happening daily.  Mebbe becoz it hasn't yet hit them full force, but, it will.




Our Caseworker for The Grandson, Caitlin, was excellent.  She brought a large St. Mary's Food Box with her for him.  She got him an Appointment with Social Security for a Disability Evaluation for SSI and at DES for Nutritional Assistance, Health Insurance, Prescription Coverage for his Medications and Mental Health Insurance.  Since he has Seizures she is suggesting when his Insurance gets Approved, his Primary schedules an immediate referral to a Neurologist.  He was on Seizure Meds but has run out, he's only got enuf Psyche Meds issues from New Mexico Coverage for about another Month, then he's out of that too.  I was pleased with how quickly she lined everything up for him and we really liked her.  When she knew our whole Family Situation she could see why we really have Need of Caseworkers for each Individual, it is too much for me to juggle.  Especially since it all already caused a Stroke last December.




When you have a Caseworker, all the other Agencies take your Case a lot more Seriously.  Social Security was surprised that since he was diagnosed as SMI since Age 7, we haven't had Help from them before.  We have applied, both when he was a Child and as a Young Adult, but didn't have a Caseworker as effective as this one Assigned to him, so were Denied each Application.   She did say sometimes you have to hire an Attorney to push it thru and just pay them the 25% or more they charge, which, is a shame, but sometimes it's a necessary Expense so you just don't get nothing and no Help, ever.  So, if he is Denied, then we fully plan to pursue it Legally this time, I kind of Over giving Social Security a chance to do the Right thing by him, he's almost 26, is unemployable and very ill... if he didn't have us, he'd be forsaken by Society and our Nation completely.




And I do understand that Services often are delayed or Denied depending on whether your Disability is Flavor of the Month.  Some types of Disabilities get loads of Funding and Services, while others are delayed or Denied any Services, despite extent of their Disability or severity of their Need and Condition.   Developmental or Physical Disability often gets the most Services and Serious Mental Illness often gets whatever is left over, or, none at all.  And there's no Cure, so, whoever has it, will have it Forever, so it's not like things will ever get better for them and how they Survive or even Exist will somehow improve.  To withhold Treatment and Essentials like Food, Water, Shelter and Care is just Cruelty and Inhumane.  We'd do better by a Domestic Animal that didn't have Food, Water, Shelter, Care or adequate Treatment.  I'm an avid Animal Lover, but, these are fellow Human Beings we're speaking of.




After his Caseworker left and we got everything on the Calendar, I went and got my Shopping done since we did get our Social Security Checks on the 18th.  I got less in my Check than any of the Social Security Letters I've been receiving say I should be getting.  So, perhaps that's why they keep also separately sending me Refund Checks now?  I enjoyed Photographing the Bakery items while Choosing what to get for our Anniversary Celebration.  I settled on one of the Fruit Mousse Cakes we all have come to prefer and Love, a mini Chantilly Cake, a Cream Puff, a Spinach/Strawberry/Feta Family Salad, and some Blueberry Muffins.  Everyone at Home should be able to find something out of that they would like to have and Two Cashiers came  up and told me how good everything in my Cart looked!  I get that a lot. 




 It's funny how many people will comment on how good what I Buy looks, or how Healthy and Fresh... as if they don't have the same Options of Choice!   I'll often get folks with Carts filled with Junk Foods and other Processed Foods, look in my Cart and mention how Healthy and Good it all Looks!!!  Well, you're here too, so, you can go get some of that in Aisles ______, ________ and __________, I didn't get the last of any of it.   And you're Right, it's really good, decent value, and mostly a Healthier Choice.  *Winks*  The Two Cashiers who came up to my Cart at the Self Checkout and told me how Good everything I was Buying looked, were Surprised at the Low Cost of some of it... and they WORK THERE!   The HUGE Spinach, Strawberry, Feta Family Salad also comes with Two Dressings and can easily feed 5-8 people, for only $9.99... for Example.   {See that Salad Below}




 The Blueberry Muffins were half price, since Bakery Items often go on Sale if not Sold the Day they're put out... and if you go either Before Closing or right as they Open and peruse the Discounted Bakery Rack they always have.   A lot of Deli Items also reduced in the same way, and saves you a lot of prep times and is invaluable if, like me, you're not a good or particularly Talented Culinary Jedi and Suzy Homemaker Domestic Goddess yourself.  *Winks*    I made us an Anniversary Dinner at Home since he wasn't Well enuf to go out to Eat and I wasn't feeling that great Today myself.  The air was heavy and it was 101 Degrees by only 2:00 p.m., so, just staying inside and using what we have was just the Wisest thing to do.   I made Baby Carrots with Baby Peas, Garlic Herbed Baby New Potatoes, and El Pastor cubed Beef with Fresh Cilantro grilled in Greek Olive Oil.  Then we had some of our Fruit Mousse Cake for Dessert.




