Saturday, November 21, 2015

National Adoption Day ~ A Celebration



It's FINALLY Finalized... Today on National Adoption Day the Adoption of The G-Kid Force was Completed!  It's been a Process of almost three long years to culminate to this day since we began the Adoption Journey.  Of coarse we've had them since Birth, but our Case was complex for a variety of reasons and so it's been a much longer and complicated Journey than we ever expected to embark upon!   Now we can close this Chapter of our Lives and move forward to the Future of being a Family recognized now by Law that does not have to answer to Caseworkers and Agencies.  To be sure many of the Caseworkers and Agencies have made this day possible and we Thank each and every one of them for their part in working towards the day, this Goal and funding what we could never have afforded to get it done.




It was a very Emotional day... and the Volunteers and Sponsors of National Adoption Day made it a Beautiful Experience and a lot less Intimidating and Stressful for all of the Children and their Families.   We want to Thank each and every one of them, you all did a remarkable job!  It was an Anxious Day for us all in the beginning and especially for the G-Kid Force and The Man since it was going to be a lot of people and very high energy as so many Adoptions Processed in one day in six different Courtrooms along with the Festivities outside of the Courtrooms.




We were also Thankful that The Son and Family were able to join us in the Celebration and be there for Emotional Support... and to Celebrate afterwards.  It is rather Bittersweet to have to Adopt any of your Grandchildren so that Legally you don't have as much Drama to get them Raised without all kinds of Conditions most Families would never have to Deal with.  To us their Parents will always be their Parents and we will always be their Grandparents... they have always been Greatly Loved by all concerned... and though I have had a specific Role Assigned to me, I am not taking anyone's 'place'.    It is especially Bittersweet that though Grandpa was Welcome to join us and be Recognized as The Man who has always Financially Supported and Raised them since Birth, that by Law due to his own extent of Disability and particularly the Traumatic Brain Injury, he was not permitted to Foster nor Adopt them and I had to do this as if a Single Parent.  But it all is what it is, we have Accepted that.




There were many Super Heroes present to Celebrate with us all, I only got a Photo of a few, but there were so many... and it was a very Hot Day so God Bless them for remaining in Full Costume and Character in the Eighty Plus Degree Sunshine!   That showed your Super Hero Status and Powers for sure!  *Smiles*   Princess T and Prince D wanted to talk with them all, but were too Shy to be Photographed with any of them.   *Ha ha ha*




In fact for the Older One it was a very Anxiety ridden and Serious Day so he really wasn't up to hamming for the Camera... I know he Felt a lot of Conflicted Feelings about all of this, he Loves his Mom and his Dad very much and not Happy that Legally they are now considered NOT his Mom and his Dad... I Share his Sentiments in so many ways... though Relief for both of us that it is now finally over and we can just all get on with our Lives.  He has the Delight of his New First Name that he had chosen himself now being his Legal Name... how many times can you say you woke up with one Identity and then came Home later with another one you chose yourself?  *Smiles*  He had the Biggest Grin when they said in the Courtroom that NOW they were Adopted and we were Officially and Legally Family and they are mine.  Even our Caseworker, Judge and Attorney said that his had been the Biggest and most Sincere Grin of the entire day!   A lot of Younger Children come out Crying you see, it's all a bit Scary for the Smaller Kiddos this Adoption Thing!




Princess T had been very Shy and Coy, she was a bit Fearful of some of the Process... and of being in a Courtroom Setting and going through Security for the very first time.   She was glued to Grandpa or I the entire time... though she and our other Grand-Daughter did have a Wonderful Time with all of the Age Appropriate Activities for the Younger Children.  There were also numerous Treats and Refreshments being handed out... Snacks, Popcorn, Gelato, Juices, and a Gift Bag for every Child Adopted that day filled with Gift Cards, Toys and Snuggies.




For the Older Kids there was Live Music being Expertly played by High School Students... these Kiddos were REALLY Good and playing a lot of my Favorite Style of Music like Blues and Jazz!  Prince D is very Musically Inclined and they Invited him to check out the place they all go to... and perhaps try out for an Audition or sign up for some Classes Hosted there.




