Behavior Tolerated Is Behavior Accepted

Happy June Dear Readers!!!

 The Man Surprised me by saying he wanted to go out a 2nd time today together and let's do some Canning, he said!  I wasn't sure he was ready for that and it was Hot and a bit Humid, so we took it easy, stayed in the Shade and did a very limited Environmental Cleanup which did at least glean us a significant amount of Aluminum!  He did really well, better than expected, and I could tell he enjoyed seeing he could do what we have done and enjoyed doing together before his Heart Attack.  Getting back to your Regular Scheduled Programming of Life can be a Process after a huge Health Crisis like he's been having.  I took him by "Sonic" so we had one of their $7 Big Deal Meals and it really was a lot of very nicely done food!  I didn't Photograph it coz didn't have my Camera or Phone on me... so I'll regale you with other Food Porn.  *Winks*  I consider June 1st as Officially the 1st Day of Summer.

But, it came with a very nice larger than expected Burger, as nice as the ones at "In-N-Out", a large portion of Chicken Tenders Nuggets which were way more than expected, Medium Tater Tots, and a Medium Drink, we got the Cherry Limeade.   For Seven Bucks it was a lot of food, tasty, too much, so we saved a lot of the Tater Tots & Nuggets to bring Home for the Family, coz that Burger was quite large and filling.  With it being so Cheap I fully expected a shitty lil Burger, so was shocked it was a large visually appetizing one.  It comes as a Cheeseburger but I had them hold my Cheese.  I like Cheese, just not on my Burgers.  The Man prefers Cheeseburgers and Today he was eating really well and enjoying being out to do stuff and eat out twice in one day.  Him initiating both outings was rare and unexpected, I enjoyed doing it with him again, I'd missed doing it with him.

The Son and Grandson commended him on all he did Today, he was really more like his Old Self, it still happens, even with the  progression of his illness, some of his Old Self remains still.  Then my Brother called, 2nd call in a single Day so at first I thought something was Wrong and my Heart skipped a beat.  But, as it turned out, after I'd Found and made contact with his Oldest Son, his Son reached out to my Brother via FB and gave him his Numbers and said he'd like to get a Call.  He actually left a Heartfelt PM for his Dad on FB and my Brother was running it by me, I could tell he was nervous, his Son was in his 20s the last contact they'd had, his Son is 40 now.  Which had ended on good terms but when his Son got badly injured in the Service and Medically deferred out of the Navy all contact ceased.  My Brother never heard from him again and thought he had Died.  Likewise, his Son thought my Brother had Died, coz, my Brother has been Terminally Ill a long time now.

I was thrilled to hear his Son had reached out after I'd made contact and Found his Son, becoz my Brother had tried to Find him and couldn't.  My Brother is always amazed at my sleuthing abilities to Find people.  *Winks*  If I'm determined, I can usually find you or about you... well, in my 1st Corporate Life skip tracing was necessary and at the DA's Office in my 2nd Corporate Life you learn how to track down folks too... you never lose the skillset.  *Winks*   I haven't Found his Youngest Son becoz I know when he got Adopted, his Name was Changed, so I'm not sure if anything still exists on his Birth Name or not?   His Oldest Son still kept his Birth Name and my Brother's Surname... even tho' I had heard he may have been put up for Adoption.  I didn't ask when I talked to him, it's not something he may have known much about the 'History' of, as he knew so little about our Family when we talked, eager to know more.

 I know when he was a Toddler I was asked by the Maternal Side of his Family if I'd Adopt and Raise him.  I was a Divorced Single Mom of Two at the time, and my Son and his Cousin are only 3 Months apart in Age.  So it would have been like having Toddler Twin Boys, plus The Daughter, who was only 6 and a Half.  It was before I met and Married The Man, so I had to decline.  I had a lot going on during that time of my Life, it was very complicated, a Messy Divorce with a Stalking Ex who was dangerous, a demanding Career, both of my Parents had Cancer at the time and were Battling it.  Both Won their Battle with it, Dad lost an Eye to it tho', and both lived much longer.  My Brother didn't have any contact with his Exes, both Divorces being Messy too, so he never knew his Sons had been either Adopted or put up for Adoption until many Years later.   Until they both were Grown and each made it a point to Find him when they were in their 20's.  He didn't get along with his Younger Son that well, but got along really well with this Older One. 

The News was covering the most absurd "Investigation" they're having now on whether Joe Biden was cognitively declined as President?  Who fucking CARES, he's NOT THE PRESIDENT now... shouldn't we be instead Investigating that the current President is obviously cognitively declined since he IS THE PRESIDENT right now making Decisions?!   Jesus Christ... I'm so sick of this nonsensical looking into the Past, which doesn't matter anymore, and not focusing on the Present, which does matter a whole helluva lot and all we really CARE about in the HERE AND NOW!!!  I no longer give a fuck about what any PAST Presidents did or didn't do, that should have been dealt with and resolved when they were the damned President.  So don't deflect, blame, distract with the Past Administrations when this one really Needs their full Attention for how badly it's going and what they Need to Own right fucking now!!!  In Real Time.  Before it's too late and seriously further compromises our Future and World Standing!

