Princess T went over to her Boyfriends for the rest of the Weekend and all Three Adult Kiddos went to the MMA Fights. So The Man and I are all Alone on a Saturday Night, Whoo Hoo, we could run around the House Naked if we wanted to... we just don't want to... it's been a long day. And he can't Run with his Walker anyway. *LOL and Winks* I don't know if The Daughter and The Niece will have a hard time with The Son, he drank too much before they left for the Fights. Usually he holes up in his Room when he knows he's fallen hard off the Wagon on a day he doesn't go to Work and drinks too early. But, since they had Plans and he'd spent $150 on Tickets for the MMA Fights, it wasn't like they weren't going, no Refunds. My Imagery will be really heavy on recent Holiday Celebrations coz I went on a Pathological Picture Taking Binge for them. *Smiles*
So... Strap in...
He was being a Jerk, which, when Drunk, that always happens. He gets really hostile and even argues with his damned self if there's nobody in the Room, it's Mental Illness and Autism just magnified with Alcohol. The Girls were exhibiting Dark Gallow's Humor about it, which is good, coz I was NOT. I told him he was being an Asshole and nobody wants to be around him in that condition... Yes, I'm vicious with my Words around Drunks, it's a Trigger for me. At least they have to be around him all Night, I do not, I told them to give him copious amounts of Coffee to sober his Ass up before they come back Home so I won't wanna set his stuff on Fire in the Front Yard and say Burn Baby Burn!!! *Winks* Anyway, they're all Gone for the Night, so there's Peace in the Valley and no Trouble at The Asylum or Paradise for now. *Smiles*
Eli the Cat was Singing the Song of his People and trying to open the damned Door to the Bedroom he shares with his Human. He knows how to do it. So I had to go in there and make a fuss over him, coz if he gets really Mad at his Human being gone he's been prone lately to pissing on her stuff, her Bed, well, whatever he can reach to show his contempt for her choosing her Boyfriend over spending time with him instead. *Le Sigh* He is a Rascal and he could give a Fuck how Mad she gets when she gets Home to Piss-Fest. And since nobody wants a Cat Piss smelling Home, she then has to Deep Clean everything right away. This is why she doesn't ever want Children, she can barely tolerate being a Pet Parent and putting up with his Prodigal Fur-Child Nonsense! *Ha ha ha*
I did a lot of Work Today putting Halloween away, it's 90% done now, 10% left on the Front Porch and then it will just be an Autumnal Decor Vibe of Harvest Themed Decorations left on it until Thanksgiving is a Wrap. I have been asked on occasion, with having a European Welsh Mom and a Native American Dad, did we have conflicting sentiments about Celebrating Thanksgiving? In a Word, Yes. Had I been the Indigenous I wouldn't have Invited the Pilgrims to Dinner. *Winks* History shows us that it didn't end Well at all for the Native Americans of this whole Continent, any of them, in spite of their initial Hospitality. My Mom's Country doesn't Celebrate Thanksgiving so it was a foreign Holiday and concept to her anyway and she never understood why Dad Celebrated it at all! *LOL*
Later in Life, after we Grew Up, since they didn't have to just do if for us Kids anymore, so we wouldn't stand out even more amongst General Population as the very 'Different' Family in so many ways, they both quit Celebrating it at all. I'd bring over a Plate of the Food for them tho' every Thanksgiving, spend Time with each of them. They were Divorced and living Separately by then, after 36 Years of Marriage they called it a Wrap... and they'd eat it, we weren't opposed to Food as a Family, after all. *Bwahahahahaha* I don't know that any of my Paternal Relatives on the Rez Celebrate Thanksgiving at all, never seen any Posts that they do or ever have??? And definitely none of my Relatives in Wales even Understand or Celebrate American Holidays. And none of our Relatives in Mexico do either. But I think Thanksgiving is a very neglected Holiday anyway.
