A Food Allergy Emergency

So, I'd started a frivolous fluff Post and then a Medical Emergency happened while I was Writing it, so, now I have a non-frivolous Post to Write and deleted the fluff one.  *Le Sigh*  I don't think you wanted another Post about my Vintage Marble Collection anyway, I'd fallen deeply down the Marble Obsessed Freak Rabbit Hole of Marble Nerdery.  And it was sounding like I might be losing my Marbles instead of just Collecting them.  *Smiles*  So, now, the Medical Emergency Topic.  It involved The Young Prince and Mushroom Soup.

He's eaten Mushrooms and tho' he has a myriad of Food Allergies, we haven't suspected Mushrooms was one of them then.  Of coarse, there's all kinds of Mushrooms and it only takes one of them to be Allergic to for you to have a violent Food Allergy reaction to it.  We'd gone to "Wildflower Bread Company" and I bought him a Soup there.  They had a really fabulous Selection this Day of Soups we like, I had the French Onion and he'd asked me, how's their Forest Mushroom Soup Gramma?  Well, it's fabulous, I've had it, best Mushroom Soup I've ever had, but clearly they use Gourmet Selection of Mushroom Varieties in it.  I have no idea which Varieties they use? 

He mostly took it Home coz he felt a little Sick after eating some at the Restaurant, but just thought his Stomach was upset, didn't correlate it with the Soup's ingredients yet.  So, BCG came over and The Grandson made them both something to eat and heated his Forest Mushroom Soup back up to finish.  After finishing it he got violently ill, so much so I realized, oh shit, he's having a serious allergic reaction to it!  BCG left coz The Grandson got so unwell he wasn't gonna be able to come out of the Guest Bathroom at all.  I Googled Mushroom allergies and it said to immediately call 911, so we did.  He gets this Sick when he eats Pork and both he and his Younger Sister have a lot of quite Serious Food Allergies.  Some Food Allergies can be Life threatening, so you have to err on the side of Caution.

The Fire Dept. responded and checked him out.  I'd given both Stomach settling Meds, Anti-Nausea and Anti-Diarrhea Meds to no avail.  He was sweating profusely yet feeling Ice Cold, losing consciousness, puking and having the Trots constantly, in serious excruciating Pain, I couldn't risk transporting him or assessing him myself.  They assessed he was Okay, non-life threatening allergic reaction.  He'd puked and shit most of it out of his System now and just needs to hydrate and stay away from the Forest Mushroom Soup, so no more Forest Mushroom Soup for him.  *Whew*  I was a bit panicked, when a Grandchild, no matter how Old, gets that Sick, you really get alarmed to a degree I cannot explain nor convey.  The Fire Dept. Team were great, they also were Wowed by our Decor and a few stayed to ask about some of it.  They'd never seen anything like it, we get that a lot.  *LOL*   Like, what is that?  You mean Goats get that Big in Africa?  Why Yes, they do... as they stand under his Mount in our Hallway. *Bwahahaha*

So, anyway, The Grandson feels like shit still, but will be Okay.  *Huge Sigh of Relief*  I have Electrolyte Waters for him to drink to re-hydrate.  I don't know what we'll be billed by the Fire Dept. or Ambulance Co. that showed up... but, whatever.  He has no ability to pay, but I'm the one that made the Call so if it takes Payments and I've got the Liability of the Cost by making the Call on his behalf, so be it.  I had to know he was going to be okay and not Die from a severe Food Allergic Reaction like that.  A Medical Emergency is what it just is and when you have Uninsured folks in the Household, it's hard, coz they can't pay, but they do need the same Standard of Medical Care that any Person ought to have a Right to have in this Country.  But, often won't receive due to Ability to Pay... or not be able to Pay.   And I'll send them $5 a Month for the rest of my Life if they Bill me, I don't give a Shit anymore, of if they ever get Paid... let them take it up with the President.  I hear he has a Decade's long "Concept of a Plan".  *Winks*  

  Our Medical System is structured to exclude low income and the Poor or Indigent, or Seriously Chronically Ill and Disabled receiving Affordable Healthcare or Qualifying for Help and State Provided Care.  I don't think this Administration is even trying to provide Affordable Healthcare.  They want the Poor, the Homeless, the Sick, the Disabled, the Old, and Minority Populations, to just Hurry Up and Die.  Even tho' they're trying to do away with the ACA coz Obama Created it, and they're so Racist that anything a Black Man did for the American People that is a Good Thing, they'll be vehemently Opposed to.  Even if they don't have anything but a Decade's long "Concept of a Plan" to replace it when they try to do away with it completely and dump Millions off receiving Healthcare at all.

Don't give me any Anti-Socialist Bullshit reasoning you fall back upon either as your excuse for Supporting this Cruel and Inhumane Regime.  Becoz we've had Socialism for the Elite and Obscenely Rich in America, and for Big Business, for as long as I've been Alive.  Handouts to the Richest far exceeds any fucking thing America has ever spent on the Poor and most Marginalized or Needy of Society, in our entire History.  Why some are more concerned about what someone with Nutritional Assistance is Buying in the way of Groceries, yet not at all concerned about what Rich Pedophiles are Buying in the way of our Children being Trafficked, is beyond comprehensible and disgusting to me!!!  I don't Care if a Food Assistance Recipient is buying a Birthday Cake, when Presidents are Buying 13 Year Old Girls to Rape, Okay.  My Priorities aren't that fucked up.

