Saturday, August 1, 2020

Celebration And Concerns



Regardless of my into the Future Blog Post Date {Smiles}, it was actually the 29th of June Yesterday, The Son's 34th Birthday.  Tho' he'd had invites to go out and Celebrate with Friends, the Family he's living with has an Elderly Gramma residing there and his Friend's Parents are our Age too that own the Farm, so he Opts Out of most things nowadays to keep them Safe from infection.  He has been coming to our Home, since their Family knows our Family also has Medical Fragility so is being guarded and cautious during these times of Pandemic.  So we did some Swimming and spent quality time together, I took him out for another Celebration Meal at a now deserted favorite place near our Home.  It's where the Stadium is, but no Games now and a lot of places have thus sadly gone under and it has a rather eerie feel seeing no-one in a place that usually is vibrantly packed with people during Normal times!




Our Favorite Restaurant there, a huge Steakhouse, had sadly gone under, I hadn't known and that had been our original destination since it had great food, atmosphere and was an enormous Space.  There's a Brewery there that The Son had gone to many times when he's attended Events at the Stadium Pre-COVID, tho' it hardly had any Patrons, it was still open.  We pretty much had the place to ourselves with the exception of one other small Group also Celebrating a Young Adult Woman's Birthday.   The Staff were super attentive, I suspect all are on edge about possibly Closing Down again, I don't blame them, I have my Concerns about America having to start over with this Pandemic Mitigation Thing and try to get it right next time!?  It's a bittersweet Celebration when things are going so Wrong.  The Son is still opting to keep working on the Farm and staying out in the middle of nowhere until it's Safer to return to the City and find Work in the Trades again.  He's doing Well now and wants to continue on that trajectory to Wellness also, he looks good and feels healthier already.




We filled his Prescriptions and he's taking them Religiously again and says he really does feel a Positive difference and doesn't feel the urges to self medicate now.  That's such a relief, if he'd still been using I doubt his health would have been robust enough to fight the Virus if he ever contracted it.  We were already having a somber discussion about COVID because The Young Prince had woke me that very Morning calling from Washington State to tell me his Dad contacted him and told him he has COVID, we aren't sure how bad, but it sounded bad.   His Dad and Family live here in Phoenix and I know The Young Prince wanted me to check up on things.  My Grandson immediately became concerned and scared about that, especially since his Dad had eluded that if he didn't survive it, to help his Fiance' take Care of The Young Prince's little Brother and Sister here in Phoenix!   I could tell that terrified my Grandson to contemplate that responsibility, but he agreed he and his Partner would, they're good Guys.  Of coarse my Grandson is Gay, never wanted to have or raise Children and is also Seriously Mentally Ill, so Caring for himself is more than enough.  So we'd had that candid conversation of just how much he could Help Angie and the Kids if something happened to his Dad.




I do know he was contacting me for Emotional Support and to let me know the other Grandkids are in a household of Medical Crisis right now, he knew I'd want to know.  I Pray his Dad is victorious over the Virus, even tho' his past History of Drug Abuse, before he became Clean and Sober, meant he didn't always take Care of himself in his wayward Youth.  Sometimes our wayward Youth catches up to us in Middle Age and Old Age, doesn't it?  The Son could relate to his Nephew's Dad's situation, he asked if I was going to contact The Young Prince's Dad now?  Of coarse I will, even tho' his Son is now grown, so we don't have the contact we used to have while The Young Prince was growing up and required Supervised Visitations.  We've always tried to have the best possible relationship with the Parents of The G-Kid Force, we Love them all and worked thru the various considerable Issues of Life that required us to stand in the Gap and raise these Two Grandchildren.   I am worried about the Well Being and Safety of his Dad and Family now that COVID is in the Household.  It could mean they all get Sick and I've already Lost one Precious Great-Grandchild to COVID.  I don't want to lose any more Loved Ones to this dreadful disease!




