Weddings And In-Laws And Grandson, Oh My!!! Lots To Unpack!!!

 The Young Prince called early to let us have a Heads Up that Allen's Grandpa and Dad should be arriving before he does Today.  He's got a long Layover in Denver again and hasn't arrived there yet, hopes the Weather in Denver doesn't delay or cancel Flights further?   Google says 57 and Sunny, which is actually Warmer than Phoenix is Today, it's 49 and Sunny here.  You just can't predict Weather much anymore due to Climate Changes, but I'm glad he's not having Flight cancellation issues.  He told me he only is bringing Two pieces of Furniture and the rest is Smalls in larger Boxes with lots of padding to keep it from having breakage.  I'm relieved to hear that.  I'm sure most is his Art and he left everything else with Allen to try to make it a more amicable breakup on his part.

When Allen doesn't have the strain of Full Time Employment coupled with Full Time Caregiving and supporting another Person who cannot Work, he likely will do better too?   It was a Lot from the beginning and I know he Works hard at a demanding Career at the Slaughterhouse, so I won't put all blame on him for what transpired between them.  Having a Healthy Spouse can be Challenging, have one requiring Caregiving magnifies that and Allen has Mental Health challenges as well, so magnify that yet again.  Plus, being a Gay Couple in a very Homophobic Community, now magnify it all yet again. 

  So, he's never liked where they moved to at all and can't wait to leave.  It's not even affordable as a draw now becoz their Rent doubled recently from $600 to $1,200 for a substandard small Cottage Home built in probably the 1930's and in deferred condition.  I saw pixs, it looks very Rural Poor.  And our Grandson says most seem Poorly Educated.  Hostile, Biased and Uneducated Equals potentially volatile and dangerous.   So, he's never felt at all Safe there outside of his Home, so when it felt Unsafe within his own Home too, it became intolerable for him and he was barely hanging on and didn't know quite what to do?  He had no Money and no Friends or other Family there.   I was very Afraid FOR him being Safe, I ain't gonna Lie.  My concerns Elevated considerably as he Opened up more, even tho' he hadn't wanted to Worry or Alarm me... since, he knows I got a Lot going on here.

 Our Grandson said it's not an LGBTQ+ Friendly area, too near the Texas Border to be.   So not one of the more Progressive or Blue portions of New Mexico like some parts might be, or bigger Cities.  It's considered a Blue State, but he said their area leans Extreme Right and Deep Red.  And most of the Community there commute to Texas to find Work and since he's been to Texas as well, he said it seems more like Texas than New Mexico towards him.  

 He can't fly under the Radar like Allen can, The Young Prince is Transgender and Fabulous even when Presenting as Male, he's often still mistaken as being Female, even when he was a Kid.   Since Allen is very Macho and Masculine appearing by contrast, so most people can't tell he's Gay at all, the Military never caught on.  So Allen can live there... and in Texas... plus he has Family in Texas and would prefer to just be there with his Grandparents again.  Which, it may come to that.  He's done Ranch Work with the Animals/Cattle on his Grandparent's Ranch since he was 14, so is a Big Help to them.

Plus Allen is a big, strong Guy, ex Special Forces.   So even tho' he doesn't make a Secret of being Gay anymore, nobody messes with him due to his Sexuality, they figure they'd get their Asses handed to them if they did.  And they'd be right about that.  Whereas The Young Prince has seemed Feminine enuf, and Frail looking, that foolish folks have thought him to be easy to Target for violence.  Forgetting, he's still a Man and had to Learn fast how to be tough, kick Ass and take Names.  He grew up Trans, Seriously Mentally Ill, and Biracial... a Trifecta shitty Hand Dealt, in Da Hood, in a very rough Barrio, need I say more?  He can actually hand Allen his Ass, and has had to, but he's usually Meek, Peace Loving and Kind, and doesn't have a Bad Temper. 

 But can be Triggered, especially when threatened, and a Paranoid Schizophrenic who CAN Fight, isn't someone you want to provoke to a Defensive posture.  When he goes Mental, not many can restrain him or Win that Fight.   Like me tho', he's never started a Fight in his Life, but has ended many with a flourish as well.  We tend to be Harmonious and Peace Loving People until attacked, then it's ON.  And he didn't want it to keep unfolding like that with Allen when he didn't feel Safe together anymore and Allen cannot manage his Anger appropriately.  DV is never a Joke in any Relationship and if you're the Victim of it you NEED to always get out ASAP of that Relationship.  It only ever escalates. 

 And if someone is not in Control of themselves, is prone to putting their Hands on someone in Anger as their first response, and is prone to being and initiating Violence, you cannot Trust them.   The Domestic Violence Bureau of the DA's Office had some of the most habitual Violent Offenders that were Prosecuted for their Crimes, which often were some of the most horrific vicious Crimes too.   And since Allen's Grandpa is a prominent Retired Prosecutor from a very large State, he knows this as well as I do.  It's very likely Why he and his Son-In-Law are doing what they're doing to help our Grandson get back to Arizona with all of his things so that he never has to risk going back?  That's my Take on it, they both seem to be decent, level-headed Men of Honor and Integrity.  I really Liked Allen's Parents and Sister when I met them, only Good Vibes.