But, those who still Support and Adore him will no matter what he does to them, unto Death, they're just that devoted to the Cult they joined. He has become their chosen Messiah and whacky god replacement to Worship at the Feet of and Kiss the Ring of.  They'll drink his Kool-Aide. Even if Warned it will Harm or Kill them.   This Meme wasn't Wrong... and he's got way more Cult Followers than Jim Jones...

  Cultists be doing Cult shit like that and Cult Leaders care not about their Followers, just their own Twisted Egos and Power Trip over other folks they've duped and will manipulate and weaponize shamelessly.  Anyway, I'm relieved my Grandson is gonna be Okay, he was Scared, I was Scared, I'd not seen him have that kind of Reaction before to a Food.  He does get pretty Sick from Pork Products tho', this was just way worse than even that reaction.   Food Allergies can be The Devil.  And very Scary to Witness. 

 Anyway, that was more than enuf Excitement for a Monday Night.  Christ on a Bike!!!  The Son had JUST come Home from Working with Rob all day in Tonopah, so they both came rushing over when they saw the Fire Truck and Paramedics out front, thinking it was for The Man, I was standing Curbside to wave them to the right House.  When he checked out okay they decided not to transport him to Hospital.  We have one within sight of our Home tho', which is handy.  And the Fire Station is less than a Block away too, also handy.   My Checklist when choosing what I Hoped would be our Last Forever Property and Location was very specific about certain things being close by and what we really, really wanted here.  Trying to leave no margins for error, since I never wanna fucking have to Move again.  This Property checked off all the most Important Boxes.

I took those things into account when Buying a Forever Home due to The Man's Medical Needs and growing Older myself.  Your Checklist has certain Priorities that change over Time for Real Estate at various Seasons of your Life and various Personal Reasons specific to your Family and circumstances.  Okay, so, no Talk about Marbles this Post {Winks}, tho' I did Crib a variety of Online Unusual Marble Images from "The House Of Marbles" Website and it seemed like a good Blog Fodder fluff Topic 'til the Medical Emergency sidetracked me and went Off the Rails so quickly.  I'd of rather fixated on my Marbles, rather than Losing my Marbles Emotionally Tonight.  *LOL*  I will never look at that delicious Forest Mushroom Soup again the same, even tho' I Love it and my System can handle it.  *Le Sigh*

Well, fuck, now what to Talk about to Top all of that?  *Winks and LOL*  Never a dull Moment at Forever Boheme', that's for damned sure!  Before ours came tho' I did see Fire Trucks, Ambulances and Paramedic Vehicles racing down the Street in front of our Home heading towards the Hospital like Crazy tho', so it was a busy Monday Night for sure!  Being this close to a Main Road and a Hospital, means you see that all the time.  We're also very close to a Big Cemetery, so see the Funeral Processions pass by all of the time too.  During the Pandemic, there were as many as a Dozen a DAY of Funerals, it was Wild.  And the Hospitals were ALL on Crisis Standard Of Care and only taking Life Threatening ER Emergencies, and even then, couldn't handle them all, so had to Triage who was most viable and who was not!

That's why I still get upset with Covidiots who remain convinced it was a Worldwide Hoax, you just can't fix that level of Stupidity and Denial or Crazy Conspiracy Theory Beliefs.  Or those who get all their information from Unreliable Sources, like Faux News and this current White House.  *Eye Roll*  The State of the Union is just gonna be Lies, Propaganda, Outrageously Unhinged Ramblings, the Usual out of this seriously Mentally deranged and cognitively declined Moron who far too many Americans wanted Elected for a 2nd fucking Term, like the 1st Term was not bad enuf for the Country.  I just dumped a couple more Die Hard Cult Obsessed Donnie Two Dolls Worshipping folks off my FB Feed, they were getting beyond Crazy again on their Social Media.  They used to seem like Normal folks, now, clearly, they are so NOT!  Scary NOT Normal in fact.  *Cringe*  And trying to pass it off as Patriotism is just obscene and disrespecting Real Patriots and Heroes who Defended our Democracy.

One I dumped used to own a big Antique Mall in Downtown Glendale.  It Closed Down a few Years ago, and I think he's just become another one of those embittered Angry Old White Men whose Life unraveled and he desperately Needs someone to project all that Fear, Hatred and Anger upon, I dunno?  I just know I don't Need any of that around me, on my Feed, in my Life, absolutely no exceptions.  Take the Crazy Train off your Cliff, but don't expect me to try to Rescue you from yourselves when you've voluntarily Boarded it and have clearly gone Wheels Off the Rails now.  I won't go over that Cliff with any of them, tho' they clearly are trying to take all of us with them into the Abyss, which is troubling, I ain't gonna Lie, coz that's where it's going.  Like a Plane going Down due to an Engine failing or Pilot Error, it will take you all the way to the Scene of the Crash, that's exactly where it's going.  You don't have to Guess. Probably few, if any, Survivors.

Anyway, I drop folks like a Rock who get too Weirded Out, especially about their Politics or Religion, their Obsession is borderline Psychotic IMO.   And some tip over into truly being fucking Psychotic and completely out of Touch with Reality and untethered from it, they're never coming back from having gone over The Edge.  So, Bye-Bye-Bye. Total Lost Causes once they're that Far Gone IMO.  And since 2016 I've known more than a few, it's tragic really, and unsettling more than the tragedy that it is.  And how Far Gone America is gone Off the Rails now.  Is America able to Come Back?  I really don't know, but I'm not especially Optimistic since, it's infiltrated so high up and has that Following of those willing to Go Down for The Cause, with Eyes Wide Shut.  

