Tuesday, January 14, 2020

Sweet Salvage ~ Refresh Event

So THE SWEET SALVAGE New Year's "Refresh" Themed Event will begin on Thursday, in spite of the Chaos of The Move and tight timeline to be out of Villa Boheme' by the End of this Month, I'm still going!   In fact, The Man insisted I not miss it, since he said I've been Working and pushing myself too hard and he's right, I have been, all while not feeling 100% due to Seasonal Bronchitis plaguing me!  I Need the Down Time... I NEED that Cabinet in the Preview Pix!  *LMAO*  Okay, so No, I won't be Buying anything like that, since... well... 5 Big U-Haul Storage Units dictate I really need to Work more on the Downsizing Project after we get moved in to a Forever Home!  *LOL*  And Budget, it is blown all to Hell with his protracted Move situation lingering so long!  But... if Money were no object and I was Refreshing my Decor at a New Forever Home, I'd NEED that Cabinet!   It is Ideal for The Urban Farmhouse Decor 'Vision'! *Winks*

I've definitely been considering what I want the Styling and Decor to be like in a Fresh New Home where a New Beginning will be taking place in a brand New Year!   Something about the Year also being 2020 Appeals to me, it somehow seems significant numerically... Numerology being something that has always fascinated me and I tend to be Superstitious about.  Those of you who know me Well already know I don't DO the No. 4, Bad Mojo Number and I don't like it and avoid it.  It is inauspicious in Numerology and in many Asian Cultures actually, I didn't know that 'til fairly recently, I just knew I didn't ever like the Number and I didn't quite know Why?  The No. 13, which bothers more people as an Unlucky Number, has never bothered me at all, not even a Friday the 13th!  This Year one of my Grand-Daughters, whose Birthday is on the 13th of December, turned 13 Years Old, and it was all Good.  She is one of the Younger Siblings of The G-Kid Force and just a Year Younger than Princess T.

The Son is starting a New Career here in the Far West Valley so he'll be closer to us again.  I'm so happy for him, since this will be a good opportunity and he'll be back among Lifelong Ride or Die Friends as well, that he grew up with on the West Side.  Alas, it will also mean, since he's starting right away, that he won't be able to help me much more with The Move.  He's done a lot for me tho' that I couldn't have done without him.  I too am glad to be moving back to our Old Community that I Love and have a Deep Connection to.  We got an HOA Letter Today, a generic Form Letter, about reminders that they want everyone painting their freakin'   Homes!  We have a White Home, it's Whiter than when we bought it, looks better than when we bought it, I'm not outlaying an enormous amount to repaint it since we won't even own it in 2 Weeks now!  It doesn't even NEED repainting and what if Families cannot afford to spend $8,000+ to repaint their Homes on an HOA's whim and it imposes undue Hardship?  They are so out of control with their demands upon the Community, good riddance, I'm not painting the fucking House!

So except for some last minute potential completely unnecessary HOA Drama and the VA Appraisal not coming in on time, everything is Swell!  *Bwahahahaha!*  The Bronchitis has been a beeyitch, but I'm taking Treatments for it and hopefully won't be suffering with it too much longer, so I can be back to Feeling 100% to finish this Move?!?   The Exodus of Stuff is looking like it's on the Home Stretch, that which I can Move Out myself, that is, and Store at The U-Haul Units of Five.  *LOL*   I Feel rather like a Pack Rat as I scan the already Full Four Largest Units looking for any square Inch that I can cram something else into?!?  I want to Save the less expansive Unit No. 5 for the larger items we can move over there before Hiring Guys and Renting a Big Ass U-Haul Truck nearer to the 28th Deadline.   Right now I don't even know if I'll have somewhere to drive and unload a Big Ass U-Haul Truck(s) to yet... so that Suspense and uncertainty is killing me!  It's not like I can Live in one and drive it around endlessly 'til I can Buy a Forever Home and Move in!

Yes, Dear Kyle at The U-Haul did tell me I could Rent One or More of their Special Trucks at a Cheaper Rate and Store it in their RV Lots at $39 per Day, per Truck, filled and unloaded, but that could get expensive FAST, so I'd rather not rely on that Plan of Action for more than 1-3 Days tops!   Renting 5 Units is already expensive, tho' I did get 5 combined Months of FREE Rents, which I can't begin to tell you how much of a Relief that was to the shot Budget!  Nobody can seem to tell me how much longer the VA will delay giving us the Appraisal Results?  Shit, it was Ordered some time ago... step it up, we've only got Two Weeks left now to do a Dual Closing!   Anything to do with the Government tho' is par for the Course that they take however long they just want to, irregardless of the hardships it causes to people.  Hurry up and wait... that's kinda the Military Mantra and if you've spent a Lifetime in it you kinda get used to it... being made to wait... somewhat... *Le Sigh*