The Grandparents mostly Raised Allen coz he was a Handful due to his Autism and what I suspect is also Bipolar I Condition.  He's very close to his Grandparents, but had been Estranged for many, many Years from his Parents, who couldn't manage him and sustain Relationship either.  It is hard if someone has a high degree of Autism on the Spectrum, Allen has it way worse than The Son, and with The Son a little bit of him could go a long way and most Adults couldn't manage him when he was a mere Child, let alone a Grown and Strong Man.  The Son tho', has never started a Fight, he too has ended any someone else initiated with him, with a flourish too tho'.  *Winks*  The Son can REALLY Fight and has to Hold Back or he knows he could really harm someone, coz he's relentless if he has to Fight and will not Stop and is oblivious to Pain.

So he had Warned Allen a few times here, when he could see Allen's tendencies, Listen, if you ever harm anyone in my Family, I'm Coming for you Fool.   He's very Protective of his Nephew, as The Daughter and I also are of The G-Kid Force.   So Allen knew he'd have at the very least a Trio of us Coming for him.  And that's not Counting The Man, who Allen got kicked out of here for calling me a Bitch in front of The Man, and my Husband took a Swing at him and luckily Allen is well Trained in Hand to Hand Combat too so managed not to be taken down... but it could have gone very badly so I came out and immediately told him he couldn't Live here anymore.  The Name calling was disrespectful and I heard it, tho' he didn't see me when he said it so didn't realize I was close enuf to hear what he said.  *Winks*  It didn't bother me one Iota, Name Calling is Weak and Childish, it doesn't Phase nor Offend me actually.  I've been Called Worse.   :Shrugs:

I simply flew out of The RV Garage Mahal at the time, upon hearing him foolishly say that TO my Husband, "Your Wife is a Bitch..."   Them IS Fighting Words to say to any Man about his Beloved.  And, Ruh Roh, I knew then, Shit's getting Too Real and has hit the Fan, better Referee that Situation STAT.  By then Allen saw me heading straight for him, The Son and The Young Prince were trying to restrain The Man, since they knew Allen has really fucked up in Spades now.   And he was Aware he had, but there was no redemption this time around, it was the last straw, he'd used up all his chances with me.

 I just Calmly then stood Toe to Toe with Allen, within inches of his Face and told him, pretty much, "Listen Boy, I'm not "A" Bitch, I'm "THE" Bitch, and that will be Mrs. Bitch to you Son... now get the Hell outta my Home, you've crossed a Line with my Husband and I, you're no longer Welcome here.  Be Well and Be Gone."   He Cried, his Tears didn't Move me.  The Young Prince Warned him not to piss me off further coz I could go from Calm to Psycho in a Heartbeat, and Grandpa was already provoked to Wrath, so, it was Time for them to just leave.  I put a new Wheel on their Car, helped them load up their stuff, and took them to Breakfast, no Hard Feelings, you just can't be here anymore Allen.  I knew it put The Young Prince in a Spot, but he understood.

And that's how and Why they got kicked out, not becoz of our Grandson doing anything Wrong, but becoz his Husband had Crossed Line after Line of Boundaries clearly outlined and set, non-negotiable ones.  And if you don't stay in your own Lane here, and can't get along and Play Well with Others, you just HAVE to make other Arrangements.  Those are The Rules, even if you're Family.   I felt bad throwing The Young Prince to the Curb too, but they were a Married Couple and we'd tried to live Harmoniously with his Husband, and it just wasn't Working Out here either.  They'd been kicked out of other Arrangements over the Years due to Allen, so, The Young Prince said he was used to it.  He never got kicked out due to anything he ever did or said to anyone... even being a Schizophrenic.  Coz mostly he Isolates and doesn't People very much at all.  And when he can't handle Peopling, he'd rather be Solitary by Choice.

It's not to say Living with a Schizophrenic, or Two of them in our Case, is easy, it is NOT, and each Day can be a New Adventure.  I do not think Allen could handle that with his own Issues going on that he wasn't Managing all that Well either.   He certainly couldn't manage this Arrangement of Multi-Generational Living and knew that coz he got them kicked out of the Hippie Commune they were living at in Washington State too.  Those on the Spectrum of Autism have a difficult time living with other folks as well.  They generally lack a Filter and shit goes straight from their Brains and falls out their Mouths often, with zero Diplomacy or Tact and Propriety.  I know this, so I have Pity for Allen Living with his Diagnosed Condition, it's a Tough Row to Hoe for him... and will be, coz, no Cure exists.  He's pretty High Functional, like The Son is, and tries to integrate into Society as best he can.  I do Wish him Well and his Family.  I'm sure they Worry about him constantly.

Coupled with us having Out Of State Company our Neighbors are Hosting that Wedding of their 65+ Year Old Son to his Preggy 25 Year Old Girlfriend, whose our Friend Amber's Oldest Daughter.  She is the ONLY one not invited to the Wedding!  Ruh Roh.  Which, isn't Right, she's the Bride's Mother and the excuse being used is she doesn't get along with TJ's Mother.  And the ONLY reason that is seems to be that Amber strongly disagreed with Sylvia's Elderly Son getting her Young Daughter, whose also a Vulnerable Adult, Pregnant, not once, but Twice.  And her Daughter is not really fit to be a Parent, TJ allegedly has Stage 4 Cancer and even if he was/is Well, he has Grandchildren almost as Old as this Girl!!!   

