It was a Full Moon so I knew the Family that often board The Crazy Train might unravel during that Lunar Cycle. Well, they did... predictable, no less stressful tho'. Princess T got into an argument with her Boyfriend and took off, so he was distraught looking for her, it was 106 and she wasn't feeling well still, so he was worried when he couldn't find her. So, he came here and then her Uncle and I tried in vain to find her. No Luck, but she eventually briefly responding to our urgent Texts to tell us she was Fine but didn't know where she was. That was alarming, her wandering aimlessly in a neighborhood she's unfamiliar with, so Rusty is still driving around looking for her. We went back Home, I told her to call me to pick her up if she got her bearings. I'd driven down every Street and gone into every Store and Fast Food place she might be between our Home and his.
She's being dramatic and emotional so until she calms down, she's not gonna be reasonable. I want her being Safe and not foolish, especially since she missed Two Days of Work on Friday and Saturday, sent Home for being so sick, so should have been spending Sunday and Monday, her days off, resting and getting better. This is not doing that. What can I say, she's 20... and Twenty Year Old Women can be Emotionally Fragile when it comes to affairs of the Heart. I have no idea what they'd been arguing about enuf for her to be like this, her Grandpa tried talking to Rusty about it Man to Man. I think Rusty isn't even quite sure, he just knows it's his fault. *Smiles* It took a lot of courage for him to come here and tell us what happened and that it was his fault, so I give him Credit where it's due. Clearly he fucked up some kind of way even picking an argument with her, she goes Pre-Demonic in a confrontation. She's had Bibles thrown at her before. *Bwahahahaha*
I'm not diminishing her Heartache, it's tough when you're not getting along in a Relationship that you've been in a long time and they've been together now over Two Years. That's a lot of time invested in one another even if they're not gonna end up together. I do think he may be more invested in the relationship becoz she's not that interested in Marriage, Kids, being Committed. She's not one to shop around either, she's had very few Boyfriends and has been Serious about every one, until she just wasn't. When she's Done, she's very Done tho', that I can tell you, so he may be skating on thin Ice right now with her? If you fuck up too much, whether a Boyfriend or just a Friend, she will drop you like a Rock, becoz she's quite happy being by herself and reclusive. She doesn't much even LIKE People or Peopling. She's been an active Member and part of the Anti-Social Social Club for as long as I can remember. She's very much a Loner and likes it. She's Okay just having immediate Family to interact with, in limited doses.
He's very introverted too and Quiet, this Boyfriend, nice enuf Young Man, hard working, Polite and Respectful. But, there's problems with what she doesn't like or tolerate, and he hasn't changed in those areas. That can be a Deal Breaker in Relationships. Behavior Tolerated is Behavior Accepted. He lives with his Dad and I don't think his Parents have been together for a long time, his Sisters live with the Mom. He's messy and she said sometimes he's not Truthful... both things she can't stand. Be Tidy and be Truthful, that's important to her, he knows this about her. She's very Tidy and very Truthful and Rules Oriented, so she wants to be with someone who Values those things too. The Mom doesn't speak or understand much English, but then, neither did JC's Mom, the previous Boyfriend. So, she said all her Boyfriends were not close with their Moms... that can be an Issue on how a Young Man or Boy learns to Treat Women overall. If the Relationship with Mom is dysfunctional, it can bleed into other Female Relationships.
Same with Girls or Women who had Daddy Issues actually. Or Parental Issues in general, can bleed into how you relate to other Adults in your Life if you had Mommy or Daddy Issues. Some folks don't even realize how impactful that might have been in their development of healthy or unhealthy Relationships. Both of the Dads were fluent and Bilingual, I Believe both of the Moms were Mexican Nationals. So, since Princess T doesn't speak or understand hardly any Spanish, she has never been close to the Mom's of any of the Three Boyfriends she's had. All the Boys have been Hispanic. She said all the Moms, in her Opinion, weren't very good Moms with strong Maternal Instincts towards their Kiddos. She has only been close to her Gay Boy Posse's Guardians actually. *LOL* She and Timmy's Grandparents who Raised him are very close, they Adore her. Anthony's extended Family were Raising him after his Mom Died, and Matthew I think is from a Single Mom Household. A lot of Boys have wanted to be her Boyfriend, and had to settle on being just Friends, coz, she has not wanted to be their Girlfriend. *Smiles*
And, she doesn't like his Friends and they don't like her, also problematic. I can tell she's hurt and upset, he called her Crazy. Big Mistake, she showed him Crazy. And Trust me, he can't Handle Crazy. The Man will warn any other Man, oh, you can't Handle the Crazy of the Women of this Household! *Winks* Anyway, between the Drama with her Mama going MIA for Four Days and worrying us, and now this with her, I could tell it was a Full Moon kinda Cycle. *Le Sigh* She did finally have him pick her up and bring her Home, then told him to get out of our House. He lingered, I told him, Bad Idea, you really should leave and perhaps later you can then talk it out or decide what course to take. I think he's Wrecking this Relationship actually, she's beyond Upset and has good reason to be IMO. I personally think the Relationship has run it's Course, it happens. Some folks aren't meant to be. Compatibility just isn't sustainable enough. And for long term Commitment, it has to be. So, now she's Safely Home and just chillin'. I'm giving her some Space. Young Love is very complicated and it's been a long time since I was Young... or Dating. And I'd never jump back in the Dating Pool! *Smiles*
Work called, Thankfully not to ask me to work a Shift, just to tenure an Offer on the Two large Plush My Lil' Ponies I had atop my Locked Case, which was very Fair so I accepted. I'm glad they're Selling coz folks kept jumping up and knocking them over atop my Locked Case, so I was constantly having to climb the Stepladder of Death to put them upright up there again and the White One was getting dirty from the Manhandling. I don't know why people do stuff like that, anything on top of the Locked Cases or high up in a Booth or Room, we have Signs telling them to just ask for Customer Assistance. I think some just do it to be Assholes, knocking things down or over, or throwing them on the Floor.