So I am in a Holding Pattern and Maintaining my Calm, since Calmer was my Word for 2020 and I'm certain that being Calm when things are not within my Control is infinitely better than NOT being Calm!  *LOL*   Que Sera Sera and all that... whatever will Be, will Be.    So, in the meantime, to keep Calm and Carry On... I'm Fantasizing about how I could Decorate the New Forever Home that we will Hopefully be Moving to by February, all Body parts crossed???!?!  I Loved that the Ceiling in this Image was Painted Black and the Fantastical Crown Molding and extremely Ornate Barbola Embellishments framing the Doorways!  *Swoon!*  I LOVE Plants, Greenery in particular, in Decorating... and I always used to have it... then I got Lazy, or had Homes it didn't necessary thrive in either... and now Air Plants was mostly my Lot to try to keep Alive and Style with.   At The Urban Farmhouse I Hope to Buy some Awesome Live Greenery to Decorate with and get the Ambiance and Vibe I Envision.

I'm thinking about the Blog Withdrawal I am likely to go thru should we not have a smooth Transition between Homes?!  *Gasp!*   Yeah, tho' the thought of being temporarily Homeless doesn't Appeal to me whatsoever, the thought of no Land Of Blog to Retreat to during a Stressful period like that is equally terrifying!  *LOL*  And wouldn't you know that Princess T has now come down Sick!  She has chronic Respiratory distress this time of the Year too, so it's very likely a Seasonal thing with her, like it is right now with me... and The Man... so none of us Feels Good.   The Stress of trying to get Moved and all the complexities of it is just complicated all the more when the house full of it's people is also not Feeling Well!  She's been coming Home from School and just falling asleep immediately on the Sectional for HOURS.  She's not contagious as nobody around her has gotten Sick and it seems to be Respiratory so I just Hope I don't have to take her to the Pulmonary Specialist again?!?  She's been under the Care of one off and on since Birth, as she's gotten Older she's gotten Stronger tho' and has less Severe Episodes.

When she was a Baby she was on 5 Breathing Treatments a Day and she was almost 10 Years Old before she could Sleep laying down flat!   She had a Surgery around that Age which made it possible for her to finally Sleep like a Normal Person, Bless her Heart!   She rarely, if ever, complains about it, she's quite the Trooper about being Stoic during Illness, but I can tell she Feels like Crap and Needed that Mother Hen Mothering a bit Today.  She's been dragging around her Big stuffed Animal and looking like Misery personified, it's so pitiful it breaks your Heart!   She'll likely spend more time Asleep than Awake, when she's not Well she does that.   The School System, even if you have a Child with Special Medical Needs, isn't very sympathetic about missed School Days due to Chronic Illness.   As if the Parent(s) of said Children have any real Control over such things as Chronic and Serious Illness or Disabling factors that cause those Children with Special Needs to miss School when not Well!!!   I've gotten The Threatening Letters often with these Kiddos while they were growing up and in School.  I'm waiting for another one if she misses too much School due to this and has to be kept Home to recover!?

I look forward to such Pain in the Ass Harassment Mail from the School System as much as I do the dreaded HOA Letters of Threats, Doom and Gloom!   *Le Sigh*   I remember one such Letter from the School, Years ago, threatened me with Jail Time for too many missed School Days of my Seriously Ill Child!   Shit... don't threaten me with a Good Time... that sounded like a damned Vacation compared to being Home with a Seriously and Chronically Ill Child, plus Two others to be Caregiver of!   I told them that too... make my Day... have me Arrested... and BTW: Better come up with a Replacement for BOTH Special Needs Kiddos AND my 100% Disabled Husband if I'm Sent Away, coz they require Full Time Caregiving!  I may not wanna come back Home actually and Relieve said Sucka you have to Hire!?  *LMAO*   Needless to say, when the State did the prospectus of how much that would Cost them per Month for the Trio, they decided against Locking me up... Bwahahahahahaha!   I think the Figure was somewhere in the Neighborhood of in excess of Fifteen Grand or so per Month if they had to Pay someone for what I did as an Unpaid Caregiver!   I'm Priceless you see!  *Winks*

The School System also makes you take this enormous stack of Paperwork to your Child(ren's) Specialists Annually to Verify the Nature of their Chronic Disability or Illness that causes so many Absences, even if they're Excused Absences!   The G-Kid Forces Specialists always LOVED that inconvenience lemme tell ya!   I remember one time the Specialist worded the Documentation to reflect that this was a PERMANENT Lifetime Condition... with no Cures... and yet every Year the School wanted that VERIFIED... as if they didn't GET what PERMANENT and LIFETIME conveyed about it NEVER FUCKING CHANGING... EVER... so the One Time Verification should Hold Up Year after Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  That's Funny now in a Dark Gallow's Humor kinda way... but at the time we were not Laughing!   I remember a Mother of a Terminally Ill Child telling me they also got those Threatening Letters about excessive Absences, while her Child was actively Dying... how Crass... how Cruel... I couldn't even Imagine the response I'd of had to that!!!!!!!  Her Daughter finally Passed, after Years of valiantly fighting for Life... so did it really matter she missed some School and spent more Precious time with Family than in the Classroom in her Short Life?