And, he's already committed DV against Amber's Daughter while she was Pregnant, to where for a while she split with him and moved in with her Grandparents!  The 40+ Year Age difference, plus is DV History with Anna, his previous Wife, is known by his Parents.  I don't know how they expected her Mother and her Maternal Grandparents and Father to react to all of this?  They Invited Joe, her Dad, to the Wedding, I doubt he will show up, but, you never know, he really is opposed to this and he's the one that Raised their Three Daughters since they were little, due to Amber's level of Disability.  She's a Special Needs Adult herself and a Judge deemed he'd be the more Fit Parent for their Girls and so he got Custody, with his New Wife, when they were little.  He was Career Military, so Amber never got to see much of her Children growing up.

Now they're Grown she's finally a part of their Lives, and they've gotten more exposure to their Maternal Grandparents too.  So, tho' Amber didn't get to Raise them, she's very Protective of them and knows her Ex is too.  So, it's not like anyone on the Girl's Side of the Family is Okay with any of this.  They know, when this all goes Sideways, as it certainly will one way or another, whether TJ Lives or Dies, that Girl won't be capable of Parenting this Child she's having by an Old Man.  She's not Employable, coz she's VERY Special Needs, so she has zero Income and is dependent on whoever she's Living with at the time... be it her Dad, Grandparents or TJ's Parents.  Shit, he's over 65 and HE'S still living with his Octogenarian Parents and Dependent upon them!!!  He's been Married at least Twice before... has Kids, Grandkids, and I don't know how good a Husband or Parent he's ever been?

Now, the only Saving Grace, perhaps, should, Amber and/or her Parents end up with all this responsibility of getting this Child Raised.  And her Mom has Stage 4 Cancer and her Dad is almost 80.  Is, that the Moment this Child is Born he qualifies for Social Security Benefits coz his Paternal Parent is Social Security Aged.  So, at least the Kid should come with a Check and I told Amber to look into that to help Support this Baby, coz TJ doesn't Work, her Daughter isn't Employable, right now they live with and are dependent upon his Parents who are in their Mid-80's now and have their other even Older Special Needs Son, Rob, also living with and dependent upon them.  So, it's a Lot to unpack right there.  I'm glad I had an excuse to decline attending the Wedding when Rob asked this Morning.  The Son, The Man and I don't want to seem Supportive at all about any of it.

I don't Like Amber's Daughter, I don't Respect TJ, and tho' I Like our Neighbors and have no problems with TJ's Brother Rob, and am still Friends with TJ's Ex, Anna, I feel sorry in my Heart for this soon to be Born Child who arrives in March or April.   I just pray it's Born Healthy and has no Issues, but the Odds aren't particularly in Favor of that and Amber is really Worried about that too.  There's some genetically hereditary factors that make it higher risk for it having Special Needs on both sides of it's Family Tree.   Sylvia and Tom seem Well, Fine and in great Shape for their Age, but out of their Three Sons, Two of them have Special Needs.  In Amber's Family she and One of her Three Brothers have Special Needs.   And Two of her Three Daughters have Special Needs.  I wouldn't be Surprised if this Child doesn't end up in Foster Care.

Anyway, that's their Issues of Life to sort out.  I feel badly for Amber and her Family, this is going to be her first Grandchild and she's legitimately worried about it and being blocked out of being even at the Wedding for not reason other than she has spoken Truth about her Concerns to his Family.  I really like Sylvia and Tom, they know how their Son is, but enabling his inappropriate behaviors isn't Helpful at all.  Anna was very good to them and they knew she stuck around and stuck it out only as long as she did becoz of them. 

 She was concerned about their Welfare and was often involved Hands On with Caregiving and taking Care of their Property, so is Rob... but TJ has always been the one whose behaving like a Teen Boy instead of someone whose beyond Grown, he's a Senior now who still hadn't Grown Up or acted like a Grown Up.  He's on his 4th Vehicle, a Jeep this time, the others being repossessed.  He didn't Buy a Family Car even tho' he has a Child coming.   And he does Foolish things like that constantly and doesn't act even close to his Age and lacks any Maturity or sense of Responsibility for his Actions and Decisions or Obligations.

Before he had a drop top Corvette, it got repossessed, then he had a Big full sized Tricked Out Dually Truck, it got repossessed.  And now a Jeep with no Roof... not a type of Vehicle to drive your Newborn around in.  And he wants to go Rat Rodding with it like a Big Kid.  *Eye Roll*  Pretty sure the Parents Paid for all the Vehicles when he couldn't make the Payments, but, eventually they still got repossessed, he's just not financially responsible, has a Gambling Problem, and has to be bailed out numerous times all of the time according to Anna.  She often talked about it all to me like I was a 2nd Mom, when she was Married to him.  I Like Anna a lot, she had no Children by him, but had a Teen Son by her 1st Husband, a good Kid, he didn't Like TJ so wouldn't live with them. I was glad when she finally left TJ, he was abusive.  She was our Daughter's Age, so about 20+ Years his Junior, now he's Traded her in for one 40+ Years his Junior, it's Creepy IMO.

Moving On... I don't like Witnessing anyone's Train Wreck, but I ain't standing on the Tracks either expecting to Stop it.  And once someone is over 18, if they're High Functional "Enough" you cannot make decisions for them if they wanna make Poor ones.  Having Special Needs and impaired Family Members myself, I realize how complicated that can become and how it can spill over into your Life whether you Like it or not.   Today I was gonna distract myself in The She Shed Pricing more Inventory but I already have the Back Seat of my Truck filled with Banana Crates full of it ready to go and won't likely get to the Antique Mall at all Today with everything going on and not knowing when the Company will arrive, or The Young Prince arriving once he knows when he's leaving Denver after the long Layover?   He's expecting to be Home Tonight, but can't tell for sure when Allen's Dad and Grandpa will get here Driving from New Mexico?  I'm glad there's Two of them and not just his Grandpa making such a long Trip.

