Tuesday, June 26, 2012

A Heavy Heart

Any time I receive extremely bad news I am further reminded of the Fragility of Life and how it should never be taken for granted.  Every day should be lived fully & with Gratitude.

And today's Post is written with a Heavy Heart since our Family has received some very bad news indeed regarding one of our Nephews... the Son of The Man's oldest Sister.  She has five Children and this is her youngest Son.

He was found dead by his room-mate, revived 20 minutes later and is presently on life support... so my Dear Sister-In-Law and her Family will have to make the agonizing decision on whether to discontinue life support and leave it in the Lord's Hands on whether he will revive or pass through the Veil.

This is a weighty decision that my own Parents & Sister-In-Law have had to make numerous times with my younger Brother... since he has been battling illness a long time and has been on Life Support numerous times.  And you never can be certain of the outcome... nobody can.

In my Brother's case he has gone through more Lives than a Cat when it comes to being brought back from the brink of Death & defying grim prognosis... but the fact remains that Quality of Life can be greatly diminished when irrepairable damage has been done by a near Death experience.


And so it can be extremely difficult and even agonizing to know what to Hope for?  What to Pray for?  What to do?  It is after all a decision being made on behalf of another Human Being, without their input and/or consent.

My Heart aches for my Sister-In-Law and her Family being faced with this most unexpected turn of events and such a weighty decision that they must all face, come into agreement about and have a Peace with.

And if the possibility of losing a Child, a Brother, a Father isn't difficult enough for the immediate Family... there is even a more unfortunate twist... his only Daughter will be giving Birth to her first child, to his first Grandchild... on the very day that he could pass from Time into Eternity!!!


So what should be a most Joyful day of Celebrating new Life is tempered by coinciding with unexpected great Tragedy, Grief and Loss!!!   How does one deal with that?!  Not only now, but in years to come?

No Parent wants to outlive a Child... no Parent expects to outlive a Child... or should.  I cannot even Imagine such Grief incurred by that possibility!!!!!!!

No Child wants to lose a Parent and especially prematurely or quite suddenly and unexpectedly.

I have been fortunate that my Dad Lived to a ripe old Age before passing and had been sick long enough that we had time to prepare.  To do and say everything we wanted and needed to, within reason, before his Time came.  And though it still was difficult, there was no unfinished business... everything he and we Intended had been fulfilled and so there was Closure & a Peace even in Grief.

He got the opportunity to watch his Children grow up, see every Grandchild's Face and even one of his Great-Grandchildren.  Old Age is a privilege not afforded to many you see... and Life can be so very, very Fragile and each day is Promised to no-one.

Yes, our Hearts Ache today and we Grieve at this time for what has happened to our Dear Nephew & the Mystery of how.  We have been told that if not Taken he will never be the same... and if he Passes it will be much, much too soon and unexpectedly... so the outcome is grim either way.


My Prayer this day is that the Lord Strengthen and Comfort each Family member and Friend of our Nephew... and that His Perfect Will be done... we Trust in Him fully and remain up by Faith knowing it WILL hold...

Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian


  1. Oh Dawn, I'm so very sorry to hear this. I will keep your nephew and family in my prayers!
    Hugs~~~ Daphne

  2. Birth and death--it seems like a sad time to be born. But in my own family, my mom was dying just when her great grandchild was born. She got to see the baby before she died, which was wonderful. And that baby brought us so much joy at a time of grief. I told her parents (my nephew and his wife) that their brand new baby had already done more to help others in her first days of life than many people do in an entire lifetime.

    I hope that the new baby in your family will do the same. Blessings to you and your family.

  3. So sorry to hear this, Dawn. My prayers are with your family. Big hugs, Janice

  4. Oh Dawn, heavy heart indeed. My prayers are with you and your family. I so love what Galen Pearl said, so true. Blessings be with your nephew and the new baby, such extremes of life...

  5. so very sorry Dawn, sending prayers.


A life touched by God always ends in touching others. - Erwin McManus

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars. - Og Mandino (1923-1996)

For creativity to flourish one should try to look at everything as though it were being seen for the first or the last time. - Quote from "A Thousand Paths To Creativity" by David Baird

Is what I'm about to say an improvement on silence? ~ Galen Pearl