The Changing of yet another School System is something I'm rather on Pins and Needles about, given our Experiences of Special Educational Services adequacy, or lack thereof, from School System to School System and District.   Right now Princess T seems to be having a good Quarter, she even got several A's, which was a Shocker and we were deliriously Proud and Overjoyed!  Since this is the Kid that usually Fails all her Classes no matter how hard she tries, Cares and Works super hard!  I will probably Keep that Report Card and Frame the damned thing!   Well, Two of the Four A's were her Electives... but hey, an A is an A even if it's in Underwater Basket Weaving my Friends, we'll take it and brag about it and Celebrate it madly!  *Winks*  She got a kick out of that, I knew she was Proud too to get ANY A's at all... even if half were Electives and not the Major Class Subjects... it's not often she gets to show us Academic Success like that, Bless her!   I think I told you she's given to wearing Fake Glasses now {a requested Christmas Pressy}, because she said it makes her "Look Smarter" and she was going for a "New Image" at School, a more Scholarly LOOKING one at least!   Okay, so tho' that IS Funny, it also made me choke up a LOT too so I didn't know whether to Laugh AND Cry?!

So I know Why she's having such intense Anxiety about changing Schools, even tho' she said she won't Miss living around here anymore really.   Yes, she has her Inner Circle of close Friends who she will likely keep in touch with and invite over to where we Move to... but she's not your Social Butterfly Type, she's very Introverted too and doesn't Like People very much.   Nothing that Personal, she'll tell ya with Candid Dark Humor, if she don't like you, don't worry, she doesn't really Like anybody and mostly just Tolerates people!    Today she's not Tolerating anyone... but she's not bothering or tormenting us either, she wants to mostly be left alone to Gel on the Sectional under a big pile of Blankets with her Phone... so it's a Good Day.   Well, about as Good as it gets when you don't Feel Well and you're looking after a Teen Kid and a Spouse who also don't Feel Well... in the middle of emptying out your Home of ALL of it's Contents... basically, just your Average Bliss kinda Day!  *Bwahahahaha!*

It's sustaining me to Visualize what our New Home might look and Feel like once we get all Moved in and Create that Forever Home Space that is our Version of Bliss.   I'm getting more Excited about it as we get closer to what I Hope might be the Home Stretch and Finish Line FINALLY!?!?!??  I could be packing some final Boxes right now, but I did Need to spend some Down Time just Blogging and NOT Working at it for some time during this Day.   I am at the place now where there is a Possibility that all the Smalls we aren't reliant on for absolute Necessity, could be packed up by the end of this Week!?!?!?   That's Exciting to me, since it seemed as tho' that would be Impossible at times... within any kind of Time Frame or Deadline actually?!?!  *LOL*

So I do Feel as tho' I can spend my Girl's Day Out on Thursday Peacefully and not Thinking about The Move at all... giving myself a Break from it being the Main Focus 24-7.   I Plan to make the Refresh Event a way to Refresh myself and my Spirit... replenish me in Sensory ways that are balm to the Soul!  And for the Blog Friends and Real Life Friends who are also on The Move... may you also Feel Refreshed during the arduous Journey you've embarked upon or will embark upon.   Usually I try to just Enjoy any Journey, but during this Move I must Confess that I was mostly Destination Oriented.   And reaching that Destination will bring with it much Relief and a sense of coming back Home... after being away in Exile far too long...


Blessings, Love, Light and Calm from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian 


  1. I used to have fake eye glasses in school BUT I used them to get out of things like reading out loud if called on. Not saying that's what your granddaughter is doing, I'm just sayin' that's what I did. It's sad what some kids have to go through with illnesses and disabilities, especially the kind that you can't see.

    A day off to play in your favorite medium/environment is just what you need.

    Decorating with a lot of live plants fell out of favor in the '80s but I just heard yesterday that they are making a come back.

    1. So you mean I'll be on the cutting edge of a comeback Trend?! *Winks* Princess T rolls with her challenges really well but it is hard when you don't blend in with your peers because no child wants to feel like a misfit. I got good News this Morning, the VA Appraisal came in Good, the Seller is interested in a Lease Back, so I feel a whole lot less stressed out with some Good News like that!

    2. Oh Wow! So excited you got a good V.A.Appraisal, and possible Lease Back from the seller. Hallelujah!!!

    3. Hallelujah indeed Marlynne, I'm so relieved and excited! It will certainly make for a smoother transition.


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