The Food Porn is pretty Eye Catching, and even what I didn't Buy, looked wonderful and I told the Head Baker there at "Safeway" what a spectacular Job she's doing.  I was watching her Decorate a half Dozen Cakes at a time and she does it so fast it's unbelievable how Artistically Fabulously she manages to make them and so quickly!!!  That's skillful.  And they Taste as good as it Looks.   So, even tho' we didn't do anything for our Anniversary due to circumstances, which had to make the Anniversary part of the Day be Downplayed and worked around his Illness limitations and Caseworker Visits... it wasn't too bad and he's Happily watching his Shows, even tho' he certainly doesn't Feel 100%.  I still don't have a Callback yet from the Cardiologist Office or the Kidney Doctor's Office either, so that all still has to be Scheduled.  They are supposed to get him in within 5-7 Days after Hospital Release for the Follow-up, so that's on them, I've made contact and done my part.




The Calendar is filling up fast too with everyone else's Appointments and I'm the only Driver with a Vehicle here, so... whoever sets shit up first with us gets Calendar Priority.   It is rather overwhelming and a lot of Time spent at Hospitals, Doctor Offices, Pharmacies, Social Service and Government Agencies, Caseworkers coming to the House, ad nauseum.  Even ONE visit to any of those with ONE Loved One is usually Enough, but, times MANY visits with more than ONE Loved One is Too Much and thus just a LOT.  I'm glad that "Sweet Salvage" has their Event Tomorrow {Thursday} and I do plan to attend for some "Me Time" to step away for a Day from all the Seriousness and Hoop Jumping of it all.  The Theme is called "Show & Tell" which is a New one, so no Idea what that signifies really as a Theme or the Merch offered for it?  Even after viewing the Sneak Peeks on Social Media, I'm still not sure what the Theme signifies?  And it's still looking Pedestrian or 'Crate & Barrel' to me for the most part.



I only found One Image I Cribbed and then Edited to Crop the part that I Liked of the Vignette.  The rest really wasn't doing anything for me.  Nor was there anything particularly intriguing to me that would be anything I'd be Tempted to Buy.  I don't Need to Buy anything, so that's not problematic, the Budget right now isn't Liberal enough for me to spend anyway.  I'm hoping that in Person I enjoy it more than the Photograph Social Media Coverage of it, which underwhelmed me.  I know a lot of Work is put into every Event, that's not the Issue, what is being offered is just not my Aesthetic or that Interesting to me anymore.  I could go into most Big Box or Import Shops and find any of it, so, I wouldn't have Need to Source it at an Event, it's mostly mass produced, not particularly Unique, and readily available.   





Most Handwork of pieces is being Imported from 3rd World Countries who do a good Job, but, I don't require spending a lot to get it from Major Importers rather than an Event or from a Small Business or Designer and pay much more.   So, I am finding myself losing Interest and the last couple of Events I've attended I noticed a lot of Regulars are now conspicuous by their absence, they don't attend anymore and they have for Years, so, I doubt I'm the Lone Ranger in my Sentiments?  The Industry has changed, in fact, everything is changing and not a lot of it is changing in the most Positive ways now.   So, it's stagnating the Economy in many ways and making Consumers feel uncertain about America and our Future... or even the World's Economic Stability and Partnerships between Nations being at Risk?




I do want to Feel more Encouraged, but, I'm NOT Feelin' it, at all.  I did Source Two Bagged Lots of LPS Toys, first time in a long time I'd been able to do that.  They were at The Granddaughter's Chazza and she picked out about half of them, falling in Love with an Old Collectible all over again.  She now regrets how much of what she's Sold Off of her Childhood... and like most of us... is now Buying some of it back.  *LOL*  It's Okay.  I'll make enuf off the Sale of the rest, now we have a Locked Case we won't have the Loss Prevention Issues we previously had of how many LPS Collectibles got Stolen.  I had to take them out of Inventory for well over a Year due to Theft Issues being off the Chain.  Shoplifting is at an all time High in all Retail Establishments.  

 


 And Prosecution of these Thieves is at an all time Low, and it shouldn't be.  So many do it in the Company of their Minor Children or Vulnerable Elder Adults, which is a Felony then and bumps it up from being a Misdemeanor.  So many are Stealing high Dollar items, making it Grand Theft, not Petty Theft.   And many, I'm quite sure, may have been Repeat Offenders as well.   And there should be consequences for Criminal Activities 100% of the time to not encourage it and embolden Criminals, making it easier for them to Victimize their Victims.  And rest assured, there are NO Victimless Crimes.  We all pay for what Criminals create in the way of Losses from their Victims being ripped off and Victimized in other ways, it Costs us all as a Society.  And not just a little bit, it Costs us all a LOT.





I really try to keep things in perspective, I know so many Dear folks are going thru so much more than we are, taking things One Day at a time, and I think about them often.   I was so glad to see Blog Friend Shirley back, tho' moving thru a tender and unbelievably difficult time and enduring an unspeakable Loss of a Child.  I worry about my Blog Friends each time I know any of you are going thru some unimaginable Life Issues.   Life can and often does just hand us a lot to Cope with, Deal with, Recover from as best we can, if we even can.  Sometimes I just have to take a Deep Breath and then Exhale slowly, to attempt to Restore my Calm.  I think I had a bit of an Anxiety Attack later Today, after I got thru everything and then was trying to cobble together an Anniversary Dinner.  I almost burst into Tears when the shitty Modern Can Opener wouldn't Open a Can of Peas!!!  Yep, after all I've Coped with a been thru without shedding a single Tear or even Feeling Emotional about any of it... I almost broke down when a Can of Peas wouldn't Open!!!  *LOL*