And it's not like they're leaving the Country... even if they'd rather push the rest of us out.  However they can with their Project 2025 White Nationalist and Christian Nationalist Agenda and Big Ugly Bills and such. That whole Krew is as devoted as the Nazis were to Hitler and the Khmer Rouge were to Pol Pot.  And both of those Psycho Movements were responsible for War Crimes, Atrocities against Humanity, and the Deaths of Millions of Innocent People.   It can be a really slippery slope to give Evil and Dangerous deranged Men too much Power and unlimited Authority over any Nation, History bears that out numerous times, it's no closely guarded Secret how it begins or ends.   Protecting ourselves and our Loved Ones has to be each Family's Priority at this juncture.  Who he Targets next is anyone's Best Guess coz he's fucking dangerously Insane/Senile and quite desperate to hold onto Power and to Be the first American Dictator King for Life.

LATER:  Well, The Grandson was still not Okay and really needed IV Fluids coz I couldn't get enuf Water in him.  He kept throwing up regular Water and was Paranoid about the Electrolytes in my Sports Water "doing" something to him, so he refused to drink it.  *Le Sigh*   So, by Midnight he finally agreed to be taken to the closest ER, which ended up being a Mistake and huge waste of Time.  It had Standing Room only and after almost 3 Hours there they still hadn't fully even checked him in!!!  Worse Emergencies kept streaming in, we probably wouldn't have been seen if we stayed there 24 Hours looking like Death Warmed over, I swear!  Plus, Security was Kind, but feeling nervous about The Young Prince's Mental Status.  He wouldn't put a Shirt or Shoes on to go to the ER, just a Pair of ill fitting PJ Shorts, so he did appear quite Mental.  They gave him a Purple Hospital Jumpsuit to put on, Security went with him to dress him in it.  

When someone is very Physically AND Mentally Unwell, it's a delicate situation and he was getting more Paranoid about all the People and what Diseases they all might have.  I didn't feel too comfortable myself sitting around so many that looked to be potentially Contagious with something, I ain't gonna Lie, and I'm got even a Paranoid Schizophrenic!  People were puking, moaning, screaming even, it was pretty stressful to even BE there, so I just took him back Home when it was clear we weren't getting seen and most people weren't who'd been there way longer than us.  They were only calling in about One Person per Hour, so, no telling how many folks they had already stacked up in the back and finally past Triage and no more Room for more?  I suspected they should have been Routing folks to other ER's, they seemed overwhelmed and understaffed... it's a good Hospital, but a notoriously Bad ER.  It's where they kept me Waiting with no Care during a fucking Stroke for Three Hours before I went somewhere else to Save my Life and Brain!!!  

It reminded me of during the Pandemic actually and I wondered, just how many of these Folks are Unvaxxed and may have COVID?  I'm Vaxxed but don't wanna get it again, Twice and almost Dying from it, even fully Vaxxed, each time, was enuf.  When I got back Home I settled him in on the Livingroom Sectional coz his Living Space is 'Crazy', I hadn't realized how dysfunctional he'd already made it 'til Princess T and I went in to try to assist him to go to the ER.  Holy Hell, when he's really unraveled it shows in his surroundings really bad.  It's not Okay and we'll have to run a lot of damage control behind him to keep things sanitary and safe.  This may be part of why Allen cracked under the Pressure and Stress actually?   If he came Home from a demanding Job each day to the Crazy and Chaos, I'm sure it led to meltdowns of his own?

All The Young Prince said when he saw my Face upon entering the Art Studio Space, since he'd kept the Doors Locked, for good reason, before that, was, "I Need Help Gramma, but I don't want to end up in an Institution again..."   He's not taking Care of himself and it's difficult to Care for him since some things you can't do FOR them, like Eat, Drink, ease the Psychosis that his Meds don't Manage... and he's on a slew of Meds for the Paranoia, the Anxiety, the Hallucinations, his Seizures which he has all the time now off and on... along with also having Narcolepsy.  There is no way he's gainfully Employable with all that's Wrong with him.  Yet he's very Paranoid about this Government coz they have already said they'd like to Euthanize the Homeless!!!  Yeah, very Naziesque.  

 And, Donnie Two Dolls has a Developmentally Disabled Nephew's Son that he told his own Nephew he should just let the Child Die!!!  So we already know his Sentiments about Disabled Family Members, or those not "Pretty" enuf like the One Daughter he won't be Seen with... and didn't say he'd have Sex with if she weren't his Daughter, like he did about the Pretty One!!!   So, The Grandson isn't Wrong about some of his Concerns, it's not just his Illness giving him the Paranoia, this Regime has given us all sufficient reason to feel more than a bit Paranoid ourselves even if we're not Mentally impaired!!!  While at the ER he was fading in and out, then looking around Wild Eyed and saying he thought they might be trying to Kill all of us.  It made more than one Person get up from being by us and move to another part of the Waiting Room.  Which, was kinda funny, if you have a Dark Sense of Humor... coz... it WAS Looking like that.

The Man had begun to Act the Fool when I finally got back from the pointless ER Visit... for the Attention.   And by then it was past 3:00 in the Morning and I'd have to be up again by 5:30 to take Princess T to Work.  So, I told him, Knock It Off, be Still and be Quiet, coz I'm too fucking Tired right now to Cope with anyone's nonsense.   He complied, otherwise he'd of been up rustling around, bumping into things, risking another Fall, turning the TV on and shit, and not going to Sleep like a Normal Person whose internal Clock isn't out of whack from Dementia.  I'm Bipolar and ADHD as Fuck, but I do still Need some Sleep sometime or I don't Cope very well with NO fucking Sleep.  I don't require a Straight Eight like you Non-Bipolar Non-ADHD folks do, but, I was running on Sleep Deprivation Fumes with everything going on.