And mebbe we wouldn't even need to be talking about or Investigating Cognitive Decline in a Leader if we Elected people who weren't Geriatrics way past their Prime... mebbe that would be REAL fucking Helpful!!!   Or letting people have no Term limits in places like the Supreme Court or Congress, where some of them are so decrepit they're farting dust and still there, making important decisions with National and International consequences!   When Honestly, you wouldn't allow your 70-90 Year Old Grandparents, of that diminished capacity being obvious, make some of the most important decisions even for themselves anymore, or keep Working when they should be Retired and put out to Pasture, let alone for a whole Country!!!  In my Corporate Lives we didn't have anyone that Geriatric at the Top of the Food Chain, none.   And there's a Reason for that.

Talk to your average Geriatric and they often have trouble living in the Present rather than what was in the Past... most have Lost Touch with what IS coz they can't keep Pace with the Present and what Works now and differently, and that's not Wrong, it just IS.  You can't run America like it's 1956, or 1986, or even 2006... that's passe', it's now 2026.  Times Change... Geriatric Leadership is relying on the Past Ideas and what worked way back then... and doesn't Work anymore.  Most don't have a Fresh Idea in their Head that would be as relevant as what a Younger Leadership would be more In Touch with for Today.  Do most Geriatrics even have a Clue what Today's Young People want or expect for the Future?  Probably not, becoz we're not gonna be in that Future... we don't have that much Future left.   And the Future belongs to those that will Inherit it.

Tomorrow is Bulk Garbage Day Pickup so The Young Prince was helping his Uncle put everything to the Curb that we Need for Bulk Garbage to pick up for us.  They'd done Yardwork, cleaned up a lot of junk laying around, mostly that Mando had dragged here with The Daughter that they had Projects for.  If you can be resourceful with it that's all fine, and Mando was, he was like MacGyver utilizing objects to serve Purpose and Function.  But, none of the other Guys here does that kind of thing with random Objects to make Repairs and Build stuff, it's not their Jam.  So, most of that stuff now had to be discarded coz it just was a bunch of unused objects junking up a portion of the Property that would never be utilized for anything.  I do think The Daughter's attraction to being around him was he kept busy doing random Projects and she'd get involved, it's what she did in Mexico a lot, so it was familiar to her.  We gravitate to what's familiar and also enjoyable, whatever it is.

Anyway, she did come Home last Night and we had The Talk, she agreed with all I had to say, as has all the Kiddos so far and Princess T is the last one to Talk to and I KNOW she'll be in Agreement.  She's not one to be problematic of all the Kids, so I have no Beef with her Habits or how she interacts and Helps around here.  She has always been the Golden Child when it comes to living seamlessly in the Household and being sensitive to how we run our Household and want it to be.  She knows that for Old Folks, it's important to us not to have to give up entirely on our Vision for Retirement Years, we've adjusted considerably to accommodate Two other Younger Generations of Family, and adapted, but, this is still our Forever Home... we HOPE.  *LOL and Winks*

Of coarse, she also has the least Disabling Factors hindering her Behavior.  She has Anxiety and she likes to be left alone a lot, but, so does The Man, and I roll with that easily without conflict.  They are Two very conflict free Individuals and I like that about them, coz I don't like Drama and a Headache from anyone.   I don't have Anxiety Issues, but, I am a conflict free Person too, I rarely have conflicts, I try to avoid them becoz I know I'll never initiate one, but I will end one with a flourish.  And I'd rather not.  I'd rather get along and play well with others all of the time if that's possible, and usually it is, most people don't particularly want to enter into a conflict with me after they realize, it probably won't go well for them if they do.  I'm really Nice... until anyone gives me a Reason not to be.  And I will always give advance Warning about that so it can just be avoided entirely.  People I've had conflict with in the past usually do become Friends or even just Cordial with me, becoz I don't hold it against them.  I'd rather they choose not to repeat being confrontational.

And there's few people I truly Dislike, I Like all of my Family as well as Love them, I think they have Wonderful Spirits and Essence about them.  I truly Like all of my Friends and have never had a Falling Out with any of them.  The only exception is if some became MAGA influenced and then I just distanced myself and let them just Move On in that direction, which was one I made clear I wouldn't be going, ever.  One Fav Blogger said it best about MAGA and the dilemma it has often posed with folks you know and became shocked aligned with that way of Being.  Don't Mistake being a Nice Person with being a Good Person.  They're not always mutually inclusive.  That Sentence really spoke volumes to me, there is a difference between someone being NICE TO US, and inherently being a Good Person by their Values, Morals, Behavior, how they treat OTHER PEOPLE or Sentient Beings who aren't us.  

If someone has always been Nice and Wonderful to me, but could be Harmful, Cruel, intentionally Offensive, Racist, Homophobic, Inhumane, Xenophobic, Mean and Hateful to their Neighbor, or even horrible to an Animal, or anyone else for whatever reasons they try to Justify it, then, I take Issue.  If they Support such things, now it has very little to do with OUR Relationship, it's much Bigger than that now.  Doesn't matter how Nice they've been to me personally then, or how long we may have known each other either, I now doubt their Character, Moral Compass and them being Good People now.  And we all will ultimately be Judged by the Company we Keep, becoz Bad Company corrupts even Good Character eventually.  And I do have Standards and Lines I won't Cross, I'm sure we all do, but they will differ, each of us has to decide what can't and shouldn't be crossed with us... or even blurred and Tolerated.  Becoz Behavior Tolerated is Behavior Accepted.

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Don't Tolerate what isn't Acceptable... Dawn... The Bohemian