Monday, February 11, 2019

Valentine's Day And A Crisis



So I ran around the house trying to find anything Heart Shaped to photograph for a Valentine's Day Post.  It's not that I don't have a fair amount of Heart evident in Villa Boheme', it's just that I haven't decorated with much of it for Valentine's Day this year.  I've barely got all of Christmas down truth be told, I've still got Stockings hung by the Fireplace with Care here beside me in fact!  I have fabulous Rusty Tin Heart Ornaments, that I typically put on a Champagne colored Aluminum set of Trees I have set up in the Diningroom year round, but I haven't even done that yet this Year.  With mere days left I'm not sure if I'll bother decorating for Valentine's Day specifically or not?  To say I'm the only one in the Family that is even "into" Valentine's Day would be an understatement, so it's not like anyone Cares or notices... I'd be doing it for me alone and exclusively.




I should, I love Seasonal Decorating actually, but mustering the ambition to has been setback with a series of unfortunate events, which have not set the Mood for such things.   We had an Adult Male pervert approach Princess T on her way Home from School on Friday Afternoon, hanging around our Green Belt at the end of our Street... I was at Work!!!  Thankfully she had been very aware of her surroundings and noticed creepy guy before he got close enough to her to make actual physical contact!  She ran all the way Home and locked the door, terrified, then told Grandpa what happened and what sexual advances the creepy man had mentioned to her!  Grandpa immediately called Police, but they weren't able to make an apprehension of the Sexual Predator, even with the good description she gave and him being on foot, I find that deeply disturbing!




Clean cut Adult White Male in his late 20's or early 30's, dark Crew Cut... not necessarily someone that would stand out as a Sexual Predator to passers by, he looked like he could belong and just be at the Parks legitimately around here.  But something about him had alarmed her even before he approached her, she's a very observant Child and she didn't like how he was looking at her from across the Green Belt as she walked Home on the sidewalk around it.  She also noticed he kept his Eye on the Dog Walker Adult on the other sidewalk around the Green Belt... and once that person rounded the corner out of sight is when he began quickly walking towards her... getting alarmingly close before she could get to our street and then made his disgusting Sexual advances just feet away from her!  To a 13 Year Old Child... my level of disgust is to where I truly wanted to hunt him down like the Animal that he is!  My Maternal Instincts went into hyperdrive, my Grandchild is now afraid to go outside and her sense of Security and Well Being is wrecked, she slept in our Bed that Night.

  


Her Big Brother will now be walking with and chaperoning her everywhere when I can't be Home.  The Man still being a Wander Risk he can't, even tho' he desperately wants to, so I'm relieved that The Young Prince stepped up and said he'd protect her and make her feel Safer.  He's very protective of his Little Sister anyway, especially as she blossoms into Young Womanhood, which is a very vulnerable Season for any Young Girl.  That transition from Childhood, that Space of Limbo where you're not quite an Adult yet and still very much a Child.  In The Hood all the Children were aware of Urban Dangers and had a heightened sense of instincts about not being an easy Mark.  Out here that false sense of Security exists and I fear that many of the Children could therefore be more vulnerable, more complacent, more approachable by Predators among us.  I Pray they apprehend and prosecute this one quickly before some Amber Alert has to go out to heighten the Police Department's sense of Urgency?!?




They took The Man's Report over the phone but haven't done any follow-up in person, which doesn't please me.  But I've heard thru our online Community Neighborhood Nextdoor Website that they're doing extra Patrols.  Yes, I had The Young Prince put up an Urgent Alert to all Residents about the incident on the Website, so that more Families are aware of what just happened and looking out now for the safety of their Children and to hopefully reveal who this deviant is!?!  Having worked Sex Crimes Files at the DA's Office for so many years, I have no delusions about how this specific type of Criminal generally escalates and never truly rehabilitates.  Recidivism isn't a matter of IF they re-offend, but WHEN, which is why their Files are Archived Forever and never Purged!  If they've never yet been apprehended and successfully prosecuted they wouldn't even be a Registered Sex Offender.  That's what is insidious about such Crimes, they could be anyone, you wouldn't even necessarily know, many are Chameleons of the Human Variety.   Not recognizing a Predator makes for easier Prey.