I don't know if they Rented a U-Haul?  I know they Bankrolled the Flight and getting here with his Stuff and will likely require a Motel/Hotel here and not try a turnaround Marathon Drive.   We simply have no Resources to cover any of it, so it's gracious and generous of Allen's Relatives to do this for our Grandson so he's not Trapped in a Situation he cannot afford to get out of financially.   The Young Prince's Dad had Bankrolled the last Trip here, coz Bobby is just as concerned as we were but he couldn't afford to do it Twice around the Holidays, coz he has a Family and Smaller Children.   Bobby knew it wasn't permanent that time but understood his Son's concerns about moving back unless he felt it would Work Out and be the Right Thing to do, given everyone's circumstances being what they just are.   

He spent a lot of time with his Son during that Visit and I'm sure talked at great length about it all.  His New Wife is very Supportive of our Grandson and they get along great apparently, I haven't met her.  But what I've heard so far from my Grandson, she seems a good match for his Dad and they seem to be supportive of doing what they can for him.  He has a good time anytime he goes over to visit with them and do things with them, they have similar Interests and she's not a lot Older than our Grandson, so, there's that Generational Bond.  Bobby is another one whose gone Younger and Younger with each successive Relationship.  

He and The Daughter were exactly the same Age, only a few Months apart.  Then Angie, he was with a long time and they have a Son and Daughter Together, was much Younger and they were Engaged Forever but never actually got Married.  Now this one is Younger than Angie was.  We all Liked and got along fabulously with Angie and Adored the Kids of coarse.  they consider us their other Grandparents, even tho' there's no Biological Connection to them, we consider them our Grandkids since they are our Grandson's Younger Siblings by another Mother than our Daughter.  It's the same with Siblings of Princess T that her Dad Fathered by other Women, they're still her Siblings and so we consider them Family.

It's dynamic is complicated, but most Modern Family Dynamics are.  The Nuclear Family is no longer Traditionally like it once was and I'm Okay with that.  Family is Family, people can't tell you what constitutes Family to you.   For some folks, even their Biological Family they're not close to and have no Relationship with.   For other folks even Strangers or their Community become their Surrogate Family for lack of having a Biological one.    LATER: Amber came over and is paying The Daughter to Dye and do her Hair coz TJ's Family relented and invited her and her Mom, Rosemary, to the Wedding too.  *Whew*  What swayed them is her Ex, Joe, said to them that he's bringing his Ex-Wife, whose the Mother of his Children, to her Daughter's Wedding.  They Invited him and just assumed he'd bring his New Wife, but had told him he could bring any Guest... and he chose Amber.  I'm Proud of Joe for doing that.

In fact, he told Amber that his Wife isn't getting along with him over this whole Pregnancy of the Oldest that nobody is Okay with coz they foresee he'll end up with the Grandbaby.  So, he told Amber, Listen, it might end up being you and me back Together again to get this Grandchild Raised when it's dumped on us.  I think, he could be Right, but it gives Amber some comfort to know that tho' he doesn't wanna be Raising another Generation of Kids, and his Wife did Raise his Three Kids by Amber, she's not Okay with taking a Grandbaby of his in to Raise too.  Which, is legitimate on her part, but Joe said he could never forsake a Grandchild and have it go to Foster Care of Strangers, he's very Family First and Oriented and was a good Dad, Traditional and Strict with his Girls, they were very Sheltered in fact and naive.  A lot of Sheltered Raised Kids do go Buck Wild once Grown and can make Bad Decisions without Strict Parental interference.  

I am glad she's going, she wanted to and said she will Behave.  *LOL*  I told her she better, coz it's the reason they were hesitant to have her there, so, don't prove them Right.   So, anyway, Amber is here getting her Hair did to look good for Wedding Pixs.  I don't know what Time the Wedding is, they're having it at TJ's Parent's House next door, they have a big Beautiful Back Yard setup, and I'm sure they're having their Church help them with Organizing it, they're devout LDS and the Church Folk are over there every Weekend anyway.  Apparently one of the Uncle's is Officiating, he's Ordained or something.   And due to circumstances, I'm sure it's more a low key affair than a Traditional Wedding and done rather on The Fly before that Baby is Born. 

My 1970's Harvest Colored Tupperware Bowl Trio with Lids arrived Today, they're in Mint Condition for their Age and the Price of them had been so reasonable I thought it was just for the Trio of Lids and not the Bowls too!!!   I've had 99.9% excellent experiences Buying from E-Bay over the Years.   The only Negative Experience I ever had was resolved amicably.  The Seller didn't know what they had and hadn't described it with accuracy, so when it had arrived, Years ago, I wasn't pleased.  It wasn't as described and you couldn't tell by the Pixs that the Quality wasn't there either or the composition of it.  They'd Sold something as an Authentic French Antique Religious Statuary item from Lourdes, that was a Reproduction and Plastic.  