The Man heard me Emotionally Yelling at the shitty Can Opener and Can of Peas, so came hobbling in, Wobbling like a Weeble, with his Skull of Death Cane... and opened the Can for me with a Fork, peeling it back from the part the shitty Can Opener had managed to cut.   The Son came in, hearing the Melee, and me almost sobbing over my Anniversary Dinner that was really being cobbled together badly.  He began helping me finish it up, it all got eaten and it was good, but, that was Lucky, considering the Emotional Wreck I felt like and Physically then not feeling 100% either coz I hadn't eaten well all day and hadn't been able to get The Man to either.  And with the Temps already exceeding 100 Degrees, I can't do much in the Non-Climate Controlled areas now, or Outside, so it's put a lot of Projects on premature Hold and it's not even Officially Spring yet!!!  Allegedly it's still Winter!!!  Some places are still having Blizzards, we got it being 101-106 already in Mid March!




Above is the One Image I Cribbed from the Event that Opens Tomorrow.  I Cropped it to show the Middle of what had been Photographed and held a little Interest for me.  I like the Vintage Glove and Shoe Forms, the Vintage Seed Boxes, Old Metal Rack and Loving Cup turned Planter.  The Seed Boxes intrigue me most and have been present at previous Events, they're priced too high for my Modest Budget or I'd Buy at least One.  To put my Packets of various Seeds in for Storage and easily finding them.  I have some Vintage Glove and Shoe Forms already and plenty of Loving Cups.  That one looks Newer than what I Collect in the way of Loving Cups, but I do like the unusual Green Color of some of those Vintage Shoe Forms.  Mine are mostly all Brown, I have a slew of them.  




If it's gonna be up over 100 as they predict it will be all Week, I won't wanna stand in any Lines being Hot tho' or have to Park in the Lower Forty... so, we'll see if I can find Good Parking or not closer to when the Doors Open?  If not, then there's other things I can Opt to do Downtown instead so as not to have made a wasted Trip with the ridiculously High Price of Gas.  You see, at almost Five Bucks a Gallon, I'm not doing any Recreational Driving around, there has to be Purpose behind every Trip now so I'm not Wasting Money we don't have.   There have been times that if an Event is too Crowded, no Good Parking, and the Weather too Hot, I just abort the Mission and decide it's just not worth it to me.  I'd like to go but if it's too much of a hassle, I don't mind NOT going either at this point.




 I feel many potential Customers feel the same way now about spending their precious Time or their limited Money when the Economy is as shitty as it is right now.   What happened to the Promises he ran on of No Wars, America First, and Lower Prices and thriving Economy on Day One?  *Huge Eye Roll*  Yeah, his Base have been truly Conned by their Career Criminal Bullshit Artist President.  I don't know how many of them are just too Embarrassed and Ashamed they've been Played so will never admit it and pretend all of this Fuckery is just Fine with them?  Or, how many actually are Fuckery Supporters and it is just Fine with them so they're not pretending at all... they're as Bad as he and his other Enablers are.  You'd be Surprised sometimes how low some folks will go that keep it on the Down Low usually.  But now feel emboldened to just be horrible and abhorrent Humans too, coz their Cult Leader President is, so now they feel like it's somehow Acceptable and perversely 'Patriotic' or even 'godly' in some demented way they have Invented to justify it.



I won't give such folks the Time of Day now, they're too fucking Far Gone, it's a waste of Time or Breath to engage with them, it Creeps me Out actually.  I can see what and who they just are now, and don't want any part of it.  There's enuf decent folks to engage with who still have a Moral Compass, content of Character, haven't compromised their reputations or shown Extremist Views, and haven't boarded that Crazy Train of the Ugly Underbelly of a corrupted segment of Society, where the Wheels have now come completely Off.   Those still aboard, well, whatever happens when that Train Wrecks and has ample casualties, I won't and can't feel Bad about it.   They've caused way too much collateral damage to decent and innocent people, being complicit in all he's done... they will have reaped what they have sown.  I got enuf to Deal with so I just won't Deal with any MAGAts too.




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Trying to stay Cool in the heating up early Arizona Desert... where late Winter temps are insanely well over 100 already... Dawn... The Bohemian

Wednesday, March 18, 2026

I'm A Fixer Of Problems By Nature... Very Solutions Oriented

 


Today is actually our Anniversary, we will do nothing coz he's just not Well enuf to, but, he's Lived to see it, so that's been Enough.  Well, it seems some of my Friends here in The Land of Blog have had a slew of their own Medical Emergency Issues, Holy Hell, we're dropping like Flies, WTF?!   So, Healing Energies being sent your way for each of you going thru some shit right now too.  My last Post was a hard one for me coz Family isn't Coping well with everything going on and so that often means the Wheels come Off with some of them.  Mostly it will mean they self-medicate to numb themselves when they don't Cope Clean or Sober, so that's always a risk factor when Stressors pile up and their Mental Illness Triggers badly up under Stress.  So, it's been a Wild Ride, not just with The Man's Medical Emergency, but trying to keep at least some of them on the Rails and Coping in acceptable ways.  Some are holding up, some aren't.