I Thanked God profusely for keeping Princess T Safe, tho' shaken, it could have been a worse outcome for sure!   She's still a Victim tho', and after such an incident it's not something anyone "gets over" and it would be naive to assume otherwise.   Close calls like that stick with you, you don't have to be the ultimate grim statistic to have the collateral damage from such an encounter, a Lifetime often doesn't erase the negative impact it can have.  I know, over 45 Years ago I was a Survivor of a Sex Crime and unfortunately I know far too many other Victims who have been too, you never forget, you never fully or truly just "Get Over it".   Those who presume otherwise and suggest such things, I'd venture to guess have never had a point of reference to even draw upon, which is fortunate for them.   I don't personally feel any convicted Sex Offender should ever have a release date from institutionalization, most especially the High Level designated ones.   But they do... and then are back among us and awareness of that cannot be over stressed enough!




And I know that a Valentine's Day Post wouldn't necessarily be where you'd expect to receive such a heavy topic and a tough read.   But among Hearts there are often broken and damaged ones... for a variety of reasons and not all of them openly discussed because it can be so uncomfortable to have to Hear or need to Tell.   We like to think Society as a whole is Good, Noble and that Righteousness always prevails, we don't like to have to be cynical and so guarded about our individual safety and well being being compromised by other Human Beings especially.  My Grand-Daughter's Carefree days of playing happily at our Parks within the Community is now contaminated by this horrible experience of one individual encounter with one of the Bad among us.  One who would most definitely NOT be Safe for any Child to be around... and I can't help but wonder how many Children he is around daily?   Either who don't know... or don't Tell?  What collateral damage has he already caused... and will inflict before his Life is through?  How many more potential Victims and how tolerant will we as a Society be with his Kind and the Crimes they perpetrate?




Yes, I'll go out, perhaps Tomorrow, and buy the Valentine's Treats for The Man and The G-Kid Force as if it's any Normal Valentine's Day.   Even if she might still Need to sleep in our Bed off and on for a while to Feel Safer again and Protected.  Seeking Comfort where she knows Protection is a higher Priority among her Family, than out there in Public where one is always more vulnerable.  And yet, I know that vulnerability exists within some Homes, and the incidents of assault don't always involve Stranger Danger guidelines and are people known to the Victims.  No amount of instruction about Stranger Danger will Protect the Vulnerable Child or Vulnerable Adult living with the Enemy and sadly, many have to and most of us will never know that dirty Secret being kept.   I know that whoever this perp is, he has Family... and they are perhaps the most vulnerable of all.   And if, by chance, any become emboldened to confide in anyone, I Pray that they know it is a Safe Confession for them to make and that the Confidant will notify Authorities on their behalf to get them Help and Rescue from Victimization.   We have an obligation to Protect the most vulnerable among us, those especially with no Voice.




There are the Stories we hear about on the News, usually the High Profile Cases... but so many more we'll never hear about, the Unknown Victims.  I've processed boxes and boxes of umteen Files of these types of Crimes during that span of time I did that as a Career.   I am more than glad I don't have to see another File's contents, since you can't unsee what is seen, can't unhear what is heard... and that too sticks with you.   I commend those who go out every day and Deal with the carnage of what Humanity inflicts upon Humanity.  Collectively we can be a very messed up Species devoid of actual Humanity, it has to be a conscious Choice each of us must make for ourselves.   Some don't do a very good job of it... at varying levels... and it's evident.   But we could improve upon it collectively and especially if as a Collective, the appalling Crimes against Humanity were less tolerated, less excused and more pressure put upon those who would violate other Human Beings in various ways.




Some Societies have enforced Higher Standards than others... and at various junctures in History of coarse the Standards can shift, in a Positive way or a Negative one.   We must Share this Planet and it would just be refreshing if we could do so in Peace and more Harmony with one another intentionally.   We can Be the Light or we can Be the Darkness... we can be part of the Solutions or we will become part of the Problems... which will you choose to Be?   Will this World be better or worse for you having an impact and imprint upon it in your Lifetime?    I Thank each of you who stuck with the tough Read... and it's Okay if you were not able and the Pretty Pictures were all you could handle this day.  Some days are just like that, I know... Thank God that Beauty exists right alongside what is Ugly in this World!   So that a restoration of Balance is evident and available to us all... Hope renewed, even when things are Bad and especially when they are.   I NEED the Beauty all the more during those times and I'm pretty sure you do too my Friends.  May this Valentine's Day have some Beauty, even if your times aren't very Pretty right now.