It had looked like Chalkware or a Composite in their Pixs of it.   The Seller refunded me part of my Purchase Price.  I don't think they realized it was a Repop, it happens, I never felt they were being intentionally deceptive and they did resolve it to my satisfaction.  I think I still have the damned thing.  *LOL*  I've bought less items from Etsy, but have had good experiences with those Sellers I have bought from there too.  I did Buy a Special Collectible Published Piece of Magnolia Pearl from Poshmark for my Collection once too, with a good experience.  It's in Robin's first Book and came with the Book too, which, I already had, but now I have a Book that goes with the Bag, showing a full Page Image of it in the Book when she had it at her own Home.  I always liked it in the Book, so Imagine how excited I was to get it Years later!

Some of The Family had Tested me Today as things amplified due to having no ETA for either Allen's Family or The Young Prince.  I figured, since they'd gone out of their way to drive all the way from Texas to New Mexico, load all our Grandsons things, put him on a Plane, and then driving all the way with it all to Arizona, the least I could do is feed them when they get here.  Whenever that is I don't know so I decided upon getting some KFC that would feed Nine People, since it's good Hot or Cold and good reheated too.  I got the last of the Chicken they had at that location, cleaned them out getting a 28 Piece Meal Deal.  *Smiles*  But then Princess T calls early to be picked up from Work and got pissy coz I asked her to meet me Outside, she wanted to Shop.

So she had herself a little Bipolar Diva Princess Moment about that even after I explained I have $100 worth of fucking Chicken from KFC with the Fixins of Mashed Potatoes, Gravy, Biscuits, Coleslaw, Corn, Green Beans and Macaroni N Cheese in the Truck!  *Oy Vey and Eye Roll*   So, she's pissy enuf she won't eat, Fine, I don't Care.  *LOL*   And then, The Man started to Act Up too so I put a Lid on that shit right away and firmly told him, I'm not in The Mood, neither of you should Press your Luck!  Sometimes now he just mimics someone else's Mood and he doesn't even know Why?  *Winks*  So, now there's no Trouble in Paradise.  *Snicker*  I Pitied the Fool who kept Acting The Fool and Acting Up!!!

  I think I have more than enuf for Nine I expect to Feed and told everyone, no Extras Today.  People are over here too due to the Wedding next door.  But, I don't have the Money at EOM to get more should this run out.  It's being Saved for the Grandpa, the Dad and Young Prince to have enuf when they arrive.   So, I told all Adult Kiddos, don't EVEN have any of your Friends wandering into that Kitchen hungry, tell them to go Eat at The Wedding.  *LOL*   Pretty sure Sylvia cooked up a Storm and had the Women's Relief Society of her Church bring Food for it too, so nobody needs to be fed over here that is Wedding bound, even if we know them.  *Smiles*  The Young Prince called, his Flight from New Mexico to Denver was an Hour Late, so the long Denver Layover was handy so he didn't miss his Connecting Flight.   He should be Landing here by 6:00 now and they should be here by 7:00 he said.  With Weddings and In-Laws and Grandson, with all his Worldly Possessions... Oh My, it's LOTS to Unpack.

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A very busy Saturday in the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

I Hope I've Entertained You

 The Family felt terrible that my Dear Blog Friend Shirley had suddenly and unexpectedly Lost her Beloved Daughter, who was doing so much Good in the World.  They feel they've gotten to 'know' Shirley and some other Dear Blog Friends that I interact with in The Land of Blog and talk of fondly and often.   Shirley has Gifted The Granddaughter and I generously, and Princess T was visibly shaken when I told her the tragic News.  My Heart is quite heavy to Process it myself, I remember watching her Daughter Win her Award on TV and she was a well known Influencer in the most Positive ways, so a great Loss to Society.   Far too Young and too Vital to the Communities she selflessly Served to be prematurely taken from this Mortal Realm and from her Family.

Speaking of Family and Crisis, I got another Call from The Young Prince last Night.  Allen's Grandpa is driving all of The Young Prince's possessions to Arizona from New Mexico!!!  He lives on a large Ranch he owns in Texas and our Grandson really Adores Allen's Maternal Grandparents, they are apparently wonderful folks and I've only heard great things about them.  It is a very Kind thing for his Grandpa to do for our Grandson and I'll be glad to finally meet him.  He's a Retired prominent Texas Prosecutor as well as a successful Cattle Rancher.  He and his Dear Wife were unable to come to their Grandson's Wedding to our Grandson so I didn't get to meet them when we got to meet Allen's Parents.  I liked his Parents very much, and his Sister, who came also.

In fact, I liked the whole Family and felt they are good In-laws for our Grandson to have.  I only Unfriended on Social Media when I knew the Boys were splitting up coz I felt it might be awkward for both Families.  I did the same when The Son broke up with his Ex, even tho' we Adore her and the Children, it became awkward after they were no longer together.  It's always difficult when a Relationship doesn't work out, especially when it's been a long-term one with considerably Shared History.   I don't know if Allen's Dad is joining the Grandpa, I Hope the Grandpa isn't making such a long trip alone driving across Country?  He's mebbe a little Younger than The Man is, but in good shape and Health.

I'm sure we'll like him and the fact he's doing this for our Grandson is Priceless since The Young Prince was becoming distraught about the safety of himself and his belongings.  It has got to be awkward for Allen's Family since they only had his Parents attempt to reconcile with him themselves after the Marriage to our Grandson.  We all strongly encouraged it since Family is everything and it pained us to see him estranged from his Family.  He has Issues, the major one being his Autism, which makes Relationships tricky and difficult anyway with the Autistic.  It really takes Work on the part of Family accepting that Autism can be a barrier Relationally that the Person cannot Help.  I suspect Allen is Bipolar as well, having it myself, I recognize it in someone else easily.

