Sunday, January 28, 2018

Sweet Salvage And Facing Challenges

Today's Post will regale you with the balance of my Sweet Salvage Imagery of the last Event while exploring the Topic of Facing Challenges.  I've found that when faced with a significant challenge it's best not to wallow for long in the Negative aspect of whatever it is, because it can paralyze you from taking any Action at all.   One thing I would think could lead to complete despair is being mired in the Negative aspect of anything for too long.  So I try not to, no matter how bad it looks or how difficult the challenge is.

We're a very Solution Oriented Family, you don't even come up with great Solutions until faced with great Problems in fact.   Necessity is after all the Mother of Invention.   When you have Need of something there is much more motivation to come up with a Solution to solve fulfilling that Need.  I am tasking The Young Prince right now to come up with viable Solutions to his current Problem, he's immersed in it voluntarily, which is a Good thing.  I'm interested to find out what his Brilliant Creative Mind comes up with in fact so I'm standing still and holding Space for him rather than running interference. 

I think some of the most important Lessons I learned in Life were when I was left to form my own Solutions to the Problems I was an implicit part of.  I want my Grandson to be Free Thinking enough to come up with his own Solutions when he has encountered a Life Problem that he must figure out.  If I Solve every Problem for him what has he learned from that Lesson that Life tried to teach him?   What would he do when I'm no longer there as his Problem Solver?  He's come down from his Room numerous times in the days since being told he cannot come back to School to discuss some potential Paths he could now take as he's explored his Options and sought to brainstorm Solutions.

I've not seen him this animated and fully Alive than he is right now while being tasked to come up with a Life's Plan for his Future, to use his Beautiful Mind to Solve a huge Problem for himself!  Instead of wallowing in despair and depression, which I had been concerned could happen, it's as if his Mind has been Set Free from the constraints of a Formal Education.  That didn't actually Surprise me since what I've held on to for Years to give me Hope were the Words of Wisdom from many Great Minds who didn't necessarily thrive with the constraints of a Formal Education.

Here's a Quote by Richard Branson, who dropped out of School at age 16... a full year before my Young Prince has... I see the parallels of my Grandson being more like this than the top students in his own classrooms so it was quite relevant:

“Looking back, I believe that the qualities that make for a great entrepreneur – such as boundless energy, a curious nature and, sometimes, an obstinate streak – are not often attributes demonstrated by top students in the classroom,” the Virgin Founder said in a recent blog. “So it should not be very surprising that many of the world’s great entrepreneurs and business leaders had difficulties with formal education.”
“Often, their frustration in the classroom was a result of impatience: The greats were eager to get out and build their businesses, which pushed them to drop out of high school or forgo college in order to follow their dreams.

Other Quotes by Great Minds have given us something to hang onto when the Educational Process for these Children has been such a difficult Journey.  The realization that everyone Learns differently and that Formal Education is not for everyone is something I've always known to be True.   Not every Top Student coming out of the Formal Education System will go on to Greatness, not every "Problem Child" labeled so in School will amount to nothing either!

  • Knowledge that is acquired under compulsion obtains no hold on the mind.
Chuang Tzu

Winston Churchill

  • I always like to learn, but I don't always like to be taught.
Henry David Thoreau
  • What does education often do? It makes a straight-cut ditch of a free, meandering brook.
  • How could youths better learn to live than by at once trying the experiment of living?

Benjamin Franklin
  • He was so learned that he could name a horse in nine languages; so ignorant that he bought a cow to ride on.
David P. Gardner
  • Much that passes for education is not education at all but ritual. The fact is that we are being educated when we know it least.

Certainly some Children seem to thrive in the constraints of a Formal Education, but for those that do not, those that do not fit inside the proverbial Box and will always be outside of it, that doesn't have to be Labeled as a Negative.  It bothers me that it is so frequently Labeled as a Negative in fact, that you simply MUST Conform and have a Herd mentality... do it as it's always been done, don't Question everything or even anything.   I am an Advocate of Free Thinking, Free Thinkers have done what has never been done because they wouldn't be told it couldn't be done!  Though I was a Student who performed Well in School, I do remember the Boredom of it and how my Teachers often complained to my Parents of how 'Busy' and 'Daydreamy' I was and how I Questioned EVERYTHING! 