I got all The Daughter's dirty Laundry done so now we have Towels again, we'd wondered where they had all gone?  Now we know.  She'd been hiding all her dirty Laundry in the Triple Bunks in the 5th Wheel... among other things she'd been hiding.   With having Caseworkers coming I had to get everything in Order.  I had cancelled The Man's Caseworker/Nurse for Tuesday, she's approved to come Weekly so will come next Tuesday instead.  But, Wednesday is The Young Prince's Caseworker and that can't be delayed as it may get him the Services and Evaluation he desperately Needs.  I just Hope his Living Quarters he's been able to work on enuf it would pass an Inspection by his Caseworker? 




  I've toyed with the Idea that he could show them the newly Organized/Orderly 5th Wheel instead, if his Space just wouldn't cut it right now.  He can explain he's just Moving In from being in New Mexico, which, is True.  And we don't have everything unpacked with placement yet, also True.   He has a lot of Cargo, way more than he left Arizona with.  He accumulated while in New Mexico and Allen gave him practically everything since Allen is a True Minimalist and really wanted to Keep only a TV and a Chair.  *LOL*  So, everything came by U-Haul and Allen's Grandpa and Stepdad didn't have a lot of Time to unload it so it just got put anywhere and everywhere.  I just appreciated them getting it to Arizona for him and Bankrolling his Move, it had been a long Day for them from Sunup to Sundown.




I know Allen's Family would really rather never have to Deal with any of it now forevermore and I don't blame them.  Dealing with Allen is probably more than enuf for their Family.  And us Dealing with The Young Prince is also more than enuf for this Family too, so, I understand completely.  I couldn't Deal with Allen as well either.  Anyway, Allen has been decent enuf about sending some Money and mailing some other items that he couldn't bring on the U-Haul.   They are attempting to be as amicable as a pending Divorced can be.   Sometimes you can just Love the Wrong Person and it all can be more than you bargained for, that's my Take on their Union.  Both of them have significant Issues, and combined, it was just a Lot.   Allen is very high functional and very intelligent, but also, quite Autistic and Bipolar.  The Son is too so I know how that Combo of Diagnosis can go Off Rails from time to time and really impair Relationships and Behavior.




With The Wheels coming Off for The Daughter, it meant that both The Son and her Son aren't Coping with that very well.  They had so wanted her to remain on Track, we all did, this was the longest she ever hadn't been Using.  They HAD to Help me with what she left in her Wake and they could see how hard that was for me, which in turn made them both very Upset and Angry.  The Son began Drinking to Cope, not a good Idea, he didn't intend to make me upset with him so just went to his Room so he could Dial it back Emotionally out of my presence.   The Young Prince took an extra Wellbutrin and that helped him, but he Cried a lot and worries about his Mom, and is Angry at her, and is Tired of things never being able to remain Stable with her for very long.  He understands Logically, since he has an almost identical Diagnosis, but Emotionally it's just very hard as her Son.  And someone can have Sobriety and be Clean or Sober for Years but fall right back into it with just One relapse.




 Both Kiddos know they can never have a very Functional Relationship with her, she's not capable of it, even when she's Clean and Sober, it's still challenging with the Mental Illness.  They understand why we had to Raise them, with her Living here for the past 3-4 Years it's become very apparent that she can't even properly look after herself, let alone be a Fit Parent to any Child, ever.  Or make Good Decisions on a consistent basis or choose good Relationships to be in either.   She tends to choose very unhealthy toxic Relationships and that's been problematic since her Teens... and that's when she had The Young Prince... and then subsequently Four more Kiddos she could not Raise.  I Raised the Two Oldest, Saint Maria in Mexico, the Paternal Grandmother, had to Raise the Three Younger Ones.   Since her only Child, her Son, and the Father of Four of The Daughter's Children, is a complete Train Wreck too. 




 He has so many Kids he Fathered that I don't know I even have a total Count, we think it's 15 tho'.  Numerous Baby Mamas.   He should have been Neutered.   He was Married Twice, but most of the Children he Fathered he never Married their Mothers, including our Daughter, but, they were together for many Years.   The Daughter did help Care for Maria in some of the final Years of the Old Lady, she was 90 when she finally Passed, she tried to last, Bless her.   She was Single Parenting the Trio of Granddaughters when she was in her 70's and 80's!   I can't even fucking imagine doing that coz I was a Younger Grandparent Raising the Older Two, mostly as a Single Parent due to The Man's extent of Disability and needing Full Time Caregiving, and it was a lot at MY Age!   Maria was my own Mother's Age!  Her Son is closer to my Age.  He had Older Kids the Age of our Daughter.




Anyway, I PM'd her that she's kicked out, coz her Phone is Off, it's probably broken, she breaks Phones fairly often... or loses them.  So, don't know she'll get any PM's on Social Media now or Texts or Calls.  I don't hear from her hardly at all and now I know why, she knows how I feel about anyone Using, Zero Tolerance Policy.  If she's not Clean she becomes even more Paranoid than usual and knows that especially her Brother can tell coz he's a recovering Addict.  He's coming up on Five Years Clean and had really Hoped she wouldn't fall back and relapse.  So, he was devastated she has, but had been accusing her of it even without Proof.  She'd been telling me she would drop a UA and I felt duped coz I honestly can't always tell when someone is High coz I don't Use and never have.  And a Paranoid Schizophrenic acts Weird most of the time anyway and she has gone Wheels Off Mentally a few times since she's been here, it happens regularly and always will, whether she's self-medicating or not. 