I had actually been thinking about their Family all day long BEFORE I even got the Call from The Young Prince, I told The Man that I just felt something might be Wrong since I have not heard from them.  I'm saddened to know this could be Why, it doesn't sound like he's been Hospitalized yet, which could be a Positive Sign, right now, according to The Young Prince, the Family is in Self Quarantine for Two Weeks right now.  Luckily Angie works from Home so that shouldn't interrupt her Career and their ability to stay afloat.  But I know a lot of Young Families are struggling right now with Pandemic related situations and fallout.  They had purchased a New Home just before we purchased this one and I'd been so Happy that our Grandkids had such a lovely Historic Home that had been completely remodeled, it really is a lovely Home to grow up in.  It's a Brick Home too and was built around the 1940 Era, but completely Modernized inside and is beautifully appointed... the Kids did good picking out that one and it's close to the little Grandson's New Elementary School.  He began Kindergarten the Year his Older Brother, The Young Prince, moved to Washington State.  They all grow up so very fast, don't they!?




Tho' The Son and I thoroughly enjoyed our quality time together for his Birthday, there is always that undercurrent that things are so very Abnormal in the World around us and the evidence is everywhere, you can't ignore it.   Standing near the Stadium and being the only ones there in the vast Courtyard was like a Scene from The Walking Dead or The Twilight Zone, and that's pretty much how I do recon about where I might venture outside of the house... the least populated places.  I don't want people around and that just feels and seems so Weird to always have to consider AVOIDING other people in order to stay Healthy!  It's like they're ALL the Zombies you're trying not to get Infected and Turned by... so that you too don't become one of the numerous, ever growing, Statistics of COVID-19 Victims that are quickly populating the Earth!





While The Son was over at the House celebrating his actual Birth Day, of coarse I had some Projects for him to Help me with.  *winks*  He doesn't mind, he Loves to keep busy and be Helpful, he also knew which Project I had in Mind.  The last time we'd hung my African Goat Mount at Villa Boheme' in The Meditation Room, The Young Prince and my Friend who was Living with us Helped get it up on the Wall.  That Sucker is super heavy, as is the Antique Frame around it, so finding a Stud on the Wall to support it all was crucial.  Also, being able to hold it while up a Ladder, which The Young Prince and The Son are Strong enough to do, but it would have been challenging for Yours Truly.  I could probably do it, the heavy lifting wasn't my Concern so much as being up a Ladder of Death while trying to hold and hang something that heavy!  The Son didn't even want me attempting it and he got it up no problem.  Then stuck his Finger up it's Nose for the first pix.  *LMAO*





Okay, all kidding aside I liked where it's hung just as you're walking thru the Front Door at Eye Level.  The Son had wanted to hang it higher, in case anyone over 6'2" was to be walking past, but there was no cross beam Stud higher and it wouldn't have been at Eye Level, which I wanted.  Besides, my 6'4" Brother isn't likely to be visiting anytime soon and most everyone else is under 6'2" so we're good.  *LOL*   Bro', if you do come for a visit, just duck a little if you're that close to the entryway Wall, Okay?  *Winks*  So now, one more piece of Taxidermy off of the Floor, Two more Mounts to go!  Yep, I still have an Antelope and a Deer Mount to go and then all the larger Taxidermy is finally hung in permanent Placement!   I'd always wanted to put a Steampunk Top Hat and Monocle on this African Goat, but I don't have a Monocle yet and his Horns are too large for my Antique Beaver Top Hats to fit and look right... dammit!





I am Seriously thinking about what to hang around his very thick Neck that would Pimp him Out in an Amusing way tho'?   We're currently looking after Princess T's Bestie, Gay Timmy, while his Grandparents have to go to Florida for a personal matter.  They are Raising him and his Mom has Issues so he was taken away from her and only has Visitation with her and they don't get along, so didn't want to have to stay there.  Princess T has told me enough about that situation that I offered for him to just stay with us, which would be far less Concerns for his Grandparents, while they have to be away and then Quarantine when they get back from a Hot Spot State.  Yes, Arizona is a Hot Spot State too, but we've never had the Mind Blowing 9,500 New Cases in a Day that Florida has experienced!   I'm sure they would rather avoid Florida if they could, whatever is taking them there must be unavoidable and I didn't pry.  They were Grateful and we Love their Grandson, so he's more than Welcome here, he's a great Kid and very well behaved and good influence on Princess T.