Anyway, the Sale of them, even accepting 15% Off, was a good Sale coz those go for quite a bit and are highly Collectible still. I still have to put a large LaLa Loopsie Doll into Inventory now, I can get Fifty Bucks for her coz those are Trending now all of a sudden and are highly Coveted. She'll have to go into a Locked Case tho', for obvious reasons. Once something is Trending, is when you experience the higher Loss Prevention Issues with the Five Finger Discount Criminals Stealing it rather than Buying it. Some are Stealing it for themselves, some are to Resell it Online and get most of their Inventory from Shoplifting. Their Online Customers don't know they're Buying Hot Items that were Stolen. I once had ALL of Princess T's mini HALO Action Figures get boosted when the Movie broke, and a Gal with a Fake Pregnancy Belly did it, using the Cavity in that Costume to hide them and get them out the Doors undetected!!! Thieves be Creative and Bold like that.
The clencher, it was $300 worth of Action Figures Princess T had been briskly Selling when they Trended and she was only asking $5 a Bag and each Bag held 4-5 Figures. Very tiny they were, the Micro-Mini Action Figures. AND the Police were IN the Mall taking a Report from my Friend Felicia at the time, for a Theft of some Expensive Sports Jackets she'd had Stolen, when it happened! And, I was also in the Mall at the Front Greeter Station talking to my Friend there when it happened, she walked right past all of us, bold as fucking Brass! The Guy she was with was skinny with tight fitting clothing and she only had a tiny Black Backpack. The amount she Stole was a LOT, and Surveillance showed her going into the Showroom {back then #114 in the Back of the Mall} with the Tub of them, which were out Front of the Showroom in Line with the Security Cameras catching the whole thing.
Within mebbe 2 Minutes out she came with the empty Tub... and she wasn't waddling like a Woman that Pregnant would be, so we figured the Belly was a Costume, you can Buy them. And whose gonna frisk a preggy Gal and touch her Belly to see if she's really Pregnant or hiding Contraband in a fake Belly? So, it was a Clever M.O. and we did Report it and show Surveillance to Police, including Stills of the Couple. But nothing ever came of it, never does. It's almost a waste of your time to Report Theft coz the Police seem annoyed to even have to show up and take a Report or even a description of the Perps. You can hand them the Case on a Silver Platter, even giving them the Names and Locations, if you find out who exactly did it. Like when Online Resalers are hawking distinctive Stolen Items. I don't think the Police even bother to try to find Shoplifters and Professional Thief Rings frankly, and why it's happening so frequently now and costing the rest of us a lot more for Merchandise. There are no Victimless Crimes.
I think I told you all my Friend Jenny who Sells Retro Clothing and Jewelry, had Five Grand worth Stolen of her Inventory. She Reported it, nothing came of it, until she saw an Online Resaler on "Offer Up" hawking all of her Stolen Jewelry!!! She got all the info of the Seller, as if she was gonna be a prospective Buyer, then turned that over to the Police with her Case Number. They literally told her there was nothing they were gonna do but mebbe she should contact the Offender and try to just Buy her Jewelry back from them!!! Yeah, take all the Risk of contacting a Criminal yourself so they don't have to... and then beg to Buy your own Stolen items back!!!!!!!!! OMG, that was what the Police told her she should do, she put them on Blast on Social Media coz she is an Influencer, and I don't blame her, she was livid and she should have been!!! She also put it out there the Online 'Name' of the Criminals and Pixs of her Stolen Items they'd Listed. Now a lot of Victims do that, get Video of Criminals and just make it go Viral.
Of coarse some Criminals are so Bold, Proud and Brazen now they Video Record themselves committing the Crimes shamelessly, even violent Assaults and Armed Robberies, and put it out there Online to go Viral on Purpose!!! If they won't get Arrested, and Police don't take the Evidence they could use against them Seriously, or try to Stop them, well, what consequences are there? None. We're quickly becoming a Lawless Society with no Respect for The Rule of Law all the way to the Top of the Food Chain and the President of the United States now is among one of the Top echelon of Criminals who've committed a Laundry List of Violent and Serious Crimes. Yet, he has Supporters who are perfectly Fine with that kind of Leadership, even him being a Pedophile and an adjudicated Sexual Predator of Children and Adults, so, what can I say? What can I even say about the People who even show undying Support for someone like that knowingly and make excuses to justify doing so?