  So discerning Mental Health Relapsing or getting worse, and whether or not they've compounded it with self-medicating, is not always possible.  And with the Boyfriend having Cancer I didn't know what strong Drugs his Docs have him on or if he self-medicates too?   And, I'm taking him at his Word as to what his Diagnosis has been, as you do anyone, I wouldn't think someone would pretend to have Stage 4 Cancer?!  But I don't know any of his Family to verify information either.  And someone's Medical information is none of my Business anyway, that's confidential and personal, so I don't Need to Know.   But I know what is prescription and what isn't, and what I don't want brought to our Property ever by anyone.   So, if anyone is ever foolish enuf to do it, they're on the Outs and broke Trust.   She's been looking Healthy but now I think she's risking being Healthy, it worries me but I can't stay Clean FOR her.  That's a Self Job to stay Clean or Sober and some folks have a lifelong struggle with it.




I've still gotta get our Taxes done too but gathering up everything and knuckling down to get it in Order before going to our CPA and transferring some Funds around in case we Owe, I Dread every Year.  It's not even that it's that hard, it's just a Pain in the Ass and I resent it coz the obscenely Wealthy don't even Pay their Taxes and our Government never goes after them for evasion.  Yet, they once went after The Son for Owing Ten Dollars more when he was doing Temp Work while Unemployed!!!    The Government sent an Auditor, for Two Weeks, to Collect Ten Bucks... wonder what that Cost in his Wages that makes absolutely no Sense Economically?  But, hey, we're wasting a BILLION Dollars a DAY on this Ego War for this Maniac President... so clearly Waste, Fraud and Balancing the Budget to Protect the American People and our Money, really isn't the Issue, is it? 




  And this Year The Son Owes more than that due to the whole ACA Fiasco this Administration has caused.  Coz he Qualified for a Healthcare Subsidy when he was Working, but now the Government wants to "Claw Back" all those Funds from him and he's NOT Working and has no Income to pay it all back, so, WTF?!  He didn't have the Money for the Insurance when he WAS Working in the first place, which is precisely Why he Qualified for the Subsidy, so, what the Actual Fuck!!!???!!!   But, you can't be Uninsured either, you have to show Proof of Insurance when you File your Taxes!!!   So, he doesn't know what all that will mean come April 15th when he can't make any Payment towards what they're slamming him with to "Claw Back" Money they Approved him for in the Subsidy they never told him they'd then want back!!!   Don't call it a Subsidy then, call it a fucking Loan then, so that who Qualifies for it knows then it will be Mandatory to pay it back right away!!!  They're deceiving folks and causing Crisis on top of Crisis and Hardships with this ACA Marketplace Bullshit.




I finally got evidence in Writing that the Government finally accepted my Appeal NOT to be Penalized for the rest of my Natural Life due to them fucking up about my Medicare and the Insurance they claimed I didn't have for Four Years!!!   I always did have Insurance under TriCare For Life, which means you can't then also have Medicare Part D.  Both are Federal Programs.  So, during the first Four Years I was under United Healthcare, no problems, I was Insured for my Prescription Coverage under TriCare and got all my Meds from Express Scripts when the Base quit carrying my Diabetic Meds.  So, now instead of getting them Free, I'm paying $200+ a Month, but, whatever, the Government keeps screwing over our Veterans and their Families taking away or eroding our Earned Benefits all the damned time, you have no choice but to roll with it.




Well, then Fast Forward to 2026 when both AETNA and United Healthcare decided to dump Thousands of Medicare Clients from certain areas, and specifically Retired Military Seniors and their Spouses!!!   So, Maricopa County, tho' far from being Rural, wasn't "Cost Effective", so United Healthcare dumped all of us who had TriCare.   HUMANA picked us up but now messed up and enrolled me in a Plan that had Part D even tho' I'd told them, at Enrollment, I can't have Part D, I have TriCare for my RX!   Well, I didn't know they'd enrolled me in the Wrong Plan until now Social Security and Medicare start Penalizing me saying I don't have ANY Prescription Drug Coverage and that's not allowed, and I Enrolled Late {I didn't, I met all Deadlines}.   




And then TriCare thought I had Part D and wouldn't refill my Rx... and The System still showed I did have TriCare so HUMANA realized, Ooops, we fucked up and put her on the Wrong Plan!  And I spent since January cleaning up that Cluster Fuck and getting put on the Right Plan and getting my Penalties Waived and Refunded by Appealing the decision!  And getting my Meds uninterrupted so that I'd receive them from Express Scripts still and convince them, No, I wasn't dropped from TriCare and I don't have Part D Medicare paying for or Providing my Prescriptions Drug Coverage!!!   And proving to the Government that I had one or the other, which is required, or you get Penalized for LIFE, even if you don't have one or the other for only a short period of time! Which that in and of itself is quite the Shakedown and Racket, don'tcha think?   