Except for Selling Thanksgiving specific Food, it's not a big Commercially profitable one, unless you Raise Turkeys, who eats them most of the rest of the Year? Well, mebbe at Christmas??? Then Turkeys pretty much get a reprieve for the rest of the Year really, we're not clamoring to purchase a 12-25 lb. Bird most of the rest of the Year. And it's harder to find the smaller Turkeys, so unless you have lots of Mouths to Feed, it can amount to a shit ton of leftovers and creative ways to use it up after Thanksgiving. By Day No. 2 I'm pretty much Over eating Turkey and don't have room in the Fridge to have a lot of leftovers that perhaps won't get eaten. Coz we're not Big on leftovers really, everyone forgets about them or wants something fresh and different. So, this Year, "Golden Corral" it is, Twenty Bucks each, no Work, no Mess or Cleanup, no leftovers, all you can eat in one sitting of it all that somebody else Cooks and Cleans Up after... Works for us this Thanksgiving.
We never have had some of the Family Fights some folks endure during Thanksgiving Get-Togethers, coz frankly, we don't discuss Politics or Lifestyle Choices during a Gathering. The only time we ever had a Fight at Thanksgiving was one of the 1st Years that The Man and I were Married and he insisted on Inviting my Mom TO Thanksgiving Dinner. I tried to explain to him this would not be a good idea. First of all, she doesn't Celebrate the Holiday. Second of all, she prefers I just deliver her a Plate of the Food after we Celebrate the Holiday and just visit with her at her Home, she's Old now and set very much in her ways. My Parents were never big on Visiting Grown Kids Homes, they preferred we go to their Homes and Visit and that was always what worked best. But, he insisted, I relented, she and he got into a huge heated Argument about ZIP CODES... I shit you NOT!!!
It was whether Luke AFB had its own Zip Code or used the Zip Code of the City it's in? OMG I shit you not! As if anyone really gives a shit, Right?! But, lemme tell ya something about my Mom AND The Man, they both have THE NEED TO BE RIGHT, and so neither was backing down and it was a Hill they were ready to go to Battle Over... and him to Die on... coz, she's a formidable Adversary, he had no Idea, he was pretty "New". *Bwahaha* Listen, that Old Welsh Gypsy will put fucking Hexes on you Man, and so for a couple Years they didn't Speak after that coz I shuffled her irate Ass on Home before Dinner even got Served at our House. So that we could eat it in Peace and Tranquility and not have Thanksgiving totally ruined... and I brought her a Plate of it with us. And she and The Man had a very volatile relationship the whole time she was among the Living. But, he'd do anything for her and she'd do anything for him... it was complicated... they are both complicated and Mom was Crazy. He didn't Factor In how Crazy my Familia is/was/will always be. *LOL*
And Listen, I'm one of those No Drama Mamas and so I will forfeit MY Need to be Right in Favor of Peace, you Hear me. Do you wanna be Right or do you Value your Peace and not having your Calm Disturbed? And I told The Man the Key to avoiding Confrontation and Arguments is that if someone NEEDS to be Right, or has a difference of Opinion, be it him or anyone else, I don't really Care or give a Fuck at all... so... Four Simple Words will Solve any Problems as my response to anyone initiating Confrontation or being Argumentative:
YOU COULD BE RIGHT.
And then I just Walk away. *Winks and Smiles*
Yes, it drives them Crazy, but they're left Holding that Space, coz, what could they say? I didn't say they WERE Right, I didn't say they were WRONG either. And I frankly don't Care or have any Fucks to Give either way coz my Calm is not being or going to be disturbed and I maintain my Peace. Shuts that shit down immediately tho'. And did I really Care what Zip Code Luke AFB has? I don't Live there, in fact, I don't really Care what Zip Code you have either. I'm not Obsessed or Impressed with Zip Codes, or which are the Right and desired ones or Wrong and undesired ones. And I don't work for the fucking Post Office so it's not important to me to get it Right unless I'm mailing you something and Need to Know what yours is so the Post Office can get it to ya and not waste my Cost of a Stamp. *LOL*