Princess T had told me as I drove her to Work that when she'd seen the Fire Truck Lights earlier thru her Bedroom Window, coz it faces the Street, she thought it was for her Grandpa so it Freaked her Out!!!   And she then said she didn't wanna Throw Shade or seem Mean or like she doesn't Care, but, if it's not for Grandpa or I, she felt like she could just go back to Sleep.  Coz just another Day of Crazy around here, with a Brother, Mom and Uncle who don't take good enuf Care of themselves even on a Good Day to stay "Well", and who Lives like this?  I know what she means.   She knows I have enuf to handle with Grandpa's obstinacy about taking good enuf Care of himself and doing what we try to get him to do every single Day that his Doctor's say he should.  But, like I said, some things you can't do FOR them.

She was convinced that tho' her Brother having the allergic reaction to the Forest Mushroom Soup was legit, he's Physically and Mentally such a Wreck by now with deferred Care and this Nation's Medical Neglect of folks like him, that there's a whole LOT going on.  I am in Agreement.  He's thin as a Rail, thinks most of his Food is Alive and Moving, has a slew of Food Allergies, so barely Eats enuf to even stay Alive.  He's on Strong Medications prescribed and most of those you should take with Meals, plus they all have Serious Side Effects, which is why he had to discontinue most Psychotropics when he was 15.  It's Ten Years later, but, his Vital Organs couldn't handle all the Psyche Meds a Decade before anymore, so perhaps it's happening yet again, I just don't know?  He has no Health Insurance so we don't even know if we can renew the Prescriptions once New Mexico's Social Services provisions run out and he has to be picked up by Arizona???  And mebbe they deny him Services and Coverage?  And we end up on Endless Appeals again?

For some Not-PC Gallow's Humor and some Levity during Dire Times, Above is a Vintage Valentine like what my Classmates would choose to give me in Grade School back when Political Correctness wasn't a Thing... LOL.  It still makes me Smile rather than choose to take any Offense.  It's the Spirit in which Who gave the Card, that always matters.   Anywhoo... Arizona has some of the most abysmal Ratings of all 50 States, only Southern Red States have worse Ratings for Medical, Education, Aide for the most Vulnerable and Disabled, Mental Health Services, and Nutritional Assistance Needs.   Arizona went Purple when Uncle Joe got Elected, but swung back to Red and was in part responsible for this 2nd Term of Crazy.  So the vast Majority of the most Needy Americans did Vote for this Fuckery and ongoing Shitshow, or failed to cast a Vote at all, so, I don't even know what to say... I have no Words for them.   

 Even if I had, it would have fallen on Deaf Ears in Deep Denial about their 'Boy' they are so enamored with and Voted in Twice.  The rest of us grew weary of trying to talk some Sense and someone out of something that took no Sense to get into.  They sure don't want his Concentration Camps in their Villages and Towns tho'!   Even the little podunk Deep Red Voting Towns are Protesting like a Motherfucker about NOT IN OUR COMMUNITY and trying to Block ICE-Capades Buying up huge Warehouses to dump Detainees in their midst and overwhelming their Services and capacity!!!  The MAGA are now up in Arms about when it comes to their Community, what they Voted In and Supported so wholeheartedly.  So, it's only when it Touches THEM that they are against any of it.  And it will Touch them, they were just too smug and naive that it wouldn't.   

These are the Big Lot of Marbles I didn't Buy from my Friend Big Kenny coz he still wasn't giving me the best 1st Cousin Deal on them and I wouldn't pull the Trigger for that much.  Someone did, so... they must have been more Obsessed with Marbles... there just was way less than half of these that I had any Interest in, so I didn't wanna Buy them all.  A Mixed Lot of Desirable ones and those I won't even Keep has to be real Cheap for me to Buy what I'll only have no Need to Keep and Need to get rid of.   I can Buy almost any of the more Desirable ones I saw in this Lot, for $1.49 a Bag at a Craft Store, that look like these and not have any I wanna dispose of.   Too many Cat's Eyes and Clearies, which are Junk to me and a Hard Pass.  I want only what I want, and what I don't want I'm not willing to Buy.

 

I'm re-hashing my Fav Pix of myself coz I Feel like this right about now again.  *LOL and Winks*  "The Scream", it's my Version of the Iconic Image Painting of 1893 by Edvard Munch we all know so well, epitomizes and defines the Symbol of Existential Dread and Modern Anxiety!   It should be hanging in the White House right behind the Resolute Desk IMO.   The Sun has come up now and Blogging has helped when Sleep was impossible.  By the time I got The Grandson AND The Man settled down, and The Granddaughter to Work too, I couldn't even manage to fall Asleep, too Keyed the fuck up!   If The Man can't watch NCIS Reruns the moment he's Awake, he'll usually just give up and go back to Bed and Asleep.  It keeps him engaged all Day like an Adult Babysitter tho', so Thank Gawwwwwd for the NCIS Team led by Leroy Jethro Gibbs {Mark Harmon}.  *Whew and LOL*