But because I got excellent Grades, most were willing to Challenge me and consider me Worthy of their Attention.  My Brother on the other hand, who was equally Intelligent and had many Natural Talents that have served him very well in Life, was Labeled a 'Poor' Student and he struggled much more to get thru School.   My Parents were both Brilliant Minds, but were also opposite ends of the spectrum in that Mom had Higher Education and my Dad had a Grade School Education and wasn't Formally Educated very well at all.   I grew up with the benefit of someone who was very well educated and someone who was very well 'educated' by Hard Knocks Life.   My Mom always said my Dad was the one who came up with the Profound Wisdom of beneficial Sage Advice.

My Mom also had the benefit, like I had, of a Mother who received higher Formal Education and a Father who struggled with illiteracy but who was a very Wise Man in spite of the lack of Formal Education.   My point is, Intelligence and Wisdom are not exclusive to having received higher learning in a Formal Educational environment.   I'm an Advocate for Educational Opportunities, many Great Minds are being wasted by the lack of being able to reach and teach them adequately though.   The Public Educational System as we know it is Archaic and badly in need of reformation.   We can't always do what has always been done and worked a Century or more ago... this is NOW, not THEN.

I am saddened, even tho' The Young Prince likes to joke about it, whenever we walk into an establishment that has Young people working there who can barely take an Order correctly or who say the most seemingly illiterate and illogical things... and he tells me he knew them in School and BTW Gramma THEY are considered a Very Good Student!!!   I can tell thru the mask of joking tho', the Sarcasm and Cynicism in his voice, since he was Labeled a Very Bad Student. Yet their incompetence and lack of basic reasoning or logic is not lost upon him, he sees it as clearly as I do, it makes me sad, it makes him mad.  I'm not implying I'm Better than them Gramma as a Human Being, he will often tell me, but it is bothersome that the Labeling in School is often so Jacked Up... because, I mean, LOOK at them Gramma, this is Monkey Work and they can barely do it and THEY Graduated, some with Honors and Teachers who Loved and applauded them!   And me, I'm so "Special"... and not in a Good way... he trails off... I 'Get It'... these Labels are damaging and hardly 'accurate'.

In my Corporate Lives I had to do a lot of Training of New Employees, often the most arrogant and difficult ones to train to do the work were highly educated, they often thought they already knew everything.   They often minimized Experience and the benefit of Mentors and OJT, waltzed in with more degrees than a thermometer, but that didn't always mean they could apply what they learned in a Classroom to Real Life situations on the job.   Not every case is a textbook one, nor do you see everything and everyone you will Experience on the job while you were in a classroom, far from it, classrooms are rather insulated little Worlds in fact.  In my years at the District Attorney's Office it saddened me how many Young people spent all that time and money getting their Masters Degree in Criminal Law only to find out the subject matter ON the job was too much for them to stomach.  Perhaps they would have been better Served in College if the first order of business had been to take them on a trip to the Medical Examiner's Office to actually see the deceased Victim of a Serious Crime? 

And College... how many redundant classes does one have to take to actually obtain those Degrees?  I wouldn't know, I'm not a College Graduate, but it seems a LOT of time and money is spent taking classes not relevant to what you'll be doing for that Living?   Sometimes I wonder if the Money angle is more important than the Student's actual Success after they Graduate?  I do know that many who go to College look down upon those who didn't, or can't... and yet Life will sometimes be a more level playing field than you think.   Sometimes it isn't, because Opportunity can be as biased as the Individuals offering it of coarse.   But mostly and generally I think anyone who is intelligent can spot someone else who would be an Asset and not a Liability to their business.  

In lieu of a College Education that my Family couldn't afford my Dad taught me to hook up with Great Mentors and get a Free Education based on their vast Experience and Wisdom.  Many took me under their Wing because I was willing to Learn from them in spite of my lack of higher education.  I am eternally Grateful to each and every one of them, they became not only excellent Mentors that attributed to my early Success in my Corporate Lives, but also Lifelong Friends.   Being a Female I often chose Successful Female Mentors on Purpose, coming from an Era that wasn't so Liberated for equality of the genders it was important to know what a WOMAN should do to Succeed against often unfair obstacles that discriminated at the time.   Success always leaves Clues, but your Failures are also important Learning experiences... Success is not final nor is Failure fatal.