Anyway, so, it's been a rather Event filled Weekend of Family Drama I could have done without. *Winks* With Multi-Generational Living you have to expect that each Generation is going thru their Generational Issues Of Life. I try never to get so Old tho' that I forget what it was like to be Young. And of coarse the Two Generations living here that are behind us in their Seasons of Life, have no Idea what being a Senior is like or entails as our particular Challenges either, they just try to relate as best as they just can too. We keep open lines of Communications, which is the best way to handle challenges that come up for each Loved One and they may need Advice for or wanna just Talk about. I'm Learning to be a better Listener. My Dad was perhaps the best Listener I ever knew in Life and was so Grateful for that. He never said much, he Listened Twice as much as he Talked, saying that's why you have Two Ears and only One Mouth. *Smiles* But, when he would say something, it was always so Profound and Wise. I Aspired to be that kind of Elder.
There are so many times I Wish he were still here to give Advice about certain Issues Of Life... or just Listen. Sometimes you just need and want to be Heard. In this busyness that can be Life, so few know how to Hear what anyone is saying... so many times folks just don't Feel Heard. I think The Land Of Blog is a Platform for folks to often Share their Lives and their Hearts, their Passions and their Interests, where in Real Life, there is no real Space for that sometimes. I've discussed things in this forum that I haven't discussed at great length in Real Life. Just becoz most people want exchanges that aren't deep, but are more superficial in nature, it's just easier, potentially less controversial, and doesn't require anything of them. I have been very fortunate to have had some Inner Circle you can have those Deep and Profound exchanges with tho', if you want to. Sometimes I just don't want to in Real Life, easier on a Blog. It's got a sense of Anonymity to it, even tho' it's very Out There and accessible to anyone and everyone really. *LOL* But how many folks actually Blog, or Read them? Yeah, that's why it sometimes feels like a Safer Space to just Land and Connect.
I remember when I first began Blogging in 2009, I was astounded that I connected to so many of what I called "My Tribe", who knew there were even that many of us??!!!!! *Smiles and Winks* Kindred Spirits, that in Real Life, might take a Lifetime to find that many, if ever. But here, it was a bigger Tribe than I ever found in Real Life, even tho' I have Friends and Acquaintances that are Kindred Spirits, we were few and far between compared to the percentage of People who weren't. And then, I found myself even connecting to Bloggers and Dear Readers who were nothing at all like me, so, in Real Life, would we have connected at all I sometimes Wondered, being so starkly different? Or, would they have been as Authentic to Self in Real Life as they could or would be Online? There's that too. There are some Bloggers who Share something about themselves here that nobody in their Real Lives are privy to and might never know. They might not even Trust them to, too risky.
Well, Princess T and Rusty had the quickest breakup and makeup ever, she followed my advice and had a Conversation with him, rather than having an Argument. I told her that good Communication with any Relationships means you have a Conversation about whatever it is, not an Argument, which only serves to put each other on the Defensive. It solves nothing to Argue, but to effectively Communicate and express Concerns, possible Solutions, sorting whatever Problems exist in the Relationship and how each of you Feels. You're entitled to your Feelings, nobody can tell you How to Feel... and it matters. Sometimes how a person Feels is more important than the Issue, whatever it is. I'm glad they made up and talked about what was problematic, rather than arguing about it. She even invited him over for the Spaghetti Dinner her Uncle made for us all. *Smiles* Now they've gone over to Rusty's House again, no more Trouble in Paradise. *Winks*
The Spaghetti Dinner turned out really good too, so much so that The Man had hearty seconds, which made our Son feel good. He worries about his Dad not eating, forgetting to eat, refusing foods, eating Snacks rather than Meals, so when he asks for 2nds, that's great. He'd made it in the big Crockpot, which is the handier way to make a good Sauce and let it simmer along time to develop the flavor. He'd put some Sweet Italian Sausage Meatballs in the Sauce too and used Two kinds of Jarred Gourmet Sauces combined. Then used some Italian Grated Cheeses as a Garnish. Simple yet hearty fare that we all really enjoyed and was very tasty. It fed Five easily with plenty of leftovers. The Daughter isn't Home yet and The Young Prince is still in New Mexico with Allen, they seem to be working things out and that's good too.
Above and Below are some Blast From the Past Images I found in a Photo Archived Folder I hadn't opened in a long while. Above is The Son... and Below are some of the Young folks that were the Models of a Vintage Wardrobe Fashion Show we Hosted at the Antique Mall Years ago. Some of the Girls were Daughters of Vendors there, Lisa was the Vendor who had a whole Showroom filled with wonderful Vintage Fashions. Sadly, she's no longer a Vendor there, and she really had a Wonderful selection of Vintage wearable Merch and Accessories. The Showroom was done so well and I truly thought it would do better than it did. I think now it would do better than then, coz now we have a Younger Demographic of Shopper coming in and really seriously looking for and wearing Vintage Clothing and Accessories.
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