My Kiddos also loathe that it's difficult to provoke me into an Argument about anything, I just don't Care enough to Argue about whatever it might be or is. If it's something you are so passionate or Obsessed about you come unhinged, and lose your shit about it, that's for you to sort out, not my Problem and I won't let it be either. I am apt to even tell you, if you are like a Dog with a Bone about it and can't or won't just Let It Go, "I just don't Care." End of the whole Conversation for me, coz now I'm Checking Out and you're wasting your Breath and our Time. It's become just a Monologue, not a Dialogue. Remember in the "Peanuts" Comic Strip where the Teacher's Voice, Miss Othmar, was just squawking with no actual Words? Wah wa wah wa-wah... Well, that's what I now Hear after I've Tuned you the Fuck Out and my Adult ADHD Kicks in to High Gear so you've completely Lost my Focus and Attention anyway, Boring me. *LOL & Winks*
I'm contemplating, since I don't have anything on the Agenda for Sunday, whether to go back to the Gardens for the final day of Dia de los Muertos being Celebrated there as an Event in Real Time, Sunday the 8th? I could load The Man's Wheelchair up and take him and that would also let me experience the Mercado, if not the Procession, since, I doubt we'd stay 'til late when they have it at almost Dusk. I usually attend very early when they first Open so that we have a lot of it to ourselves for an Hour or Two before Crowds usually show up. Everything is Wheelchair accessible, and that would be easier than Renting a
Scooter and not being sure he could work it properly or not be mowing people over with it. *Smiles*
Even before Dementia, he in a Scooter was a Road and Pedestrian Hazard, as so many folks in Scooters often are. Something about being on a Scooter makes the Rider feel Entitled to not have common courtesies and know that Pedestrians still have the Right of Way if you're in any Motorized Vehicle that could injure or perhaps even kill someone if you're out of control operating it irresponsibly, angrily or recklessly. The moment I saw he got irate and aggressive while behind the Wheel of one, forget about it, you're not Safe to be in control of one. I've had to confront people on Scooters who have tried to run into me, or run me over, or bully Pedestrians into conceding to their Vehicle aggressively. That if they don't wanna be yanked off that thing and don't have the Ability to still Run so I don't kick your Ass, back the Fuck Up and don't EVER Threaten me with it. I've gotten Applause from other Shoppers for doing and saying that, coz those Scooter Riders are a Menace when they are misusing it in Public and being a dangerous Threat behind the Wheel of one.
One Younger Morbidly Obese Woman in a GOODWILL once got Mouthy with me while on her Scooter trying to Buffalo past me in a too narrow Aisle. She got right up to where she actually bumped into me! Then had the Nerve to have a Mouth on her too, Oh Hell to the NO! I went Postal and Hood on her Ass and told her loudly I'd yank her Fat Ass right off it and trash her Scooter for Touching me with it if she dared to again!!! She put that fucker in Reverse so damned fast and headed for the Exit. Even the Employees Applauded me coz she'd been intimidating all kinds of Customers and even Children with her damned Scooter and feeling Entitled to misbehave coz she was on one and too Fat to Walk. So I knew for sure she was too Fat to Run or last in a Brawl/Fight. Her Mouth could get her Fat Ass handed to her if she isn't Careful in the Future and picks the Wrong One to get Froggy with. Coz if you're feelin' Froggy, go ahead... Leap. I won't even say a Word before I fuck you up. *In Self Defense... of coarse... coz it's what a Jury Believes that Counts. LOL*
Anyway, mostly, unless someone is the initiator of Trouble I'd rather avoid it completely. But some Public are just out there spoiling for Trouble and it shows. I'd still rather engage in avoidance at all costs, ignoring them if possible. Coz it's not worth having a Good Day turning into a Bad One on account of anybody whose a Rando out there causing Trouble. People who just can't Get Along and Play Well with others... and to them, we're all "Others" coz they're prone to "Othering" and being Theatrical about it. There's just so many of them these days, too many of them in fact. And I'm Old and rather not have my Calm or Peace disturbed by them, as we've mentioned before. I Wake Up every Day in a Good Mood with the Joy of Jesus in my Heart and the New Day being filled with Possibilities of it being a Positive one if I can make it happen like that. But I sure see a lot of the Public that just seem Angry and Confrontational all of the time. Often for no apparent reason that probably involves me personally, or probably not you either, but they may Project it all on me, you, or anyone handy... and many do. They have Tortured Souls I guess.