I often wonder what our World would look like if we actually Valued every single Ability individuals possessed instead of fixating instead on the Disabilities?  How much further along would we be if every individual FELT Valued for the inherent Gifts bestowed upon them by the Creator, that make them uniquely the Being that they are Purposed by their very Design?   After all, even the lowliest forms of other Life beyond Human Beings have a distinct Purpose that proves to be more Important than we often think.   I am fascinated by the various Life Forms and their Purposes because it's so well thought out by the Creator of all Life, that I just stand in complete Awe at the Workings of it all!

And even those Living things, be they people or the animal kingdom, that find a way, after something alters their functionality, to manage not only to Survive and go about Living in Purpose, but to Inspire by their ability to Adapt, to hang on when by all accounts they shouldn't have Succeeded... are Living Testimonies of Value to the whole.   We don't always readily see Value of each Living thing on this Earth, but it is there... Purpose is there... sometimes we're just too arrogant or too ignorant to recognize it.   Sometimes we as Humans can only Value something that will become Great, rather than accepting that in any Small way contributions add up to a potentially Great whole.   I have Sponsored Children thru a Charitable Organization since I was 13 years old, one Child at a time... it is a Small thing, but in the close to 50 years now I've been doing it, the difference it's made in several Children's Lives and their Families, their Communities where they contribute has added up.   I didn't discount my Small contribution in trying to make a difference... you shouldn't either, it counts, so DO IT! 

If we all DID IT, made even the Smallest of contributions to the Best of our Abilities and Resources, the results would be Epic, I'm Sure of it!!!   If each of us with the Mantle of Experience chose just one Child or one Young Adult to pass our Mantle of Wisdom to and take them under our Wing, how much more Priceless Experience of a Free Education would be bestowed upon the next Generations?  Otherwise it would be Lost my Friends, and a Lifetime of Experience and Wisdom is too Great a Gift to be merely taken to the Grave with us!   I fully Believe every Child is willing to Learn, they are rather like sponges when it comes to absorbing Knowledge and everything going on around them... but a great many don't necessarily like to be Taught... at least not in the Usual ways.   So find a way to Connect, to Expand their Natural Desire to know more, to do more, to Experience Life and what it has to Offer!

I started this Post to explore Facing Challenges but since I like to Free Form Think and Write I just let the Words manifest on their own and whatever Message come forth that might be Useful... Encouraging... or Motivating.   Not only for myself, but for anyone else it might benefit or Minister to as they Face a Challenge, because out of the subconscious Mind can come some pretty startling realizations that your conscious Mind was too preoccupied with stuff to just 'know'.   Sometimes we 'know' without knowing... sometimes the answers are buried deep inside us and just Need that Quiet Time of Contemplation, Prayer, Meditation, Freedom of Free Form thinking and writing to come forth unhindered and unfiltered.   Solutions will come to every Problem you WANT to actually Solve, sometimes you just have to be made so uncomfortable that you Move upon it and take Action.

In his present discomfort The Young Prince is finding the Freedom to think and to Act upon whatever Dreams he has for his Future.  I'm allowing him the Space to do so, he has nothing to lose and everything to Gain by releasing the Brilliance I know he has inside of him and putting it into Action now... nothing and nobody is holding him back.   He knows that he has our full support and a Safe place to land every time he falls or fails.  Which we all do, fall and fail, it's just a part of Life and how it Teaches us the Lessons they don't often have in Schools.   Those of us who get up and don't give up will Succeed and find our Purpose in Life... and once you're in THAT Groove, there are no real limits!!!


Blessings, Love, Light and much Success to you all... Dawn... The Bohemian


  1. I love your quotes "a straight cut ditch of a free meandering brook"! Hilarious and so true.
    I'm so pleased the Young Prince is finding his way, but not surprised. All kids have their own wisdom and love to learn if allowed in their own way. Education often gets in the way of learning for these original thinkers.
    You, like us, may come to bless this awful moment of divorce from formal education. Take away the stigma and it becomes freedom!
    Hugs back, Jazzy Jack

    1. I so agree with you that breaking free of Formal Education has indeed been liberating in this instance, it had become an obstacle holding him back.

  2. You are so just makes me smile!

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