He takes Meds for his Mental Illness and they had been working, but then his Employer at the time changed the Medical Provider and then the Meds weren't covered.  They cost $300 a Month and both he and The Young Prince were on the Wellbutrin, it had been managing our Grandson's Mental Illness fairly successfully as well.  He had to quit taking his so that Allen could afford his.  The Young Prince felt that out of the Two of them, Allen required it more coz he was the Breadwinner of the Family and had to go to Work and be most functional.   It's an Antidepressant and I am familiar with it, tho' nobody in our Family had ever been prescribed it, folks I know who took it had good results from taking it.  But $300 Monthly for one Prescription is steep to pay Out of Pocket. 

Work called me 1.5 Hours before a Shift starts to ask if I'd cover for someone not showing up at the last Minute again, I declined.  The Daughter was cooking Supper and I hadn't eaten yet.   I'd spent all Day doing work here at home on the Diningroom tidying it up and Crating up stuff to Sell and to Keep but put in The RV Garage Mahal and She Shed, also to drop off at Princess T's Work to Donate.  So, I was too hungry and too tired to rush there and cover for a Co-Worker who isn't giving adequate notification when they don't intend to show up for their Regular Shift.  I could have used the Comped Space Rent, sure, Sales are Soft enuf it helps, but, sometimes it's just not worth it, especially on a Friday Night.

And the Mormon Missionaries came by and wanted to 'visit' with The Man.  The Son sent them away saying his Dad hasn't been Well and is Resting, so not up to Visitors.  Then they asked The Son if they could 'visit' with him and he said, "No, I'm an Atheist."   And they said, "So, you won't want to come to Church then?"  And he says, "No, don't think so."  I was trying hard not to Laugh coz he was Polite but Deadpanning his responses, and just making shit up on The Fly to make them go away, but sounding Serious and convincing.  He always went to Church with me, but like me, isn't in Agreement about Proselytizing folks and trying to convert those who already have their own Brand of Spirituality that should just be Respected.  If someone is actively Seeking God or a Church, they have the ability to choose without pressure or harassment from any Religion in our Opinion.   Plus he found it Amusing their Name Tags said "Elder ____" and they looked to be about 15.  *Ha ha ha*  He came in saying how "Elder" can a Guy be if you Wonder if he is Mature enuf yet to even have Hair around his Balls yet?  *LMAOROTF*

Anyway, we were right in the middle of a Movie and getting ready to Eat so we wouldn't have wanted any Visitors just dropping by without an Invitation, let alone Missionaries.  The Man hasn't been a Member in Good Standing of his Church in all the Years I've known him, so, that's a Clue he's no longer Interested in being bothered.  The rest of his Family are still Members and that's Fine, but I expect his Church to just leave him alone if he doesn't wanna go or be bothered constantly.  The LDS are very pushy about their brand of Religion and to me, Cultish.  Coz, the difference between a Cult and a Religion is what happens when you try to leave.  It's that Simple.  Zero Interest in joining any Cult.

I did get so much done in the Diningroom, didn't get it all done, but about 97% of it done.  It was quite cluttered with stuff that didn't belong in there but had unceremoniously put in there all over on the Floor and the Dining Table.  Most were Smalls, which is why it is taking so long to wade thru all that minutia.  I Donated a full Box of items.  Put Two more Crates of items in The She Shed that will be Sold.  And put Three more Crates of items in The RV Garage Mahal, that is mostly Seasonal Christmas Stuff we'd Decorated with this Christmas and hadn't been put away after being taken down, just put back there.  Transitioning Seasonal Stuff is Why I don't Decorate as extensively for Holidays anymore.  It's Lovely and Festive, but very Labor Intensive.

Some Years I have it in me to do a lot of Seasonal Decorating if I don't have a lot else going on.  But, in 2025 there was so much going on that I felt Proud I Decorated at all for every Holiday and made it Special in spite of everything else going on and spreading me thin.  Now that The Grandson will be back, he and his Mom can continue helping me out with the Great Edit & Purge, Downsizing, Organizing, and Decorating The RV Garage Mahal and Art Studio Space.  I don't know how much Cargo of The Grandson is coming back with him or where we'll find Placement for it all tho', so, there's THAT!  Having to find Space for yet another Family Member and all their Worldly Possessions, during my own Downsizing Goal, kind of Negates a lot of the Progress.

But, I'm chipping away at what's Stored in The She Shed and getting it either Priced and into our Retail Spaces, or Donate what I've decided I'm just not gonna bother trying to Sell.  Or, give it to The Daughter to hawk at a Yard Sale instead to earn her a bit of discretionary Income since she has no Money and no Employability that could sustain even the basics of her Needs.  The Son did Appeal his Nutritional Assistance and Re-Apply, so we'll see how that goes?  He still will owe the IRS that huge amount of Money he has no way of paying due to that Marketplace ACA Medical Insurance Fiasco Clawing Back almost Two Grand of their alleged "Medical Subsidy" THEY Qualified him for and now want back!!!  

He's rather despondent about the whole thing, since, even if he got Work immediately, which isn't looking that likely in this Economy, it would probably take him a couple Months of Wages to get Square with them if they pile Interest and Penalties on this?!   He can't set up any Payment Plan with the IRS either until he actually HAS some Income, since, he's not receiving Unemployment either and that's all on Appeal as well.  Since, he'd worked for his Employer for over Five Years, so should be Entitled to it.  I still think that Company is gonna Sell to an Equity Stripper, in which case all the previous Employees would then be completely screwed over still... as would anyone that Company owed Money to.