Yes, it was indeed a Beautiful and Memorable Day for our Family and for many, many others.  As I looked around at all of the Proud New Adoptive 'Parents' and all of the Children now Adopted and now Recognized by Law as being part of a Family of their own, it brought tears to my Eyes.   If you aren't part of an Adopted Family you don't really think too much about what it means to belong to one... and for many of the Children present this day we knew that perhaps for the very first time they were going to be able to call someone Mom and/or Dad and move out of Foster Care or Temporary Placements or the threat of any Kinship Placement not being Permanent!   I know that for our Family we are Relieved more than anything that we can just now move Forward like any Regular Family takes for Granted and does... we can now even Plan Vacays without the Approval of several different Agencies and Caseworkers... and we are definitely looking forward to that kind of Freedom!




Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian... who Ironically Legally became a 'Mom' again Today!  *Ha ha ha*

20 comments:

  1. What a wonderful day that must have been! I know it has been a long and bumpy ride for you all but now the ink is on the paper and a new chapter is waiting to be written. Congratulations to you all.

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    1. Thanks, it is indeed such a Relief to close the difficult Chapter and move Forward with a better sense of Security of their Placement now being recognized as Permanent by Law. All of their Parents feel the same way since it is only what we all always wanted and intended. Dawn... The Bohemian

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  2. I am so happy for you and the family.

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    1. Thank You Sharon! Dawn... The Bohemian

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  3. Congrats to all, and Happy Family to all. Grins, Sandi

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  4. Wonderful news, Dawn! I'm very happy for you guys. ♥

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    1. Thanks my Friend! Now we can be one big PERMANENT Addams Family Type Unit! LOL Dawn... The Bohemian

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  5. Congratulations!! Sounds like a festive fun and wonderful day and i am so happy for yall! Enjoy this new chapter and best wishes!

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    1. We certainly will write a Wonderful New Chapter in our move Forward with Life! So good to close the Old Chapter, which was rather stressful since The System refused to recognize it as Permanent even tho' it is always what we and their Parents intended... and knew to be Best for them. Dawn... The Bohemian

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  6. I'm new to your blog and didn't know this part of your story. Having raised our oldest grandson, I understand a little of how your grandkids feel. Since I was raised by an aunt and uncle I understand a little more. I'm glad the legalities are finalized. I'm sure that will end a certain amount of stress in the situation. God Bless You All. It will be an especially great Thanksgiving!!
    xx, Carol

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    1. With your Shared Point of Reference I know you totally Understand the complexities of Kinship Placement Arrangements! Thank You for Sharing a bit of your own experience since that is always an Encouragement. People don't always understand that it can be a Voluntary and Loving thing to Place one's Children with Kin if it is definitely decided upon is the Best thing for the Children. It is the Voluntary Arrangement we and their Loving Parents always felt best but now having it Legally Recognized by The System and knowing it provides Permanent Placement that cannot be randomly destroyed by them being taken away gives us ALL a measure of Peace we have not previously enjoyed in the Fifteen Plus Years we've been Custodial Grandparents. It takes a load of Stress of of us, their Parents and particularly The G-Kid Force! Dawn... The Bohemian

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  7. Congratulations! What lucky children to have grandparents who love them so much. I hope your path will be a little smoother now. Blessings

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    1. Thank You Lesley... it will be as Smooth as any Normal Parenting of Kiddos in their Teen and Prepubescent years can be. Ha ha ha ha ha ha... You really made me Smile with that one, but I know what you meant... smiles. Blessings back at ya... Dawn... The Bohemian

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  8. I have a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes just reading of this special day! You certainly deserve the freedom from all the agency's and the peace of doing your own planning for you and yours! God Bless You all as you move forward day to day as a family! Marlynne

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    1. Thank You Marlynne... the Freedom and Peace it brings to our entire Family is such a Blessing that has been a very long time coming! Dawn... The Bohemian

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  9. Yay!!!!! How wonderful, your patience and determination paid off! Enjoy the holidays and your family!

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    1. Yeah it sure did develop the Patience I don't normally possess as a Natural Strength *Ha ha ha* and the Determination was exercised til my Determination Muscles were sore from the Workout! *Winks*... Thanks... Dawn... The Bohemian

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  10. Congratulations to you all! Wonderful to finely see this come to be.

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    1. Thank You for coming by to Celebrate it with us! Dawn... The Bohemian

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