And during the Holy Days/Holidays is when so many of these types of People seem to be the most Aggressive, the most apt to act Inappropriately, even if they're allegedly Celebrating the Holidays and what they should mean. *Eye Roll* Think Black Fridays for an Example. I NEVER do a Black Friday, nothing on this Earth that I want or Need to endure that melee and throng of inappropriately behaving people vying for a Discounted TV or something. And Losing their Shit in Public to get it at all costs during a Holiday where allegedly Peace on Earth and Goodwill towards Men should prevail, if they were Practicing it properly. *Bigger Eye Roll*
So, I didn't get to bed until late to ensure the Trio of Kiddos that went to the MMA Fights in the Far East Valley all got Home safely and without incident. Coz, since The Son was already Drunk before they left the House to go, and being a Jerk, I knew that it likely wasn't gonna End Well, and, it didn't. They had to leave early, after his Friend's Fight, which was 5th on the Schedule, becoz he had continued to Drink, I suppose he snuck a Voodoo Ranger into The Niece's Car and drank it on the way, which pissed her off coz she doesn't allow open containers in her Vehicle. And then they probably Sell Alcohol at that kind of an Event too, pretty sure. And an Alcoholic on a Bender isn't someone anyone wants to be around. So, I got Calls from both The Niece and The Daughter to say he was being belligerent and they'd have been tempted to strand and leave him there except they wanted to ensure his Safety Home since they'd brought him there and he was close to being Blackout Drunk.
It got hairy on the ride Home since he picked a fight with his Sister and The Niece felt she was impaired by having someone not handling their Alcohol in the Vehicle. She's a very cautious and timid Driver anyway, so I was relieved when they got Home, dumped him off and called me again to say they were driving around the Block and just wanted him inside and to go to Bed and Sleep it off before I come unhinged on him after he's sobered up. They both don't want him kicked out, but I think they know nobody wants this kind of Stress and Drama or Substance Abuse in the Home either. So, he's got some hard decisions to make about his arrangements. Keep drinking and you can't be here... but maintaining his Sobriety has been short-term at best, he's found it way harder than getting Clean from Opioid Addiction, which he conquered and has stayed Clean with no relapses in over Six Years now. Addictions are a difficult Demon to Wrestle with for a Lifetime. If you are an Addict you know this, if you know an Addict you've probably dealt with what the Wake of and Addict causes to everyone else.
So, I really dunno if he'll be able to stay here or have to be asked to make other Arrangements, that will be on him as to what Choices he makes, Alcohol or Relationships and an easier Row to Hoe Sober? He doesn't have as many Options as his Sister to find other Arrangements, she has lots of people who have and will take her in when she's not doing Well. When he's not doing Well he pretty much knows he's chosen a Hard Path to go on Life's Journey thru if nobody is willing to Tolerate his Unwellness or be able to Cope with it. I have a difficult enough time Coping with everyone's Illness of the Mental variety and Physical varieties, let alone any Addictions they add to that mix. So, I just don't Cope with Addictions, don't want to, don't have to, don't need someone else's Addictions complicating my Home Life either and disrupting my Calm. He's running out of Chances and so his Choices are narrowing, so he best choose carefully and Mindfully. He has no Transportation due to Drinking, he has Court appointed conditions to driving due to a DUI several Years ago, and doesn't have an operational Vehicle anymore either.
So, he's either riding a Bike or Walking to his Work every day and he does go to Work every day, he's a hard Worker and reliable on a Job. So, I'd call him a Functional Alcoholic, I've known many people like that. They juggle a demanding and/or successful Career or Job, all the while being a Closeted Alcoholic in their Personal Lives. Sometimes, and quite often actually, their Personal Lives then become a Train Wreck due to their Alcoholism. And Wreck the Lives of many of their Loved Ones who've had to Deal with who they become once under the influence and/or an out of control Drunken Hot Mess. The Son is becoming increasingly Angry and Violent when Drunk, which, he never was before, so, he has to go if he can't behave well and verbally or physically have Control over himself.
Otherwise, he's likely to catch Charges and end up in Jail too coz I have Zero Tolerance for verbal or physical abuse of anyone. The mutual combat he and his Sister get into is not Okay either... she prefers not to engage with him coz she knows he Triggers her and only is like this when he's had too much to Drink. She's an Alcoholic but drinks moderately, not until she's in a stupor and acting Stupid. I don't want anyone Homeless again or losing Employment, but I can't get Sober FOR anyone either. So that's on them if they can't and find it impairs their ability to make good Life's Choices and therefore make a Hard Life for themselves that could have been avoided with Sobriety. Be an Addict and you have to Live like one, and suffer the consequences of your Addiction and what it causes for you, it's just how I see it. Be a Drunk and be Alone is how it usually ends up when you drive everyone off who ever Cared. And Burn all your Bridges with Alcohol that fuels those Fires. And now for the Political Satire for Today's Post:
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