And now this Regime has sped right up to Arresting Journalists for just doing what Journalists do.  Don Lemon, a well known now Independent Black Gay Journalist, and an Independent Female Black Journalist, just got Arrested for covering Protests!  I don't think it was coincidental Donnie Two Dolls went after Black Journalists first, a Bonus being that the Male Journalist was also Gay.   This is what Fascist Authoritarian Dictators do, it shouldn't ever be happening in the United States of America.   But, here we now are.  I have no Words, I've seen it coming, too bad about 30%-40% of Americans haven't STILL.  

And either remain in the deepest of Denial, are Stupid, or want to live under Dictatorship, or so they Imagine they will want to coz they never actually have.  It will be a rude Awakening for them for being so fucking naive and clueless.  And their Ignorance has Voted In a Fascist Regime that will Destroy America as we know it.   The accusations won't stick, no decent Career Prosecutor would assume it would, an Indictment was a stretch for the DOJ actually.   But, having Worked and Retired from a very large DA's Office myself, I don't think these Arrests were intended to Win a Case at all.  Nope... just to instill Fear in other Journalists, and the Media, especially lesser known ones who might not have the backing and resources a Don Lemon has at his disposal.  BTW: Always Loved Don Lemon and Chris Cuomo, miss them both at CNN.

Chris Cuomo now works over at NewsNation and I often watch him on that Channel, since I get my News from a diverse variety of Sources. Only avoiding Faux News, which is like the Jerry Springer of the Genre and can't be taken at all Seriously.  It is the Source of most Cult Members who can't tell it's not Real and why it's been successfully Sued so much.  To the Tune of in excess of $812+ Million {plus undisclosed Multi-Million Dollar Settlements}, so far, with a $2.7 BILLION potential Exposure Case closing in on them by a pending Trial.  Which speaks volumes about how corrupt and fake a 'Source' their information actually is.  They don't have enuf Cash on Hand to shell out all the Exposure they have should they lose the pending Case.  I Hope it shuts them down for good actually... good riddance to Fake News they Spin and has caused so much harm.  They pander to Donnie Two Dolls and they are his Bitch as a Station.

Of coarse some of the News Broadcasters on NewsNation are so much Cult Kissers that I turn the Channel when their segment comes on.  That Leland Vittert, what a Tool that Guy is, can't stand him.   I miss the days of a Walter Cronkite tho', from the 60's thru the early 80's, he was how News should be Delivered.  Reporting The News, with no Opining about it, just the fucking News, stating Facts, not Opinions or Propaganda.  I don't need any Broadcasters Opinions about any of it actually, I'm quite capable of forming my own Opinion from unbiased Reporting of just the Truth and the Facts presented.  Whose Presenting it should remain Neutral and not Partisan Evident.  Walter's straightforward reliable Journalism with "And that's the way it is", seems quite Quaint these Days when Polarity in Presentation is so evident and skewed.  Coz once you've Presented some Bullshit, your Credibility is now gone.

I think sensationalism and algorithms now have altered how anyone receives anything anymore.  And AI is only fabricating things to look Real now that aren't Real at all, so pretty soon nobody will be able to tell the difference, and that's dangerous.   AI already generates Feeds that appear Real and are totally made up, and often harmful, so Negative impact is already being strongly felt.   Some AI is unbelievable enuf to me to stand out as totally artificially produced, but, I've been fooled by some of the better AI that's out there already, I ain't gonna Lie.  And some pretty distasteful stuff is already being generated by AI.  And we already know that if Artificial Intelligence doesn't know something, it just makes something up, so, can't be actually Trusted as reliable for a Source of accurate information.  I don't like nor Trust AI and even those who Invented and Developed it are giving out dire Warnings now.

The Daughter spent all Day working on The Art Studio Space for her Son's Homecoming this Weekend.  He'll be occupying that Space again and I fully expect it won't stay the way she has it, tho' she's done a really admirable job in there, he's gonna change it.   I don't know how much of my stuff in there will end up moved out again?  I really don't want any of it to, but that's a pipedream.  Unlike The Son, whose Room he's pretty much left how I had The Guest Bedroom intact, as I'd had it with what I wanted in it and Decorated, since this is our Home, The Young Prince isn't like that.  I try to reach a healthy compromise since so much of the Grown Family have had to move back and with all their Worldly Possession.   So our Home is really not just our Space anymore.  It should have been, the Intention was for it to be when we Bought it.  *Eye Roll and Le Sigh*

It becomes hard to have your Home as you want it when you're having to Share it with so many other Adults, even if they are Family.  If it's likely nobody is or can ever leave, I kinda almost give up trying to make it how I wanted for it to be.  It also means having to give up more than Space, it means I have to Downsize all the more so everyone's Possessions can even fit and have enuf Space for it all for Three Generations of People!!!   Do you know how logistically challenging that has been?  Especially as I finished some Spaces, then yet another Family Member had to move back and displace it all again and have me Sacrifice that Area?!   If some of you Live Alone and have for some time now, just Imagine if suddenly, one by one, about a Half Dozen or more Adults had to move in with you with all their Cargo, and how you'd accommodate that... and you'll understand my Challenges better.  *LOL*

Had I kept a Home the ridiculous Size of the Villa McManse, which still had numerous Empty Rooms, I might could have adjusted easier without as much being constantly compromised and Given Up.   But, we kept Downsizing Property as we went, and as the Family Grew Up, most Moved Out, and I didn't envision that one Day, instead of being Empty Nesters, we'd have the whole Flock having to come back to the Nest!!!  And, it's a lot of wear and tear on everything the more folks that use it all too.   And maintaining a Home with so many, also a lot more strain on resources.   It has it's benefits, I ain't gonna Lie, each Generation has made invaluable contributions and at our Season of Life that's been a Blessing too.  So, it is a mixed Bag of Blessings and Challenges.  Some Days go better than others with so many Sharing limited Space and limited Resources.