Straight Anthony hangs out a lot here too, because he's being Raised by Older extended Family, his Mom is Deceased, so the bond the trio shares is like Siblings without Parents.  I got a bucket of KFC for the Kiddos and they spend most of their time playing Board Games, watching Cartoons or Skate Boarding.  Having Three low key Teens in the House is no problem, you hardly know they're even here and they're also very Helpful, the Boys are very tidy and Princess T often has Projects for them to do too, she's great at delegating... Wonder where she got THAT from?!  *Bwahahahahaha!*   Pandemic has been really tough on all Kiddos and now they're saying the start of School is being delayed due to the Statistics of Cases being so out of Control.  I'm not Surprised and rather Relieved, I don't think they can yet keep Kids Safe at Schools or have a viable Game Plan.  Especially for Medically Fragile Families and Families Raising Grandchildren... and there's a considerable number of us to consider.





If something happens to any of us Older and/or Medically Fragile Parents and Kinship Placements, the Orphans that will leave behind will be problematic for The State to sort out placements for!  Especially for Older, Hard to Place and Special Needs Kiddos.  When I consider The 3 Muskateers, you have their Age to consider, Minority Racial Status of Straight Anthony and our Granddaughter, Health Issues for our Granddaughter and her other Special Needs, and Timmy being Gay.   These are all things that would make Placements difficult if God Forbid anything happened to all us Old People now raising the Three of those Precious Children!   So, all of our Families are even more concerned than the Garden Variety Parent about School during a Pandemic that isn't even remotely being managed well in our Country and in our State in particular!  I don't even like to think about School resuming even tho' of coarse we want all our Kiddos to receive their Education in some Safe manner that Works for them.





Princess T told me that The Boy Posse didn't do very well with Online Schooling either and their own Families were as Academically Challenged as we were, due to being Seniors raising Children.   So I don't really know how it all is going to Play Out when School resumes and what Game Plan they'll have, especially for Children on an IEP with Special Needs and Medical Issues?   I'll have to address all that now later in August, as they've now pushed it back to Mid-August rather than Early-August.   This will be the first Year of High School for all Three of those Kiddos since they're all going to be Freshmen.  That should be an exciting milestone rather than one filled with such Dread as we all have.  But, that's the World now during Pandemic, isn't it?   I'm wondering if The Young Prince's Dad caught the Virus when he attended his Younger Sister's recent Wedding in New York, which was a Hot Spot at the time, but where the Groom is from?





When The Young Prince's Lovely Paternal Aunt got Married recently, he couldn't attend due to Pandemic, but she sent us pixs of the very intimate Ceremony and she was absolutely Gorgeous!   She's a Beautiful Young Woman inside and out, I've known her since she was just a Kid and she really has a Wonderful new Husband, we're so very Happy for her!   They had of coarse Planned the Wedding last Year, before COVID changed everything and Wedding Plans had to be modified accordingly.  So many Young Couples are having to do this now that Pandemic has Changed everything forever, very likely.   Large gatherings now just aren't an Option and are forbidden actually.  That makes things like Weddings and Funerals very difficult and different now.





This Aunty has been such a stabilizing Influence in The Young Prince's Life and she helped us out a lot with The G-Kid Force over the Years, even tho' Princess T isn't biologically connected, since she has a different Dad than her Big Brother.  The Young Prince's Paternal side of the Family, who live locally, have always been stellar and inclusive with Princess T and we've appreciated that very much.   The same is True with Princess T's Paternal side of the Family in Mexico being stellar and inclusive with her Brother, also very much appreciated.  When you have a blended Family that isn't always the case... and especially when the dynamics of the Family are complicated like ours is.  We've all worked very hard over the Years to make even a complex dynamic Work well and have everyone inclusive in whatever capacity they can still be.  Children can never have too many people to Love them even if they aren't in a position to be able to Raise them.