He does watch the other Spin Off Versions of it in New Orleans... and where ever LL Cool J has a Part, which is NCIS L.A..  *LOL*  But, his Favorite is definitely the D.C. Original Version of the Show and he'll watch the NCIS Marathon Channel.  Of coarse I did spend most of my Sleepless Nights watching Vintage TV Marathons of the Original "Roseanne", I Loved that Show, it still makes me Laugh coz I've forgotten most of the Clever Comedic Lines in the Episodes.  I watched one this Night of the earliest of Episodes where she wants to go to Vegas and Dan is balking going and saying, you wanna go to Vegas and leave the Kids here?  And she goes, "That's all I've ever wanted, Dan!"  Truer Words have never been Spoken by a Mother if most would be Real about Fantasizing their Escape and not pretend to be faked and Sanitized Super Mom.  Those Social Media Fakers are a fucking Riot tho', I ain't gonna Lie... pleeeease Debra/Karissa/Karen, few are Buying into the Stepford Wife schtick, but it is Amusing, like all schtick is.  *Bwahahaha*

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Be Well my Friends and hang in there... Dawn... The Bohemian

It Was A Bust

 I took The Man with me to "Highland Yard Vintage" Spring Event, Honestly, it wasn't worth the drive all the way there.  It was a Bust in our Opinion and a Shadow of what it used to be, being this was the 1st Event of the New Year, it doesn't portend Well.  All of my Fav Vendors aren't there anymore and it's new Vendors with mass produced items mostly that resemble what you could buy from a "Hobby Lobby" or "TARGET" and any Big Box Store.   Cutesy Seasonal New mass produced Merch, but nothing I'd be interested in and way less Vendors than they used to have.  Now it makes sense to me why they were Closed all of January, you'd probably need to entice new Renters to fill the Warehouse sized Space if you had a lot who left at end of Year.  Anyway, if it is never any better than this Month, I won't make the Pilgrimage there, I barely took any Photos, just nothing all that Editorial for Blog Fodder.

The few OOAK or Vintage items worthy of enticing me were hella expensive, in the Stratosphere of price points, so it was Sticker Shock.  Yowsah, it seemed more like the Vendor had it more as a Display piece as a backdrop to all the new mass produced Merch and had their "I don't wanna Sell it" Price on it??  A lot of Vendors do that rather than put NSF or Display Only on Primo Pieces that look good to Display their other Merchandise that is For Sale.  Anyway, we spent about 10 Minutes there, that's how disinterested and disappointed I was.  We'd already done the Antique Mall twice before recently so had no reason to stick around.  We got some Bakery Items from the Restaurant Section and were done 30 Minutes after arriving.  Bought nothing but some Scones and a Cookie.  It had taken longer to drive there.  *Le Sigh*  I did Like how they Rescued this Upcycled Salvaged Antique Headboard that's Caning had been Roached, very Clever... it was Priced in the Stratosphere for their Efforts tho'.

It was a gorgeous Day tho', 79 Degrees and balmy, so we had Brunch at "The Tipsy Egg" and then went to the Nature Preserve just to be out in Nature.  I did a bit of Environmental Cleanup, but The Man had to use his Walker, so he wasn't a Happy Camper about that and complained about it, but I insisted so he wouldn't risk another Fall.  Plus I made him carry his Walking Stick with Emergency Whistle on it too, so, he mostly sat in the Truck pouting, and when The Son called from Home coz his Sister and Mando had placed the Key to the John Deere Mower somewhere we couldn't find it, and Irrigation was coming and he needed to move the Mower, I just came back Home.  By then our Neighbor Rob had given The Son the Key to their John Deere, which worked on ours {whew} to move it and was helping The Son with Irrigation.

The Daughter is supposed to be coming Home to bring us the Key to the John Deere and to the 5th Wheel coz I don't want them dragging either set of Keys around with them, no need to.  She can get her Key to the 5th Wheel any time she needs to from me and I don't want the Boyfriend having Keys to anything now.  He's not doing any Work for us now, so, he doesn't need access.  I'm paying too much for the 5th Wheel and the Tractor Mower Monthly to risk anyone losing a Key or being Careless with it and I want access to both since we Own them and are making the Payments.  So, I was irritated that The Son couldn't find a Key to either and felt his Sister had all the Keys and had taken them off the Property with them, NOT Okay.  She's not kicked out but she's notorious for losing things and misplacing things, I don't need to pay to have anything Rekeyed for anyone else's Carelessness or irresponsibility with it.

She hasn't been Home for well over a Week, which is Fine, she's Grown, so, she's not Helping with anything either and her Son and Brother have had to pick up the slack in her absence.  I can't have them Taking Care of Business when they can't find the Keys to anything to take Care of it for me.   Anyway, we had a good day and a good Morning and early Afternoon before I felt that The Man was tiring out and needed to come back Home to Rest and watch his Shows.  Plus, in case The Son or her Son had hassles with her or the Boyfriend, I wanted to be here to ensure they didn't get any pushback to getting those Keys returned.  Rob knew I was upset about it and he felt rightly so, he knows what happened and had a run-in with Mando before over a time he overheard some verbal abuse directed at The Daughter.  

He hadn't told me about it coz he didn't wanna wind me up at the time, but his Brother had.  TJ had told me he didn't want his Brother Rob getting arrested, for getting into a Fight with Mando over business that really wasn't his own to get into.  But, Rob had said what he overheard wasn't appropriate and he felt he had to intercede on her behalf at the time.  He said back then he told her she should end the Relationship, but she was making excuses that she'd wound the Boyfriend up... which, wasn't justification for his reaction tho', and Rob was Right about that.  The Boyfriend does not Live here so if he's not getting along with her he could always just Leave the premises.  If he chooses to remain and engage in unacceptable ways, that's a stain on his Character, not hers, this is her Home.  If asked to Leave he should always then just Leave and without Mouthing Off.  Simple.