And if you barely followed all that Chaos, I barely did either.  I sent in Four different PILES of extensive Paperwork to Prove my Rx Coverage and Appeal their decision to Penalize me for LIFE by taking Money out of my Social Security Checks every Month that I didn't Owe coz I was always in compliance, it wasn't me who fucked up, it was a Provider, penalize THEM if you need to Penalize someone permanently for an error made!!!   So now every Month the Government is Refunding me Money they erroneously charged me and HUMANA had to send me a New Card showing the Corrected Plan I'm on and a Letter stating they'd corrected everything and it wasn't my Fault it got cocked up!!!   I don't know how many Seniors are in good enuf Shape of Mind or Body to Fight such Fights or Advocate for themselves?   But, it almost sent me right over the fucking Edge, but, I do go Hard once I'm forced into Battle with anyone, even the damned Government.  I will bury those Motherfuckers in Evidence, Proof, Paperwork, Appeals, Phone Calls, I'll use their Hired Help as Free Therapy to Rant on their Dime, I don't give a Fuck.  *Winks*




If they were gonna Penalize me almost Fifteen Bucks a Month out of my Social Security Check for something I didn't do and didn't owe, by God I was gonna get my Money's Worth and a Pound of their Flesh for it.   Trust and Believe, pay now or pay more Later if you're gonna try to take my Money or deny me anything I'm Entitled to becoz I Earned it and it's my Money, Motherfuckers!  *Smiles*   Anyway, about every Week I get a different Letter from Social Security telling me I'm getting a different amount now, so, I won't really know what the amount truly is until I receive it, coz Social Security seems really confused about what I should be getting, every Letter has said something completely different, WTF?!  It's gone up each Letter tho', so... whatever... so long as it's not going down I'll be Okay with them giving me more and adjusting things accordingly if they've fucked up in their Favor and now have to pay me back.




I transferred the Money out of our Emergency Savings in prep for getting our Taxes done, no telling how that will go, since I think the IRS is as cocked up now as Social Security is and the FBI is under this ridiculously incompetent and corrupt Administration.   My Friend Kendra is in Facebook Jail for a Month right now for posting critical but True Political Opinions about this Administration and it's Corruption.  She's a Retired Corporate Executive and knows the Law well.  Apparently now you can only have Opinions that are Negative against the Democrats?  *Eye Roll* 




 We're heading closer and closer into complete Authoritarianism and Dictatorship Territory with the Censorship being forced upon us now and upon the Media Sources to only say what the Government Approves of and flatters them, even if it's complete Bullshit and has not an ounce of Truth.  They are real big Fans of what they call "Alternative Truth", which used to be called a Lie... but... whatever.  Their Base only Believes Lies now so they want the rest of us to also. *Bigger Eye Roll*  Yeah, I don't Trust Liars or Thieves and I never will.   And they're both in this Administration, so, they will never Earn my Trust or Support for their unprecedented Corruption and Crimes, ever.




We've already been Issued another Heat Advisory this Morning, it's 18 Degrees Hotter than Usual before 8:00 in the Morning!   They usually never issue Heat Advisories until about May.   By Tomorrow we will hit Triple Digit Temps for the earliest ever in Recorded History and they're expecting it to surpass 106 already!!!   I can't even think about what that means when full on Spring and Summer comes coz 118 isn't unusual in the late Spring and thruout Summer, so 18-22 Degrees above Average Temps would mean we could reach 140... you can Cook shit at that Temperature and anything over 104 puts your Body in Heat Distress, that's about what you can reasonably handle before your Body has the Need to Cool Down or risk Health Issues.   I'm acclimated to Desert Living, but not for 140 Temperatures!!!  No Living Thing is.




There was a Job Opening in Receiving where The Granddaughter Works and The Son applied for it this Morning, but, they'd already filled the Position.  If the Guy doesn't work out tho', he may have a chance.  It's way less than he's used to earning in the Trades, but during previous Trades Layoffs he's taken Jobs at places that pay less like Wal-Mart or Total Wine in Retail Establishments.  It's not like you have to make it a Career when you just need a Job.  Right now the Jobs Market is not good in any types of Jobs at all levels and worsening all the time.   The Son has never been out of Work this long since he was only 14 Years Old and he's almost 40 now.   It's disheartening to him since he's a really good Employee and added Value anywhere he's ever worked, but, that hardly matters anymore it seems.  Employers don't seem to Value good Work Ethic like they used to and to be Fair and Balanced about the Topic, a lot of Employees seem to not Care about the Work they do either. 



The Son grilled some Chicken for Lunch, he made some Garlic and Herb flavor and some Spicy flavor with "Slap Yo Mama" Seasoning.  And some Garlic and Buttered Herb Seasoned Baby New Potatoes.  He's taken over the Cooking since his Sister left, The Daughter had been doing the Cooking and helping me with Housekeeping and Caregiving, now the Guys are stepping up and helping me with that.  The Man usually doesn't behave as well for The Son or The Grandson, I think it's a Male Prideful thing.  But he's aware of the Situation with The Daughter and has been more cooperative, knowing I need the breaks and present Help.  So he can't become difficult to where nobody wants to do it to fill in for me.  So he ate a little bit of what The Son cooked, not enough, but, amid complaints about it, he did eat some at least.  *Eye Roll*




He claimed it was too "Spicy" even tho' he wasn't given the Spicy flavor.  He won't starve between that Meal and the next so I just took it away and said I'd heat it up for him later on.  *Winks and Snickers*  Sometimes I don't put up with the fussiness and bogus excuses, but I choose my Battles wisely too.  *Smiles*  He's been Napping a lot since coming Home, I don't think he Slept well at the Hospital, unfamiliar surroundings and they probably Woke him often for Tests and to get his Vitals and such.  So, I'm letting him rest up as needed, and he's not Walking Well yet so we're just bringing him what he needs so he doesn't have to get up and move around too much, risking a Fall.  He Slept in this Morning, which is unusual for him, and he didn't get up during the Night either, also unusual for him.  So the Surgery really wiped him out.