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Blessings, Love and Light and a Happy Valentine's Day from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

14 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness!! I am so sorry the Princess had to endure that. yay for a protective brother. That makes me so sad that now her life will be in a much tighter box but its what has to happen for safety. So proud of her being aware .

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    1. I know Holli, I hate that their Freedoms are often compromised by the ills of Society, Children almost have to grow up too quickly nowadays and not be as Carefree as they should enjoy being! I too am immensely proud of how she handled that situation!

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  2. I am heartsick for you and your granddaughter..the whole family too. It's a terrible and unforgivable thing to frighten a young girl like this. I hope this disgusting p.o.s. gets apprehended SOON!

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    1. Me too Cynthia, a certain innocence is lost when a Child experiences being Victimized by any Crime/Criminal. I am Thankful that Today, returning to School, her fears weren't as raw tho' we'll all be hypervigilant until that p.o.s. gets apprehended!

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  3. Oh how horrible for your granddaughter and for all of you. We never think it will happen to us, but there are so many creeps out there that we can not let our guard down for even a minute.

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    1. So True and the ills of Society just seem to be exacerbated in modern times, it seems to me that Children of today just have to grow up and be exposed to things that strip them of innocence and being able to enjoy their Freedoms!

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  4. I'm so glad the police were called. I hope she has a cell phone with her at all times. This makes me so mad. There are some things that are unforgivable. Scaring a child and making her feel afraid in her own world and in her own skin is one of them.

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    1. I agree Colette and Yes, she has a Cell Phone with her at all times. Now she has her 8th Grade Male Friends volunteering to walk her Home or I go to pick her up, or her Brother will walk down and get her, so we've got coverage. She immediately surrounded herself with protection and all the Kids rallied when they heard what happened. So all Eyes will be looking for this perp now and I hope he's flushed out and caught.

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  5. I appreciate your beauty, but also your words. By all means, use social media--neighborhood posts---wherever and however you can. It's ridiculous that the police have not followed up on this. T is a visual girl---I'm sure she could give an excellent description and even work with an PD artist and get an accurate picture! Hope all EYES are out for this guy---and good luck!

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    1. I'm in complete Agreement Sandi that they should have employed a Sketch Artist to circulate via Media sites of all kinds so this creep is flushed out and caught. Surely someone will recognize him at some point if they did this! She gave all of us an excellent description and we've done what we can to alert our Community adequately... participation with the Community would instill more confidence if the Police took that approach of a level of Care and Service such a Crime should warrant!

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  6. I am so glad she has her wise grandmother and family to shelter her. I agree with everything you said. Sending you love and light.

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    1. Thank You my Friend, any Sex Crime, at any level, generally begins to escalate as the perpetrators of them get emboldened and don't get caught. I take this as Serious as I would a Heart Attack!

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  7. I'm sorry your granddaughter had to go through this. It's only been in the last few years that I've stopped feeling nervous when walking and strange men appear, although now that I've typed that I recall that it happened just last fall. A strange man lurking along the walking paths. I always have the dog with me but it makes me angry that I have to feel nervous and alert.

    I know it's difficult for the big guy. He's a very large man and makes people nervous just because of his size. He always smiles and says hello but he gets stigmatized by perverts as well.

    Your granddaughter wasn't hurt which is good but she lost her innocence which is always a sad thing.

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    1. Indeed Lily, the loss of innocence and of personal Freedom when one becomes the Victim of any Crime is tragedy even if you are fortunate enough not to have been physically hurt... the emotional scars it leaves behind can still be considerable. She hardly goes outside anymore and her mood has become tense because she's lost so much of what she used to enjoy in a carefree manner and feeling safe doing it within our community. We moved out of Urban areas to have greater safety, less crime and allow the Children to Play outside without worries... now we don't have that here either, it's sadly a condition of Society nowadays I suppose.

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