Now of coarse he can't be here becoz I've mandated that he's no longer Welcome.   Becoz I overheard him being verbally threatening to her and to my Grandson and he's just Lucky I didn't call the Police and have him Arrested for communicating Threats that made anyone feel Unsafe.  She is waffling on dumping him, and I can't do anything about that part of it, but I just don't want him around here.  I don't want him around the rest of my Family since he's emotionally not stable and it's showed that he doesn't have Control over his Angry outbursts and his Temper.  And his Insecurities and Irrational Behavior are something he needs professional Help with to manage IMO.  Mebbe there's Medication he should be on, or whatever Meds he's on need adjusting, IDK?  But, act all Crazy somewhere else, we're all stocked up on Crazy here.  *Winks*

The Scones were still Warm from the Oven when I bought them and the Glaze wasn't even set up yet, they were Sublime.  I ate most of the Peach and Cream one, Saving the Berries one for later.  The Man had an Orange Dreamsicle Cookie.  It was a good day overall and so beautiful outside, a stark change from how Cold and Wet it had been just days beforehand.  The Weather is schizo like that now, 80 Degrees one day and Cold enuf to form Frost the next.  We'd had Frost Yesterday and it was barely in the 40's, then Today it's 81 right now.  No telling what Tomorrow will bring and it's been really hard on Plants, they don't know what to do, stay Wintered or burst into Spring??? 

 While we were at the River a lot of Fish had Beached themselves, which was Weird... I tossed them back, thinking perhaps they'd just gotten Scared into too Shallow Water by Humans?  They all swam off so weren't Dying or injured... just had gotten stranded in Shallow Water they couldn't Swim out of by themselves without Help.  I rescued about half a dozen large Fish and several Juvenile ones that were halfway Grown.  Only the Fry should be in such Shallow Water and be Okay, sometimes they even get stranded if the Pool they're in of Shallows gets separated from the Main River and then they can't get back into the River.  The River is still running high and fast, so the Banks of it are up considerably.  

There were lots of folks Fishing there this day, some Legally, some Illegally and using Nets, which, you can't do and if Fish & Game or the Sheriff's Office Catch them, they will be Fined heavily and have everything confiscated and seized.   I always Warn them, ignorance of the Laws is no excuse for breaking them, if you're gonna Fish or Hunt anywhere, you should know what the Legal Requirements are and have your Permits to do it in Order.  If someone Warning you that you're doing something Illegal isn't cause enuf to deter you, even if you were previously unaware and ignorant, then you deserve the consequences if Caught of Confiscation/Seizure, which can include your Vehicles, Fines and even possible Imprisonment.  Most of what they Ignore is Posted in English and Spanish with Pictures, so unless you're Illiterate, Stupid, or don't Care about breaking Laws, you Know you're in Violation.

I could tell we hadn't been there in a while, since The Man's Fall in fact, coz I got a LOT of Aluminum Cans picked up and we weren't there that long.  The Man had gotten back in the Passenger Side of the Truck and put his own Walker away, so I knew he wasn't gonna participate any more and it was just time to take him back Home if he was gonna be difficult about using his Walker.  *Eye Roll*  I told him if he didn't use it, we weren't doing this anymore, period.  Coz I don't want to risk him Falling or getting Hurt, I Need for him to be Safe during any Outing.  He's not Happy about it, but, oh well.  It is what it just is and he has to accept when he has limitations that make the use of Medical Equipment a necessity if his Mobility is becoming compromised.  I won't accept Stubborn obstinance.  And I can't Fix what's going Wrong with him.  But, I am his Caregiver so I have to be the Heavy sometimes on what he isn't allowed to do anymore.

It was the last Day of the Event at "Sweet Salvage" too, but I had no desire to go back a 2nd time either.  It was an Okay Show, but, I didn't see much to even get good Editorial Photos of and no Urge to Buy anything but the bit of Architectural Salvage I'd Bought on Day Two of the Four Day Event.   The Man and I did stop by "Bookman's" Used Bookstore and I got a Vintage 1960's Globe of Mars on a Lucite Mid-Century Stand, for about 70% Off what they Sell for Online.  I got Two Used Decor Books and The Man got One Soft Cover Book of a Genre he likes.  That's all we bought this day.  One of my Books was a little Spendy, called VINEYARD FOLK, but still 50% Off the Retail Price of it, some Books now Sell for a Fortune Full Retail!!!   The other Book I got for less than 60% Off the Retail Price.

  The Man's Book wasn't Used so I had to pay Full Retail for it.  They do stock some New Books.  And of coarse he didn't want to Pick a Used Book.  *Eye Roll*  But, since he hadn't found anything he wanted for his Birthday Pressy, I consider that something as part of a Gift for it that he did actually show Interest in and want.   He got rid of most of his Collection of Books he'd been accumulating for a long time, without even Reading or looking at them, so I don't know he'll Read or even look at this one either... but... whatever.   It made him Happy to get it.  *LOL*  It's some kind of Homesteading Book and he likes all those Failed Homestead Shows where they have to go Rescue City Folks that think they wanna live Off The Grid coz they can't Make It in Society I guess. But, know nothing about how to Live in the Wilderness either, so fail at it too, often miserably and put their whole Family at risk and spent everything they had on the "Dream/Fantasy".