He's got to get a follow-up Scheduled with Dr. Pham, the Cardiologist, whose Office is West of us in Verrado, it's a new Facility out there near a big Planned Community.  Then they want him to do a follow-up with a Kidney Doctor, Dr. Ting, so I'm kinda concerned he has some Kidney Issues now that we weren't aware of?   They told him his Kidneys weren't working good so I really do Pray he won't need Dialysis, that happens a lot with Diabetes, it can damage so much in your Body, especially Major Organs.  We're both on protective Medications for our Organs, but, sometimes that's just not enough if the condition worsens or cannot be managed effectively... or, just coz you get Old and your Organs aren't optimally functional anymore anyway.   So, they've got to get him an Appointment at both Specialists within 5-7 Days, I'm waiting on Call Backs from both Offices now and squeeze the Appointments into an already full Calendar.  *Le Sigh*




I have The Grandson's Caseworker coming Tomorrow, it's a Female, he's already talked to her by Phone I guess and seems eager for the visit.  He is more receptive than his Mother for Services and to be Assigned those who will help him navigate The System.  He knows it's a lot for me to and usually if you have a Caseworker Assigned to you, your chances are much better of getting Qualified for Services, Disability Benefits, expanded Treatments and such.   The problem we've always had with The Grandson is becoz he has a very high IQ, at Genius level, his Intellectual abilities often make him appear too high Functional for Services.  And tho' he's Schizophrenic, he's not Stupid, and the Condition has absolutely nothing to do with his Intellectual Capacity whatsoever.  It's a trite Old Joke, but, he's Crazy, not Stupid.   You can be Seriously Mentally Ill and very much impaired and disabled to where Quality of Life and Function suffers, yet have a very high IQ, they're not mutually exclusive.





So, anyway, I don't know what other complications The Man or The Young Prince got going on that they both will need additional Services for?   So, it could end up being a very full Calendar of Medical and Mental Health with Social Services Needs for each of them?   The Young Prince is Psychotic quite often, but more Aware when he's heading in that direction and can sometimes give me a Heads Up that he's unraveling or Seeing/Hearing Things.   I can usually tell with him, more than with his Mom, The Daughter can be quite Psychotic and not Physically have telltale Signs in her Physicality and demeanor all of the time.  Sometimes she does, depending on which Alter is Fronting and Dominant. 





 With him, his are so distinctive I know for sure I'm Dealing with a different Personality whose struggling with Reality or Reason.  Sometimes I can't even follow his Conversations, they go way into a dimension I'm not a part of and cannot understand at all.   One of his Alters talks about Physics a lot.   Quantum Mechanics is way the fuck over my Head... he might as well be talking to me in a different Language.   And the Alters who aren't tethered to Reality, forget about it, that's an even more Out There Dimension he inhabits at times and will have long conversations about that I just cannot follow at all.  The Son, when he's Psychotic, talks to himself out loud a LOT and will even argue with himself and the Voices loudly and angrily.  So, it can be quite the Sideshow around here if they're all highly Stressed and Triggered.




Overall whose left in the Household now gets along very well with each other so I have fewer incidents.  The Son and The Daughter had more that would upset them with each other and get into arguments, mostly Drinking was involved.   Nobody else in the Household Drinks really, tho' The Young Prince will if he's at a Club, he won't here at Home and isn't a big Drinker either.   And The Man, myself and Princess T don't Drink at all, and if someone is Drinking and begins to bother us, we'll simply say you've had too much to drink and have become annoying, so, we're disengaging until you sober up.  I just walk away, coz a Drunk can be a Trigger for me, depending on how inebriated you are, is how tolerant or intolerant I will be with you.  My whole Family know that, The Son and The Daughter in particular, they are Alcoholics, acknowledge they are, and try not to drink too much around me coz I'll get pissed off immediately.




If anyone has a Loved One or Friend who drinks too much and suffers from Alcoholism, you know how fucking annoying a Drunk is and how problematic their Drinking becomes in their Lives.  I've ended Friendships with folks who like to drink too much and so I would end up not wanting to do anything Social with them if I knew they had access to Alcohol where ever it was.   I would worry over them too much if I knew they would get behind the Wheel after drinking when out at a Club, Restaurant, Bar, Event, whatever... and I don't wanna be someone's Adult Babysitter like that, not my Day to Watch them.  And, if they behave badly when drinking, I get too embarrassed to be around them in Public when they begin acting the Fool or like an Asshole.