For Example, it's One in the Morning and someone is still fucking doing a load of Laundry!!!   There's always someone doing Laundry, so, the Washer and Dryer get about as much use as those in a Laundromat!  I've had to already have expensive Repairs done on the Dryer coz Guys in their Twenties kept forgetting to clean out the Lint Trap after doing their Laundry!!!   And I can't tell you how many times Younger Generations haven't checked the Pockets and shit ends up getting Washed and Dried that shouldn't have!!!  And the Fridge Door and Ice-Maker in the Fridge Door got jacked up so many times now I quit having it repaired.  The Man and I aren't hard on stuff, if it was just us it would last us our Lifetime, what we have left of it.  

 

Which is handy coz shit is expensive now to replace and built to be disposable as well, so you do have to Baby it to make it last longer than a Minute.   I don't wanna hafta perpetually replace expensive large Appliances every 3-10 Years.   And I swear to God if you Loan a Younger Generation anything at all, they have a fucking Knack for Breaking or Damaging it!!!   I have had my current Cellphone well over a Decade now with no mishap, 'til I let The Daughter and Mando use it one Day and now the Screensaver and the Phone Lens is cracked all to Hell coz one of them dropped it!!!   The Young Prince already told me he needs a replacement when he returns, well, stand in Line behind me, I can't even afford to replace mine yet!!!   

I think this is probably his 4th Phone, Princess T has had at least 3 or mebbe 4 too... I Lost Count with how many The Daughter and The Son have gone thru.  Only The Man has his Original one that isn't broken.  And that's coz he has an Ancient Leather and Metal Holder for it that folds and protects it like a Wallet!  They haven't made those kinds of Holders in about 20 Years.   Nor probably that Phone Model either!  *LOL*  He'd still be using a Flip Phone if our Provider hadn't made it so you had to replace them every 20 Years or so coz they Phase some Models out entirely on your Plan.   Pretty sure my Model is already close to being Phased out too, so I may have to relent and Buy a New One.  None of them are ACTUALLY Free when you Upgrade.  That's an Urban Myth.   The G-Kid Force are on our Veteran's Plan tho' coz both of their Lines are Free, we don't pay extra for their Lines, just the actual Phones thru T-Mobile.

The Son's Girlfriend is letting him Share her Subscription TV thru Hulu, so we did watch some Hulu Comedy Specials Today that were really good with Bill Burr and Sebastian Maniscalco.  Both were enjoyable but Burr's was my Favorite and I Laughed so hard thru it.   Mostly he talked about Aging.   And about being Married a long time and the "Secret" he discovered 20 Years in to his Relationship, to be Happier in a long-term Relationship, which was hilarious.   His "Secret" was to be more "Agreeable" and not such an Angry Ranting Asshole all the time, imagine that.  *Bwahahahaha*   He said Men are only Allowed to have Two Emotions, Angry or Fine.  *Smiles*  They have all the other Emotions, but all those in the Middle of Angry or Fine, are considered "Gay".  *LMAO*  

 

Happily Agree to do some shit that you don't really wanna do when she asks you to join her, like, "Why Yes, I'd Love to go to a Farmer's Market Honey"... and she'll be Happy and it will be like being Married to a whole New Woman!  Who will even be Nice back to you.  *Bwahahaha*  It didn't take The Man Twenty to get that Revelation, he's a Clever Husband and a Quick Study.  *Winks*   Happy Wife, Happy Life.  *Smiles*   Oh, and it was Reported on The News that the Younger Generations now are eager to do Prenups!!!   They got it all Wrong... any Wise Man will know the only Real acknowledgement is that when you get Married, what's hers is hers, and what's yours is now hers too.  Simple.  *Winks*   

And if you Leave, she's taking AT LEAST Half and dumping them Kids on whatever Newer Model you replaced her Ass with.  *Winks*  I'd be that ultimate Bitch Ex on the Revenge and Retribution Tour with a vengeance.  How ya Like me now?  *Bwahahhha*  I'd be Worse than a Demonic Haunting and just as hard to Exorcise.  *Winks*   The Man knows this about me and I made it known, in advance, the Hexes I'd put on my Exes worked on Both of them who are my Babies Daddy's.   They both had some quite unfortunate Near Death Experiences and you can't be Prosecuted for putting Curses on Motherfuckers coz it can't be Proven that it is highly effective or 'Real'.   *LMAOROTF and Winks*   What!   That Superstitious Fool says I did What to him?   A Curse or Hex you say?  Prove it.   That's why Dad was very Good to Mom after their Divorce, he knew what she was capable of in that Realm.  He knew in Advance too that he's Married a Welsh Gypsy Witch with some Strong Powers.  He Warned The Man too, don't get on the Wrong Side of your Mother-In-Law or Dawn.  *Winks*

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I Hope I've Entertained you my Friends... Dawn... The Bohemian