Some folks have a Romanticized version of what they Daydream about doing and Zero Knowledge or Experience about how it Needs to be done.  Or not enuf Money to get it done.  To me it's just irresponsible and naive for them to haul their whole Family out there and put especially any Children, at grave risk or in unsuitable and dangerous conditions.  I'm surprised that some of the Episodes don't prompt Child Protective Services to check in on some of those Families for Welfare Checks.  Some don't have access to Clean Water, enough Food, Safety from Predators, a Safely built Domicile, access to Medical or Emergency Services or Catastrophic Natural Conditions that can cost you your Life... they'd be almost better off Homeless in a Town or City than what they're risking being Off Grid in some remote area with no way to actually make it Work and Survive.

It's now 86 Degrees Outside, getting Toasty, good thing we got Irrigation coz the Odd back and forth with Cold and Hot is hard on all the Plants and Trees.   The Daughter never did show up with the Keys, Hours later, even tho' she'd Texted her Brother that she was on her way here.  So... everyone is irate about it.  Yes, Rob got some Keys of theirs that worked on our John Deere to get it to dry ground so it wouldn't be flooded when Irrigation hit, so that was a Blessing.  She doesn't know that tho', so clearly didn't give it a priority of the urgency of everyone's request to get those Keys in particular or tell us where they are at?  They were the last ones to use them, so they'd be the only ones that know where they put them.   I'm tired of it being a hassle unresolved ever since he was asked to leave our Property.  And I do Worry over her Sobriety holding {from Drugs, she still Drinks}, coz I don't think he's a Positive Influence for her staying Clean.

She's avoiding Family and Home now and she's usually done that when Using, so I do Hope we're Wrong being suspicious of that?  I don't like to accuse someone of something they're NOT doing, but she is a Recovering Addict and her Behavior around him has been unstable.  That could just be her Mental Health Condition since he's Stressful for her to be around and often Triggers her Schizophrenia.  No telling what he's Whispering in her Ears about all of us, coz every time she has Called her Brother, he has heard the Boyfriend in the background saying things that have made her act Paranoid and hang up on him.  She's called her Brother tho', she has hesitated to call any of her Kids or I, also very Uncharacteristic.  She usually always answers her Son's Calls and mine, she hasn't been during this Week she's been gone with him.  So, it's speculation on our part what's going on?  I don't know anything about this Ranch they're Working at either or the folks that Own it. 

I do know her Friend Amber said it's a lot of Land with Horses, but that the Trailer on it is unsuitable and whoever bought it from the Owner probably did so for the Value of the Land and it's Zoning as Equestrian.  Amber's Daughter was living out there with TJ before his Parent's took them in becoz of her being Pregnant and them having no place to Live.  And Amber had told TJ's Parents she didn't want her Pregnant Young Daughter living out there becoz it was so substandard.  Amber has lived in Mobile Homes when she was growing up, so she wasn't being Bougee, but she said this is a dump of a Trailer and not a livable Mobile Home.  She has no reason to make up her assessment of it and I know TJ's Family took her Daughter and their Son back in... when TJ had been previously kicked out of his Parent's Home.  So, it's probably an accurate assessment of that Property.

  

The Daughter has lived substandard in Mexico so that wouldn't bother her if that's where the Boyfriend is now being allowed to stay until the Sale goes thru.  I don't know the Old Guy that owns the place or if he even lived out there on the Property or just kept his Stables there with the Trailer as a place to store what he needed to look after his Horses?  A lot of folks own Ranches in Buckeye coz it's Zoned for that and they can have their Horses and Livestock on the Land, many also can have a Trailer or Mobile Home on the Land, which is Rare to get that kind of Zoning in other Cities even if you Own lots of Land.  Our Mini Farm Community has Custom Homes and Zoned for Bunkhouse Structures and you can have Recreational Vehicles, so most do.  About half the Community has large 5th Wheels or Fancy Airstreams.  But not jenky Trailers or Mobile Homes.

Anyway, she never did come Home with the Keys to the Tractor or the 5th Wheel yet.   I suspect she will, I have no need of them right now, but want them here, not elsewhere.  If she wants to move out she'd go with all of our Blessings.  She's Grown and Free to Live where ever she wants to.  This Boyfriend has no way to even support himself, let alone her.  My suggestion to her was if she needs to, go back to Mexico to be with folks we Trust more than this Guy, who have had her Best Interests at Heart and taken Care of her.  Two of them have told me personally she has an Open Invitation to come back and live at their Properties, one has a Mansion on the Beach, the other owns several Beachfront Properties.  She's helped them over the Years take Care of their Properties and their Horses, had her Kids there on Vacations.  And one even put her up with the Three Kids at his Mansion, after the Paternal Grandmother initially Passed Away and we were trying to get the Kids into America, but couldn't.

So, I know she has Options and I do Wish she'd just take them.  But she seems to have it in her Head that she can't abandon this Guy becoz he's Dying and he's using his Illness as leverage for her Pity of him IMO.  I may Pity a person whose Terminally Ill and fighting an Incurable Disease, it's a horrible way to Go, but I won't let it become a good excuse for bad behavior.  There's never a good excuse for bad behavior, ever.   And if his own Family have been falling away, then I suspect they feel the same way I do about behavior not being tolerated that they don't approve of or feel unsafe around?   His Temper flareups have been out of Control and when a person has lost Control of themselves, nobody wants them around them.  Anyway, it is what it just is, I can't Control how anyone else reacts to what's going on with them or the Choices they make.  It does affect other people tho', it never just affects them.