 




I actually have been Surprised how many Seniors really drink a lot!   If you go to any Grocery Store in a Retirement Community, so many of the Old folks are mostly buying Liquor!!!   Especially those Boxed Wines!  *LOL*  If you're buying your Wine by the fucking Box, you could be a Wino my Friend.   Especially if you're not Sharing it and drinking it all and Alone... just sayin'!   *LMAO*  I know almost every Senior I happen to know is also on a slew of Medications, so I don't think it's probably very Wise to be an Alcoholic too and be drinking and taking your Meds.  I never ask what Meds my Friends are on, but, after a certain Age, you can be fairly certain they're on SOME.  *Winks*   And I dunno, in my 20's is when I quit wanting to be around a Drinking Scene, even tho' back then I wasn't partaking either, I was always the Friend at the Party who chose NOT to get High or get Drunk.   And it was that Era... so a LOT of both was going on!  *Winks*







  For a very short time in this Era, I was invited to go out after Work with a Group of Older Ladies to a Restaurant that had a Bar and was nearby our Antique Mall.  As, in the same Parking Lot.  But, everyone lived a considerable ways away {except me the Non-Drinker}, in various Retirement Communities they'd have to drive Home to afterwards.  Without a Designated Driver.   And I don't Care if they do this all the time, I don't, so, it didn't make me feel comfortable to see how much they'd be consuming and wondering, is this gonna be a problem... or Safe?   I liked them all, but, until I began attending, The Manager said nobody ever ordered Food to go with their Drinking. And I could tell it concerned him coz they're all a group of very lovely likeable Seniors he wanted to know got Home safely after their Social gathering.  It's not even that anyone got sloppy drunk, just impaired enuf, coupled with Age which delays reaction times, that it's not a good Idea to then Drive IMO for Granny to still have her Car Keys... and probably his Opinion too?






 He actually told me he was glad I was now part of the Group so that Food was involved and he could see I was stone cold Sober and wasn't drinking at all!!!  I don't drink so would just order Food and be the only Sober one when the place Closed, and they would close it down each time.  He was glad I came so that they'd eat something too... coz everyone was gonna be driving Home.  I quit accepting the Invites coz all the drinking and subsequent driving just made me nervous for them all.   I suspect they all still meet, but I Gracefully Opted Out without it causing any hard Feelings, they know I just never drink and it wasn't my Scene or my Jam.  The Social aspect of it was Okay of coarse, but the drinking was what they gathered to do together and so for me, it wasn't a common focus, lifestyle or interest.  I don't miss doing something like that and would rather Socialize doing something else together.   I'd gladly meet up for a nice Meal, an Event, even going Junquing together instead.




So, anyway, quit doing that and everyone didn't mind that I don't Drink, so that was never the Issue.  They all know Why I don't, not becoz I'm trying to be a Killjoy, or it's against my Religion, or something that makes people sometimes uncomfortable about Why you refrain.  Becoz I have found People do ask Why?  They seem to Need to know why you don't Drink?  Are you a recovering Alcoholic perhaps?  Nope.  But, I am pretty sure I have enuf of an Addictive Personality I could end up being one.  Mostly I'm a Control Freak and don't like the Feeling of not being fully in Control under the Influence of anything actually.  But, that's never the reason I will always give.  I tell them the Truth as to Why I chose not to be a Drinker.  My Dad was Indigenous and Native Americans, for whatever biological reasons, don't handle the Fire Water well at all, not even a little bit!   And a Drunk Indian can be a handful and very Unsettling, rest assured.  And that's not being Racist or hyperbolic, it's an unfortunate Fact statistically and Demographically.





Every File I ever Processed at the DA's Office involving an Indigenous Person, Alcohol was involved 100% of the time and the Crime, I'm not even kidding!!!  I'm not even an Alcohol Virgin, but the very few times I ever did partake, I had to be SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Careful not to have more than a Single Drink of anything, my Alcohol Tolerance is quite low as it turns out.  This means, that even with only Two Beers, I will suddenly become very scary and a MEAN Drunk.   It will mean the possibility of me getting into a Fight or nasty Verbal Conflict, escalates exponentially.   Sober me can restrain that tendency to go on the Warpath if someone becomes the least bit confrontational with me, coz I'm an Old Hippie, and all about Peace, Love and Harmony at my very Core.  And I'm Nice to everyone, until they give me a reason not to be Nice.   And then I could turn into your worst Nightmare if you foolishly Started something with me.  I'll Finish it... with a Flourish!!!






Under the influence, your Margins for Error in provoking me just get reduced way the fuck down then exponentially.   And it will not go Well. *Winks*   And, that's always been enuf for any of my Family or any of my Friends, are then perfectly Fine with me declining any invitation to have a Drink with them, around them, and I'm Fine with just NOT Drinking.  Best way not to have a Drinking Problem is... simply... DON'T DRINK!   Potential Problem is Solved.  You're Welcome.  *Winks*   And I am Solutions Oriented by Nature, so am more apt to wanna be a Fixer of Problems, even Potential ones.  Served me very well in my Corporate Lives and made me a lot of Money. *LOL and Winks*   You can always Thank me later... coz I will throw out a Solution every time if I think I can Fix a Problem we're Faced with... and usually, for YOU, for Free... Lucky you, coz Corporations paid a Premium for that Service.  *Winks*



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Alas, not all Problems can be Fixed, even by a good Fixer... and America has plenty right now... Dawn... The Bohemian
A life touched by God always ends in touching others. - Erwin McManus

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars. - Og Mandino (1923-1996)

For creativity to flourish one should try to look at everything as though it were being seen for the first or the last time. - Quote from "A Thousand Paths To Creativity" by David Baird

Is what I'm about to say an improvement on silence? ~ Galen Pearl