And it's a Lovely place to end a Post with an Uplifting thing like a Lovely Young Couple just starting out their Lives together in Holy Matrimony!   Even during a time of Pandemic, Beautiful things can and do happen!



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Be Well and Stay Safe my Friends... Dawn... The Bohemian







14 comments:

  1. Enjoyed your post. I pray you won't need to be involved raising anymore young ones.

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  2. Our governor just today had a half hour briefing about what schools have to do to open in August. Things like older kids required to wear masks in hallways, smaller classes with social distancing, not going to a cafeteria to eat. Class rooms desanitized often with the foggers. Lots of hand sanitizer stations. They are starting earlier so they can take a long break over the holidays followed by online classes before going back in person again in early spring.

    Glad your son is in a good place with his health and treatment.

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    1. I think they will have to re-imagine how Classes will operate safely for Students and Staff. Yes, The Son is in a good place with his health and treatment right now which is answer to fervent prayer!

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  3. Hope your staying safe. I keep hearing how the whole west seems to be exploding with cases. I think this second wave, or should I say, continuation of the first wave... is going to get real bad. I'll be highly surprised if by fall, the whole country in back in deep lock downs.

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    1. I fear you are right about the whole country going back into deep lock down by Fall, or earlier, given how out of control this all has spun! Difficult to gauge what is Safe enough since they are now saying there are probably more asymptomatic people than they expected and if people aren't appearing sick they won't really be taking any kind of precautions to quarantine like the obviously sick ones would.

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  4. Glad you had a nice birthday celebration with your son despite everything that is going on. Also, glad to hear that he is doing well and taking care of himself.

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    1. Thanks, yes, it was so nice to spend some quality time together since we're all avoiding contact with just about everyone nowadays. He is doing well and taking better care of himself, which is a huge relief to me, I've been so concerned about him.

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  5. Your post left me in awe of your beautiful heart, Dawn. Like: You're the caring matriarch of such a big extended family and how good it is to know families can be and are all in this together. It can't always be easy. And even a wedding! Promising better days lie ahead. Take good care of yourself.

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    1. Mina, Thank You for the Sweet Words, Family is so very important to us and I don't think it's ever completely easy to work out issues of Life that confront each Family, but I think it can be done when you value each member. Yes, a Wedding during Pandemic, I didn't get to attend because of our Medical fragility, but I was there in Spirit and of coarse got to see the beautiful images Shared, she was a Vision, wasn't she?!

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  6. happy birthday to your son and what a cool mosaic bench.

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    1. I love those Mosaic pieces too and how beautifully they Designed that Event area. I especially liked the hanging of so many Pastel colored Umbrellas as a whimsical shade structure, it looked Enchanting!

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  7. I'm glad your son is doing well. I hope one day my own son gets there as well.

    I would love to see your family tree:) I imagine all kinds of branches and cross branches and vines growing up everywhere. You're a good mama and grandma.

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    1. Awww, Thank You for the Sweet Words, our Family Tree is like a Jungle and as diverse as it could be, which I like. I do Hope your Son too will get on a Path to Wellness as I know what a burden it is when they can't or won't. It took the Prodigal Daughter over 25 Years before she attained Sobriety, but I never gave up, gave in or gave out on her, tho' many told me I should. Our Children and Grandchildren are a part of us and a huge precious Investment like no other... the depth of our Pain is measured by the depth of our Love. When you look at that Adorable Grandson of yours, your Son is part of the Portal by which that precious Child came into existence. And I know what Joy that brings to behold our Grandchildren, even if our Children cannot be the Parents to them they should be. Your influence on the Little One will serve him well.

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