I actually Slept In and managed not to get woken up prematurely by The Man, UNTIL he clogged our Toilet... AGAIN!!!  *Le Sigh and Eye Roll*  He has Colace so I have to make sure now he's taking it, we've been Eagle Eyed about his Medications to make sure he's not Hiding them without our knowledge.  I check the Bottles, the Labels, we have someone present to Administer them and his Shots every Day too.  He's not allowed to take anything or pretend he did without a Witness now, coz he can't be Trusted or Believed.   His Memory Care isn't the only Issue, he now gets belligerent about following his Safety Prompts, using his Medical Equipment, taking his Shots and Oral Meds, Showering, Changing Clothing and practicing overall good Hygiene with consistency, eating, exercising a little bit so he doesn't atrophy, putting his Seatbelt on in the Truck.   It's very much like coaxing a Small Child to do all those things... you get pushback every time.

Patience not being one of my Virtues with Small Children or Old Men, I have to exercise my Patience daily to build it up.  *Winks and Snort*  Don't get Mad at Dad... Grandpa... is usually something all of the Kiddos all have to say as a Mantra to me, when they see he's really pushing my limits of Patience with him and Testing me.   *LOL*   If I quit Coaxing and just give him a Look, THE Look, with what the Kids claim are my Crazy Eyes, usually that's enough for compliance with him.  He knows once I quit Talking, that's when you're on shaky and dangerous ground with me... that no longer Needs Words.  *Bwahahahaha*  If he's refusing to use his Walker, I fold that Motherfucker up, put it in the back of the Truck and get in the Driver's Seat... Fun Over... Okay then, we're just not Doing this... whatever this is. 

I'm opening up a Bank Account for The Grandson with him Today, he just has Cash App and some places want a Debit Card use, so it's best he has both in his own Name now.  I'm a Retired Executive of this Bank so I get a lot of perks still and can link him up to my Accounts for preferential Services and Rates.  His Sister, Mom and Uncle are already linked up.  Usually I help the Family manage their Finances, coz except for Princess T, who Learned to manage her own appropriately, the rest of them need help with Managing such things.  The Son's Ex did all the Money Management when they were together, I've always done it for The Man, he sucks at Financial Management otherwise.  Either you're good with Money or you're not... Financial IQ isn't strong in some folks no matter how much they Earn or Make, it's never what you Make that is the problem, it's what you Keep.

We got The Grandson all hooked up with his Bank Account linked to ours so he's getting good Rates and Perks.  We stopped in to the Antique Mall to put in some more Merch, my Sales are way up, let's Hope it holds for the 2nd Week of the Pay Period now?  He enjoy seeing all the Friends there he's known a long time, they're all glad he's back.  Most remember The G-Kid Force when they were little.  This is Rachel, who so many folks thought was another one of my Kids and so thought she was Princess T's Mom, so now Rachel calls me Mom, and Princess T calls her Mom, and it's a running Joke she should be in our Family Holiday Pixs to send out.  *LOL*  The Year I Adopted The G-Kid Force, Rachel, and another Young Employee, Cole, were gonna be in our Family Christmas Card Photo that December.  Just to send it out and say nothing about who they were... as if we just Adopted a couple Spare Kids while Finalizing the Adoption.  *Ha ha ha*

 

I got the above Heart {The Red N Black One} that was similar to that Pink One I'd seen before.   I like mine better than the Pink one, which had already Sold.  I like that mine has a round piece of Jade and the Crystal Towers.  I like that the Heart shows on both sides and isn't flat and the Price was low at Twenty Bucks.   The Daughter did come Home with the Keys and she looks Fine and Clean, so, that's a relief.  The folks from that Property brought her, they still have a bunch of Work on that Property for her to do that they're paying her for, since it is Sold and has to be done before the Transfer to the New Owner.  They wanted it conveyed in a certain condition and it was dump coz the Old Man had let it go into Neglect with his Age and only kept the Animals well Cared for, not the Property really or the Trailer.  She made Peace with her Son, which is good, he was very upset with her.  I felt stupid coz I'd been Texting her Old Broken Phone and not the New One... no wonder she didn't respond!  Ooops. 

Now there's no more Trouble in Paradise.  *Whew*  And, I also had forgotten the spare Key to the 5th Wheel had broken in the Lock once and had to be dug out.  So, we'll be making a spare now with her Key, which, she's allowed to have coz she's living there.  I just wanted the spare with me and had completely forgotten it had broken, they make the Keys very flimsy now and they bend and break rather easily compared to older Keys.  Anyway, I'm glad she has Work that is steady, she was able to send some to the Oldest Daughter in Mexico for her College Books and some Tuition Costs already.  She knows why I was suspicious and upset, apologized to me, she doesn't like seeing me upset, none of the Kids do.  They know I always worry about the ones who've had Substance Abuse Issues staying Clean.  The Daughter said she and her Brother would always drop a UA for me to prove their continued Sobriety from Drugs.

We got Test Results back for The Man from his Cardiac Doc's Office, his A1C was 7.8, which for him is good, tho' still elevated, it's been 8-9 before, so for him in the 7's is still an improvement.  I'm in the 6's now and that's where we'd like him to be as well one day, but he struggles more with healthy Dietary choices than I do.  It's easy for me to eat healthy, I prefer to and am not one to eat Fried Foods, Sugary Foods, Junk Foods, I don't really like that kind of Food.  I prefer Savory, Salty and Sour Foods over anything Sweet.  His Thyroid was low, he has an underactive one, but not alarmingly so and they aren't ready to say he needs Meds for that yet.   So, it does slow his Metabolism and has all the persistent symptoms of Hypothyroidism.  But, all his other levels were good.  We'll end the Post on a Visually Positive Note with a Pix my Brother took at an Event he covered, which is Adorbs...

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More of my Brother's great Photography to come in another Post... Dawn... The Bohemian